How to Stop Spending Time You Don't Have with People You Don't Like Doing Things You Don't Want to Do (A No F*cks Given Guide)

By Sarah Knight

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★ ★ ★ ★ ★
cita others have said The Life Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*ck is NOT for everyone...but it is for many (don't be afraid to admit it) or give a f*ck what others think about YOU deciding it's time to STOP giving so many f*cks.Too many "f" words...well not sorry. My sons knew how excited I was for this book to come out and asked me, "Mom, how many times does Sarah use the "f" word in the book?" Well I found out and it's 731! In my opinion this is book is genius and so is the author. I'm still reading, laughing and smiling my way through the book. Spend the money on the book, it won't break your bank account. Just go to Starbucks two less times this week...make your f*cking coffee at home and sit down and read this instead of watching KUWTK on your DVR. AWESOME job Sarah Knight! Looking forward to learning how to give less f*cks!
★ ★ ★ ★ ☆
Book came in time but was dirty on front cover thankfully it was not a gift and will be used by myself so not a problem. Have this book on Kindle and its an easy read with fun insight into real life issues. Plan to hand it out to friends and coworkers to read. Dirty cover was the reason it got only 4 stars.
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
julia wehr
You may be sick and tired of hearing from your friends about their recent tidying purges and how they discovered which of their pillowcases spark joy, and that might be enough to encourage you to pick up this book. But the truth it, you SHOULDN'T care about their sock drawer organization project, and this book will validate that feeling and help you figure out what else you might be wasting time, energy, and money on, freeing you to put your efforts to the things you really care about. The language is strong, but the message is stronger.
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★ ★ ★ ★ ★
I originally got this at the library and loved it so much, I bought it on the store so I could have a copy at home to re-read. This book is life-changing. It's funny, insightful, and helpful all at once. Great read, and helped me change my perspective of feeling guilty saying NO. Very empowering and effective techniques that help you identify, establish, and protect your boundaries. I feel like I have given myself permission to free myself from annoying, time-sucking conversations, emotionally needy and negative people, and to say NO to things I don't want to do. All the while, without offending anyone or hurting their feelings. It's amazing!

I've bought it as a gift for 2 people and will probably order more. Seriously, do this for yourself; buy and read this book.
★ ☆ ☆ ☆ ☆
erin sinclair
If you have money to throw away and giggle each time you hear a naughty word, you might find this not excruciatingly bad.
Clearly someone bet her that she couldn't get a book published if she used the f word in every paragraph, and she set out to prove them wrong. If there is any useful in formation in this book about how to stop obsessing about my failure to be perfect at all times, I couldn't find it.
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
I am so happy I purchased this book. I was suffering with anxiety and depression because I was allowing my corporate job to kill me slowly on the inside. I read this book and I had so many "ah ha" moments. I started to feel better immediately. The dialogue in my head of self doubt and worry quieted immediately and I began to feel alive. TMI- but even my sex life with my husband has improved tremendously. The f's I was giving to other things was holding me back in the bedroom. No more! I love this book so much. It is 100% recommended. I even bought 2 more copies for my friends.
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lindsey swan
Loved this book. It's definitely a parody of those self-help type books but has a solid message. I'm definitely one of those people who care far too much about what other people think of me and my decisions. This was a nice reminder to take inventory of the things that really, truly matter to yourself and stop wasting time people-pleasing and caring about things you just don't give a f*ck about for the sake of being perceived as likable. It's an easy, fun read. Highly recommend to add this to your list for 2016!
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karen a
Many people claim they don’t give a f*ck. But when it comes down to it, they end up giving many f*cks out of habit. There’s no 1-800 number to call in how to extricate oneself from all the social handcuffs we create for ourselves just by refusing to say – no. But now there’s a book! Work functions, birthday parties, spending precious time doing things to please others – it adds up, clutters our lives, and eventually becomes who we are.

“The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*ck” is a handy, helpful guide for anyone who spends too much time pleasing people. As you read it, you realize how many f*cks you give on a daily basis, and how easy it is to just stop giving a f*ck without harming anyone but improving your mindset immeasurably. The funny, witty writing delivers a poignant message that with slight tinkering, and a little bit of backbone, we can take control of life without being insufferable assh*les.

