One Shrink's Practical Advice for Managing All Life's Impossible Problems

its cool.. in the world of advice that inspires oversensitivity and deep self-compassion, the authors of this book remind us to stay practical, realistic and levelheaded... while I didnt agree with a few things in the book, I found some other ideas to be very true and excellent reminders of daily realities... its definitely well-written and very practical... read it if you got time..

Really good book, I was worried that this book advocated not being responsible for your own actions but it doesn't. It's very clear that even though some things are out of your control you still have a duty to uphold your self to your own standards.

What I read makes this a terrific book with clear, no nonsense, advice. Why didn't I read more? The printing is teeny tiny and crammed onto the page. Horrible lay out. It made me irritated every time I picked up the book. Wish the graphic design of the book had been taken into consideration.

If only this was available for me years ago, I wouldn't be dealing with family who never let me forget about my illegitimate child even into adulthood. First time I'm feeling like I'm really a good person taking into account all the accomplishments I'm proud of. So, YES, for all those who try to drag me down "F ck"

It's kind of"cute but if is not even a good self-help book. The title is what caught my interest but early in the reading I realized it was pretty thin even with his writer daughter throwing in some lame humor at the end of paragraphs. Nice try.....no ring.

I am an English major and read tons of books - mostly self help because I need all the help I can get! I've purchased hundreds of books on the store and have NEVER written a review on any of them even thought many of them warranted one. But this book is in class by itself. This book will help ANYONE see things more clearly!!!! Incredible piece of writing!!!

For the individual craving common sense logic and opportunity to put depression in perspective (pending one even has the ability) as well as perhaps laugh hysterically at the bullsh*t life throws in the face, this might be for you. We all go through valleys and sometimes we need to remind ourselves that we are only human and only so much is within our ability. The author has refreshingly provided this insight (I might add tears and riotous laughter are a serious side effect-in the most positive way).*Caution: not for the overly sensitive, defensive or stuck in denial. If you are not ready for the truth, look elsewhere! Job well done.

It is refreshing for an author to have a sense of humor and yet provide raw, rational and actually solid methods on how to move forward with one's life. After all, we only have one to live and to be honest ~ if you cannot jump in and take a chance for yourself and the happiness you seek (which is what living is about) then you won't understand this book. I really appreciate the "calling out" of: if you want to get on with change, you really have to make that choice. Time is precious and we all work hard for our good days and hope for as many years of well-being. Well written, humor is a great way to see past the bs and look after yourself.

It's less self-help and more self-accept-that-some-things-can't-be-helped. We may never be able to find the reasons we/our loved ones do self destructive things and there may not be a cure for our/our loved ones neuroses. But we can accept that those things will always be a problem and take action to mitigate the damage and lead productive lives working around and preventing those neuroses from causing more damage.

I don't think this was particularly helpful for me, but if you've tried everything and nothing has worked then this book outlines how to live out the rest of your life living with (a variety of) problems that don't have solutions.

I was totally sucked in by the Title of this book. And the hopes that it would provide a good laugh or two mostly with some witty insight on alternative ways to handle sticky situations. However, I probably read only 40% of this book word for word. I did laugh at a few of the book, but unfortunately I found it to be repetitive and felt it necessary to skip over may sections. It just felt like I was reading the same thing over and over. This could also be a case of bad-timing as I pretty much feel all is great with my life right now. I'm going to pass it off to someone who has tons of problems and see if she gets something more out of it.

This book is HILARIOUS. The advice is sound too, but the writing....I was literally laughing out loud while reading this at the eye doctor. If you would like to read a sarcastic and snarky take on feelings, this is the book for you.

Really got into the book at first, despite strained jokes. Still think it has some value but a holocaust funny about Anne Frank in the chapter about relationships alienated me completely. One thing to use levity and humor to disarm painful reality, but this really made me question authors' values and judgment.

Very helpful. Truly. Tired of talking about your "past" which forces you to continue to live in it? Liberate yourself and read this book. If you are seeing a therapist - this is a useful tool to employ in your sessions.

A unique perspective on getting through and succeeding in the face of chronic depression, anxiety and other powerful and difficult feelings. I'm slowly working through the book, but it may be a type of unorthodox solution I've been looking for for years.

Ha! I am sick to death of self-help books, yet I love this book for its realistic, practical advice to stop the navel-gazing, align expectations with what's truly possible and move on. It gets repetitive, but once you get the gist, you can apply the author's method to various situations without reading the whole book

Bought this for my daughter. Can't wait to read it myself, when she's done. She was as intrigued as I was on first look. Will have to update review for actual content after reading, but on first reaction.... this is going to be a great book.

