The Rational Male

I'd never read any of Tomassi's blogs, but his book put my feelings into words. Having myself gone from a white knight AFC to a reckless plate spinner, he did a great job of helping me understand why I view women so much differently than I did just 5 years ago. Cheers to the red pill!

Just finished the book and I have to say it has clarified things about society, masculinity and women I didn't understand completely. It has also opened my mind; awakened a state of mind that was dormant for a long time. Overall, it is a great book. It is way better than Psychological therapies alone. The most interesting part is that he explains why psychological therapies are failing men, which I related to the most!

Recommended to me by a friend who says I say/think a lot of the way this book talks about. I don't regret the purchase, and of course as the opening introduction says, there are things you will agree with and vehemently disagree with, and I did - I don't feel I really benefited from reading this book because, as my friend said it says a lot of the things that he thinks I already think.

While I don't agree with my friend's view of myself 100%, and there were things in this book that I disagree with, I would say the book is worth a read - and it reads pretty quick. It does repeat itself from time to time, and the punctuation and grammar is that of a web forum at some parts (maybe even just copied and pasted), it will provide some with insight, maybe anger, maybe self loathing, maybe self-realization, whatever it may be, I think everyone can gain something from reading it - and in the end, isn't that worth something to everyone?

I've never seen such poor spelling, grammar, and formatting on a Kindle book. It's like the author downloaded all of his blog entries full of grammatical errors into a Word document, ran it through a free program that converted it to Kindle format (poorly), and put it on the store without a single person editing it. He should honestly be ashamed for the lack of respect for his readers. Despite the pain of reading it, there were a number of sections I found enlightening and highlighted, so that's why I didn't give it one star. But I recommend just reading the entries at his blog so you don't regret spending your money.

Every man over the age of 15 must read this book. I've read all of Rollo's posts online (which the chapters in this book are culled from), but I still open the hard copy of The Rational Male every once in awhile and read a passage - just for a reminder.

This is the essential guide for men and should be required reading of every man. It gives one a complete perspective on what it takes to become the best person one can be. It covers topics like how to handle women, communication techniques, and how to develop a mindset that is true to oneself in dealing with life.

I couldn't agree more. A true eye opener. This book should be required reading for all men. The author hits on what feminism has become and it's true effect on men and the erosion of men's place in this world.

This book is worth its weight in gold. The book reveals the true state of gender relations and it's far from what socialization teaches. I personally think that this is essential reading for every man. I purchased this book out of curiosity since it was recommended in another awesome book: "The Manosphere" by Ian Ironwood.

I hate to be so grandiose but it must be said: the information in this book completely shut me down. What I mean is that everything I knew about women, or should I say, thought I knew about women, was debunked. If you ever sat and wondered why women are as they are; if you ever wondered where you go wrong with women, you find the answers herein.

Be warned that you must be able to handle the truth. If this book offends you in any way, then it's clear you need it. I cursed this author under my breath for writing "such lies" about the nature of women. I was truly angry and even considered deleting this book from my Kindle. I went through many of the seven phases of grief during and after reading this book. I even tried to act as if women are the innocent beings as socialization tells us, but could not help but see the truth every single day.

Everything I'd been told by family members, the media, school and any other forms of socialization is wrong and I took that personally. In order to describe what I mean by "shut down" mentioned above, I was like a computer with no operating system. I had no clue where to begin now that I know the truth; my daily question being "What now?" My anger towards feminism soared to an all-time high for making a complete fool of me for my entire life.

The book clearly warns that once you learn and witness the truth about women and society, there is no going back. If you do so, as I tried, you KNOW you're living a lie. If you ignore the advice in this book while knowing deep down in your soul it's true, you're in a pathetic state of denial. It is utter self-destruction to continue with the beliefs that socialization and feminism would have us accept.

If you're a man who believes in all the conventions preached by feminism, then you desperately need this book. Read this book and stop being depressed. Read it and accept the fact that you, as a man, are valuable to society and should not accept the role of a low life servant for the feminist establishment. You have the potential to be a powerful man and a devastating enemy to man-hating ideals and it is this that feminism expertly hides with believable and pretty lies. Read it and see how feminism cleverly uses our innate behavior for its sole benefit. For example: Our protector instinct is used to tear down other men for standing up to a woman even when she's clearly wrong. Read it, cry about it, throw a tantrum, say a thousand "hale Mary's", whatever, but please don't deny the truth contained in this book.

Rollo's twitter game is on a different level, I haven't seen a feminist or female debunk any of his theories and the banter is quite amusing. The man is saving the lives of men, saving men money (divorer*pe) and helping men find a meaning in life.

About 4 years ago I watched a TV ad. Ad was about a fat boy (male in his 30) crying in his bed calling for his mother, because he was sick. At the same time his wife was standing beside, looking pity and giving him an advertised pill. I sat there with only one thought: " what the hell." That night I watched only ads. I was shocked with what I found. Almost every ad had the same concept of crying, weak or somehow passive man and woman in dominant role. I couldn’t fully comprehend the stuff I was seeing at that time. And so it began.
I wanted to understand. I wanted to know why. I wanted to know if I'm the only one or am I just going crazy. I've been in serious relationships, in playful, I had ONS, but when I tried to understand and rationalize my behavior and behavior of other people around me, I failed to make the correct order out of it.

This book in particular, was one of the first semi-serious evaluations I read about this topic. It helped me to structure my thoughts and understand my own actions, as well as people around me. For me it was like reading in the native language I knew when I was a kid, but then lost overtime, and when I started reading again, the language came back to me, and I could fully understand and enjoy the full power and passion of it, even more comparing to when I was a kid.

However, there is a downside. The downside comes not from the book itself, but rather from us and our own ego. Unintentionally we were set up that way that when you read the book, and you have your own “aha” moment, people tend to go from one extreme to another. They feel burned, they feel like they were lied to their whole life, and so their first reaction is anger, its irritation, its generalization of facts and actions of other people. Yes, it is necessary period of any workout, including mental, and its called pain period. At that point your best bet would be to lean back, observe, learn, and look around, and then, when you are calm, your anger is gone, and you are ready to act, do it as an adult. Do it as someone who has learned a new knowledge, someone who is in position of power, and got an absolutely unique ability to look from other perspective of view. Because now you do.

This is not a good or a bad book. This book is rationalization of male thoughts. You will understand what was happening in your high school, you will see now how come your wife left you after so many years of amazing marriage, you will see how your girlfriend could cheat with that tattoed punk, you will understand why your mother was sometimes acting not like your mother, you will see why your co-workers/classmates/ friends and family behave that way with the opposite sex, and you will laugh, cry, giggle, and will have this small smirk on your face., as you know this whole joke and you are the only one who can understand it. Embrace, prepare, and be ready to act.

This book lifts the veil on the current Woman=Good, Men=Bad mentality that pervades gender dynamics. So many things have changed in the last 50 years. Divorces have skyrocketed, single moms are the norm, ooops-gotcha pregnancies, rampant premarital promiscuity, slut walks, and false accusations are above scrutiny in our PC, equalist society. Men have sensed something is wrong. Now they know why. Mr Tomassi puts it all together in this book.

Should be required reading for all men. It sometimes seems like it is written 'to prove a point the author went to school (ie. uses big words, etc) and I don't necessarily agree with everything written (the red pill can be hard to swallow sometimes), but ignore this book at your own peril.

“The truth will set you free. But first, it will piss you off.” - Gloria Steinem

The above saying immediately came to mind when I finished The Rational Male. For many, if not most of us men, we are raised to look at women in a certain way, not just physically, but mentally. To be frank, we live in a highly feminized society (at least in Western nations). You aren't supposed to cast women in a negative light. That's unfortunate, because that mentality gets in the way of just being rational and truthful about the nature of women (in general).

Fortunately, Tomassi doesn't bother walking on feminist eggshells and tells it how it is. He introduces us to the full levels of female hypergamy and how women truly view men (I'll give you a hint, it's NOTHING like the story books say). He will bring the reader through misnomers that men tend to hold about how women think and communicate. He'll explain why some total jerks seem to bang a different woman every week but nice guys tend to finish last (and nice guys DO finish last).

For many of us men, there are truths that will hurt. If you were brought up believing there is a "special someone" out there for you, all you have to do is find her, you're going to have that truth shattered harder than a window hit by a baseball. If you were brought up thinking that all you have to do is continue to be the "nice guy" and you'll have someone fall all over you, you're going to cringe (although if you haven't realized by your mid twenties that this is total $h!t, then you suffer from severe cognitive dissonance).

For me, I couldn't read more than one chapter at a time. Not because it was bad, but because I had to put it down and digest what I had read. Most of this book resonated heavily with me. Understand that the author does take a substantial part of the book to explain "Game" and "Plate Theory" as a tool to having multiple sexual partners. This may or may not appeal to you but I recommend reading it so you at least get a better understanding of why, being a nice guy, you very likely got shafted time after time. I did not decide to go out and try to bang as many women as possible because that is just not me. But I can tell you after reading this book, I no longer hold it against guys that do.

