The Good Girl's Guide to Female Dominance - The Mistress Manual

I only chose this rating because I was looking for something else. I am still in search of the perfect Domme book. That being said I'm not sure what I was looking for, but I didn't find it in this book. This was for sure something to read if you have ZERO experience in the scene at all. If you are completely lost and haven't even looked anything up online about the subject, you will enjoy this book. The only part I found helpful was coordinating which styles fit which type of Domme. I am however, glad I read the entire book. Overall it did open my eyes to a few things I had never considered before reading this. It is well written and is almost a step-by-step guide and how-to.

I absolutely LOVED this book. Practical and funny. It touched into a deep part of me and helped me to discover the inner desires that has been hidden away for so long.

It certainly got my creative juices flowing and my poor pet's as well ;)

I've always wanted to and fantasied about being in charge/the dominant one, but was just too nervous and self-conscious. This helped give me a little push for sure. I love that it gives readers lots of tips and suggestions without straight up telling us what we should do.

I was reluctant to purchase this book when I first saw it. After reading the free preview and taking a couple days to think about it, I went for it. I started reading it within minutes of the purchase and could not put it down. My kids had to practically pull the kindle away from me to make dinner that evening. I loved this book. Thank you for having it available to buy. If anyone is looking for a ACTUAL manual . . This is it. Thanks again. Jodi M.The Mistress Manual: The Good Girl's Guide to Female Dominance

After a disastrous FLR attempt using "Uniquely Rika" (although acknowledging that men who don't mind being robots would like it), and finding that Mistress Benay's methods were far too coercive (although acknowledging that even the extremities of her methods would be good for some men), I have settled on the following progression as probably the best sequence of books (the ones I know of) for the average FLR-desiring man:
--- First Introduction to FLR:
----- The Hesitant Mistress: A Guide to Claiming Your Feminine Power (two copies, one for each partner)
--- Basic FLR Training:
----- How To Set Up An FLR: A Couple's Guide to Female Led Relationships
--- Advanced FLR Training:
----- The Mistress Manual: The Good Girl's Guide to Female Dominance

I was very pleased with this book, especially after my husband had read it and to my surprise, my pleasant surprise, showed a great interest in the subject. He came out, if that is the correct expression during dinner a couple of weeks ago.His inhibitions loosened by the wine, he said, if I was interested he would like to try out some of the techniques in the book. Boy oh boy was I interested. My glass stopped half way to my mouth and I just looked at him and he just smiled shyly. That opened the flood gates, I gulped down my wine and dragged him up to bed. We never finished dinner that evening, but we had our fill of something better. We have progressed further in our love making and now and our fifteen year marriage has been elevated to another level. We have not considered seeking out others to join in the fun, but if John suggests it, I am open to experimentation. Its amazing what a book can do for a relationship, I bought him a copy of the very excellent and fantastically sexually charged 100 Percent Erotica by Suzie Van Aartman not long ago and the explicit but tasteful erotic antics really turned us both on tremendously, I can highly recomend both of them

Skip the Kindle edition. It's impossible to read. On random pages the words are not laid out in any order. The margins seem to be placed randomly at the 1/4, 1/2, and 3/4. No sense to the wording either. Get the hard copy.

Truly an affirming guide for any woman who wants to learn more about being a Domme, whether they're a novice or experienced Mistress. The book has three main parts: Becoming a Mistress, The Mistress In Action, and "The Five Archetypical Fantasies."
Mistress Lorelei's "instructions" are intelligent, well-thought out and easy to follow. This is a woman who is 'wicked' in a delightful way. In the first chapter, she explains the 'benefits' of becoming a Mistress, and in the next chapter explains some pitfalls you may encounter and how to avoid them. She also explains how to find a male submissive and maintaining your fantasy and reality in subsequent chapters.
Part two of the book explains how to establish and assert your dominance and also the "tools" you can use. The use of spanking, flogging, paddling and other techniques are covered here.
Part three covers the main Fem Domme fantasy types and covers them well and explains that you can take something from each fantasy type in the "scenes" you do. Even though I'm a male Dominant, I found some of her ideas useful for my own play.
I also recommend SM101 by Jay Wiseman and Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns by Philip Miller & Molly Devon as good introductory books, along with this book if your interest lies in female domination.

