From Doormat to Dreamgirl―A Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship

This book was valuable and entertaining. The author uses "attraction principles" as her ten commandments of dating, which are similar to the bestseller "The Rules", yet her ideas are fresh and original. In fact, the authors of "The Rules" endorse this book. I especially enjoyed the chapters about "playing dumb", "renewing the mental challenge" and "keeping your pink slip", which are very much about pride, poise and self-discipline.
Though the author's precepts were excellent, I thought the book could have used better editing. I found myself wishing the paragraphs were more succinct in explaining the attraction principles; I didn't know if some of the principles applied to the paragraphs that came before or after. In addition, I felt some of the principles could have been consolidated - there were almost too many to memorize!
Nevertheless, this book offers new insights to women who are relationship-challenged. It purports a more unique and challenging perspective than many of the other dating books on the market.

Perfect book to read if you are frustrated with your love life and want to have better relationship with men. This is the guy's playbook. All the secrets to understanding men and having better, longer lasting relationships with men is in the book. I read this book years ago and went from having blink and you miss it relationships to healthier, fulfilling relationships that last for years. And even when I run into an ex, we are still on good terms. All the questions you have about relationships with men are answered in this book. But beware, hide this book from your lovers and boyfriends. Don't ever get caught with it. By the way, the men who are giving this book low ratings are doing so because this books reveals all oftheir secrets and it's ruining their dating game because women are wising up after reading this book.

it's a MUST read.
you cannot believe the psychological tricks guys use again and again, even on their own mothers!
seriously , we women need to wake up, and stop assuming we know, time to learn, time to open our minds, and the author will help you do just that.
Oh and get ready for some serious laughs in the process!

I know some reviews knocked this book as being manipulative and some men stated they lost interest when their girlfriends began implementing these strategies. However, in the context of a loving, committed relationship, this book might prove invalid. Many are not experiencing this sort of relationship, hence why the book may be a godsend to many. Many thanks to Sherry Argov.

This book rocks!! It completely changed the way I look at dating and men in general. It is not disrepectful to men in any way and it totally honest about what men want and what they are looking for. The author spoke to men about love and dating and relationships and got the information in her book right from the "horses mouth". This is book is great for single as well as married women. If you only read one more book about dating make it this one. I am a mental health counselor and I have recommended this book to all of my female clients, married or single. It is a book you will read more than once, I promise you.

There were definite things in this book that I could relate to even though I tilted more towards being the described dream girl. I see some things that I now realize and have tested out the theory with positive outcomes!! I definitely recommend this book!!!

This book explained a lot, and whether or not you agree with the book, it is hilarious. I do not think I ever laughed so much in my life from reading a book, as I did when I read this book. It actually made me realize I don't want to date and that has been a huge time-saver, and I've accomplished a lot more in my life.

Seriously, they should be handing this book out to girls right after they have the awkward little class in middle school about getting your period. I wish I'd had this book years ago, it would have saved me a bit of heartache and TONS of wasted time. Some of it's obvious, BUT the majority of it helps you understand how men define your behavior. Like, everyone knows, "Don't be a door mat!" but this book makes you realize, "Wow, I just thought I was being nice!" when whatever action you have done is translated to a man very differently from how one of your girlfriends would have perceived it. It's a quick read too, she's funny and honest!

This book answered so many questions about my dating life. I wasn't sure about the book at first because of the vulgar title, but then bought it due to the issues in my love life. Ladies, if you always end up feeling you are not sure what went wrong or felt like you were taken for granted, read this straight to the point book. You won't have to change yourself, just follow some tricks here and there that would get him to consequently chase you, which we should let men do since they are natural born hunters. I am so happy I found this book because I feel like a brand new woman after reading it. I am suggesting this book to all my girlfriends because it gives an insight on how guys think and work.

I am going through the situation of the doormat girl after living with my now ex bf for 3 years (together for 4)He was persistent about us living together and took care of me in every aspect. I just lived there and was happy and pitched in by paying for groceries and other little things here and there. Things became routine and I lost myself in the relationship. I moved out and feel like I'm not walking on egg shells or drained. We both realized we took advantage of each other and are working on ourselves independently and giving each other space until so we can be happy again. This book opened my eyes and took away the love blinds.