The biggest issue I had, and the reason I didn't give this book five stars, is that the editing left a lot to be desired. I typically can put up with a lot and I am far from a grammar Nazi. This book was compiled from the author's blog and blogs are not known for being professionally edited. I do think that if one is going to compile a blog into a book (which I see no problem with doing), it should be edited as a book.

Regardless, I recommend this for every male age 16+ who can read American English. Feminists would hate this book so that alone means it is probably a worthwhile read.

Really good read.although not what i was expecting,it did shine a lot of light into my environment i grew up in with women and why they behaved the way they did.however,i was more looking for more practical insight on how to become more proficient with women.this book basically debunks much of female behavior and constructs in which they operate.basically tells it how it is instead giving you made up BS that we are constantly fed on a daily basis.also another good section was the iron rules in which to follow in order to avoid any bluff from women and yourself.if your confused about a lot of the social dynamics of women this book will definitely shine a light on them.

It confirms a lot of what I have learned the hard way over 54 years, and I learned a lot more as well which had pegs falling into place. Thank you Rollo for this book. My world makes a lot more sense today.

Incredible book. Must read for all men. Contrary to what haters would say, it is not mysiginistic. In fact, it actually diffused any latent frustration and anger knowing that most, if not all, actions by women are of biological origin.

The author's crystal clear thinking forces the reader to adopt a new paradigm on intergender dynamics. While I am still at my mid-twenties, I can tell you that if I ever have a son, I 'll pass on to him the paradigm from the get go.

This is a great book & highly recommended. I read all the reviews before I purchased it and was not disappointed. Just knowing what is inside this book is going to give males a boost to their confidence & reduce anxiety around woman. I'f I'd had this book in my 20's I'd never have married my 1st wife & life would be very different now.

The only criticism I have (and I can't take a star off for this) is that it still reads like a series of blog posts although this does not really detract from the book at all.

It would appear that this is clearly written for boneheads trying to hook up. However, if you look for the take home message from each section there is actually decent substance within. If you have the intelligence to filter out the garbage I say go for it. Also, if you are interested in this book you should think of Models and perhaps No More Mr Nice Guy. Good luck...

The book is good in and of itself, but it really appeals to a certain limited audience. Maybe I am getting old, but a lot the info presented is for young men in their early 20's who come from privilege, are aspiring for their MBA's who want to get married. I come from a different background.

This is not a self help book, it's a book that tells you you're perception of men and women are wrong and why. It brings you back to a primitive, yet intellectual frame of thinking. I wish I read this years ago, I've already adopted to most of what is discussed after going through my own stings with women and can say Rollo is dead-on accurate with how men need to be. You probably won't agree with some parts, I didn't, but his reasoning is rational.

Not much to disagree with here. Good insights all around. I think all in all a little more citations would have helped build his case on certain subjects like female sexuality better than the use of bald assertions. Thus the four stars.

Get the Matrix movies......watch them. Then read this book over and over again (at least five times). Learn and internalize GAME CONCEPTS. Then watch your relationships with women magically change! It's really that simple. This book is simply the best break down of inter gender dynamics anywhere on the planet!

I would thoroughly recommend this work to anyone interested. I discovered this book through the author's blog, and as such, was used to his terminology, however, it would be difficult to discuss the concepts contained within, without these terms, thus they are a neccessity.

I am a 53 year old African America, College educated male who is often complimented for being handsome and charismatic. I am pretty successful and have no problem engaging with attractive women. I am not , nor have I been married I travel , date and enjoy life I am a father of one 20 year daughter. The world is mine !! Now with that being said I only wish I would have read and had the capacity to understand this book at age 30 this is a mans , man read yes they are a quite a few big words . Grab your nuts and learn them . This book is a game changer for the man who has not been transformed into a mangina. Some of these reviews are clearly from beta ass , women pedalizing men who will never get it !!! They may as well join the women's movement!! Yes I love women but not to the detriment of myself and well being . This book should be given to all young men at age 21 to 25 it would save them time , money and heartache . The playing field is not, nor has it ever been level . This read goes along way to improving that !!!

To uncover the universal truth about women and their strange habits/words/actions, Rollo Tomassi treads on controversial and necessary grounds to bring us the truth. Too many men have been used and misled by this mysterious female whim. This is not a rant, but an honest and experienced observation. Without spoiling the plot, Tomassi discusses what makes women tick, how they are very different from what we have been taught, and how they contrast greatly from what we have learned to expect from them. This book is not a manual on how to pick them up, but rather how to avoid tragic consequences of ignorance. Men and boys, prepare for what the Matrix calls... The Red Pill.

I'm going to cut right to the chase here. This is THE book for the man who wants step out of ignorance and embrace the truth about women and relationships in the world we currently live in. Most dating, sex, and marriage advice books are pretty old hat and seem to ignore the biological and behavioral processes that are rooted within women and turbocharged for better or worse(usually worse) due to the nature of modern societies. This aspect of relationships is highly relevant to the male, but is usually ignored to their own detriment.

Rollo presents the current landscape of relationships between men and women based on how they function in reality, not the common fantasies fed to you by mothers, family, churches, and the media. Some people will not be ready for these ideas and will prefer to live in a state of ignorance.

Whether you are married, dating, or simply hooking up, this book will splash you with a cold dose of reality that every man who prefers not to go through their life on one leg will desperately need to hear.

If you are at all interacting and dealing with females, then there is a HIGH likelihood that you are currently majorly screwing something up. Your happiness, your life, your net worth, your sex life, and especially your children are or will be at stake in this massively one sided world between men and women.

As a side note, it is a deceivingly long book based on the page numbers - the type is fairly small compared to most books I've gotten through the store.

even though this is a distillation of Rollo's extensive blog work online, it makes a very interesting read. My only criticism is that the print is very,very small and there's no index or other navigational aids. This makes it difficult to read more than a few pages at a time.

I recommend this book to every man with one large caution -- this book overlooks leagues. In my experience there are definitely leagues based on physical appearance, and changes in personality are not likely to move a man out of his league, unless he is on the borderline. Conversely, changes in appearance can move a man out of his league, without any changes in his personality. If you take a hot looking guy and make him look unattractive, he will not be able to get a date with a hot looking girl even though his personality remains unchanged. Take a "10" guy and have him pick up "10" girls in a club -- no problem. Then change him into a "7" guy in appearance, and have him try to pick up "10" girls in a different club. Women who are "10s" don't even see men who are "7s". The "10" guy will learn what it's like to be the invisible man.

If a man is a "7" in physical appearance, it is very unlikely that he will do more than get into the "friend zone" with an "8" woman. Most women are physically attracted to a man's physical appearance, not his personality, because sex is physical. If a man's physical appearance does not excite a woman, he is not getting out of the friend zone. But if his physical appearance does excite her, she will drag him out of the friend zone and into her bed, even if he wants to remain in the friend zone for awhile.

I once asked a single friend of mine, who is very good looking, how he approached women. He said he didn't approach women, they approached him. He just lets the women decide which of them is going to get him for the evening, it's easier that way. He goes with which ever attractive woman approaches him first. According to him, the most attractive women are usually the most aggressive. No personality needed.

As I read the book, I wondered why there was no mention of getting eye-contact from a woman before approaching her. Then it dawned on me, invisible men never get eye-contact. I initially thought that many men in the PUA community may have never gotten eye-contact from any woman, because these men are in the lower levels of physical attractiveness. But then I realized that was unlikely. They would probably get eye-contact from a woman who was a "3", if they were a "3". But these men are going after "10"s, so they are invisible to the women they're pursuing. Eye-contact depends on physical appearance only, not personality.

In my opinion women are more influenced by appearance then are men. Why would women be hypercritical of their own appearance, but not hypercritical of men's appearance? Women can dissect a man's appearance more finely than a brain surgeon. Some studies have shown that women's standards are so high that they rate 80% of men as below average in appearance.

A man's appearance is so important to women, that they will put up with a jerk if he's hot. Because of this, some men think that women would rather sleep with jerks than with nice guys. But women don't want to sleep with jerks. They simply want to sleep with hot guys. Women will sleep with a jerk if he's hot, and women will sleep with a nice guy if he's hot. Women prefer hot nice guys, but they will put up with jerk behavior from a guy if he's hot, just like men will put up with jerk behavior from a girl if she's hot. It's a case of physical appearance trumping personality.

There is one personality trait that does turn women on -- self-confidence. There are self-confident jerks and there are self-confident nice guys. Don't mistake jerk behavior for self-confident behavior. Men who are self-confident with women are self-confident because they've had success with women in the past. And they've had success with women in the past, because women found them physically attractive. It's a case of physical appearance creating self-confidence.

It should be a relief to men to learn that they are being friend zoned on physical appearance alone, not their personalities. When women tell friend zoned men that they think they are great guys, women are telling the truth. But women don't want to sleep with great guys, they want to sleep with hot guys. That is something over which guys have no control, and something over which women have no control. A woman can't control who she thinks is hot and who she thinks is not. Physical attraction does not think -- it's a purely physical reaction.

My advice would be to make yourself into the most physically attractive man you can be through diet, exercise, hair styling, clothing and even plastic surgery. Then use the techniques in this book to successfully sleep with the women in whichever league your physical appearance lands you. Trying to date above your league is a waste of time and effort, because there are wonderful women in every league, and you could be enjoying your life with the wonderful women in your league, rather than wasting your time being friend zoned by women above your league.

