How to Protect Your Family from Bad-mouthing and Brainwashing

Excellent book! I wished I would've read it right after my divorce; it probably would've saved me some of my heartache. Judge's should order petitioners and defendants to read this book as part of their divorce decree.

Love your kids? Going through divorce? MUST READ! Best book to all people to know how to recognize Parental Alienation Syndrome and avoid the pitfalls of becoming an alienator or a target of alienation. It should be mandatory for every parenting class! I've reread it over to soak in every bit of knowledge it offers. Dr. Warshak gives light to the victims of divorce and helps parents move forward. Amazing resource!

Thanks very much to Dr Warshak for doing the research for and writing this book. It has been very helpful in providing documentation for a situation that my friend is in and has helped to know that how PAS has occurred previously and to prepare to take action. There are many real-world examples, where he analyzes the motivations of all the people involved - which is useful to quickly find the right action to take for a situation you may be in. I would also recommend Dr Warshak's website for additional articles that have been helpful to me.

This is a very useful book for anyone involved in a divorce case, including relatives and friends of the divorcee.
I didn't "love" the book, because it is a profoundly sad topic that there are people deliberately out to destroy the other. However, the advice given is very sound and makes a lot of sense, even though it may take all of one's patience to prevent the alienation of the children...

I have recommended this book to everyone!!! It is such a great book to help identify parent alienation syndrome. I would highly recommend this book to anyone working with families or struggling with high conflict divorce.

While the topic is unpleasant, Warshak is the leading authority on it, and his book and related articles are a necessary introduction to the subject. His comprehensive study of the ways in which some divorced parents use the children as pawns in continuing the abuse which led to the marriage failure will sound very familiar to those who are caught in this not-so-uncommon scenario.

A MUST read for any parent going through separation, even if you don't expect your children will become alienated.
Very practical and valuable advice.
Like most things in life its best to be familiar with this issue long before you realize how bad the situation has become, nevertheless there is advice in this book that can help you in either situation.
Its very interesting to understand why your children are behaving as they do, as it is very counter-intuitive.

this book is very revealing. Not only for a divorced person, but helpful for the rest of the family that is maligned after a bad divorce. Especially helpful for a grandparent that might be affected and will help the father know how to fix this problem. Definatly worth the cost of the book.

This book is utterly invaluable for anyone going through a divorce, considering divorce, or still in a high conflict relationship where children are potentially in the middle of it all. It has not only shown me how to identify divorce poison, and counteract it, but also opened my eyes to the ways I have inadvertently exposed my children to it as well. I can now focus on the areas that I need to improve and, most importantly, help steer my children in a healthier direction. It opens your eyes to even the most subtle and covert brainwashing techniques. I will definitely be referring back to this book throughout the remaining divorce process and for years to come.

If you wonder why these things are just happening to you alone, read this book and join a larger group for some understanding. You are not alone!!!!! I was surprised that I was reading about myself, story after story. There is light in this tunnel of darkness, this book can act as a flashlight in your journey out of this dark time in your life.

Divorce Poison: Protecting the Parent-Child Bond from a Vindictive Ex

Divorce Poison is a MUST read for anyone involved in a high conflict custody scenario. I ordered one for my attorney too.

It is obvious to me that Dr. Warshak knows what he is talking about and believe me, not everyone does... he nailed many things that are happening in my situation.

The book is well written and very easy to read. I especially liked the "Poison Control" chapter because it gives easy, practical solutions to help overcome and nuetralize tactics used by an alienating parent.

This book gives some hope for a terrible situation.

Excellent Book! Anyone going thru a Divorce and has children should read this. I've been divorced for 10 years and have an alienated Daughter
that I want back in my life. I'm going to send it to her when I'm done reading it. It explains things that the Family goes thru and gives hope for those
lost in the "shuffle". Highly recommended!

We have witnessed first hand many examples detailed in this book, it is as if Dr. Warshak is in our home. This book provides us with insight of what to do while the target parent still has a fighting chance.

We got this book two days ago and I could not put it down. Divorced parents have an obligation to their kids to enable and provide them with easy access to both parents.

Outstanding advice for divorcing parents covering the many pitfalls and traps of a malicious or just plain difficult exspouse with boundary and personality issues that unfortunately have a huge, negative impact on your own relationship with your children. A must read for anyone contemplating a divorce or going through one.