Can’t wait for the wall calendar, the mug, the daily app to remind me to stop obsessing over nonsense.
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wael ghonim
I wish I could give fewer than one star to this book. In my opinion, this book is a waste of money and is only popular because of the huge success of Marie Kondo's book The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up. I wholeheartedly regret this purchase and seriously distrust the judgement of the person who recommended it to me. I do understand it was a parody, but it wasn't even humorous and this idea could have been actualized as a useful or at least funny book. If you want a one-note regurgitated book for guests to read on the toilet, go for it I guess. I was duped by the success of the original but now it's going in the trash. Learn from my ignorant mistake and don't waste your time or money, as it isn't even worth a trip to the library unfortunately.
★ ☆ ☆ ☆ ☆
doug frazier
There are a couple of kernels of wisdom in this book, but it's so poorly written it's hard to hear the message. The repetitive (and overuse) of the work "fkc" was more annoying than offensive. The book could have been edited down to a third of its' size.
★ ★ ☆ ☆ ☆
halsted mencotti bernard
The language distracted from what could have been a very helpful book. I'm not
a prude, but it was disappointing to say the least. I returned it and got another De-cluttering
book here on the store...which offers so many wonderful self-help books!
★ ★ ☆ ☆ ☆
barbara sun
I've had this book on my wishlist for quite some time as the subject of the book seemed refreshing. Unfortunately, after reading this book, I'm entirely underwhelmed.

*spoilers ahead*

The entire book basically talks about not giving an f about various things. It's very redundant and very predictable. Don't give a #$%@. The end.

The tone of the book is almost adolescent. You remember saying your first swear word and just repeating it unnecessarily over and over again? This reads like a middle-schooler discovered their first swear word and assume the word spices up their otherwise mundane conversation.

The author talks about not being an a-hole but then brought up an example of not giving a f by basically berating someone who takes too long choosing a drink at Starbucks. I guess the author, in her own little privileged bubble, has not interacted with individuals who have brain injuries or mental ailments. If you can't give someone time while you're in line, you are a terrible person. Plain and simple. I digress but that paragraph irked me.

The exercises in the book were not helpful to me but might be helpful to those who like making lists.

Overall, I think this book had a lot of potential but fell short. The author was either trying too hard to be entertaining or just didn't give a @#$% about delivering a good read.
★ ☆ ☆ ☆ ☆
This book is a distasteful compilation of familiar and free on youtube popular psychology intended to mollify the narcissistic anxiety-ridden “me” generation. The “hardships” enumerated by the author are so vain that the book becomes too painful to read. The author comes across as the epitome of an insecure egoist, who deftly references her Ivy League status not even half-way into the diatribe. Anyone practicing the author's suggestions is sure to end up the unsavory individual this author professes not to be. Sadly, the frequency of her insistence that her new way of life does not make her a bad person produces the opposite impression.
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
The one-star reviewers who expected this book to be a deep-dive into some personal world-shattering epiphany are completely missing the point. The author clearly states her objective not only on the cover of the book, but in the introduction. If you're looking for something extremely meaningful and introspective, then I suggest Deepak Chopra. If you tire of the "f" word easily, then don't buy this. But I fully enjoyed every page and laughed out loud many times. Am I going to completely overhaul my entire life because of this book? Likely not. But as an overthinking, too-often-anxious person, it was a humorous way of pointing out how many stupid things I concentrate on in order to please others. Take it for what it is... a reminder to (forgive the cliche) not sweat the small stuff and realize that life shouldn't be about worrying what other people think. And I needed that reminder!
★ ★ ★ ★ ☆
Know someone, or are someone, that always feels guilty and ends up doing things they/you don’t want to? This is the book for them/you.

Know someone, or are someone, who loves saying the word f*ck? This is the book for them/you.

Know someone, or are someone, who enjoys a funny read while drinking a glass of wine (or whiskey) and texting the funny bits to friends? This is the book for them/you.