This book will cause you to pile up all your self-help books and donate them to the library because this is the one worth keeping. It's rare to find a truly different approach within this genre. This is it.

This surprising book written by a psychologist and his comedienne daughter is a straight-forward and clear-eyed look at how we can let our feelings drive our behaviors and the choices we can have about doing that. Many people react negatively to the title, operating from their emotional (or societally imposed) beliefs, expectations and reactions, and that is just plain too bad. Many also react without even desiring to understand that this book is NOT saying ignore your feelings; it is simply reminding us we are more than our emotional reactions and we always have a choice in how we view our world and our place in it. Brilliantly written. Insightful. Stunning.

Truly, this could be a life-changing book for anyone. It really helps you assess how much you can control in life ... a zone which excludes your friends, your boss, your spouse, and particularly your family.

The good news is that you can control the most important thing in your life: yourself.

Get this book. You won't regret it.

I bought this as somewhat of a funny joke to read. Turns out I love it. Its so brutely honest saying all the things ive been thinking all along. So refreshing to have real honest words of advise instead kf all this happy go lucky s@$! that is constantly being spued out. Amazing insight to the reality of life and that not everyone needs pills and weekly sessions to be ok with themselves. Absolute must read for any realist tired of the lies and pill pushers.

It's written for men. Every reference point is clearly, unmistakably male. He even warns in the section on having healthy sex, that "if the little head isn't happy, the big head won't be either." I wanted to love this book but only found one section somewhat helpful.

Refreshing "tough love" approach to self-help, but most of the "case studies" (examples) are rather trivial first world problems. Almost no helpful information about dealing with depression.

But the basic message is excellent: "Yes, your feelings are real, your feelings are human, and your feelings are important -- but they are far LESS important than behaving like a civilized grownup and decent human being."

This non self help book was amazing. It gives the reader the power of choice instead of making them feel in need of professional insight. There is no magic "cure" to what "ails" you. You have to live with you. You can't change others. But you can do proactive, positive work to help YOU lessen YOUR limitations & LIVE with YOU.

This may be the most important book I have ever bought, for my personal happiness. I come from a long line of mentally ill people and had the good luck to not to be very mentally ill myself, but I gave birth to a severely mentally ill person. I tried every heroic trick my whole life to "help" those I loved and of course, "failed". This book has helped me get some personal psychic peace at age 70. Of course, all my self-sacrificing efforts had no effect on the course of the illnesses my loved ones suffered or the awful things they did. My efforts just distracted me from my own life and happiness and values. I am able to pat myself on the back and say, "Good job", since studying the logic in this book. Of course, I recommend it, though I doubt everyone will be ready to see the reasonableness of the approach. I hope nobody has to wait until they are 70 years old to get the point.

BTW, I don't find this book to be particularly "funny". But the humour hones in on the part of my ego where it needs to go. I don't find it to be offensive, either. It is an odd thing how the few words of profanity actually seem to help my brain undertand the point, especially when couched in what might be considered humorous content. If you object to profanity, just look away.

Great book, and very realistic. Very, very, very realistic. Maybe too realistic. As such, it will shoot down some high hopes and help you ground more thoroughly in reality. One of the top 10 such books I have ever read, but it might not be your fist choice. Read in combination with a slightly more optimistic tome and you may not need therapy.

Unique. Great diet book, actually. Simple diet recommended by this book: don't eat Crisco. And it turns out that a lot of things are Crisco. Other times called "frosting," as in, "don't eat your weight in frosting and expect to be be trim and in shape." Eating Crisco, and everything like Crisco, isn't a good diet plan. But never eating anything like Crisco, that's a good plan. Funny book. Lots of humor--the kind of humor which is all too true. In addition to no Crisco, the authors apply this same kind of idea to feelings. Life is hard at times. Get used to it. And don't get focused on feelings or you'll be less and less happy. Instead, accept that things can be really hard and get out and do good anyway. Good read.

This book should be required reading by anyone over the age of 18. In fact, it should be re-read at regular intervals throughout life. Yes, it is tough talk, but life does not coddle any of us. There is nothing In this book that is preachy and the book is full of practical advice. I am a grateful client of Dr. Bennett and have survived and thrived through many challenges with his insights. Quite simply, a MUST guide for how to live one's life. Thank you!

None of that feel good crap. Sometimes you just have to accept that you can't change the world and that you are just going to have to suck it up and accept that sometimes reality sucks, get over it, move on. (Personally, I'm still working on the accepting part but this book helps.)

take this book for what it is. It is very loosely written and is a great read. If your looking for something serious this book is not for you. If your looking for an entertaining look on how to handle things then this is for you. Entertaining

Good service. Book arrived sooner than I expected. It's an interesting approach to getting your head straight. The "f" word appears in every chapter heading, but the advice is pretty good never-the-less. Self help with a whole new approach. Give it a try...if the language doesn't bother you.

