No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline Without Shame

This book gave some wonderful advice for how to appropriately deal with the unpredictable emotions and actions of a toddler. After reading this book, I feel better prepared to handle my child in a way that fosters effective communication and positive growth.

I really love it! (The one star reviewers did NOT read the book well and that's their own fault! The author says COUNTLESS times that children should NOT be in charge and that they are actually UNcomfortable with that level of power.) I love the overall concept in this book of babies being whole people and treating them with the same respect I'd show another adult but I think she is not allowing for flexibility on that and that type of straightforwardness may not always be possible or necessary. I believe her experience that it can work and just takes practice but I don't see the harm in things like routine charts and timers as "a crutch" just because I wouldn't use that with another adult or using humor as a "dance around." I don't think those things are necessarily a bad thing unless they are overly depended on. I think she's rather strict in her philosophy. But that's my only minor disagreement! It really is a great book so don't let minor things deter you! It's just long enough that it's easy to get through without being a waste of money. The chapters are short and sweet, making it easy to find a stopping point. And this book really makes me want to read her other book Elevating Childcare. It's for babies a little bit younger though. It's all about natural development and whatnot instead of rushing and forcing it. I actually already wanted to read it just from reading her blog. Her blog is actually the reason I never did any of that with my daughter. I definitely like her stuff and I follow her on Facebook. She's great, but strict! If she's too strict for you I recommend the Positive Discipline series by Jane Nelson.

Janet Lansbury's second book, "No Bad Kids", is another BEST BABY GIFT (for both the parents and the child) and for anyone caring for Toddlers. Her first book,"Elevating Child Care: A Guide to Respectful Parenting", is the other BEST BABY GIFT.

So helpful with my toddler. This kind of parenting isn't always easy to do, but the book does a great job of explaining how and why to follow respectful parenting techniques. I will likely reread it many times!

Janet Lansbury has long been a source of parental education and child understanding for me, through her blog and her facebook page. I had previously purchased her book that covers gently raising babies from birth. It made all the difference in surviving and thriving through my baby's first year.

I knew that when my baby grew old enough, that I would get this book. It's full of amazing insights into the toddler brain, and how to parent in specific ways, to get the best results and for both parent and toddler to feel heard, understood, supported, and loved- while still being given the discipline needed for children to feel secure. I believe that everyone can gain something from this book- parent, relative, teacher, or babysitter.

This book has been so enlightening! As a mother to two young strong willed boys I feel like I am now equipped to handle life with two toddlers. This book has completely changed the way I think about parenting. I am so glad it was recommended to me and I will be recommending it to every parent I know!

Filled with many real-life anecdotes from parents who have been there and done that... This book covers a wide-range of tough situations that parents and toddlers are bound to face! A thoughtful and practical guide to RIE parenting.

Really wonderful parenting book! I was searching for something to help with my strong willed toddler and this philosophy and very logical approach really fit. I reference it all the time for reminders.

I've seen results using Janet's RIE approach! The ideas in this book and on janetlansbury.com are invaluable for building a loving, trusting, and honest relationship with your children. RIE and Janet have helped me create the calm home environment I was looking for. Thanks!

I’ve had some difficult times over the past year with my now 2 -year old’s behavior and was really struggling to find a way to communicate and set boundaries with him in a non-punitive, respectful way. When my pediatrician suggested I read Janet’s Facebook posts and book it really helped!! Her writing is easy to read, her tone is respectful, and her approach makes perfect sense! Treat children as you would like to be treated! It feels a little surprising to read almost common sense information, but then I grew up in a generation where kids were commonly scolded and patronized.
While all the information is probably covered in her online posts, I enjoyed reading the physical book and highlighting all the relevant areas to show my husband.
Her articles have been invaluable and totally changed my approach to communicating with my toddler.

i like this book. very interesting view of the toddler mind. very nurturing look at how to work with a small child. my baby is just now turning 1 YO so I haven't really started any disciplining. but i think it is a great start.

This respectful view on parenting has changed my world as a Mother!
I will be forever grateful to Janet Lansbury for sharing her vision and techniques with Toddlers.
This book has been answered prayer for our family! one will not be disappointed with this priceless purchase.

Invaluable. I've been following Janet since before my daughter was born. RIE is not the best name for this style of parenting, but it is what it is. The concept is to respect children as whole people. When they throw tantrums, it is for a reason. When they act out, lash out, disobey, test limits, there are reasons. Janet gives you the words and practical applications. There are examples from parents with problems and from her own children. I found myself highlighting every other sentence. I wish I could force everyone with children in their lives this book. Positive discipline and respect does NOT mean permissive, no limits, spoiled kid. It means respecting the child, helping them, being there for them, setting firm limits to make them feel safe and give them a grounded feeling of the world, and encouraging responsibility, emotional intelligence, and a better awareness of how to be human. I LOVE this book, I love Janet Lansbury, I love RIE.

This book is so insightful. Its the first parenting book I've purchased (out of many) that really speaks to me. It helps you understand your toddler and gives you insight to help them learn and develop, not just throw rules in front of them.

The most helpful part for us has been learning to narrate my toddlers feelings for her, since she doesnt have the vocabulary yet to express herself well. She is starting to use words to express her feelings so much more frequently than before we implemented that change. I recommend this book for parents of infants to prepare themselves, parents with toddlers currently, all care givers, and well meaning grandparents who occasionally undermine what the parent is doing ;)

I follow Janet closely on Facebook and finally decided to purchase this book. I'm so glad I did! A lot of the book are articles I've read via her Facebook, but having the book with everything together is a must have. This is a book that will definitely live permanently in my household for me to go back and reference. I've been using a lot of these methods for the past two months with my 2 year old and it's made such a huge difference in our relationship.