And for all the sarcasm, tongue and cheek, humor (she says f*ck a bazillion times but says you-know-what instead of sh*t.) there is truth behind a lot of this. Have you really never found yourself wanting to say “no” when you realize not only do you have to attend a destination wedding, bachelor(ette) party, bridal shower etc. but you have to PAY a sh*t ton for it? While I’m aware of the humor behind the extreme of not giving a f*ck I’m on this bandwagon 100% of not always doing the things I hate or don’t want to just because we’re “supposed to."
★ ★ ★ ☆ ☆
shane prosser
I bought this in a local bookstore based on the title and descriptions. I thought "wow...I know a ton of people that can use this little gem! I'm going to read this and pay it forward!" I mean, who among us couldn't use some mental decluttering from family, coworker, or friend drama? Who couldn't use more free time to do what we truly want to do instead of what we feel obligated to do?

So I plowed through this short book with mixed feelings. Sarah is witty, wordy and clever. Yet the tone of the book feels more serious than the title and descriptions are. It's not a funny read. Yes, some sarcasm is inserted. Yes, there is profanity throughout. (I see reviewers stating this as a negative. Note the title. I'm pretty sure if you buy a book with profanity in the title and description, it's to be expected that there will be profanity throughout. Thus those negative reviews should be disregarded.)

My other beef with the book is that it just felt cluttered and unorganized to read. She gives steps and methods but is so wordy with her thoughts that it just feels scattered.

All in all, I don't feel like it gave me life changing advice. I do feel like it made me reevaluate some things and may make me look at some things differently in the future. maybe that is kind of mildly life changing.

I think if someone cares a lot about what other people think or tends to overextend themselves so as not to disappoint others, this may do something for him/ long as they're ok with some language. Again, the book wasn't as fun to read as if hoped but it did resonate somewhat.
★ ☆ ☆ ☆ ☆
aigerim zhuma
If I could gift this book 0 stars, I would. Repetitive and poorly edited, it is written in a crass and ego-centric style that can become your style should you adopt the advice of the writer. I use both of these words - 'advice' and 'writer' loosely. The writer seems to have emitted a stream of consciousness without editing and to call her a 'writer' is a stretch. And her words offer no real 'advice' either grounded in study, research, or living beyond her self-serving agenda. The basic message coming across again and again was this- think only of your self and do not care for or about or adapt to others. I took the time to write this because I am concerned that any reader, but particularly women of any age, who take this to heart will live a life of self-centered narcissism thinking that anything else is not taking care of the self. I think not...
★ ★ ★ ☆ ☆
avril somerville
Some reviewers are calling this a parody and saying they laughed through the book. Umm, I read it while drinking beers & it never occurred to me to laugh. The idea of the book is sound: What do you not value? Stop doing that. The methodology for doing it: Pretty thin on the ground. Use of the word f*ck: Nauseatingly over done. I skimmed it in less than an hour, and that’s all the f*ing time I’ll spend.
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
ben wilson
Loved this book! I am a pH.D. candidate in the environmental sciences. Anyone who is familiar with this stage of a pH.D. career knows about how valuable money, time, and energy is when you have very little of all three. Especially with the stress of finding a post doc. position by time you defend that will be just enough to get by while paying a monthly school loan payment equal to the amount of monthly mortgage payment. I highly recommend this book. It helps you sort out what is most valuable and worth your time, energy, and money. By balancing politeness and honestly, you can avoid or better handle on let go of things that clutter your mind and are not worth energy, time, or money. I found myself laughing through the whole book while gaining a set of skills to declutter my mind and gain time, energy, and money to do things that bring me joy (again, this is difficult in grad. school).
★ ☆ ☆ ☆ ☆
abby cooley
I agree with some of the other reviews. I'm no prude, and swear myself sometimes, but the use of the word really gets annoying with the audiobook. I couldn't even finish it. It totally takes away from the Buddhist/Zen style message.

I know Sarah proly doesn't give a fck, but neither do I, I got it from the library.

