The No-BS Guide to Getting What You Want - Stop Saying You're Fine

There are some good points throughout the book, but it has a lot of parts where so much is written without really making any useful point. I was really looking forward to reading this book after watching her motivational talk on youtube. I couldn't recommend this book.

I have been enjoying Mel's column in Success Magazine for a while and found her TED talk on Youtube recently and figured I would get her book. I am so glad I did. I found this book a very easy read with a kick. Mel does a great job at getting to the bottom of the internal demons I think we all have and shows a way to overcome them to live a life of fun, adventure, and purpose. This book, I swear, was written for my benefit. If you are serious about getting the most out of your precious time on this earth, read this book! Thank you Mel!!!

No real guidance provided in the book. Many pages devoted to stating the obvious and providing examples of why that obvious fact is true. These things I already knew; was hoping for guidance around the potholes!

I bought this book after seeing Mel Robbins talk on TED. She seems very 'no-nonsense' and i thought she might have something valuable to offer.

What is good:
She's a pretty clear writer. Easy to understand. Straightforward, sassy and humorous. I kinda like her tone.
Good for someone who has a vague sense that their life isn't quite right, but not sure whats going on. Someone who wants to read about the problem.

Whats not so good:
No good for someone who knows exactly what they need to accomplish and who has already taken stock of their life. I gets very boring and repetitious to hear anecdote after anecdote of people who were not realizing that their lives suck. As a reader you keep thinking she is then going to tell you HOW TO CHANGE IT, but that NEVER HAPPENS!! And you read more and think maybe now she is going to tell you how to change it, but it never happens.

Instead of actual steps to change, she'll, for example, comment on something you are doing that is self destructive and say 'so just stop doing it!' Really? just 'stop doing it'? Thats the advice? That is the biggest problem with this book - it professes to help you become more powerful over your life, but all it does it tell you to do something about it without actually telling you HOW!!

If you're generally interested in how people are delusional about their lives you will like this, if you yourself need self mastery, this won't help you.

At first, this book really annoyed me because of its in your face stance. Then, I put it down for a bit. Once I picked it up a year later, it was singing all the things I needed most. Timing is everthing.

I was blown away with Mel Robbins' TED talk. So, I wanted to get this right away. I'm just started listening to this today. I was disappointed that it isn't read by the author but I'm so interested in the material I'm willing to overlook that. This is a regular CD & I had planned to listen to it through my computer at work. For some reason, the chapters are all out of order. So, I have to click on them manually. It's really a bother but like I said I'm really interested in the material.

The book was sent to a different address than mine. It arrived there within the timeframe (a little sooner) said it was. I purchased one for myself too. Love the book. A practical look at being "stuck".

This is a completely ridiculous self-help book, in the style of worst self-help books: it repeats the same advice again and again and again. Meanwhile, the author also shares fairly pointless "listener stories" (I gather she has her own show).

Do you want to know the only advice in this book? Here it is [yes, spoiler alert, I supposed]: you are the one who's ruining your life because you aren't doing what you know you need to do. So get up and actually do it.

There you go. Don't you feel enlightened now? And if you actually do try to achieve your goals, but it's not working out for some reason, or your life is full of constraints far more complicated than the people who call into her show tend to experience -- what do you do? Well, for one, you shouldn't buy this book, because it's certainly not going to help you.

"Stop Saying You're Fine...DISCOVER A MORE POWERFUL YOU" by Mel Robbins is a book not to shelf--for too long that is. The information that Mel presents is near brilliant, readers should reference it repeatedly, and apply her knowhow--in easy, bite-sized steps--the way Mel breaks down her very meaty how-to points. No excuses! I mean, the author even provides a simple, quick appendix in the back of the book for readers to peruse while on the run!

Mel's basic premise is that the brain (readers will find many cool brain facts throughout the book) is programmed to keep the "snooze button" on and this is essentially why humans resist change. So true. Her anecdotes that describe this dilemma are excellent and readers should be able to relate to many, if not most of them. In addition, the contrast that she makes between being stuck and being in a crisis is a real revelation.