If you're non-religious, desperate and ready to buy into a nihilistic, semi-narccisistic outlook. This book is for you. However, if your views are more refined by the higher virtues of Western culture, you might consider perusing it if you are unsuccessful with females. I have a personal problem with the content of this book. The author claims truth, but offers very little source information. Very few case studies are presented. My second issue with this work is that it has a nihilistic scientism bent to it. Evolution and behavioural science is fine. But, it's all depressing and meaningless without a solid underpinning. What I mean to say is if you don't treasure and honor human beings as the crown of creation made in the image of a benevolent creator for specific and wonderful purposes, you're going to end up with a didactic tone like the author's and you'll be pressed far from beauty and majesty. Sure, many folks will write it off as romantic mysticism which is weak and feminine in light of the authors perspective. But keep in mind, that the author's predisposition is base humanity. I went back and forth over this book. There is truth in it, but no beauty and the soul left with only base instincts is not much of a soul at all. A much better read for males struggling to understand female sexuality with much less conjecture and much more practical advice is W. Anton's: "What Women Want and how to Give it to Them." "The rational Male" should be re-titled, "The Base Male." Human life has meaning and value and active love is real. But you won't find respect for that here. Take what you can from it, if you like but don't expect much in personal fulfillment. Also, I found the acronyms rather juvenile and pretentious. Men can and should do better. Embrace the challenge.

Rollo Tomassi is a no bulls*** kind of guy that lays out complex ideas in a very simple easy to follow way. Just like his website, he has strong beliefs, but can explain and justify why he holds them.

One of the most eye opening and life changing books on the topic of male female relations I have ever read. I highly, HIGHLY recommend this book to any man who is struggling with their interpersonal relationships with women. When I began reading the 'Rational Male', I felt more and more liberated the more I read. Every chapter was an "A'HA! Now I get it!" moment for me. This book saves men's lives and marriages. If you are struggling in your relationship or marriage, or know a man who is please buy this book.

If you are new to Game/the Manosphere, etc, or not, this is an excellent overview either way. Good clarification on certain terminology that is used commonly, while also being in depth and bringing an original perspective to the subject material.

Not plaintive or whiny or "why me", in fact, it is the complete opposite. Use it to inspire you, help you improve yourself, and whatever relationship you are or aren't in, it will help you open your eyes and use the rules that govern our relationships with the opposite sex to your best advantage.

If, for some reason you think that's a bad thing, then read the book again.

This is a collection of words which seem to have been written with a thesaurus, as the author appears to go through a lot of pain to avoid using simple English words.

Instead, it's full of jargon and hard to understand words, especially for the first half of the book.

This makes it quite a journey distilling what the author is trying to say, but hidden in indigestible words. Such a pity!

I'd recommend a simple, revised edition.

This book is very thin on citations from reputable sources. It seems to be a mixture of conjecture with some well established ideas. It seems to encourage dishonesty in relationships (plate spinning), and other behaviours that would not be good for a relationship. In addition, the author seems to have the idea that there is some sort of feminine conspiracy out there that wants to strip away the masculinity from men that women so love. Sound like a contradiction? It is...

I really enjoyed this book and will certainly re-read it.

All men have to navigate the sexual marketplace and relationships with women throughout their lives, and most men instinctively want a more sophisticated understanding of how that market really works. At least I always have. Unfortunately the modern media is so terrified of offending women and losing the marketing cashflow associated with them, it's become aggressively anti-male to the detriment of the average guy. Most men spend their entire lives perceiving the gender power dynamics around them almost as white noise, with no real ability to tune into what's actually happening in their interactions. Many men perceive their own gender and even themselves to be unworthy of the respect, dignity and options our society is so desperate to guarantee for the average woman, without really understanding why they feel this way.

The Rational Male is an easy to digest set of essays that essentially tune men into the real dynamics of the sexual marketplace, and the cultural/political forces surrounding it. It's easy to see when reading it that the author's primary intent is to educate the average guy about his potential, options, leverage and best strategies when interacting with women. It's particularly valuable because it does an excellent job of explaining women's sexual and relationship strategies, and some of the most common social conventions used to leverage guys into acting against their own best interest in their relationships without them even realizing it.

If you read and appreciated books like Men on Strike by Dr Helen Smith or The Myth of Male Power by Warren Farrell, you will probably enjoy this book as well, because although they cover different subjects they frequently touch on similar themes.

Some of the most interesting writing for me was on the topics of female hypergamy, the nature of Alpha and Beta men, the typical guys belief in relational equity, women hitting the wall, and the changing power dynamics between men and women as they age. It's all easy to understand and digest, whilst still prompting the reader to think in a variety of directions about the connections and consequences of the ideas put forth. In short, it's stimulating and energetic writing and I've never come across anything quite like it before.

It takes great courage to write a book like this in today's PC culture, but it felt to me as though the author really had the best interests of the average guy in mind when he wrote it. I also felt he was very honest in his communication. I really appreciated that, and I'm recommending this book to all my guy friends. Keep up the great work Rollo, looking forward to the next one.

I would 100% recommend this to a single man. A must read for 18+ males, who are dating.

However, the way it was marketed lead me to believe that all men, single or not should read the book. The book is structured in a way that doesn't keep every man's interest. Especially when the book gets into plate theory, it completely alienates the single man.

If you want to understand the thinking behind the male pick up artist type forums on the internet, this is a good read. I will concede that it does have a LOT of acronyms (most of which are explained) that are unique to the "why can't I get a girl" forums. I both agreed and disagreed with a lot of the material, It will, however, make you think.

Some of the language is a bit crass and could be off-putting to an R rated sensitive audience.
May not be a message you want to hear, and every male should hear this message. If you decide to read this, read it all the way through. Filter if need be, but filter all of it. Think. Unplug.

A book I wish I had 15 years ago as a teenager. Every man needs to read this book; you can choose accept or reject Rollo's hypotheses, either way, it will make you more aware of the social environment we inhabit with women.

This book is absolutely an essential book for all men to read. Parents should buy this book for their teenage boys. Friends should share this book with their friends. Don't get married until you've read this book!

This morning I stumbled upon a blog, [...] I noticed that the author of the blog had a recently released book of the same name, and so I bought the Kindle edition and read the entire book. Some of you are questioning my owning a Kindle, as I am admittedly somewhat anti-technology. However, I live in limited space environments and read prodigiously, so despite my preference for the physical book, a Kindle has become my standard method of reading. Here's my take on The Rational Male.

Rollo examines gender interactions quite thoroughly in this book, and clearly shows his knowledge. I found the book to be quite interesting, however, I was distracted several times by poor editing which caused me to have to re-read a number a passages. I also found the general structure of the book less than ideal-it reads like a number of blog posts put together without much thought as to the order. Halfway through the book you may get a section defining a term that has been used throughout the preceding portion of the book. However, the quality of the ideas makes up to some extent for the poor editing and presentation.

Rollo presents a path for men to recognize their own value in the sexual marketplace and enhance both their options and value through diversification, or as he puts it, "plate spinning." The book is primarily written in a way that assumes that fornication is a necessity for his readers, although he does say that those with religious or moral codes can apply his principles in a modified way and receive the same benefits. As a savage that rebels against the free sexuality of the Brave New World, I still appreciate and agree with many of his concepts. In fact Rollo goes out of his way to make clear that while "plate spinning" certainly can mean the male is sexually involved with his plates, he does not have to be for the concept to work. Likewise, he provides an explanation of how his Iron Rule #3, (a woman who makes you wait for sex is never worth it) can be applied by voluntarily abstinent men. Of course, voluntarily abstinent men aren't a large demographic in this brave new world, so I was pleasantly surprised that Rollo was thoughtful enough to include how that subset can implement his advice on negotiating inter-gender dynamics. All in all, I give The Rational Male a solid four stars-kept from five only by poor copy-editing and non-intuitive progression.

My whole life I somehow felt that something was wrong with me feeling inadequate as a man. I now have the knowledge of what led to this feeling. For that I am deeply grateful. It is our duty to spread the truth and practice in order to become better persons and men. Thank you Rollo Tomassi.

Supposed to be a "how to" book...idiots cant do what this book teaches men to do...but it's written for someone with extremely high IQ and impeccable vocabulary. I can read it just fine, but it's just a chore to absorb anything from this book if you only have a chance to read a few pages a day. Find the time for a chapter at a time, and take notes. SO MANY things are covered, you forget whats going on by the end of the chapter.

The information is good, and you know this is true, because it was ripped from Rollo's website. Still, the purpose of the book is to be able to hold this in your hand, or to give it to people who may need a little nudge or help. To this end, the editing is critically flawed. If you approach this book without understanding key concepts like Hypergamy, you will be lost until it is finally defined in the eighth (of 10) chapter.

In short, this did not meet my expectations as a book which lays out an axiom and tries to explain it. Instead concepts are grouped together without any real effort to define terms or build on fundamentals. It is a good resource if you have a background already in the material, but there is never a real case presented.

Unfortunately, it is not much more than a collection of blog posts.