This book is the practical and elegant answer to most every problem humans have with living. It is the ultimate self-book; you will need no other It's not only wise, but it's fun to read because it's full of good humor and entertainment. A true masterpiece!

Good counterpoint to many of the self-help(less) books that line the shelves of many libraries. This one rides in my car and reminds me daily of the importance of realistic expectations and achievable solutions within contexts that have few aspects over which I (or anyone) have complete control.

Good book so far, haven't finished it, but I feel like it's more directed towards girls, from what I read, even though she throws in the possibility that she's adressing this information to a male as well, but it's a good read. Very relatable.

Good service. Book arrived sooner than I expected. It's an interesting approach to getting your head straight. The "f" word appears in every chapter heading, but the advice is pretty good never-the-less. Self help with a whole new approach. Give it a try...if the language doesn't bother you.

This book is the practical and elegant answer to most every problem humans have with living. It is the ultimate self-book; you will need no other It's not only wise, but it's fun to read because it's full of good humor and entertainment. A true masterpiece!

Good counterpoint to many of the self-help(less) books that line the shelves of many libraries. This one rides in my car and reminds me daily of the importance of realistic expectations and achievable solutions within contexts that have few aspects over which I (or anyone) have complete control.

Good book so far, haven't finished it, but I feel like it's more directed towards girls, from what I read, even though she throws in the possibility that she's adressing this information to a male as well, but it's a good read. Very relatable.

amusing, but ultimately the repetitive formula for each topic in teh catalog of impossible problems in life gets a bit monotonous if not borderline tedious; sometimes the humor gets in the way of the point the authors are trying to make. Kudos for the upfront, no nonsense approach and advice, however it's just a bit over-cooked.

The author is realistic about life and how our brains work.I wish I had read this book when I was five years old, it would of prepared me better for life and saved me a lot of psychological pain. Glad I read it now.

While there are a few good points here and there about not yielding to expectations of permanent happiness and healing, this book is otherwise an unsuccessful, hit-and-miss affair, in which the use of profanity is apparently supposed to make us feel more at ease, but can more often become tedious in its impotence and inexpressive repetition, and is used too often when the authors have no more articulate way of saying something. Also tedious is the formulaic construction, where all sorts of "case studies" (made up, it's clear) are shoe-horned into a fixed number of bullet points, some of which are clearly put in just to make up the total, rather than to be of use---a template decided upon and cranked like an IRS form. I'm no fan of the "everything is beautiful" mode of therapizing, but this father and daughter couple too heavily emphasizes the ugly side of human nature, and are clearly outlining their own neuroses. If the book had been a third of its size, and written with less bile and more finesse, it might have been worth the price. I would never recommend it to anyone, except for a few select paragraphs here and there, which can be written on the back of an envelope. I plan to throw my copy away, so that no one will read it.

The epitome of glib. The fact that some seriously ill people might take this as gospel and run with it is scary. The theme through this book is don't bother with self examination it's a waste of time. And... my favorite (AND I SWEAR THIS IS IN THIS BOOK). Child abuse survivors should think twice before reporting. AND I QUOTE: "If you wonder whether disclosure to family will help, don't do it for catharsis. INSTEAD, add up the positive and negative consequences." AND "it may stir up a hornet's nest among friends and family who can't tolerate the truth and can thus cause further isolation and conflict for the victim. What's important is not airing the truth and punishing the criminal(especially if s/he can no longer hurt anyone else", but getting as much support and understanding as you can from those who have it give."

YES. I SWEAR THIS UTTER CR** IS WRITTEN IN THIS BOOK. LET"S WORRY THAT GRANDMA MIGHT NOT UNDERSTAND WHY THE ENTIRE FAMILY HATES UNCLE JOE FOR RAPING A FAMILY MEMBER> DON"T UPSET HER< YOU'll ONLY MAKE IT WORSE FOR SUZIE Q>
what !!!!!!! Weigh the consequences of not outing a monster because their too old to molest now. GREAT ADVICE>

Being bullied?? Too bad for you, better get to Uhaul for your moving boxes if your neighbor is a psychopath. Sell your house, there is nothing more can be done.

There was a another reviewer who defined this book perfectly, pearls of wisdom drown in vomit.

This book is great. I just gave my anxiety-prone sister a copy: "AARGH, I forgot to run that important errand! I'm a total failure!" she said, hitting herself on the head with the book. "Hey, that felt pretty good." I'm not sure we're using it the right way, but already F*ck Feelings has made a difference.
(OK, OK, the words on the pages inside are pretty useful, too. Tough-minded advice, but still funny and humane in the best possible way.)