The best part of the book is the action part. Mel does a fine job of not only telling, but also showing readers exactly what to do to take action and ideally incorporate lifestyle changes. In fact, the Dartmouth-educated lawyer-turned-life coach outlines so many strategies to help you outsmart your brain that the book is as close as a real-live coach as it gets!

I especially loved the don't worry about making a right or wrong decision--just make a decision. In addition, the life map and get-off-your-butt-in-five-seconds-or-less tactics is the stuff that gives people the spark to light up their "just fine" universe like fireflies.

Stacy Lytwyn Maxwell, Author/Book Reviewer/Teacher
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Was very hopeful that this book would give me some useful insight. Instead it seems to be a nonstop diatribe by the author, who takes a very condescending tone, making the reader feel like Ms. Robbins knows exactly what a lazy slacker her reader is, and that they just need to "snap out of it and stop being stupid". That is an exaggeration to make a point of course, but honestly that is the tone of the book. This is the first book i've ever returned in my entire life.

I have read a lot of personal development books throughout the years and I have developed a low tolerance for books with flimsy premises, few tactics, and filled with generic anecdotes. Science says people forget 90% of what they read/hear in a presentation and thats who most books cater to. I am not one of those people. A weird hobby of mine is to actual take notes from cover to cover on paper about the key ideas, and more importantly, the actionable steps presented in a book to truly learn everything I can. This book is among the most dense books in terms of quality insight + tactics that I have ever read.

This book, ironically is primarily about taking action and why we are so adverse to doing the things that we know we want/need to do. Some may take offense to her direct and often unsympathetic style but I find it aids the purpose of this book because you will not get a warm motivational boost at the end that gives you a feeling of accomplishment for absorbing more information that you will never act upon, just the framework to finally start implementing the things you want (and honestly, most people already know what they want and what they need to do, more books serve as procrastination and searching for magic bullets).

This book should be foundational for anyone who reads this genre as it will allow you to get out of these books what you initially got into this genre to find. It will get you moving and supercharge everything else that you learn going forward.

Mel Robbins is an exceptionally effective motivational speaker. I am not familiar with the general population of her peers—Tony Robbins, Zig Ziglar, etc.—and find their rhetorical to be, outwardly, very cheap and see-through. Robbins is somehow different. I think it's her very deliberately structured rhetorical style, and her emphasis on cognitive structures, that makes her more appealing. She also has the advantage of being direct and critical of her audience. Her style is very 'in your face' and I feel that she does a good job of representing the inner-critic that holds all of us back, and turns that inner-critic into an advocate for our change. -Ryan Mease

Use your mind and choices to manifest your dreams. This is the message that created and still animates the self-help and motivational genres. The first to address this theme may have been the philosopher-Emperor Aurelius, though James Allen has shown that the message was imbedded in the world's great literature from earliest times. Writers like Wallace Wattles, Napoleon Hill and Dale Carnegie popularized the concept through the 20th century, and they were joined by the likes of Tony Robbins, Ken Blanchard, Stephen Covey and dozens of others--each with their own take on self-help.

But it wasn't until the international success of The Secret that the idea went mainstream. This is the secret of success, the narrative goes: Use your thoughts and feelings to manifest your dreams; you can have whatever you want, as long as you know how to attract it from the universe; you can be rich, get the lover of your dreams, sell more, lose weight, and whatever else you want--if you just buy the right book and follow its teachings.
Since the huge success of The Secret, in print and multi-media formats, hundreds of new titles have proliferated. It seems a lot of people have a new take on the mind-over-matter secrets of success, and why not?--if the concept is true, everyone should be talking about it.