If you think you understand women to some extent, think again. Rollo Tomassi has spent the last 15-20 years of his life investigating the main principles of female behavior and is considered, in my opinion, one of the biggest influencers in the interpersonal dynamics sphere. This book is very difficult to read. Not because Tomassi uses difficult language, but more because some of the truths he reveals are extremely difficult to swallow. You don’t need to agree with all his tenets to benefit from this book. If you open your mind, however, and muster the courage to finish it, the impact it will have in your life will be immense.

Disappointing.. Some good ideas but he takes a looooong time to make a point. Too much pick up artist formulas, I thought he had moved beyond this. I would love a book about male psychology but this isn't one.

Many of the ideas in The Rational Male are interesting but the execution is weak; too many sentences are mangled, like this one: "The reason that so many guys get so bent about what defines an Alpha is usually because they don't fit that general definition very well." It should read something like, "So many guys get bent out of shape about the definition of an 'alpha' because they aren't alphas." Problems like these should be solved by a line editor, but they recur over and over again. They're the kind of problems I find in papers written by my students.

Too many assertions occur without evidence, like this one: "Scientific study after study illustrating the natural capacity women have for exceptionally complex forms of communication [...] are flags proudly waved by a feminized media as proofs of women's innate merits [...]" But none of these numerous "scientific" studies are cited in the text or in a footnote. This damages the "The Rational Male's" credibility.

These problems mar what should be a much better book, and the sort of book that can be passed to friends as an introduction to ideas about gender dynamics.

This really is not an insightful book if you have any common sense on intergender relations. It is poorly written with many misspellings and lots of verbatim repetitive sections. This book was written like a high schooler writing a mandatory ten page paper when he only has one page of content; filled with big words that have little relevant meaning and blatantly added to make it longer. There are a few points Tomassi makes that are very enlightening, but this book could have easily been 1/4 the size, and if it was properly edited, would be a real winner.

It pushes a unique but not uncommon philosophy about dating that is interesting to consider but believing it whole hog would be a mistake. This is a good book for a "beta male" to read if it would help them get rid of some unhealthy behaviors like obsessing over girls that aren't interested, but if the reader takes it to the opposite extreme it could lead to behaviors just as bad, i.e. becoming callous and treating women like sex pets. Take what he says with a grain of salt. It's just another way to look at things.

Had me rolling my eyes more than anything. This is more like a break down of how to determine what type of male you are and how to present yourself to women. This book didnt appeal to me but others may like it.

Some good points about internalized feminine social constructs unconsciously controlling male desires, but it goes overboard to the point of being misogynistic.

For "nice guys" that need help getting in touch with their masculine energy and to stop being controlled by women. there are much better options than this book, such as "No More Mr Nice Guy" by Robert Glover.

The book is eye-opening. I've been mildly familiar with the pick-up literature for a few years, but this books seems to stand out in several aspects.
First off, it's structure does not suggest a uniformly coherent work. However, if you keep in mind that many of the ideas discussed originally came from online blogs, then this will not be a surprise. Honestly, I am okay with this, since each chapter/essay written has its bits of knowledge and philosophy that take time to process. Digest each section one at a time and you'll be fine.
Second, he really dives deep into the psychology of men and women, pointing out plenty of evidence for his ideas as well as logical trains of thought. The language can every so often become technical, but since I'm in the medical field, I don't mind. After the first read, I thought many of the arguments proposed seemed counter-intuitive, but from a logical perspective they do make sense. If any of the ideas discussed really don't sit well with you (the book's truths can be hard to accept, and you may find yourself with mixed hope and optimism at the end), just go out in the field and test them. I personally did not want to believe some of the concepts discussed, but the more women I get to interact with, the more I realize this book is correct in many respects.
This leads me to my third point, which is this: you'll never look at gender relations the same way again. It's easy to fall back on our preconceptions, to blandly accept what society says is true, or what women themselves say is true, but like I mentioned before - the answers are out there in the field. If you simply observe and study women, you'll see that all those messages the world and society are sending us about what it means to be a man and what you need to accomplish to find a woman are simply false.
Don't let The Matrix metaphor fool you. You may find you've been indeed blinder than you think.

This is one of the very few books out there that address, explain, and exploit the feminine imperative, prerogative, and nature; and most importantly this book provides tactics and techniques to handle the inevitable obstacles that you will run into when dealing with your loved-ones sooner or later. It will save you "should've seen it coming" or "could've handled it better" or "what an unappreciative #$*%" memorable shocking moments when you end up getting dumped or worse-- getting divorced and losing virtually everything you have built up to that point.

The vast majority of men find Rollo's work after going through a dramatic and/or traumatic breakup when their exes dump them in a blink of an eye and desexualize them like a flip of a switch. He explains all of that from psychological, social, and evolutionary perspective, not just got her "feels" like all feminists out there. He even goes back to the Paleolithic era and explains why and how can a woman gets over a man and starts another relationship in no time. Yet, he explains and gives you reasons to embrace them as they are with extreme CAUTION.

If you have been hurt, I'd say CONGRATS! Break up is to either BREAK you down, or build you UP. Your choice to increase your value as a man, it's never too late to become your best version. Get this book and you'll understand.

I hardly ever write reviews. However, I feel very compelled to unplug every guy I can from the matrix and from the world filled with and full of lies we've been living in for the last 50+years, since feminism took over and many (but not all) single mothers have bred generations of feminized men, that you can't cascade or convey any information to them without mocking you without evidence until they their share of a traumatic breakup and only then they are open to seeking difference perspectives other than the social norms mainstream lies that evidently have failed them miserably. This is why I am congratulating you on finally making the right move after getting shocked.

Best of luck to all my brothers out there.
Sincerely,
Tom

Be quiet. A man is speaking to you.

The first thing that came to my mind after reading The Rational Male is: it's about time.

Having known Rollo for many years on SoSuave (and in real life), and having investing my time in his ideas, I've come to appreciate when a man, a Father to men both young and old, speaks to the heart of our collective issues. His book encompasses years of research, case study, personal experience, and years of wringing the neck of the stubborn ego. All of this knowledge and experience culminates in a swift-kick in our collective nut sac.

The abundance of wisdom lying within the pages is worth more than any amount of money he charges for the material; it's worth your time. Time being the one commodity we will never gain more of so you'd be better off learning to appreciate it, and spend it wisely.

This book will save lives. It will save the inexperienced man from his inability to control himself. The Rational Male will force Generation WHY to reflect on the weaknesses of their own Fathers and Grandfathers. The Rational Male will cause you to become enraged which is ultimately the importance of the work.

Buy this book. Rather than pay a woman for her affections, or supplicate to the hem of her opinion, you'll be a more rounded, and well-prepared man after internalizing this material. You'll be a fully revered man who will have his choice of the litter to help him progress onward.

Do it. Do it now.

Scott B. aka: KarmaSutra

Simply the advice your dad was supposed to give you. Probably the reason you're interested in reading this book is because you subtly feel something isn't right. But realize you are about to be exposed to ideas that goes against what female propaganda told us a man looks like. Not everything in The Rational Male is backed by logic, but most of it has strong evidence in gender studies. This book led the resurgence of the return to real manhood and from the 1-star reviews it appears that there's quite a few people who don't want men to become strong, confident leaders again. Like the author says, use your own discernment on each of the ideas presented and come to your own conclusions.

This book will be a shock to a lot of feminized men out there. Not every man can read this and "swallow the red pill". Some will view this book as attacking their personal beliefs and become defensive and closed minded. However this is a book that every man, no matter what age or background can benefit from reading. I have been red pilled before reading this book and still learned a lot, currently on my third read through and still absorbing information.
My favorite part is the detailed break down of evolutionary psychology in relation to inter-gender relationships; why we act the way we do. This book will provide you with a lot of, "Oh, that makes a lot of sense." moments and realizations. One of my moments of realization was when Stockholm syndrome, and it's skewed prevalence in women, was addressed and perfectly explained through evolutionary psychology.

I will finish by reiterating the importance of this book for modern men navigating inter-gender relations. Even for those that go MGTOW or are highly successful with women, there is still valuable knowledge and situational awareness found here.

Bottom line, if you are not having intercourse with her, you are her male girlfriend. Her chauffeur, emotional tampon therapist who listens to her problems while she sleeps with the weed man. What does the low paid mailman have that you don't? Shouldn't she be chasing you? The more successful gentlemen who usually buys her weed? What is the mindset of the weed man that makes way less money than you? Yet, he's the one your "girl" runs to for mind blowing, sweaty monkey sex. Aren't YOU the one picking her up from work? Filling up her empty stomach for a hug and a kiss on the cheek? The weed man's biggest expense is free weed and buying condoms to sleep with YOUR "girl" FRIEND. Serious food for thought.

This book is so good, I ended up buying both the audible version and paperback. Though, the audiobook is my recommendation. How is it, that most men are care free alphas at the age of 5? Fearless, ready to explore and take risks. Yet, the feminization of men, turns these 5 year old alphas into adult, frustrated, white knight, beta male, captain save-a-ho, women pleasers, afraid of rejection and the risk of losing a woman with a "she's out of my league" mentality.