Without getting too personal, I was drawn to buying this book because of some personal growth and realizations about myself and my sexuality. The fantasies and thoughts in this book, some of them already existed somewhere within my subconscious, but reading this book gave them some release. This book is well-written and very detailed. The first chapters deal with the psychological/emotional aspects of wanting to be a dominant woman or having feelings of domaninance as a woman in society. (Nice girls don't want to hit men, right?) The book details the five archetypes of dominating women (Nurse, Teacher, Queen, the store, and Goddess) and how each has different fantasies and scenes. The scenes in this book are excellent, and I would recommend that you take a little bit from each and tailor them to suit your (and your partner's) needs. I would definitely recommend this book to any woman who is drawn to the BDSM lifestyle and wants to learn how to top effectively.

I don't usually gravitate towards the dominance side of bdsm but I did have a lover at one time who wished to explore his own submissive nature. This book is an excellent education for any woman or man, for that matter, who is interested in experiencing female dominance. This is not a simple overview of female dominance or bdsm techniques but a true manual that takes you through the evolution of becoming a Mistress and the enacting of fantasy with your male partner. If you are new to the concept of female dominance this is an excellent book to guide you through the pleasure and pain of being the ultimate Nursemaid, Governess, Queen, the store, or Goddess. The book is broken into three main sections: Becoming a Mistress, The Mistress in Action, and The Five Archetypal Fantasies.

Becoming a Mistress brings light to idea of female dominance and the pleasure that can come from command while also discussing the psychological aspects of dominance and finding a partner to explore your fantasies. I enjoyed this section immensely since so many factors concerning personal guilt and relationships are addressed in regards to female dominance. If you're new to the sensual art of dominance you will gather a great deal of self-awareness and understanding in this section concerning bdsm and female dominance

The Mistress in Action begins the real sexual play of dominance between you and your male partner. From the language of dominance to the ties that bind you'll learn some basics that you can expand on with additional reading. This is an excellent book for the novice domme. Once you and our submissive discover specific items that are enjoyable I highly recommend SM101 by Jay Wiseman to explore more techniques and in-depth understanding of BDSM.

The Five Archetypal Fantasies are The Nursemaid, The Governess, The Queen, The the store, and the Goddess. Each archetype is outlined from elements of the fantasy, skills needed in the fantasy, enacting the perfect scenario, and variations of each fantasy. If you're unsure how to begin this section will eliminate all doubts. This is a step by step how to from what you should be thinking to create the fantasy to what to wear.

Another great part of this book is that conflict between fantasy choice between you and your submissive is discussed and addressed thoroughly so that everybody wins so you can move on to the sensual art of female dominance. As I mentioned I don't gravitate to dominance but if I ever needed to help someone fulfill their fantasy to be dominated by a Nursemaid, Governess, Queen, the store, or Goddess I know exactly how to take control now that I've read The Mistress Manual.

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This book is misandrist and made me extremely uncomfortable. I couldn't get past chapter 2.

It's hard to put my finger on what, but there's something really wrong with the attitude of this writer. She doesn't think of men as people, and that really bothers me.

Wonderfully written book. My husband and I were looking for ways to advance my knowledge with out having fears to asking my hidden questions .This is the book for someone who has those questions they fear to ask.

This book had some good introductory information, but would be most effective when used in conjunction with another BDSM primer. It offered alot of useful information,but could have benefitted from having a few diagrams. (i.e. the areas of safe spanking)Still over all a satisfactory read.

Lorelei has written a number of excellent books about Female Domination. I also enjoyed "Charm School for Sissy Maids".

Lorelei and Elise Sutton (author of "Female Domination") seem to have a great comprehension about the submissive desires of males. Female Domination is a common male fantasy but at some point, a man might want to make it a reality by discussing his desires with the woman in his life. This book would be an excellent book to give to the novice woman as she begins her journey into the fascinating world of Female Domination.

This book is EXCELLENT for beginners and good for dominants who have a little more experience. I would also recommend for subs to read most of this book, it would be helpful in deciding and telling your significant other what you want and what you would like to try. VERY good book, in depth, and it reads very well.

For the most part this book is fairly informative. It explains a lot of different femdom/malesub relationships. She tries to explain ageplay relationships but it's obvious that it's something that she has no experience with.

this book was very disappointing, it is a very limited point of view written for a committed male/female couple and no one else, also only talks about "domestic discpline" not really about the BDSM mindset. I really didn't learn a thing from this about truely creating a scene and understanding your sub.