Yet an interesting thing has occurred since The Secret became an international bestseller and cultural phenomenon. During the early-adaptor phase, when people were reading Napoleon Hill, Dale Carnegie or Tony Robbins, those who had success using the "laws of attraction" shared their stories with others while those who didn't succeed blamed the lack of effectiveness on themselves: "I'm just not doing this right;" "I need to be more positive;" "I keep letting past baggage get in the way of the method;" "I'll do better this week!;"etc.

Mainstream users of the law of attraction are less forgiving. If the model doesn't work quickly and easily, they call it a hoax. After all, the mainstream culture is used to iPhones, movies, cds, dvd players, cars and other products that must work right away--otherwise they are returned and the company is left with a public relations black eye.

The law of attraction, as it was popularized, boils down to a simple formula: decide what you want, think about it a lot, don't allow yourself any negative thoughts or feelings about it, fill yourself with focused positive thoughts and feelings about what you want, and watch it just pour into your life. The various books emphasize different nuances of this formula, but the basics are mostly the same.

A lot of people have tried this system and seen no miracles, no real change, no noticeable progress. As a result, the mainstream discounts the few who claim to have experienced successes with the formula, and the whole idea of a powerful, hidden "law of attraction" has been discredited in many circles. To test the law of gravity, anyone can drop an apple; to test the law of attraction by feeling positive thoughts about things just hasn't yielded the results many people hoped.

Still, quite a few people want the law of attraction to be true. It is so elegant, so full of possibility, so potentially empowering--regardless of your status or experience--that it "just has to be true." Or so a lot of people feel. Like String Theory, the evidence isn't as important as the elegant potential. And, to be clear, many feel that there is a lot more empirical "evidence" for the law of attraction than for String Theory or even the Big Bang.

As a result of all this, we are now at an interesting point in the cultural acceptance of self-help books in general. Specifically, a host of books now purport to show us some special detail which wasn't covered in The Secret, that "key" part of the formula which is missing in the way most people try to manifest their dreams in modern life. Of course, each book has its own perspective on what the missing secret behind the secret really is, and so the test of self-help books is now what new wisdom they bring to the table.

With all of that said, I happen to believe in the law of attraction and the idea of using one's mind to help achieve success. Of course our thoughts, attitudes and feelings matter. How could they not? I doubt that they always control everything, but they certainly have an impact on our lives. I have personally seen this system work in things that were important to me, sometimes quickly and other times after a long and challenging set of difficulties. The problem with The Secret, it seems to me, is that it painted the whole thing as incredibly simple and easy. But if it were so easy, everyone would do it.

The challenge for self-help authors and promoters, I suppose, is that promoting a positive and faith-filled attitude which eschews all doubts and focuses only on positives is difficult. Telling people that positive feelings and effective self mind control will bring great miracles, but that the whole process can often be extremely difficult in many ways--depending on your goals--is a harder sell than just telling them it is easy. Focusing on the difficulty typically brings negative feelings, after all.

Still, if the law of attraction is real, it is worth going through this great societal discussion to figure out the details. We seem to be getting closer, through trial and error, but the measure of any new self-help book right now is how well it effectively adds to the progress. A few writers, like Joe Vitale, Dennis R. Deaton, Leslie Householder, Orrin Woodward and Chris Brady, and select others are greatly contributing to this advancing knowledge of how to truly succeed. Mel Robbins' new book, Stop Saying You're Fine: Discover a More Powerful You, must be judged by how well it measures up to this standard.

What new things does Robbins add? Consider the following items:

* If you are stuck, you need to take action.

Be honest: You are stuck. It's time to take action.

These seemingly obvious points are effectively presented. Even the most successful reader will be convinced that you can do better and that it is time to get to work on it.

* Each of us listens too often to two internal voices, what Robbins calls "The Chicken" and "The Jerk." Both are negative voices, though they seem like opposites. The key is to reject both voices and listen to the truly positive voices in our mind, especially the voice of "The More Powerful You."