Terms like Oneitis, Buffer, and Plate Spinning will truly resonate to your reflection of past relationships, where you went wrong with women, and why you are having unsatisfactory results with prolonged relationships and how femininity and masculinity correlate and coincide with each other. This book explains why honesty is the best policy and it promotes abandoning fear of losing "the one" in favor of women who actually appreciate your time and presence. It's not about being a self absorbed jerk. It's about being a confident man who knows his worth and self value. Start reading this book yesterday.

Overall this book is nothing new, and is just a rehashing of trite trope about "alpha versus beta males" or "red pill versus blue pill". Here are the major problems with the book:

1. The book is just a watered down version of evolutionary psychology. There is a line of 'self help' and 'pick up artist' books today which use a few tidbits of evolutionary psychology (such as how 'dominant' male tends to attract females) as the basis for their 'system' or 'ideology'. For people interested in evolutionary psychology I'd recommend a book such as "The Moral Animal" rather than this.

2. It's also just a dumbed down version of "nihilistic" and materialist philosophy which seems to be related to philosophies such as Nietzschean existentialism, Ayn Rand's Objectivism, LeVeyan Satanism, Epicurianism, the utilitarianism of Jeremy Bentham, etc.

The main problem is that these philosophes. For example, Nietzsche in my brutally honest opinion, was essentially just a creepy loner who lived off of female relatives until he finally died from mental illness, and his philosophy is self-contradictory; not to mention entirely at odds with the philosophical outlook of actual high achieving "alpha males", such as that which Winston Churchill espoused in his autobiography, or which the book "Leaders Eat Last" described of the US marine corps. Many so called 'philosophers' like Nietzsche were basically just hucksters and wannabe cult leaders who used big words to sell the simplest adolescent snake oil, and their own life didn't even match the ideal life they sold to the masses - similar to modern day scammers who sell "Get Rich Quick" schemes but made more money selling the book than they did from actually following any of the advice.

Basically, why any self-proclaimed 'alpha man' would follow the advice of a creepy 'emo kid' who likely died a virgin, as opposed to reading what actual 'alpha men' have to say about life and it's meaning is beyond me. For the record, there aren't any great men in history who got where they were believing "life was meaningless" or that life's purpose was reducible to materially measurable 'pains' and 'pleasures' This book has more in common with the mindset of a welfare recipient or unemployed felon, than any actual 'great man' such as Churchill, George Washington, etc.

Philosophical materialism is also illogical, easy to completely disprove using simple logic alone, and also at odds with many scientific studies, such as psychological studies suggesting that long-term happiness relates more to an overall purpose in one's life rather than being simply reducible to measured 'units' of pain and pleasure.

3. Likewise, while the book does back of some of its claims with modern psychology, it's more or less clueless about the practical application of psychology to day-to-day life situations and interactions. Sun Tzu rightfully said that one difference between a good and bad general is not his 'knowledge', but his ability to translate knowledge into practical wisdom.

Books like this show a lack of understanding about human nature and how the psychology industry works. Essentially they encourage taking some evolutionary psychological claims about men and women, and applying them literalistically like the 'laws of physics', while ignoring the fact even in nature, not all 'systems' are predictable like a physics equation (and even physical laws are not 'absolute truth, as they are subject to change and update).

There's a domain of science and math known as 'chaos theory' which describes unpredictable systems, such as the weather. Human behavior likewise would qualify as a far less 'predictable' system than something as elementary as an apple falling from a tree because of gravity.

Likewise actual, professional social scientists such as economists understand that human behavior and social science is far less controlled and predictable than a simple physics equation, which is why no actual economist will claim you can apply a simplistic law and expect guaranteed results 100% of the time.

Yet a book written by an anonymous figure known only by the handle of an obscure movie character claims to be able to do with human behavior what actual economists and social scientists admit they can't do.

Likewise, the typical 'rebuttal' to objections to their logic is simply labeling their critics "blue pill", and presuming people are simply objecting on impulse because the advice clashes with a naive, conventional "Disney movie" view of marriage and children. This is called 'Galileo's Gambit" fallacy and is basically the only defense the more 'nihilistic' viewpoints have to criticism, even when they're easily obliterated by logic and reality.

In reality, plenty of people object because they know more about psychology, philosophy, and social science than the author and are simply pointing out that his views are just terrible science and logic, and seem to be based more on binge-watching Game of Thrones than on anything individuals with verifiable credentials in addressing human nature, such as General Sun Tzu, modern economists, etc have to say.

4. The "good" parts of the book are basically just what is good common sense and has been common sense throughout most of human history, since human nature hasn't changed. Advice such as "not investing all of your time and money" in a woman who isn't that much of a catch or is using you for money, or marrying and making children before you have your life and career in order is good advice for a 15 year old kid, but it's nothing 'revolutionary' or something only some weird internet of Matrix fans are privy to.

Basically it's just taking common sense folk wisdom of which there are countless historical anecdotes (such as that of Sampson and Delila in the Bible), intermingling it with some freshman-level evolutionary psychology, and presenting it as some "super sekret wisdom" which will transform your life, a la Kevin Trudeau, and which no one in history has understood until now. Give me a break.

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Overall I can't recommend this since the few 'good' parts are just dumbed down versions of information provided by much better authors, and even the 'factual' claims are just twisted in a dishonest and distorted way. And I can't see it being genuinely 'helpful' to anyone older than 15 years old, or who has never so much as been on a date with a woman before.

If you have any more than than an "entry level" knowledge of human behavior and relationships, this book will be of no use to you (and while I agree that there are a fair amont adult males who seemed to have 'missed out' on this basic knowledge and settle for unhappy marriages - that still says way more about them than about the 'brilliance' of this book,).

And if anything will be counter-productive, teaching you to misapply physiology in hyper-literalistic ways to the point of seeming like someone with Asperger's, as well as viewing the world through some paranoid "red pill vs blue pill" lense like some brainwashed cult member, or someone who just spends too much time watching the Matrix and Sci-fi movies.

to all men out there, if you haven't read this book, please do so immediately. and when you finish the book, give this book to your best friend(s).

if you have a son, give him a copy on his 16th birthday and make it REQUIRED reading with 100% comprehension required. give him a test on it to make sure he FULLY understands the dating game, the games that women (consciously & subconsciously) play...and why he'll need 'GAME' to deal with women.

my friends who have read it said: "nah man... i don't believe that stuff..." then it was, "hhhmm, that's interesting," then it became, "holy crap...this is where i went wrong...this is why she left me...this is what i need to correct!!! now i understand."

I didn't know anything about the "manosphere" until listening to Rollo Tomassi's audio book The Rational Male. I am a man. This information was awe-inspiring because it is unknown in mainstream discourse. In the category of one of the most profound volumes of information I have had the pleasure to discover. Like so many people, I wish I had known this when I was younger.

I am currently working on making a baby. I was a bit worried about having a boy - without reading this information, I felt that this wasn't a "man's world" - in fact, even feminists are now realizing things are going really badly with boys in the modern (feminized) world.

One example, search Google for The Trouble With Boys...

I have more tools now, to help myself and my family. I'd definitely recommend the book or audio to anyone and if I have a son, I hope to teach some of these principles.

I've been listening to the audiobook version and I'm really enjoying it. It contains very wise and invaluable information that I only wish I had come across sooner in life. I highly recommend this book to all men and teenagers transitioning into manhood. Especially those struggling in relationships are those interested and getting out into the dating scene.

100 years from now this book will be discussed, recommended and passed along to those trying to understand the interrelationships between men and women just as Napoleon Hill's classic "Think & Grow Rich" has been and is today.

Rollo Tomassi's "Rational Male" is one of these books I feel quite ambivalent about.

On one hand, it is a very welcome, eyes-opening, and sometimes funny contribution in the presently politically over-correct (western-)world where dominant speech aims at a permanent (and visibly successful) feminization of men (a statement metro-sexual Western Europeans won't subscribe to...sorry guys, this is a fact.)

On the other hand, while the book contains valuable advice, there is something sad about the paradigm it relies on. Put simply, it looks like in the author's mind and/or experience, inter-gender relationship is one of constant adversity, like a life-long, inter-gender war, where strategy -and a so-called alpha behavior- would be key. While this might be the sad reality of a lot of people, it is not an universally true assumption. People (men and women) who out of luck -or any other reason- live a happy, single or married life outside such a permanent competition do exist (and I am glad to be one of them)

Formally speaking, the book suffers from poor editing, and obviously too much unaltered copy/paste of blog posts. This is not a show-stopper per se, but clearly deserves a mention. More generally, it also throws some light on the formal gap between a book and a blog. Fact is that expectations are way higher for a book (or put another way, clearly lower for an online blog), and Mr Tomassi kind of forgot it.

Overall recommendable, and a good gift for your friends who you think are on a wrong path in their social interactions.

Every man and woman truly needs to listen and/or read this unique, original, vastly intelligent true account of the real dynamics of a romantic relationship. Although somewhat controversial, it shouldn't be. This is the first story I have come across that looks deep into, and analyzes real and riveting actions, discussions and emotions of the situations we find ourselves in while believing in ancient and often distorted ideals of loyalty, compatibility and love. I was fascinated and completely absorbed by the honestly and pure truth of the situations we often find ourselves in with no objective thoughts, conversations and most importantly, actions. The narration is simply enthralling and I will order the book immediately. I believe having both is important for my future relationships and real life situations. You will find yourself engrossed and unable to stop listening as you hear the truth about the thinking and feelings we all go through with no understanding of how to react. I will buy a copy for everyone I know. If you don't know me, get it....now.