I loved this book. It is a wonderful voice of sanity in the insane rah-rah think-bright-think-light self-help genre. Most of the other self-help books would have you believe that if you just think positively enough, or meditate enough, that you will overcome your emotional woes. If you believe that, then you will feel depressed about being depressed because you didn't try hard enough or maybe theres another better cure for your emotional struggle just around the corner, or just one more book to read.

This book is so refreshing because it helps you accept life for what it is. The authors say that the cause of most of our emotional problems is our deeply ingrained irrational thinking that life should be fair, that others should treat us well, and that we must do well. The authors encourage us to start setting realistic goals to overcome our distorted thinking and start acquiring skills to overcome our shortcomings, rather than hope to change our innate behavior or the innate behavior of others.

The authors ask you to let go of the world that you wish would be and start accepting the world as it is. The authors help us understand that while having a problem free life would be preferable, it is not realistic and you will drive yourself crazy trying to achieve it.

Could someone please edit this book and get it back to me? It's a slog. I'm having trouble even grasping the content because the writing is so poor that it's a distraction. Enormous, meandering run-on sentences are the norm. There is a sentence on page 35 that contains five commas, a colon, a slash, two semicolons, a set of parentheses and two periods. Also I finally understand what our teachers meant when they told us not to swear because it is imprecise language. There are some hefty concepts in this book and they demand a better vocabulary.

I was excited to read this book. If I make it to the end and have changed my mind I'll update this review. For now, it's a struggle.

I have very mixed thoughts about this book. For the first half, I found it to be amazing, one of the most practical and useful on human interactions and fallacious thought that I had ever read. However, by the end I felt that the authors' take on life and living made everything seem rather leaden and dull. A life of total practicality and clear-eyed pragmatism is also a life devoid of numinousity, wonder, and the wellspring of hope. Miracles still happen every day. Of course, I am the kind of person who does not find the phrase "magical realism" contradictory. Plus, I have a healthy respect for the power of certain words (like f*ck), and feel that the unremitting use of them diminishes their power and reduces them to banal commonality.

This book has some good practical advice that focuses on realistic solutions - like what you want v.s. what you can realistically have, and how to achieve that. It helps to puncture the cognitive distortions that plague many of us in getting through a problem. This is good.

The book has a bunch of fairly short chapters that focus on concepts that many of us have a death grip on, that keep up trapped, like our ideas about love, communication, parenthood, etc.

BUT - there's a few things in this book that really bothered me:

Page 202: "It doesn't mean your feelings for each other are less sincere or matter less or that your relationship is weaker. It just means that sex will require good hearted negotiation and a willingness to do what seems best. It might not feel as great as it used to, but if marital peace is at stake, then lying back and thinking of England seems like a worthy sacrifice."

(So - people - the ones who are supposed to lie back and think of England - ie women - are supposed to shut up and have sex when they do not personally feel like doing so to keep their mate - ie a man - "happy". This doesn't make sex good for EITHER partner. This advice is horrible, and sounds like it is from a 1930's marriage manual.)

Page 213: "Do you know what a 'Borderline' Is ?"(Heading)
- "These are the people, usually women, who lonely, crazy-prone single guys often find irresistible."
- "Borderline people quickly tear through friendships, careers, sex partners, and more often than not drinks and drugs. They see rejection everywhere, react before they can stop and think, and can't tell the difference between feeling hurt and actually being mistreated."
- "Borderlines always get dates because most men are biologically drawn to very emotional women, even when they are not being sexy....You can't see how the girl who decided after ten minutes of chitchat to have sex with you in an alley is not actually just "fun" but somewhat insane, even as she tries to burn down your house because she just knows you don't think she is as attractive as that girl at the drive through at Taco Bell."
Page 214 : " So men, if you're drawn to exciting women but can't understand why they always freak out on you, this is probably why...In short, a borderline is many things but she is most often known as the reason men think of all women are nuts (aside from the ones that actually are)."

(Borderline Personality Disorder aka BPD is most commonly diagnosed in women. It is typically the fallout of serious interpersonal trauma like sexual assault, incest, domestic violence, etc. BPD aka (c)PTSD in women - is maligned and trivialized by the medical profession.That Michael I.Bennett, MD is continuing this tradition is unsurprising, but troubling as this book is modelled on being progressive and hip, what with the swearing. Describing women with BPD as crazy irrational sluts, functioning at a subhuman level, who kill pets and burn down houses is quite insulting. Data from the US Department of Justice easily reveals that men are responsible for most criminal acts like animal abuse and arson. The pot calls the kettle black, here doc ? If men are dating women who always "freak out" at them, that suggests more about the behaviour of the man itself, than the women who are upset and object to being treated this way. This extremely biased description of BPD should be completely disregarded.)