Recognizing and learning to control our inner voices is powerful. In fact, as Robbins shows, it is both profound and an effective means of success. Just feeling positive about our goals, for example, won't accomplish much if our inner Chicken or Jerk are allowed to sway our thoughts. I think many people who have discounted the law of attraction would do well to clarify how much influence they give to such inner voices.

* Don't try to manifest your biggest dreams all at once. Focus on the little things, the basic steps and immediate goals that will get you on the path to success.

This is a departure in many ways from The Secret, and it is an incredibly important nuance. If you don't believe in what you are trying to manifest, how can your feelings about it truly be positive?

* Taking action unites mind and body, which can help you keep positively focused on what you want.

Remember that the original formula is to clarify what you want, and then keep a positive focus on it until you get it. Without taking action, such focus is difficult if not impossible.

All of these come from just the first chapter of the book. Clearly Robbins is giving us new understanding on foundational principles--the old, classical realities with a new, interesting twist. Highlights from the rest of the book include:
* Learn to overcome "anti-actions," which are actions you take that are against your goals and dreams.
* Learn to get past the bias for "now", since many of our greatest goals and dreams will be much better at the right time.
* Clarify, in writing, what your Chicken and Jerk inner voices are constantly telling you in the following arenas of life: family, love, spirituality, career/purpose, friends/community, body/health, money. Then contrast it with what the "More Powerful You" voice wants you to understand and do in each of these areas.
* When you want to change anything in your life, adopt the rule of doing the things you don't want to do but know you should. How well you do this will determine much of your success.
* Listen to "unexpected impulses" which just pop up. They may be telling you something very important and helpful to your life.
* Learn to listen to the quiet voices over the loud ones; for example, the Chicken and Jerk voices are very loud, and usually wrong.
* Take the time to outline what things in life you are just waiting for somebody else to change for you!
* Admit what you want. The word "admit" is really interesting here. Most of us need to actually admit what we want! This is a powerful step toward success and happiness.
* Outline the rules you are playing by in life. Whose rules are they anyway? Learn to live by the right rules, the ones that really serve you.
* Learn how to effectively "lean in" to what you really want. Most people lean away, even when they are trying to be positive about their goals.

Robbins teaches about each of these, and takes the reader through stories and exercises which effectively help us learn these principles. There are many more valuable and helpful "new" things in this book that will help readers really empower themselves.

In the progress of human progress, the science of inner leadership, this book is a significant and valuable contribution. Whether you tend to believe in a law of attraction, or not, this book lives up to its title: it is empowering. It works. Readers will find ways to improve and increase their success simply by reading and learning from it.

In the tradition of Marianne Williamson, each of us needs to live up to the powerful reality of who we truly are. Mel Robbins' excellent new book can greatly help us in this process. It will bring you face-to-face with a better you, a more powerful you, and more effective you--the real you, in fact.

I'd delayed reading this book, which, given its relevancy in my life, is somewhat ironic. However, once I settled in and started reading and actively doing the "exercises" it became clear why I had been procrastinating. (I just was not ready to face some tough-but-true facts and also to do the work.)

No matter where you are stuck or blocked in your life, this book is a good starting point to get unblocked or unstuck. IF you're willing to do the work.

In the appendix, the author writes: "I threw a lot at you in this book with one goal in mind--to convince you that the only obstacle in your way is you. I've proven over and over that your brain and your feelings screw you over."

(I'm glad I read this BEFORE I read the rest of the book (I always skim a book's chapters first.) Because it resonated for me and reinforced what I already knew intellectually, but had not yet come to terms with emotionally. It resonated for me and I plowed thru the book and am still working on the exercises, which have moved me further in a few days than many months.)

Now a lot of you could say of what I've highlighted from the appendix above: Wow. This is just a statement of the obvious. Duh. But even if you and others were so aware, it doesn't mean that many people understanding that (AND acknowledging it, which is a huge difference), have taken steps to overcome their self-imposed obstacles.