Absolutely life changing! I put everything she said into use. I had men at my feet and I got a ring! Now married, and he's still head over heels about me. Love love love this book! I recommend it to everyobe

thank you for writing a book that MAKES SENSE and that i can apply to my life. now i understand. i've always been the type wanting to please, but that never gets you anywhere. since i've read this book, i see my mistake(s) and am now living like a "bitch" and watching as all the boys flock my way. i feel enlightened and free of all that dead weight and guilt sitting on my shoulders whenever i'd do something wrong. i've got a new state of mind and it's not changing. :D

This should be required reading for all girls at the onset of puberty. The advice is entertaing and because there is truth, very damn funny. After a few relationships, I think most women will learn these truths, but isn't it better to realize sooner than later? Girls should definitely adhere to Avril and not 'give it all away.' Despite all the machinations and tongue-in-cheek recommendations in this book, it comes down to the basic tenet that self-respectful singledom is much better than cohabitation in loserville. ;-)

Really a book about self esteem. How men or for that matter others view someone with it vs. without it. What your actions say about your self esteem. I recommend giving this to young ladies who are just starting to date. It will help them to not make the novice mistakes so many women make and some never learn not to make. Also the lessons can be applied to other situations in life.

Overall this book gave good advice, some I needed, some I knew and just didn't use correctly. I was happy with the purchase until she had the audacity to imply that a lack of general middle-class wealth implies neediness. Being disabled and unable to work, I live on a tight budget while on disability. I sell my paintings to supplement my income. However, I can by no means fly to Europe or take a trip to the Bahamas. Lack of monetary wealth does not mean lack of dignity or neediness!! If someone is going to judge me on lack of monetary wealth and a disability, then they can move on. I would advise her to watch herself the next time she shoots her mouth off. Things like that are easy to say when you make what she makes.

This book is hilarious peer entertainment!! This book helped me to stop being a doormat to a man it doesn't teach to be cruel or evil but to know your worth as a women. It helps you change some of the negative behaviors making men work for you I have used tis advice throughout my life this book changed a lot for me.

Most of the book refers to the boundaries you need to creat when you first start dating a man. Hence, this is not a practical guide for a woman who is trying to move her long term relationship forward. It does touch on behaviors that a woman should always keep in mind so that she does not become a doormat. Her guide is really helpful for women who are serial daters and don't understand why their relationships never go to the next level. Creating personal boundaries are very important, and being overly emotional when those boundaries are breached never helps the situation. Argov nails this point.

As I mentioned before, this book is probably not that useful if you already find yourself in a longterm relationship. If you are finding that your relationship has stagnated and seems to be going nowhere, it might be better to read a book about communicating or perhaps even visiting a therapist if your significant other is up for that.

Overall, I do recommend this book for any women - it's quick enough to read and highlights some important considerations that should be taken to maintain your dignity versus giving up too much too fast. I've seen a few people do this and it always ends in disaster and heartbreak.

Some people might consider the advice in this book to be dated, even sexist. I remember some of these tips from my own mother, and since I was a teenager in the "liberated" 70s, I dismissed what Mom said.
But Mom was right. It's about being in control of your life, and not turning the reins over to anyone else.
Some of Argov's scenarios are a little too glib, as if saying these magic words will make everything instantly turn perfect. Real life is messier than that. But her core advice is spot-on: treat yourself like the valuable, lovable woman you are, and live your life. The truth hurts, ladies; we give it all away way too fast. "All" meaning attention, compromise, love and sex.
The only thing I don't like is the title. The woman she describes is not a bitch. In fact, Argov goes out of her way to tell us this. I think the title is to attract attention, and is not really an accurate description of what is inside.

A worthwhile read, and not too long.

I have told all of my girlfriends single and married about this book. It is right on point and gives very good insight into the males ways of thinking and how we should interact with them. We as women sometimes lose our identity to please a man and it never works. I have always held my own in a relationship for the most part, but I have found new insights into loving myself and loving my man without losing myself in the relationship and have found it totally true that a man appreciates a woman more when she stands up for herself, has a live apart from him and does not make him her world but a part of her world. I can hardly wait to read why men MARRY bitches.