Page 235: " Fight racism when you think there is a chance to win; otherwise keep your mouth shut and move away as soon as you can...Instead of using angry, alienating language with those that you wish to persuade, describe the facts of racist behaviour and their destructive impact with regret."

(White straight man says : be nice to racists ! Keep your mouth shut and if you can't, calmly explain how their racism actually affects people. The racists will be sure to change their mind and see your humanity. Whew. WTF, doc ?)

Page 240: "Instead of telling her that her husband is human garbage, advise her that certain very unfortunate people - often they've been abused as kids - can't stand the pressures of loving and needing someone without becoming overwhelmingly angry." This is HORRIBLE advice to give to a woman who is being abused by a man ! And a flat out lie ! The advice about dealing with a friend or family member in an abusive relationship is shallow and in no way addresses the DANGER that women with an abusive partner face, or the complex dynamics of manipulation, isolation, fear, financial abuse,etc. that keep many women STUCK in an abusive relationship, with few options to leave aka escape.

Page 337: Suggests Scientology as a low cost treatment option. A joke, but a very weak and stupid joke.

This isn't a terrible book - but the bad stuff mentioned above is really rotten. Proceed accordingly.

I had the impression the author was searching for "over the top" words to impress people with his vocabulary, and the end of each chapter was boring and repetitious. He didn't seem to take some some problems that people were having seriously, wanted to be funny at times that didn't require humor. I would not buy from this author again. His daughter should write a book, at least it would be funny.

Honestly, this book was ALMOST enough, but it wasn’t. I know that doesn’t make a lot of sense. Let me try to explain. The entire premise is that people put way too much energy into trying to figure out the WHY of our feelings. We overanalyze and react when we should just let some things go. I totally agree. One of the things I like most about this book is the humor and the fact that the author reiterates, it ain’t your job to be changing people. The only person you can ever control is yourself. Each section follows a predictable format: concept overview, how you wish it could be, what you wish for and can’t have, what you can realistically aim for, and how you can do it. Unfortunately, the working parts of this book are so scattered that it’s hard to put them all into focus. I believe the author should have narrowed their focus a bit. One minute you are reading about annoying coworkers and the next it’s why you can’t pick a partner based on physical attraction alone. Overall I’d give it 3 stars, but I wouldn’t recommend it to my friends and family unless I knew it was a person who was truly in need of taking a step back from their feelings.

Reeled in by the fun title, this is actually a terrible book. I've read a lot of great self-development books- this is absolutely terrible. If you believe in a "growth" vs "fixed" mindset, this book is not for you. If you believe you can heal patterns in your subconscious to have a better life, this book is not for you. If you would like to stay a victim and powerless, this book is definitely for you. Maybe I missed the message? But if I did, it's because the writing it awful.

I have read so many "self-help" books and this one seemed like it would be different. I hoped it would not be the typical gooey, sugary positivity you usually hear is most of these books. But this didn't really help. It gives many examples of situations you can find yourself in, most of which I could not relate to and the advice it gives is not as helpful as I would've hoped. Overall, I was not happy with this purchase.

Gets to the point quickly, then becomes glib and repetitive. References to Prince (yes, THAT Prince) being a target of "so much easy ridicule" apparently because of his being "mixed race" (What?? And correction: both of Prince's parents were Black), being "not a man, not a woman," (WTH?) and "wearing a quasi jeri curl" (correction: wrong again - quasi or otherwise) prompted me to finally end the tedium. I draw the line at misrepresenting His Purple Majesty.

“Just as we’re told to ease the task of public speaking by imagining the audience in their underwear, it helps to put the behavior of an aggressive crazy person into perspective by just imagining you’re being attacked by a bear.That way, you won’t find yourself tempted to reason with your attacker, or assume that kindness or friendly, calm words will tame the crazy beast; as with a charging grizzly, they do no more than catch his attention and make you a target.”

Poor modern man, we endlessly try to derive meaning and substance from random events which are totally out of our control. How should we respond to insults and attacks? This father/daughter team of authors may have put an end to self help books and the neurotic need to understand the behavior of others. In each chapter they lay out a scenario, show “what we wish for and can’t have, show what we can achieve realistically and how to do it. They supplement this with a script and cases. This is very funny but powerful stuff and a totally original way of looking at life’s problems. Why spend time worrying about extraneous stuff when there can be a clear path to a more positive life.

The father author is a board-certified psychiatrist. His daughter, Sarah Bennett writes sketch comedy. Her talent is obvious in the light hearted title and the irreverent approach to popular culture and how were are taken in by it. Wishful thinking is, in fact, silly. Get this book, be entertained and have a happy life.