This book is a very practical and easy-to-use guide to recognizing and overcoming those obstacles. And though it spends time exploring the feelings behind all the stuff holding us back via stories and examples (which is central for some folks seeking change), it focuses on practical, clever and achievable, steps to take to get from HERE (stuck, not fine, etc.) to THERE (wherever THERE is).

The author acknowledges that we have legitimate reasons to have not yet fully realized our potential, then gently but firmly pushes us to MOVE ON and get on with it, by making it seem doable. I love the chapeter "Face It, You Are Not Fine." because that's one of the biggest obstacles for many of us: Denial. Because well, denial is easier than frustration, disappointment and disgust with ourselves for not achieving our goals.

We have met the enemy and we are they. But there is hope for us and the author's accessible and encouraging (without being pollyanna-ish)approach makes this a worthwhile read.

Are there other books on this topic? Of course. Many. And I've read a lot of them, as well. But this is a worthy addition to the category.

FYI: There are no miracle solutions here and no guarantees, but that's life. You make a plan, adjust as needed and keep with it. Maybe you won't get X (No, we will NOT be the next Oprah but it doesn't mean we can't be doing work we love!), but you will be moving forward and being mindful of both what you want and what you are, or aren't, doing to get it.

And that is what real power is about (see book's subtitle).

I must admit, that after reading Stop Saying You're Fine, I'm ready to put some of these techniques to good use. As the author points out, we all have areas of our lives that we'd like to work on. This book gives the reader permission to admit that they contribute to their problems and get in the way of their own success. We limit our choices and possibilities. It's a natural thing. In this book, the reader will find an honest look at how to find solutions and how to take action.

Robbins devoted much of the book to giving the reader ways to analyze and improve all areas of life. The down-to-earth examples help the reader identify with situations. Repeatedly, she comes back to problems with dead-end careers or obesity or relationship issues. She hits enough variety in her examples to make everyone feel included. Although some of the information isn't new, what is new is presenting it in such an accessible format with concrete exercises that will expedite the reader's progress.

In looking through the many exercises offered, I think I like the Brain Dump the best and will most assuredly use that one. The theme of this book is refreshing. It's not the usual cheerleading fare. Rather, it makes you realize that you'll be missing out if you don't try some of this. An opportunity to become more powerful is not one to skip.

I cannot say enough wonderful things about this book. It's a good, quick read and it spoke to ME as I am confident it would speak to YOU. It's as if Mel Robbins wrote the book specifically for the reader!

I'm a married, 41 year old mom with 8 children and started reading this book 3 weeks ago. While reading, I realized I'd gotten "stuck" in my life without even realizing that was my "issue" for so many years. Robbins does and EXCELLENT job of reminding the reader that 1) you are not alone in tht stuck feeling, 2)there is ALWAYS a good time to change your life & follow your dreams and 3)only YOU can change your life...not the lottery, not a new or better spouse, not well behaved kids, not good luck...just YOU. Plus something that I learned to ask myself... What kind of legacy do I want to leave with my family, friends and children? I just wish I'd heard this advice 20 years ago.

Robbins has easy and quick exercises throughout the book that help you personalize her advice. She is also realistic in reminding you that you have to be smart about what you choose to do and her's is not a rose colored glasses kind of fix. She TELLS YOU that changing will be hard, but well worth it. She opened my eyes to how routine my life really had become and how comfortable I'd become with my negative attitudes because they were "safe." This book was able to speak to me in a way other books haven't. Robbins basically says "if you feel stuck...make yourself unstuck even if you don't feel like it." I started doing things I wanted to do even though I had EVERY excuse not to do it (I was tired, not enough time, gotta take care of everyone else, etc) I am "making" myself do the things I want to do and get done, and I really feel like my life is going in a MUCH better direction and my family has noticed a more motivated me.The bonus is that I am changing the legacy I'm leaving my children. But rest assured...it is a moment to moment choice I have to make until my old routines are broken and my new, more positive ones are established.