This book gave me the insight into how the world REALLY is, but the truth is often covered by feminist niceties and covert duplicity (Hegemony).Some of the content may come across as controversial, (Rollo expects this reaction as stated) I personally have my own questions with it, as I am someone who tries to see all sides of the equation, but for the most part this is gold.
*Checklist*
1. If you are begging for sex off your partner. Read this book.
2. If you have come out of a relationship and can't understand why she left you, even though you bought her this, took her there, treated her decent. Read this Book.
3. If you have been cheated on. Read this Book.
4. If you are frustrated with not 'understanding' women. Read this Book.
5. If you feel you are missing out on sex in your life. Read this Book.
6. If you are sick of being under her thumb. Read this Book.
7. If other guys around you seem to be/are getting a lot more action. Read this Book.
8. If you are being/ or accused of being clingy or seemingly desperate. Read this Book.
9. If you feel you are stuck-in-a-rut and not achieving your potential in areas of your life. Read this Book.
10. If you feel you lack any control of direction in areas of your life. Read this Book.
If you can admit to any of these, please just give this a read, it really is the f** king bible of becoming a Man, Women want and respect, do not let your pride get in the way, accept you have an issue, and accept that it is time to solve it. This is the REAL WORLD Gentleman, stop being lazy and ignorant and claim your birthright of masculinity.

I am not going to say that this guy hates women because he will just retort with his default canned mantra that I'm a "blue pill AFC, still plugged into the matrix of the feminine imperative".
I did not like this book at all, the only thing that could balance the authors ego is the multitude of typos found in virtually every chapter.

This should be mandatory reading for a mandatory class that all males in high school should take before they get lost in the intersexual confusion of the modern world. If you are a father, you need to read this and pass it on to your sons before it is too late.

I could go on and on about this book but I'm not going to, there's too much to say. You've got to read it (or listen to it like I did). There's a ton of great information for men. Stuff that'll make you angry, stuff you might not believe at first, but it's stuff you need to hear. Rollo will open your eyes to women, their motivations and their goals. Without this information you are outmatched, women will chew you up and spit you out.

I thought I had a handle on this stuff but this book opened my eyes further and it filled in a lot of blanks. Trust me, read it.

I read a book called No More Mr Nice Guy a few years back, written by a serious psychotherapist who had spent years counseling co-dependent men. The Rationale Male is listed on the store with No More Mr Nice Guy and it should NOT be. This book is not in the same mold or even the same genre. No More Mr Nice Guy is about recovery - this book could perpetuate a cycle of emptiness and loneliness. Modern males are rebelling against feminist dominance, but this dude is so negative ... almost angry. In some respects, this book is another narcissistic males guide to borderline women, you know, the ones that change when you marry them?

Excellent read. I divorced my wife of 10 years because I specifically was an AFC, always ready to try and please everyone around me. I was in a sexless, dead end marriage, and made the decision rather easily because I knew there was more to life than this. This book really hit home and makes sense out of my now early 40's single years. I've never been happier as a single guy, and I will be upping my game and improving myself more and more thanks to the teachings in this book. I know it will only be a matter of not if but when I will be a better man, thereby attracting women in my frame, not theirs.

the headline sums up the entirety of this book.

found the ideas in this book a bit challenging at first. but trudged on, was well worth it, and provided a very interesting perspective.

of course this is all theory, but most will find it proven by their own life experiences.

he strongly recommends reading 48 laws of power, i took this advice, and am glad i did.

I don't usually give books a 5-star review, but this book truly deserves it.

It is incredibly insightful and should be read by every man in western society. If you don't read it, you could end up wasting years, if not decades, of your life in typical relationship frustration. You will relate, you will learn, and you will move forward with greater knowledge.

THE GOOD:

Many of the topics he addresses have not been addressed before (to my knowledge).
This should be required reading.
There are many chapters which questions things we have (unfortunately) taken for granted.
For example, it's often stated, with a sigh of resignation, "No one can ever understand women,"
or, "'What women want?" is an unsolvable problem."
Tomassi rejects this vague claim. It is a vague claim, so it's easy to toss around.
However, I personally don't find women and their desires to be a mystery.
In fact, the only time I've heard this statement is from men who suck with women...but my conclusion is not
that "Women are a great mystery," (a statement that appeals to women and consoles beta males),
but that "Some men are so foolish that they will never understand women."

I can't really blame the men for being foolish though, since the blame is on the shoulders of their mothers who taught them
to be girls instead of boys. American society demonizes everything masculine, and glorifies the "feminine mystique."
Unless a woman behaves in a masculine way...then she is praised.
For example, if a woman chooses a typically masculine career path, and is decisive, takes risks, speaks directly, this is glamorized (watch any movie and they'll have a woman in this role).
If a man behaves in a feminine way...talking about his feelings, making peace, nurturing the baby, asking permission to watch the football game in the guest room...he is revered as the ideal man/husband.

THE BAD:

This book is unique to the USA, and other societies which are HEAVILY influenced by
Western culture, or the "Women's Liberation" movement (which is oxymoronic, since
everything women complain about today is thanks to "Women's Lib.").

He talks about Nature vs. Nurture as if it’s still a debate in social psychology between the two…then he tells us his “perspective,” that it’s both. Well, if he actually read the research instead of skimming through pop psychology books (I’m assuming), Rollo would know that the debate is settled; if you draw your conclusions from the studies and not from speculation. They’ve ruled out Nurture, and Nature wins. Nurture plays a small role. Of course this depends on what trait you're studying. But I can see why Rollo might want his readers to believe Nurture plays a bigger role than it does: because then his readers will want to learn to become better males.

The book is badly in need of a proofreader/editor.

“the behavioral basis ON which PUA techniques were founded ON
had a common root in psychology.”
So as not to end the clause with a preposition (on), he correctly uses "on which,"
but then shoves a preposition at the end anyway. This happens two or three times in the book.

This is possibly due to a terrible editor,
but I can't even understand how it could be this bad. For example:

"The extraordinary effort you would need to get her back is far better spent on a
new prospective woman WITH WHO you have no history."
How can you possibly make the above mistake?

Along with "models" "way of the superior man" and of course RSD, the rational male is an incredible book necessary for every man looking to understand women and the hidden reality between social dynamics. Absolutely mind blowing undertones that are omnipresent, exposed. Not all will be in favor of this book, but isn't that how realistic truths all seem to play out? Amazing book; read this over and over again

Absolute trash. He comes as as so self-important that it becomes hard to even take him seriously. He equates masculine power to unobscured selfishness, and, by his arbitrary standards, if you’re empathetic in the slightest, it just means you’re an ‘AFC’ (Average Frustrated Chump). Seriously, this is the stuff cults are made of. I am a male and I think garbage like this is toxic to humanity.

I cannot recommend this book. There are four main reasons.

First, the wording. I shouldn't have to have a dictionary by my side to look up what all these big words mean. Nobody talks like that. Never use a complicated word when a simple, easy to understand one could do.

Second, the abbreviations and his own personal terminology. Now, to be fair he does explain what his abbreviations and terms mean, if only a couple times. The rest of the book you're left wondering "Hrm, what does AFC mean again?"

Third, his arrogance. He just plain comes off a bit too cocky for my liking. There is a segment in the book called "The Iron Rules of Tomassi" as if he created what being a man is all about, not to mention the "rules" are filled with straw women stories to give his arguments any weight. He also has his own ideas about what power means in a relationships and his own definitions for Alpha and Beta. It's almost as if he's making stuff up to fit his own ideas.

And lastly, the dumbing down and over generalization on women. Even Jack Donovan doesn't put women down this much. I am all for masculinity and definitive gender roles, but to cast off women like they are merely a tool to be used by men is ridiculous. He breaks down men into different categories, which is fine, but whenever he mentions women, they are all the same. I am not a feminist, but nor do I agree that every woman is a slave to her sexual, innate desires.

A seriously awesome book that every man should read. It's like unplugging from the matrix and opening your eyes for the first time. The information in this book is tough to hear for some, and like the movie The Matrix, some will not want to believe it, but unfortunately, this book is full of "red pill" info.

This book talks about what challenges men face in today's modern, feminized world. Feminism has changed the dating/mating landscape of western society. This book describes this new landscape, and details a new strategy for men in this environment to survive and thrive.

This explains so much about the male-female dynamic. After reading a couple times, my understanding of women is much more clear. The things he mentions in here are the truth, it explains so much of the fickleness seen in women.

This book is the only book on underlying principles of gender interactions and behaviours that I'd recommend, because it ruthlessly explains truths that are tough to swallow, but also incredibly liberating when internalized. The price is incredibly low too, I couldn't believe it, so do yourself a favor and buy one. Great book.

This book is fantastic. Wish I had it 10 years ago. It finally bring the true nature of things to light that you as a man are not supposed to see. The best way I can describe it in a parallel is in a sports game being handed the other teams playbook.