Excellent book. Taught me alot about what is going on in my situation to bad some therapist know very little about this. I recommend this book to every man or woman dealing with parental alienation. It's time we start fighting back for the sake of our children and their future.

Divorce Poison has helped me stay focused on what is most important in a divorce situation, the children. Dr. Warshak’s insight was instrumental in my understanding on how to deal with the many emotions your children will go through.

This book was recommended to me by a close friend who had just gone through a divorce. I used it as a guide to protect my children and my relationship with them. I highly recommend it. The keen insight that is provided into how children are manipulated and used as a weapon in a divorce and how to respond when that happens is priceless.

If your going through custody plan on having custody or foresee a custody situation and if you love your kids do yourself and your lawyer a favor pick this up and read it will save you $$$ time and heartache. This helped me tremendously while going through the rigors of court and divorce a must read

After reading and re-reading your book filled with so much detailed useful information that I couldn't absorb it all at once. It has been 5 years of a roller coaster ride, feeling hopelessly helpless,angry, confused and full of doubts. I was blinded by all the accusations and reading your book gave me my sight back, it renewed my strength and more importantly I now have hope that my 2 beautiful kids will not be victimized for long.
Thank you for sharing your wisdom, knowledge and experience with all of us even though while reading it felt so personal, as if written for me.
Gadi ( Toronto, Canada).

Absolutely a must read for anyone with children touched by divorce whether the situation is high conflict or not. I recommend the book often for families and therapists who treat families. Parents are able to re think how they communicate both to their children and ex spouses once they can see the long term impact on their families. Rachel Meltzer LPC-S

Very good description of how sick and devious partners brainwash their children against the targeted parent. In South Africa, childline is not in touch with this sort of behaviour and does not even question the alienating parent.

Dr. Warshak has written an effective book on dealing with a parent who turns the hearts of their children from the other parent. As my children's mother, without this manual and the video "Welcome Back Pluto", I would have lost my children completely. We are hanging on by a thread and I hope one day they will see me without the baggage from their dad.

What a wonderful resource for parents that have nowhere to turn for help and enlightenment with a very difficult and emotional situation. I am grateful that this is available and so far I am finding it very helpful.

As with many self-help books, it presents a detailed look at the problem, but offers sufferers few answers. The suggestions and advice is valid, however, and this is definitely a book that parents who are contemplating divorce or who are divorced should read.

My attorney recommended this book to me after I kept encountering hateful attitude from my daughter after she would return from visiting with her father and his current girlfriend. I had never heard of this term - maybe I should say I didn't realize there was an official term of this horrible thing that some parents do to other parents. This book helped me understand what I was up against. I appreciated the information greatly.

Dr. Warshak has written an effective book on dealing with a parent who turns the hearts of their children from the other parent. As my children's mother, without this manual and the video "Welcome Back Pluto", I would have lost my children completely. We are hanging on by a thread and I hope one day they will see me without the baggage from their dad.

What a wonderful resource for parents that have nowhere to turn for help and enlightenment with a very difficult and emotional situation. I am grateful that this is available and so far I am finding it very helpful.

As with many self-help books, it presents a detailed look at the problem, but offers sufferers few answers. The suggestions and advice is valid, however, and this is definitely a book that parents who are contemplating divorce or who are divorced should read.

My attorney recommended this book to me after I kept encountering hateful attitude from my daughter after she would return from visiting with her father and his current girlfriend. I had never heard of this term - maybe I should say I didn't realize there was an official term of this horrible thing that some parents do to other parents. This book helped me understand what I was up against. I appreciated the information greatly.

It was a great read! Multiple therapists, and none of them really ever got it. Just give it time, etc.......No, I think not - why anyone would ever involve their children in this warfare is way beyond me.
This book acknowledges that this happens to others, and has some really great advice on how to deal with PAS, not many others will get it however.
If your kids are caught up in this, all I can say is I feel for you.