Robbins basically tells you to stop complaining about your life and do something about it. She doesn't sugar coat your fears, but encourages you. She puts not just the responisbility of change in your lap, but also the power to do so. You will notice your thought process will change...then your actions...and then you will see you have a power that you forgot you had. You will finally be in CONTROL of YOUR LIFE again. I cannot thank Mel Robbins enough for writing this book and putting into words what every single one of us already knows in our heads. You will not be disappointed in this book and you will want to share this knowledge with everyone you know!

I must admit, that after reading Stop Saying You're Fine, I'm ready to put some of these techniques to good use. As the author points out, we all have areas of our lives that we'd like to work on. This book gives the reader permission to admit that they contribute to their problems and get in the way of their own success. We limit our choices and possibilities. It's a natural thing. In this book, the reader will find an honest look at how to find solutions and how to take action.

Robbins devoted much of the book to giving the reader ways to analyze and improve all areas of life. The down-to-earth examples help the reader identify with situations. Repeatedly, she comes back to problems with dead-end careers or obesity or relationship issues. She hits enough variety in her examples to make everyone feel included. Although some of the information isn't new, what is new is presenting it in such an accessible format with concrete exercises that will expedite the reader's progress.

In looking through the many exercises offered, I think I like the Brain Dump the best and will most assuredly use that one. The theme of this book is refreshing. It's not the usual cheerleading fare. Rather, it makes you realize that you'll be missing out if you don't try some of this. An opportunity to become more powerful is not one to skip.

Disclosure: I did not know who Mel Robbins was before reading this book. I am sure having an opinion of her will impact your views on the book. Now on to the main event:

Our brains are stopping us from achieving true happiness because they prefer the safety of the status-quo, no matter how miserable it is making us. We rather torture ourselves than take a series of small steps that can lead to something better. But we can overcome this innate behavior to become our better selves. Robbins' book explains what our brains are doing, how to figure out what we really want, how to create an action plan, and finally how to put that plan into motion and sustain it.

No book can change your life, and this one is no exception. But what this book does do - very well - is let you know what YOU can do to change. Robbins writes in an accessible, common-sense way. Yet what she says is well grounded in cognitive psychology, decision-making science, etc. Her many realistic examples help solidify her message.

This is a great book for someone feeling stuck. It is now, however, a solution: it is a start on a long path of hard work toward satisfaction with your life.

Originally, I thought Stop Saying You're fine was a book about hiding problems you may be dealing with from others based on the title. After reading through the book, I am glad I did not believe my first impression of the book and moved on.

Reading Stop Saying You're fine made me realize that I had been living life the way that I believed I should. Not the way that I subconscious knew that I could, and wanted to. Mel Robbins helped to shatter the barriers to my subconscious, and allowed me to look at life with a more out-of-the-box attitude. Rather than simply making it through the day, I find myself finding something to celebrate each and every day.

I would highly recommend this book to anyone, even if you may think you are living an enjoyable life. There is always something you can improve in your life, and this book will help you to discover what you can improve, and how to do so.

There are a lot of motivational/self improvement resources out there. Most tend to gravitate to the "Nothing is your fault/spiritual mumbo-jumbo" style or to the more bootcamp "you are wothless and weak, drop and give me 20" style.
I'm not familiar with Mel's other media presence, but this book carves out what the Buddhists call the Middle Way between the two styles above. (Not that the book references Buddhism in any way.) She lays out that your brain is not always giving you the best advice, and that this is an evolutionary vestigal attempt to keep you "safe." And therefore, the smarter thing to do is to override the overblown negative consequences that the imagination throws in our paths, and to just start whatever it is that you truly want to do.
I like the idea of acting on an idea within 5 seconds of it popping into one's head. I know that I am guilty of analysis paralysis many times in order to not make a "mistake." Many of these times, the amount of analysis I am doing far outweighs any negative consequence of making said mistake.
I found this to be an intellectually fulfilling, practical method for achieving one's goals.