Night and day literally. I went from oneitis to over a dozen options in Feb alone. They're all universally beautiful. What's most important is that I love myself and progression more than anything else. It makes all of this possible. Only way I can repay you is to pass it along. Thanks.

The absolute Bible for a young man navigating todays sexual market place. Rollo's advice is not what most are used to hearing. But it doesn't take long to understand his observations are correct. After you start reading his works you fundamentally understand they line up with your life observations. I used to get no girls now i have 3 girls. Sometimes one goes away and because i have 2 others its no problem.

THE GOOD:

Many of the topics he addresses have not been addressed before (to my knowledge).
This should be required reading.
There are many chapters which questions things we have (unfortunately) taken for granted.
For example, it's often stated, with a sigh of resignation, "No one can ever understand women,"
or, "'What women want?" is an unsolvable problem."
Tomassi rejects this vague claim. It is a vague claim, so it's easy to toss around.
However, I personally don't find women and their desires to be a mystery.
In fact, the only time I've heard this statement is from men who suck with women...but my conclusion is not
that "Women are a great mystery," (a statement that appeals to women and consoles beta males),
but that "Some men are so foolish that they will never understand women."

I can't really blame the men for being foolish though, since the blame is on the shoulders of their mothers who taught them
to be girls instead of boys. American society demonizes everything masculine, and glorifies the "feminine mystique."
Unless a woman behaves in a masculine way...then she is praised.
For example, if a woman chooses a typically masculine career path, and is decisive, takes risks, speaks directly, this is glamorized (watch any movie and they'll have a woman in this role).
If a man behaves in a feminine way...talking about his feelings, making peace, nurturing the baby, asking permission to watch the football game in the guest room...he is revered as the ideal man/husband.

THE BAD:

This book is unique to the USA, and other societies which are HEAVILY influenced by
Western culture, or the "Women's Liberation" movement (which is oxymoronic, since
everything women complain about today is thanks to "Women's Lib.").

He talks about Nature vs. Nurture as if it’s still a debate in social psychology between the two…then he tells us his “perspective,” that it’s both. Well, if he actually read the research instead of skimming through pop psychology books (I’m assuming), Rollo would know that the debate is settled; if you draw your conclusions from the studies and not from speculation. They’ve ruled out Nurture, and Nature wins. Nurture plays a small role. Of course this depends on what trait you're studying. But I can see why Rollo might want his readers to believe Nurture plays a bigger role than it does: because then his readers will want to learn to become better males.

The book is badly in need of a proofreader/editor.

“the behavioral basis ON which PUA techniques were founded ON
had a common root in psychology.”
So as not to end the clause with a preposition (on), he correctly uses "on which,"
but then shoves a preposition at the end anyway. This happens two or three times in the book.

This is possibly due to a terrible editor,
but I can't even understand how it could be this bad. For example:

"The extraordinary effort you would need to get her back is far better spent on a
new prospective woman WITH WHO you have no history."
How can you possibly make the above mistake?

Along with "models" "way of the superior man" and of course RSD, the rational male is an incredible book necessary for every man looking to understand women and the hidden reality between social dynamics. Absolutely mind blowing undertones that are omnipresent, exposed. Not all will be in favor of this book, but isn't that how realistic truths all seem to play out? Amazing book; read this over and over again

Absolute trash. He comes as as so self-important that it becomes hard to even take him seriously. He equates masculine power to unobscured selfishness, and, by his arbitrary standards, if you’re empathetic in the slightest, it just means you’re an ‘AFC’ (Average Frustrated Chump). Seriously, this is the stuff cults are made of. I am a male and I think garbage like this is toxic to humanity.

I cannot recommend this book. There are four main reasons.

First, the wording. I shouldn't have to have a dictionary by my side to look up what all these big words mean. Nobody talks like that. Never use a complicated word when a simple, easy to understand one could do.

Second, the abbreviations and his own personal terminology. Now, to be fair he does explain what his abbreviations and terms mean, if only a couple times. The rest of the book you're left wondering "Hrm, what does AFC mean again?"

Third, his arrogance. He just plain comes off a bit too cocky for my liking. There is a segment in the book called "The Iron Rules of Tomassi" as if he created what being a man is all about, not to mention the "rules" are filled with straw women stories to give his arguments any weight. He also has his own ideas about what power means in a relationships and his own definitions for Alpha and Beta. It's almost as if he's making stuff up to fit his own ideas.

And lastly, the dumbing down and over generalization on women. Even Jack Donovan doesn't put women down this much. I am all for masculinity and definitive gender roles, but to cast off women like they are merely a tool to be used by men is ridiculous. He breaks down men into different categories, which is fine, but whenever he mentions women, they are all the same. I am not a feminist, but nor do I agree that every woman is a slave to her sexual, innate desires.

A seriously awesome book that every man should read. It's like unplugging from the matrix and opening your eyes for the first time. The information in this book is tough to hear for some, and like the movie The Matrix, some will not want to believe it, but unfortunately, this book is full of "red pill" info.

This book talks about what challenges men face in today's modern, feminized world. Feminism has changed the dating/mating landscape of western society. This book describes this new landscape, and details a new strategy for men in this environment to survive and thrive.

This explains so much about the male-female dynamic. After reading a couple times, my understanding of women is much more clear. The things he mentions in here are the truth, it explains so much of the fickleness seen in women.

This book is the only book on underlying principles of gender interactions and behaviours that I'd recommend, because it ruthlessly explains truths that are tough to swallow, but also incredibly liberating when internalized. The price is incredibly low too, I couldn't believe it, so do yourself a favor and buy one. Great book.

This book is fantastic. Wish I had it 10 years ago. It finally bring the true nature of things to light that you as a man are not supposed to see. The best way I can describe it in a parallel is in a sports game being handed the other teams playbook.

Night and day literally. I went from oneitis to over a dozen options in Feb alone. They're all universally beautiful. What's most important is that I love myself and progression more than anything else. It makes all of this possible. Only way I can repay you is to pass it along. Thanks.

Currently reading this and would recommend it to anyone interesting in questions about what it is to be a man in the current times. Shedding light on the true nature of women (however un-PC it sounds), and how social structures re-inforce ideas about women that are not only untrue, but detrimental to the options, particularly sexual, of men in the world.

At this price to me its a must buy. Also sounds ridiculous but I really like the cover. Fortunately, judging this book by its cover confirms the quality within.

Stand before a pack of starving lions and it's daylights out for you. However, if said lions are well fed you might just get away and live to see another day.

There are some things in nature that you just cannot change and female nature is one of those such things, as this book so brutally illustrates.

Please do not waste your money. This book written by a jaded, beta male that has his own opinion. It simply fosters poor perceptions of women. Of course many people will write positive reviews however, I would bet money those are coming from individuals that don't have the testicular fortitude to take a look in the mirror and acknowledge their role in anything negative. That is the problem with the world today. The promotion of blaming everyone else. How about spend your money on a BIBLE, no matter your religion or lack there of....it most certainly provides the necessary fundamentals for relationships for both women and men. It is actually pretty simple things, honor, trust, commitment, compassion. Unfortunately, many people don't have a clue about the meaning of these things.

I love this book and the blog. It is men's version of "He's Just Not That Into You." From a female point of view, this book and the blog help me to understand what I did to make a guy I was interested in start acting like a game playing idiot. When a guy around me starts KINO or the 3/1 text return ratio or a battery of other stupid games I know its time for me to decide: 1. If I like him enough to figure out why he's insecure and has to use Rational Male 2. Why is he so scorned and bitter about women from his past 3. Is he trying to be an "Alpha" but he's really a "Beta?" 4. Do I really have time to deal with this crap?

It's a fun book and worth the read.

STEAMING PILE OF MISOGYNISTIC GARBAGE. Good luck to any guy who buys into this, you will be want for a meaningful relationship as long as you employ this advice. In addition to being just complete garbage advice, it is poorly written. Where is the common sense? where is the decency? if not that... where are the editors? Steer clear it's GARBAGE. Page after page of double standards and really hateful language at women. Guys, you're better men than this.

This is a book about male superiority written by someone who has learned that explicitly saying male superiority is not acceptable and so therefor promotes the same ideas, just worded in a more seductive way. It has some very toxic views, particularly that you should employ his methods in your dating and sexual life in a way that women won't pick up on... otherwise known as manipulation.

I like some of the new men's movement books out there, such as 'No More Mr Nice Guy' and 'Married Man Sex Life Primer'. I think Rollo Tomassi's book takes it too far.

I dont necessarily believe in the feminist imperative: Women arent, as a whole, Hypergamous. I just dont see it. Of course, a Rollo Tomassi cool-aid drinker will write that I feel this way because the feminists have me duped. Ok.

Also, this book is written for the single man, so it doesnt apply to the entire manosphere. I feel his theory is that if you are married, you obviously didnt read his book or blog, or take his advice.

The book is one long run-on sentence, not well formatted.

A couple valid points about the role of men in our society today, but mostly just theoretical drivel.