Very helpful. By spelling out real-world examples, helps us comprehend the meaning of the word acceptance. "Acceptance" is found everywhere in the self-help genre, touted by psychologists and religious leaders and many others as a vital tool for resilience. But its meaning is difficult. What does it mean to accept "reality?" Does it mean just understanding reality? Or does it also mean allowing something to be the way it is without changing it? I've seen it written that we need to accept something before changing it. Confusing.

The book is not a quick read, but the chapters I've read thus far are good. It's a book to read in excerpts, dipping in once in a while to gather the wisdom of this therapist's advice about learning to accept those things we cannot change, and figuring out how to succeed in spite of difficulties. To call our problems what they are - "f-word" - and to keep our values in mind, always, when deciding our actions.

The writing is fine. I initially found it wordy, but realized even this is helpful because it allows different ways of viewing a situation: if one angle doesn't help, another might. The authors fearlessly put their hearts into their message and as a result have produced an exceptional book for anyone needing help with life's difficulties. That's all of us.

I mean, really, the title says it all. I listened to the audio version of Michael Bennett, M.D. & Sarah Bennett's book F*ck Feelings and while it was funny, down to earth and entertaining, I don't think anyone should take this too seriously as a self help book.

I am not sure I have a ton to say about this book. It kept me entertained, had lots of potty-mouthed humor, and was a no-nonsense guide to solving "problems" in your life. I will warn readers- if you are thinking of reading this as a serious self-help book, just don't. Sure it's written my a doctor, but adding in his daughter who is a comedic writer just makes this a long SNL sketch.

The entire book can pretty much be summed up like this: Life sucks. Not everything can be fair and equal. Some things you just can't change. You can't control everything. Learn to live with problems and issues that can't be changed. Of course, the humor of how all this is said is hilarious when you add constant cuss words.

This book was amusing but repetitive. After the first couple chapters you can pretty much get the gist of what they are trying to tell the reader. It could have been a lot shorter, and if not for the comedy aspect I would have stopped reading a quarter of the way through.

A 3 star read for me. Mainly because of the title and all the crude humor and profanity.

Filled with helpful insight but ultimately a very robotic and disconnected perspective of how one "may" lead a life. Using poorly written sarcasm to mask cheap salesmanship the authors don't hesitate to advertise that you should only listen to them because one is a practicing pshychiatrist... once that is done you're left with rant from the author as to why one should accept misery and pass it along. At times that becomes so systematic through the chapters that it's almost clear this is a not an impartial pshychiatrist. But more of a ever lasting complaining session from a beat up kid.

There are many things that are likable about this book, but the garbage weighed it down to the point where I believe it could harm those who follow it wholeheartedly. I will describe the issues in order of importance.

Politically biased:
--- In the chapter entitled "F*c# Fairness" the author decided to pick on gun owners who are conservative. She believes simply having a gun actually spurs on your aggression towards others and that gun owners in general are overly entitled middle class conservatives. She mentions news reports from Florida. The problem is that news reports in the media involving egregious shootings are usually done by people who are liberal, and if you want to go after a political topic you should go after safe space and trigger warnings. The author does not mention safe spaces or trigger warnings.

Hyperbolic:
--- The chapters on Self help and Communication were among the worst. The author decides that specious books such as "The secret" that use the power of believe or confidence to persuade others is a fair representation of all books that teach communication skills. Pick up some books by Mark Goulston, John Gottman, or maybe Robert Cialdini and tell me you can't increase your persuasive skill and social awareness. It is without a doubt useful to tell people that some debates or battles just can't be won, but the author goes too far. Instead of working on yourself, the author recommends you give up entirely, that if you weren't born with it, you'll never have it.

A bit of Misandry:
--- The "f*c# Love" chapter was the best in terms of entertainment. She goes on for over a page about some random guy whom I guess got angry at her for not wanting to have sex with him. Okay, I'll agree, it's not right to get mad at a women who doesn't want to have sex with you. But the section is so out of place. Those sex advice books help a lot, and if they don't help, then maybe you should find someone else. Previous partners and I have really enjoyed reading a good sex book together, it is one of those relationship building exercises I couldn't recommend more.

The author correctly points out CBT as good therapy, that you shouldn't make confidence a goal (rather make sticking to your pre-planned actions a goal), that you should spend time identifying what you can't change instead of beating yourself on the head for years on end. There were some good, but a whole lot of bad.

This book could have been so good, instead it was merely some good advice mixed in vomit. Maybe the author should seek therapy.

Edit: This is a father daughter team, I believe the daughter did the writing while the dad did the talking.