I wonder how many relationships (and self-esteem) I could have saved in my life if I had read this book before...

This book is full of so many good points that it should be a required reading to all women, of any age. We always forget that we should think about ourselves first... making our first and biggest mistake!

This book can REALLY help you to keep the man you love BY YOUR SIDE!

After reading it, I gave this book to my 18 year old daughter, she has passed it on to her friends... and we all have benefited from the advices... regardless of our 26 years age gap!.

I just started reading it again!

I was married for 10 years and am newly divorced. The dating world has changed! I bought this book to help me figure out my new path of dating. I really enjoyed reading this book. It reiterated the things I am doing right, but did not give me new suggestions on how to improve. I really enjoyed reading it and am passng to around to all my single friends. I highly recommend!

Brilliant. The methods described in this book are uncanny. Do "A", Get result "B."

This is a must read for every female. This book is about getting or keeping a man by being your independent bold self.

A wealth of useful information that I really wish I had known much sooner. This book covers how to keep yourself from becoming someone else's doormat in a relationship. Coupled with Steve Harvey's books on the same topic, like "Straight Talk, No Chaser" and "Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man," you feel suited up in full armor to take a relationship head-on because the eye-opening insight and perspectives both authors share are truly invaluable. The perfect intro book for all of you people out there who are, "too nice." Been there, done that.

This book was very informative. It has alot of good points. The writer is writing from experience. I wish I had read it before i went through some of my problems with men. Alot of it you can use and some of it you just cant us, it just depends on your charatcer.When yu start reading it, you cant put it down. It only took 3 days to read it. And I read it twice so i could remember. If you are having problems and keep getting dumped because you are a good girl, GET this BOOK!!

A wealth of useful information that I really wish I had known much sooner. This book covers how to keep yourself from becoming someone else's doormat in a relationship. Coupled with Steve Harvey's books on the same topic, like "Straight Talk, No Chaser" and "Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man," you feel suited up in full armor to take a relationship head-on because the eye-opening insight and perspectives both authors share are truly invaluable. The perfect intro book for all of you people out there who are, "too nice." Been there, done that.

This book was very informative. It has alot of good points. The writer is writing from experience. I wish I had read it before i went through some of my problems with men. Alot of it you can use and some of it you just cant us, it just depends on your charatcer.When yu start reading it, you cant put it down. It only took 3 days to read it. And I read it twice so i could remember. If you are having problems and keep getting dumped because you are a good girl, GET this BOOK!!

First of all, I ordered this book on Wednesday and received it Friday (with standard shipping), so that was FANTASTIC. Second, I read this entire book in ONE day because I could not put it down. This GEM of a book described me so perfectly is was both eerie and very reassuring. For years, I kept wondering if it was "me" that was sabotaging my relationships and in many ways, YES, it was! But that's because I accepted the unacceptable instead of putting myself first and knowing that I deserve the best and don't have to settle for a guy's out-of-line behavior. I am so happy I ordered this book and HIGHLY recommend it to any women who finds herself trying too hard in an unfulfilling relationship. This book will leave you feeling strong, self-assured, confident, and IN CONTROL of your life and your happiness. AMAZING!!!

I purchased this book by a friends recommendation, while it is very informative and gives great outlook on things, this book was just not for me.
I read half of it and just couldn't bring myself to finish it. I believe I gave it to a friend as a gift. Again, its a good book, just not useful for me.

Soo.. I recommend this book for any single or married woman . So much advice you need a notebook to carry with you. It's like a girlfriend/psychiatrist/counselor all in one. I will reread this book over and over until I've mastered becoming the BITCH. Great read one of the best self help books out there . No bad reviews, buy the book !!!

This works, this works, this works!!!! It does manipulate people, but it makes the guy your dating do what he's supposed to be doing in the first place. In a world where men think they set the rules and have you waiting by the phone, this book is a bright shineing light! You don't have to apply all the books princples in the exact way the author chooses to express them, but these are guildlines, RULES! Stick to them and couple these rules with the famous "He's Just Not That Into You" book, and you'll be running the relationship show in no time! HOLLA