Unless you enjoy the sound of that word several times in every single paragraph, pass the fck on by this one.
★ ☆ ☆ ☆ ☆
aderyn wood
triggered me to remember negative experiences without helping me to actually deal with them

I was reading "nice girls don't get corner offices" along with this one, and this book just did not make sense. Don't like your job? Well don't give a f about it. Write your grocery list in the meeting that you don't care about. Most of the "advice" in this book is "well just don't give a f!!", treating the said "f" as a commodity. I think the bigger problem for many people who picked up this book was to know HOW not to give a f which was not explained at all. Example: "make a list of everything you give a f about and decide not to give a f about things that don't bring joy." See? easy peasy. I don't think that is a useful advice. Not helpful book, triggered me to remember negative experiences without helping me actually deal with them.
*I would write the full word but the store doesn't like it.
★ ★ ★ ☆ ☆
meghan cornely
This is an entertaining book about learning not to worry about stuff that’s not important to you.

I’m enjoying it. But it is testing me. Dare I say it is f*****g with me.

The conversational style is testing the editor in me, since it often results in longish sentences without any punctuation until the end. That’s a minor bit of nitpicking, though; at least I can imagine the author talking this way, and this same conversational tone is what gives the book its charm and sense of humor. (It is, after all, labelled as a parody.)

The graphic designer part of me is going NUTS. The uncredited person who did the layout opted for a left-justified, ragged-right text alignment—with NO HYPHENATION. The result is some often freakish variation in line lengths, especially where the shorter lines would have otherwise ended with a longer word that would have been hyphenated. It looks really, really weird—to the point of being sloppy, in some instances (look at how much shorter the first few lines of the page in the attached photo are compared to the rest of the page).

I still have three-fourths of the book left to read. Perhaps by the time I have finished, I will no longer give any f***s about these two things…

Either way, for a more visually pleasing reading experience, this is one instance where you're definitely better off with the e-book edition.
★ ☆ ☆ ☆ ☆
Immature & unsophisticated. Written clearly for the person that is having issues succeeding in everyday life and needs an excuse to justify their poor attitude towards work, family, friends and society. An employee of mine is actually reading this right now (what led me to it) and their job performance has recently suffered greatly (coincidence?). Maybe they just stopped giving a F#!k I guess.
Remember, 90% of life and success is showing up, the other 10% is caring about your career, family, friends, having morals and work ethic.
★ ★ ★ ★ ☆
marilia francezi
Did not like the audible version. However, I liked the premise of this book and thought it was very helpful. I will use the ideas in it.

But I started with the audible version and had a hard time with it. It was a pain to hear the F-word spoken so many times and it was distracting. It's a strong word when spoken and I started wondering when the next f-word will come up and kind of lost the train of though. I have nothing against the f-word and use it sometimes, and it was effective in the title and would have been effective throughout just not so much, but if any other word has been used that many times it would still be distracting and overly repetitive. Also, the written book is witty but the spoken version frequently came across as condescending and sometimes whiny/mean. The whiny may be the author-narrator's vocal quality in part. In the written version, it is much funnier. Also, my eyes just skim over the extra F-words in the written version. This all is why I subtracted one star. Also, the hardbound book shows some charts and is easy to follow. So there's a heads-up in case anyone is on the fence about which version to buy.

I returned the audio version and ordered the hardbound version because I do plan to use the method and want it as reference. I've already started with the first category, things, and it has helped me breathe a sigh of relief about all that stuff cluttering up my time. I also liked the Kondo book and benefited from it, too. This is a sound method to clear out a lot of rubble that just interferes with your life.

One of the things that raises a red flag is how to be happy. Research on happiness shows that it is not found in indulgence. By indulgence I mean watching movies, eating ice cream, etc. While there is nothing wrong with these they are too superficial. I don't think the author meant this, but many of the examples lean more toward the indulgent. Happiness is more a product of hard work. Take the example of going to the gym, which the author gives, and which I don't particularly enjoy either. However, if I make myself go anyway, I'm rewarded with a stronger, healthier body. While I don't give a f* about going to the gym, I give many f*s about having a strong healthy body, so I just bite the bullet and go. I'm hoping that getting rid of the petty annoyances that are the f's I don't give, the gym will not be as big a deal.

More on happiness--sometimes the things that are hardest to do are the things that are most rewarding in the end. The book would have benefited from a chapter on this, it would have added more depth. For instance, doing something about climate change, which the author says she does give a f* about may be difficult, but having done something will lead to a more satisfying life.