I think I chuckled, on almost every page. While this is a serious book it is about not being so serious about everything. We whine, moan, obsess and complain so much in our lives, always looking to blame something or someone even ourselves for not living up to the ideal. Well, just F8ck it! None of us are prefect, none of us are saints, we cary baggage, we snarl and spit, we are truly warped, get over it ! Work with you inner screwed up beast don’t neuter it.
Fun, foul language and realistic

Bad Advice, poorly presented. Lame attempts at humor. Browsed for 1/2 hour, nothing useful - reading actually could cause you to be more of a fatalist instead of a realist. Best to look for another book, wish I could get my time and money back.

This book attempts a very pessimistic for of comfort to people who feels very trapped by the speed and stress of modernity . It also lacks the strength that comes with data collection, case studies or the scientific /physiological/ socialogical research . It is just her opinion on how you can " get over it ". The repetitive nature and lack of actual internal reflection left me disappointed .

This book is mildly entertaining but it drastically underestimates people's abilities to change their circumstances, attitudes, behaviors, and beliefs. I agree that some things like chemical or neurological imbalances clearly require medical treatment, but people have a lot of tools and resources to improve the issues that can't or don't need to be treated with medication. The authors admit defeat too easily in these cases. Tools like hypnosis, mindfulness meditation, yoga, exercise, diet etc... are only mentioned in brief. Although many hypnotists / NLPers are incompetent, good ones can bring about remarkable changes. There is no silver bullet, of course, but I do believe it is worth experimenting with different ones until you find one or more that work. In the modern age of the internet, people have even more options available, some great and others quite bad, but don't let this book stop you from looking. Audio recordings like HPP can work wonders.

I got an audiobook of this and listened to it while commuting and it is so truthful that it has to be presented hilarious...and so it is really funny popping with sarcastic and silly humor when you least expect it. Loved it for "the insider" perspective and the reality of it all. I probably would not have ever made it through reading it though because my inner reading voice is not as funny as the audiobook actor/narrator that really drives the humor to snap and tickle your funnybone.

This book has a strong personality that the reader will fine attractive, but the book ultimately suffers from a lack of centralized principles that drive the reader towards a structured understanding of how to interpret and manage behavior. The book is also very widespread and is bound to include at least one section that has nothing to contribute to your life (it talks about family, children, couples, work relationships, etc.). -Ryan Mease

this is a great book for anyone like me that obsesses about every little thing. Since reading it, I have changed my ways and feel so much better day to day. I recommend this book to every worrier out there.

The common theme in the book for many issues is, "You can't fix it...deal with it." It's harsh but direct and honest about what you can do and what you can't do about your "issues." So many are made to think if they just follow the right process, any problem will disappear when that's just not how life works. Rather, it's all about learning to accept the world as it is and coping with it.

In "F___ Feelings", Michael and Sarah Bennett advise their readers on how to make rational decisions despite their strong, destructive emotions. The tone of the book is similar to receiving advice from a wise friend/therapists who happens to have the mouth of a sailor; therefore, don't buy this book if swearing offends you or causes you to trigger. Each chapter of "F___ Feelings" is organized around a number of scenarios that fall under a certain theme, e.g. love, parenthood, communication, etc., making the layout of the book easy to follow and glean information from. The authors' sense of humor is hit or miss; jokes about passing gas aren't my thing, but I love gallows and absurdist humor. Nonetheless, Michael and Sarah have written a book that will prove useful to people with emotional disturbances and who are in emotionally taxing situations.

This book is great! What a modern writing style. Its the perfect combination of guidance, humor and truth. I saw it at Powells and started reading it, once I started I counldn't stop reading. That day I sended some quotes to my bf and she was instantly amazed by the clearness of it. And so I purchased one for her as her birthday present.

brilliant common sense advice. How to accept the crap of life and not make the mistakes that prevent us from plowing through it. I listened to the audio book and really liked the delivery- assuming it was the author reading? Love this book, highly recommend. I am the type that rolls my eyes at people who say a book will change your life. But this- you do not want it to end.

"Advice with an attitude" .... It Works!!! The late Wayne Dyer would have liked and recommended this book. It's a no BS approach for anyone to help in their effort to cope in an imperfect world surrounded by imperfect people, morons and bad relationships. The wit is often cynical, but bitingly funny ... and that's OK. Sometimes it is precisely the kind of medicine and therapy many of us need to get ourselves fully together. I can't imagine anyone (except perhaps a cloistered religious monk) who won't find something both useful and philosophic in this book that will help carry them through life's mountainous journey.