The first thing you'll notice about Mel Robbins is that she is full of confidence, both in herself and in you. That confidence seems to bleed through the pages of "Stop Saying You're Fine" until you feel it right along with her. And really, that's part of the point of this book - if you'll believe in yourself, and believe in your ideas and your dreams, and actually start doing something about making them a reality...you'll be amazed at where you'll end up. But how do you start doing something about making them a reality? That's where Mel comes in.

Be prepared to answer a lot of questions as you go through the book. What do you really want? Are you a chicken or a jerk? What's something you've been thinking about doing for a while? Have you been waiting for someone in your life to change?

But once you answer the questions, you'll discover that Mel has some tools for you to work with. A map of your goals, a "seven day stamina workout", some tricks to get over your fear of trying something new, a brain dump technique to help when you feel overwhelmed...there is some good stuff in here.

The tone (aside from being confident) is one of a helpful assistant: she's been where you are, and now she wants to help you reach where you want to be...but it's not going to be easy. Some of her ideas may be a little far-fetched, and she comes across as a little over-ambitious sometimes, but overall, I recommend this book to anyone feeling like they are not quite where they want to be.

If that describes you, then pick up a copy of "Stop Saying You're Fine" and see where you end up.

This book talked about balance. Again, not a new concept but easier said than done. It is a confrontational book - if you are not ready to face the truth about yourself and how you actually are living in this life vs. truly having a handle on your life (no denial, procrastination, or blaming), don't bother with this book. However, if you truly need and want to make changes to live a more balanced and realistic life, this is the book for you. Getting clarity is a good way to discribe what you will get help with in this book.

If repetition is the key to learning, then this book is a master text on the subject of personal change. I don't mean to denigrate Robbins message, which is one of taking control of one's own destiny. It is a message worth delivering and many will no doubt find the message inspiring and successfully use the tips and tools she offers to begin the process of positive transformation. All of that said, I believe she could have said the same thing in half as many words. Each chapter feels like a rewording of the previous chapter rather than a presentation of new material.

The book is divided into three parts: Part I lays the groundwork and explains why we may want one thing yet consistently end up with the opposite. If repetition is not your thing, read the first two chapters and then move on to Part II. You won't miss anything critical. Each chapter in Part II is worth reading, but when you hit a paragraph that feels "familiar", go ahead and use those "skimming" techniques you learned in school. Again, you won't be any the worse off. Part III includes yet another rehash of the material in the first two parts, plus a seven day "stamina challenge" and another redundant "conclusion".

As one of my old college professors used to say in regard to the advice of others, "chew the meat and spit out the bones". There's some of both in this book. (And I am also willing to admit there may be some of both in this review as well. You decide.)

I bought the audio book after hearing Mel Robbins Ted's talk. . I couldn't wait to listent to it -(I listen to audiobooks when I work out.) The first chapter is 59 min long - when I got to 29 min I could not stand another boring irrelevant story. I was literally annoyed! The stories had absolutely no bearing on my life, not to mention that the excessive detail was ridiculous.. FINALLY she'd get to a princple - and in less than a minute, she was back on another insignificnat story droning on and on. I skpped to ch.2 hoping she'd finally get to the prinipcles - and the same pattern emerged. It was on my Kindle, so thankfully I had other audiobooks to listent to. If you want to read the book - see if your library has it. Robbins is not a writer. Her Ted talk was good once you get past the first 5 minutes where she also wastes your time, but finally delivers her insights - and they are worth hearing.. Also, be prepared for profanity. I am not accused to it, so I was taken aback by it.

Soon after I started reading this book, I realized that most of the advice in it were just common-sense maxims that most of us learned before we were 6 years old.
The premise of this book is that if we follow these "rules" in our behavior, we will be at peace with ourselves and with others.
Over twenty years ago I read "Everything you need to learn, you learned it in Kindergarden" (it may not be the exact title)- and I found it just as useful as "Stop Saying You're fine".
In sum, there were no great or new ideas in this book.