As a mom who has been completely alienated from her children, I can tell you first hand that Divorce Poison and Dr. Warshak offer invaluable advice. The book contains HOPE. I had asked my former therapist for help in finding a resource to help me reconnect with my adult children (ages 22 and 26) after I left their father after 30 years of marriage but this was not his area of expertise. Not only has my former husband poisoned them, so has my own mother and siblings. It only after an the store search that I found help by purchasing this book. The circumstances in the disclosure of my departure from my marriage were quite unexpected, dramatic and hurtful, but needless to say my children deserve to have a relationship with me as their mom. My family needs to step aside or step in to point out that this is a marital issue and it does not mean I love my children any less. The book contains excellent advice from someone who truly understands our plight and is passionate about providing practical guidance. Dr. Warshak was also kind enough and instrumental in helping me find a local therapist to help me through this nightmare. Best money ever spent! Order it now!

I met Dr Warshack and he recommended this book to me for my divorce. Every parent coordinator I know has it on their book shelf. Divorce Poison is a must read. My particular most used piece of advice is if your ex lies to your children about you you have to correct the lie. It is more important to correct the lie then trying not to speak negative about your co-parent. You don't have to overdo it but the lie must be corrected.

I couldn't recommend the book more! Especially if you are in a high conflict case or dealing with someone with a personality disorder. Lots of really good information to adhere to yourself and how to deal with it if the negative behavior is coming from your ex.

This is our life story cover to cover. We immediately implemented every tactic and saw positive changes over time. We have had a very long fight and although it's far from over, this book launched us to a place where we had hope--something we didn't have before.

This is a must read for all divorced parents that are victims of divorce poison. This book covers a wide range of types of divorce poison and gives many tips on how to try to reverse it's effects on the children. I am the parent of a parent who is the victim of divorce poison. It has given me many insights into this tragedy. I highly recommend reading it.

I can't recommend this book more highly to anyone feeling like they are dealing with parental alienation. Dr Warshak is able to take his profound expertise on this subject and provide simple ways of recognizing alienation and useful ideas on how to deal with it.

This book puts into words the behaviors we are experiencing and tools on how to handle it. I am so thankful to have found this. I feel like we can handle the attacks much more effectively and aren't just completely helpless, waiting for the kids to "figure it out" when they get older. Time is too precious.

Good for parents with hard to understand custody battles and those that deal with isolation, brainwashing, negative bashing of other parent, etc...what about how this affects your offspring. Courts should have this book as textbook!

Dr. Warshak clearly spells out what happens in parental alienation (also known as "custodial interference", "hostile, aggressive parenting", "parental undermining", "parental estrangement", etc.), most often in a separation/divorce situation, in which one parent teaches the child to hate and reject the other parent, and what to do about it.

For anyone and I mean anyone going through a divorce this is a must read. If you think your divorce is "amicable" do NOT pass up this book. When other parties get involved the dynamics change. Parent alienation is the most painful day to day walk.

great advice and understanding on what real issues of divorce poison can do to a family an individual children with ex's and the manipulation that can and does happen and how to act on it. well written. my husband and I cant put it down since receiving it on Friday. thanks

You should get this book if you are going through a divorce...whether or not your are on good or bad terms in regards to your ex. Preferably both of you should read the book so you know how to interact with your child.

I have read Divorce Poison over the last several months and wish I had read it ten years ago. But of course it had not been written yet. I have been divorced for over a year now, but the poisoning has been going on for a long time before that. To the point where I finally decided, after 28 years, to divorce because of what my husband has done to my relationship with my children, especially my daughters. It continues even now, but I have benefited from this book. First, it helped me to know I was not making this up. My ex has done and said things straight from the book and I know he has not read it (ha). Second, it has helped me to know what to do. It not only talks about what is going on, it gives suggestions on how to handle situations. This has helped me to be patient with my children. I see a little progress. I am still involved with my children even though at times it is a struggle. The difficulty has been that no one else, especially the children, know what is going on. Reading this book has helped me to keep sane in the midst of an unfair situation. Finally, this book gives me hope to keep persuing my children no matter how they respond to me. I love them, but the discouragement has been so overwhelming at times I wanted to give up. The book is right in saying that bashing the favored parent is detrimental, but it is hard not to defend myself. This book has been such an affirmation of what I have been dealing with for so many years. The only counsel I was getting was to forgive and keep submitting. I am a Christian and understand what God expects of me, but I also knew something was terribly wrong. The book says many people are not experienced in divorce poison and that includes Christian counselors and pastors. I appreciate Dr. Warshak's work and his speaking out on behalf of those who cannot or do not know how. I wanted to let everyone know Divorce Poison has benefited at least one person. I hope others will find it and read it in their time of need.