This is a serious book which is also very funny and maybe irony is the key to handle problems in a better and more useful way. Instead of keep on thinking that we are not good enough or that we don't have enough willpower why not start thinking of what we have already done so far? This is just one of the many suggestions in this book where the old famous law of therapy, to formulate your ideas in positive instead of using negation, is most powerful.

Questo é un libro serio che peró fa anche ridere e forse l'ironia potrebbe essere la chiave per gestire i problemi in modo migliore e piú utile. Invece di continuare a pensare che non siamo abbastanza ...... o che non abbiamo forza di volontá perché non riconoscerci quello che abbiamo ottenuto fino a quel momento? Questo é solo uno dei tanti suggerimenti che si basa su una delle regole fondamentali della terapia e che prevede di formulare le nostre proposizioni in positivo piuttosto che in negativo e questo, ci rende molto piú potenti.

This book is insightful, funny, witty and really does help explain those feelings you have you don't quite understand and what to freaking do about them. It's not touchy-feely crap. It's not look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself you're pretty crap. Just down-to-earth assessments of people's behavior and what you can (or can't) do about it.
The one and only "self help" book you should really ever need.

I found this to be a fresh perspective in looking at parts of my life. I have recommended it to several friends already.
1 caveat: Don't get this at the library and try to read cover to cover. Buy it and look at sections as needed or desired.

Finally you get permission to accept that life is unfair and there is [almost] nothing you can do about it. You are allowed to feel that things are unfair, and, in the end, you have to simply deal with reality and move on. No more need to blame yourself or anyone else. It just is what it is.
Very helpful book. I love it!

The snappy repartee and snarky humor get old very fast. As do the overt insults directed at people with conservative values--specifically Tea Partiers. I thought shrinks were non-judgmental? Left-wing comedy is never funny, and it makes an especially bad combination with psychology.

As for the psychology...on the surface, a good thesis. What it really seems to be getting at is for us lowly, non-elite plebeians to be happy with our humble lot. Don't strive too hard, Mr./Ms.No-talent, or you'll hurt yourself. There's a fine balance between being realistic and being starry-eyed. This book comes down squarely on the gloomy side. Becuase the doc should know. He has an elite Ivy League education of which he seems inordinately proud.

P.S. The good doctor wants you to know he's Ivy League educated. Therefore you simply MUST take his word as gospel. Sorry, doc. Not buying your nonsense or your daughter's so-called humor.

I haven't read this book yet....can't wait to read it...but Dr. Last Name is my shrink and I am one of the lucky people that he has helped. Because of this wonderful doctor, and his brilliant therapy, I have learned to be a happier, stronger and more well balanced person. I cannot say enough good things about this brilliant doctors groundbreaking methods to get his patients to the point where they can pick themselves up and f*ck all of their debilitating feelings!!

The book felt more of a rant then a 'self help' book. At times the book did not follow a linear story line but rather went off in tangents. My biggest issue of the book was that the book made it seem 'ok' to settle rather then strive.

this book was presented falsely in an interview by the author.. it is complicated.. way too organized and pretty much a commercial for shrinks.. F**K me for falling for it.. the shipping and price were both good.. so nothing bad to say on that.. but don't waste your money on the book... it will make a good fire starter for the holidays this year.

A male patient of Dr. Bennett's, who was ambivalent about taking medication, was told to stop whining and "acting like a girl." True story. This patient complained to his insurance company. Stay away from Dr. Bennett.

You don't need this book. Buying it will only line the pockets of the self-righteous psychiatrist who wrote it but will do nothing for you. Do you really need a book to tell you that life is a maelstrom of misery and stupidity with occasional moments of magical bliss? No -- you already know that. If you want to read a book that will be worth the time you spend reading it buy Jeffrey Masson's Against Therapy or Final Analysis. Those books will immunize you against worthless advice from 'mental health experts' of all stripes, including the one who wrote this disposable waste of paper and ink. You know what you need to do and what's best for you way better than some overpaid phony 'expert' with a Harvard degree in pseudoscience (psychiatry).

Very rewarding book, with great insight. The humor makes it a fun read to place things into perspective. I really didn't need a self-help book, but it is a great conversation piece to put on my coffee table!

You don't need this book. Buying it will only line the pockets of the self-righteous psychiatrist who wrote it but will do nothing for you. Do you really need a book to tell you that life is a maelstrom of misery and stupidity with occasional moments of magical bliss? No -- you already know that. If you want to read a book that will be worth the time you spend reading it buy Jeffrey Masson's Against Therapy or Final Analysis. Those books will immunize you against worthless advice from 'mental health experts' of all stripes, including the one who wrote this disposable waste of paper and ink. You know what you need to do and what's best for you way better than some overpaid phony 'expert' with a Harvard degree in pseudoscience (psychiatry).