The Chump Lady's Survival Guide - Leave a Cheater - Gain a Life

I was looking for something insightful outside of the vast sea of reconciliation books online, and I feel really fortunate to have discovered Chump Lady's work. Honest, realistic and downright hilarious, Leave a Cheater is a must for partners struggling through the aftermath of infidelity. Be sure to follow her website too.

This is an absolute game changer. I was surrounded by people who were urging me to reconcile with my cheater, making me feel guilty for even considering leaving. This book empowered me and it's all the support I needed. The blog/website is also excellent and better than any therapy I ever received.

This book is a lifesaver for those struggling with Cheating spouses. Tracy Schorn covers every aspect of this difficult and painful process with intelligent and thoughtful insights that will open your eyes to the reality of your situation. In addition, she is super funny and brings humor to this awful process.

This is the best guidebook on navigating the stormy waters of infidelity. It's surprising how Tracy has the ability to inject this subject with so much humor. It's funny enough that you may even laugh through some of your tears of betrayal. Even if you don't leave your cheating partner, this is still a great book to gain some insight into a cheater's mind and help you build strength for yourself in the weeks and months to come.

This book is honest, empowering, and funny. It helped tremendously when my husband cheated and left me (with an infant) for other woman. ChumpLady is right that these cheaters are usually narcissists. My cheating ex is a classic case of NPD.

Everyone that has been cheated on should read this no matter what you decide to do. Her blog has opened my eyes on infidelity like never before. She doesn’t say she is a Christian but I believe she is faith based. Check out her blog called chumplady.com and you will buy this book and love it. Everyone I share her blog with jump for joy and become obsessed. Enjoy!!

I bought and read both the kindle version and print version of this book and highly recommend it to anyone who has endured the shock and devastation of discovering the infidelity of your spouse. Tracy takes a serious and difficult subject and, through her amazing observations and snarky comments, leads you to finally see the light. It's really not you or what you did or didn't do - it's them and their complete lack of empathy, care, concern, integrity, honesty and faithfulness. Between this book and daily time spent on chumplady.com I'm finally starting to leave those awful memories behind and find my life again. If you find yourself the victim of a cheating spouse, get this book and take it to heart!

Tracy's funny, take no prisoners approach to dealing with infidelity is refreshing in a genre that is full of books on reconciliation. Reconciling isn't always possible. Let's just say for instance your spouse is living with his/her 20-some years younger affair partner (just as an example of course). Schorn is funny and kind to her chumps, who have sometimes done things they aren't super-duper proud of in an attempt to save their marriage. Sometimes, it's time to just "Leave a Cheater and Gain a Life!".

I found this book so refreshing and helpful! I've read a lot trying to get over a 12 year relationship /marriage. Here I sit as single mom of a young child now. Can u say hit by a Mac truck! This book has been a part of my healing I highly recommend it.

Tracy is changing lives, giving chumps their mojo back. I am a devotee, for sure. This book is a must-read, and the best gift you can give yourself or a friend after discovery of infidelity. Cheaters are entitled cowards, and the best advice is to disconnect, get a fair settlement, and move on. Tracy explains how, in a way that only she can. Do yourself or a loved on a favor and buy this book, and TAKE HER ADVICE!

Great book for the situation of being a betrayed spouse, a chump. If you are reading this review, then you already know you need to read it. It is good wisdom with the right amount of reality mixed in. Good read, helpful book

Gave me a whole new perspective other books didn't, and I now see why you need both viewpoints to help yourself navigate the mess left behind after infidelity. She's so spot on with so many aspects surrounding my personal struggle. It was nice to realize that others have survived it, moved on, and found happiness.

I should have read this book FIRST. Feel better, start healing--laugh! Don't read all the books talking about your own part in your stupid cheater's reason for cheating!! You know your faults...you can assess that & work on it. This book helps you realize that the problem person is your CHEATER & how to tell them where to shove it where the sun don't shine. And, this ain't Matt. He's the damn cheater.

FINALLY a book about infidelity that offers no-nonsense information and advice that actually helps protect the victim. Tracy Schorn's advice is not just about gaining a life -- it's also about saving a life -- YOURS!!!! Step One: if at all possible Do NOT let your cheater - or anyone else - know that you are onto his or her shenanagins. Step Two: Read this book. Step Three: visit (covertly if you need to) the Chumplady blog at Chumplady.com. Step Four: Make your plan. Step Five: Take action. Step Six: repeat steps Two through Five as needed. This book wasn't around 11 years ago when my husband traded me in for the secretary and left me with a one-week-old baby and a toddler. But if it had been, it would have saved me tens (maybe even hundreds) of thousands of dollars plus months of my life and helped me regain my sanity sooner. I am happily remarried now for 8 years but I found Mrs. Schorn's book when searching for resources for my sister and a dear friend who were going through marital problems. I have recommended it to them and I will continue to refer people. In fact I bought an extra copy to keep on hand as a loaner because sadly it is just a matter of time before another friend or acquaintance will need this support.

For the first time ever, finally someone someone understands that the person who is cheated on is not responsible for the cheating – – that the cheater is character disordered. This book is a breath of fresh air because it finally gives light to the truth of cheating: an entitlement fueled unilateral decision back by manipulation, gaslighting, deceit and lying. Tracy's direct and down to earth conversation styled book on how to pull yourself together and to boot the cheater out is a must read for anyone in a relationship with a cheater.

Couldn’t put this book down! Chump Lady pushes a hard reality. This book is a stone cold slap in the face, or a bucket of ice cold water tossed all over your warm body. Chump Lady guides you out of your Chumpton denial, and into action; getting on with your life.

I am very grateful for this book, for Chumplady and Chump Nation. This book gives down to earth realistic advice, direction and an organic depth of support and understanding for people searching for guidance and support.
Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life is a survival guide that you can refer to over and over through your grief and healing. This book will see you through the emotional trauma, abuse and chaos of adultery cheaters create.

This book is spot on!! I absolutely loved this book and the author. This book has helped me feel normal and has been most therapeutic. The author is awesome!!! Amazing!! I would give to 10 stars. If you are going through this with a cheating spouse or are married to a narcissist this is a must read. Thank You Miss Chump Lady!!!

Fantastically clear, no-nonsense advice for those who've unfortunately been cheated on. Lots of humour (great cartoons!) lightens what could be a very depressing subject. All the great advice is distilled from Tracy's wonderful blog. Can't recommend highly enough.

This is required reading for anyone who has been betrayed. Tracy lays out the psychology of deceit and infidelity in a language we can all understand. She highlights the patterns of those who cheat and how they all play the same games. She gives no nonsense advice about how to deal with betrayal and, if you're ready to listen, it will save your life. I also recommend checking out her blog "Chump Lady" for more advice and support.

This book has been a godsend. It is. Brutally but necessarily honest. I have now read it for the second time. Now every time I have doubts about any of my past decisions I refer to this book to keep me focused on moving on and rebuilding my life.It is a lifeline.