Over exaggerated. This book attempts to survey among other things the sexual nature of man strictly as a biological/psychological phenomenon. The nomenclature used by Tomassi in this work is repulsive and thoroughly unprofessional. HIs opinions possess extreme bias and show lack of deeper knowledge. This is exactly what one should expect when viewing Tomassi's credential for publishing this work. He is an undergraduate existentialist who by some great amount of luck escaped the blogosphere. But my advice is this: Return to blogging Mr. Tomassi. Your rants and vents are not welcome in the world of publication. Rather, you might focus your essays on an audience more suited for your style of writing/speaking/thinking. Leave books to possessors of knowledge who care to filter their work by standards not only of academic intellect, but profound understanding of content.

The bad:

The editing in the Kindle is pretty bad - chapter and subchapter titles are in wrong positions; there are ~5 pages missing in the middle of "The Iron Rules; some basic orthography errors (I'm Brazilian and I noticed them)

Ok, but that wouldn't hurt a good book. But in this case, it just reinforces the impression that the book is just a long blog rant: it's repetitive, the analysis is shallow and emotional, the themes don't seem to have a connection or sequence or actually be relevant.
The book may appear guided by rationality, but in reality there's no much foundation in actual studies or even real world experience. It appears the author chose a very tiny fraction of reality to base his theories on, and it's a part of reality that I choose not to be part of: weak men versus gold diggers. That's it.
It's not comprehensive, it just focus on the "battle of the sexes". It may work for people dealing with frustration and anger for a while, but I prefer the theories that don't see it as a "battle", just as different interests and goals.

Anyone who's ever talked (REALLY talked) to a woman knows that men have it easy in this world. The thing is, in ONE field, the social field, women can actually kick our arses. This book seems to be an arse hurt reaction to that. It appears he talks to boys who want to do nothing ang get laid by faithful 1950's women. Well, that just does not exist in ANY area of life. You have to work and it's not other people's fault if you don't get what you want. It's just foolish to focus on things you can't control.

The "new concepts" are actually just anger filled musings on old ideas.

Plate theory = multiple girlfriends or dates
Female imperative = women chasing their own self interest (men do that too)
Red Pill mentality = study of social dynamics
Hypergamy = women want to be with successful men (well, everyone in the world f****s just "up or across" the social hierarchy, so don't see what's the big deal)
Fem-sentrism = this is the most ridiculous one... it's the idea that society is biased towards women. I don't think any man could handle the reality of being a woman in thsi world. Just talk to your closest female friend about her last experience with public transportation, work dynamics, ads, portrayals in movies etc etc

The good:
For people who know nothing about Game or valuing masculinity, this would be better than nothing.
For people who are stuck in bad relationships or think that it's the ultimate goal, this book is useful as a different point of view.

I recommend the following books instead:
- Matt Ridley's Red Queen, for a SCIENTIFIC view on human nature and mating
- David Deida's The Way Of The Superior Man, for a positive masculinity view that also appreciates women and their femininity
- Mark Manson's Models, for Game based on honesty, becoming a better man in the long term and win-win situations (positive sum games are better than zero sum ones, in my opinion)

Stand before a pack of starving lions and it's daylights out for you. However, if said lions are well fed you might just get away and live to see another day.

There are some things in nature that you just cannot change and female nature is one of those such things, as this book so brutally illustrates.

Please do not waste your money. This book written by a jaded, beta male that has his own opinion. It simply fosters poor perceptions of women. Of course many people will write positive reviews however, I would bet money those are coming from individuals that don't have the testicular fortitude to take a look in the mirror and acknowledge their role in anything negative. That is the problem with the world today. The promotion of blaming everyone else. How about spend your money on a BIBLE, no matter your religion or lack there of....it most certainly provides the necessary fundamentals for relationships for both women and men. It is actually pretty simple things, honor, trust, commitment, compassion. Unfortunately, many people don't have a clue about the meaning of these things.

I love this book and the blog. It is men's version of "He's Just Not That Into You." From a female point of view, this book and the blog help me to understand what I did to make a guy I was interested in start acting like a game playing idiot. When a guy around me starts KINO or the 3/1 text return ratio or a battery of other stupid games I know its time for me to decide: 1. If I like him enough to figure out why he's insecure and has to use Rational Male 2. Why is he so scorned and bitter about women from his past 3. Is he trying to be an "Alpha" but he's really a "Beta?" 4. Do I really have time to deal with this crap?

It's a fun book and worth the read.

STEAMING PILE OF MISOGYNISTIC GARBAGE. Good luck to any guy who buys into this, you will be want for a meaningful relationship as long as you employ this advice. In addition to being just complete garbage advice, it is poorly written. Where is the common sense? where is the decency? if not that... where are the editors? Steer clear it's GARBAGE. Page after page of double standards and really hateful language at women. Guys, you're better men than this.

This is a book about male superiority written by someone who has learned that explicitly saying male superiority is not acceptable and so therefor promotes the same ideas, just worded in a more seductive way. It has some very toxic views, particularly that you should employ his methods in your dating and sexual life in a way that women won't pick up on... otherwise known as manipulation.

I like some of the new men's movement books out there, such as 'No More Mr Nice Guy' and 'Married Man Sex Life Primer'. I think Rollo Tomassi's book takes it too far.

I dont necessarily believe in the feminist imperative: Women arent, as a whole, Hypergamous. I just dont see it. Of course, a Rollo Tomassi cool-aid drinker will write that I feel this way because the feminists have me duped. Ok.

Also, this book is written for the single man, so it doesnt apply to the entire manosphere. I feel his theory is that if you are married, you obviously didnt read his book or blog, or take his advice.

The book is one long run-on sentence, not well formatted.

A couple valid points about the role of men in our society today, but mostly just theoretical drivel.

Over exaggerated. This book attempts to survey among other things the sexual nature of man strictly as a biological/psychological phenomenon. The nomenclature used by Tomassi in this work is repulsive and thoroughly unprofessional. HIs opinions possess extreme bias and show lack of deeper knowledge. This is exactly what one should expect when viewing Tomassi's credential for publishing this work. He is an undergraduate existentialist who by some great amount of luck escaped the blogosphere. But my advice is this: Return to blogging Mr. Tomassi. Your rants and vents are not welcome in the world of publication. Rather, you might focus your essays on an audience more suited for your style of writing/speaking/thinking. Leave books to possessors of knowledge who care to filter their work by standards not only of academic intellect, but profound understanding of content.

The bad:

The editing in the Kindle is pretty bad - chapter and subchapter titles are in wrong positions; there are ~5 pages missing in the middle of "The Iron Rules; some basic orthography errors (I'm Brazilian and I noticed them)

Ok, but that wouldn't hurt a good book. But in this case, it just reinforces the impression that the book is just a long blog rant: it's repetitive, the analysis is shallow and emotional, the themes don't seem to have a connection or sequence or actually be relevant.
The book may appear guided by rationality, but in reality there's no much foundation in actual studies or even real world experience. It appears the author chose a very tiny fraction of reality to base his theories on, and it's a part of reality that I choose not to be part of: weak men versus gold diggers. That's it.
It's not comprehensive, it just focus on the "battle of the sexes". It may work for people dealing with frustration and anger for a while, but I prefer the theories that don't see it as a "battle", just as different interests and goals.

Anyone who's ever talked (REALLY talked) to a woman knows that men have it easy in this world. The thing is, in ONE field, the social field, women can actually kick our arses. This book seems to be an arse hurt reaction to that. It appears he talks to boys who want to do nothing ang get laid by faithful 1950's women. Well, that just does not exist in ANY area of life. You have to work and it's not other people's fault if you don't get what you want. It's just foolish to focus on things you can't control.

The "new concepts" are actually just anger filled musings on old ideas.

Plate theory = multiple girlfriends or dates
Female imperative = women chasing their own self interest (men do that too)
Red Pill mentality = study of social dynamics
Hypergamy = women want to be with successful men (well, everyone in the world f****s just "up or across" the social hierarchy, so don't see what's the big deal)
Fem-sentrism = this is the most ridiculous one... it's the idea that society is biased towards women. I don't think any man could handle the reality of being a woman in thsi world. Just talk to your closest female friend about her last experience with public transportation, work dynamics, ads, portrayals in movies etc etc

The good:
For people who know nothing about Game or valuing masculinity, this would be better than nothing.
For people who are stuck in bad relationships or think that it's the ultimate goal, this book is useful as a different point of view.

I recommend the following books instead:
- Matt Ridley's Red Queen, for a SCIENTIFIC view on human nature and mating
- David Deida's The Way Of The Superior Man, for a positive masculinity view that also appreciates women and their femininity
- Mark Manson's Models, for Game based on honesty, becoming a better man in the long term and win-win situations (positive sum games are better than zero sum ones, in my opinion)

I thought there was going to be a positive message of a new masculinity based upon empirical evidence and well researched behavioral data, but all I got from this was male victimhood (a popular stance today). I read the first few pages, paged to the final "feminine imperative" chapter, and almost vomited from the toxic masculinity wafting off the pages; I'm gay and I can't even handle the manly miasma seeking to kill any hope that men have of peer-reviewed behavioral data. In that final chapter, he blames the lack of male birth control on the "feminine imperative" and not on the fact that we actually DO have male birth control, but men complained about it causing them "mood swings" and a "lowered libido" (the exact things that women go through on the pill), ensuring that it never made it to the shelf. That's the true story. Facts please.

Please don't waste your time with this trash, it is truly ignorance to the max.