Despite these criticisms, which are really critiques, I think this has the potential to be revolutionary in some parts of my life, hence the four stars.
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
davena elkins
If cleverly deployed, I can't help but laugh at an excessive use of the f-word. I can't explain it. It's like I have this juvenile funny bone tumbling around inside. So you can see why I was attracted to "The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F***," which is a timely parody of Marie Kondo's bestseller "The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up." You would think a subtitle such as "How to Stop Spending Time You Don't Have with People You Don't Like Doing Things You Don't Want to Do" would be cynical to its core, but that's not the case here. Not only does Sarah Knight praise Marie Kondo's book throughout, but her own aptly-named NotSorry approach (also a parody—this time of Kondo's KonMari method) is optimistically useful and not just intended as a joke.

From one of the exercises, here's my own list of things I don't give a f*** about:
- social media
- celebrity anything
- pro football
- most of what goes on at work (too much to list here)
- gas prices
- presidential elections

Again, if you don't mind a creative overuse of cursing, check out this book. It's funny, not too long, and sincerely practical if you want to go the extra mile with it.

Bonus Observation: I love how the author tiptoes around the s-word, never quite saying it aloud. Contrast this with the barrage of f-bombs being dropped everywhere like candy out of a dispenser.
★ ☆ ☆ ☆ ☆
I can't understand how so many people thought this book was great, there were so many F bombs it would make the crew of an aircraft carrier blush. I got the audio book and the author probably had to read it herself because any self respecting narrator would have rejected it. And I do a fair amount of cussing myself. The book is a sign of the times and a stereotypical example of the self indulgent types searching for justification for their immature and childish resentment about everything in their lives that isn't immediately gratifying. Probably also a sign of the times that it currently has a 4 star rating. I bet when this author quit her job (mentioned in the book) her former coworkers jumped and celebrated with glee. Thank God it was only a few hours of my time to listen to. It's only because I like to finish what I start that I suffered through it. Get it from your library like I did, don't waste your money.
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
amy cooke
This wasn't really a book I needed to read. I think I do not a good job of not caring about things I really don't care about, but the audible snippet I listened to was so amusing that I just had to listen to the entire book. This book is like listening to a stand-up comic talk about self-help: a little bit vulgar, but so true and so amusing at the same time. I very much enjoyed this book and will be recommending it to people *coughmymothercough* that I feel would benefit from learning not to care about other people's opinions.
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
john lovell
This book was so effective at changing my attitude that I never finished it, and IDGAF. That makes it a 100% success, and I highly recommend it to people who, like me, tend to be anxious, codependent perfectionists who are always afraid to let others down. When I really sat down and thought about a f*** budget, it was astonishing how many things I actually DO NOT care about, but I felt obligated to attend/perform these things and I cannot even begin to express how freeing it is to not go to family dinners or small children's birthday parties. I have more time and, more importantly, emotional energy to engage with people I truly care about, and even if one day that person is actually just my cat, IDGAF. That f*** is not in the budget, whereas hanging out with my cat is always in the budget. It's lovely, and I sincerely thank the author for this book.
★ ★ ☆ ☆ ☆
jasmine wagner
I really thought this book was going to be good. I saw the headline and thought that there would be some sound advice, coupled with humor. I also loved her other book get your s*** together. Despite this I couldn’t even get past two chapters. Way too much over use of the F-word. Believe me, I have no problems belting out my share of curse words, but this was just way over the top. It was actually annoying.
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
I haven't read this but I have been trying to school people on this concept for years. I'm so very happy someone finally put it in print. Folks are so very worried about the perceptions of strangers, they are stifling their own lives. It's not about being rude, crude, or ill-mannered, it's about simply not taking to heart everything said to you, every sideways look, and knowing that there are few things you HAVE to do besides taking care of you and your loved ones. Even then, learn to smile, nod, and go ahead and do it the way you were going to do it anyway. Only you can live your life. Be politely frank. Be firm. Be happy.
★ ★ ★ ☆ ☆
ryan luetzen
This book is actually surprisingly engaging, witty, and genuine about a topic practically everyone can relate to. It's definitely a fun, entertaining book for at least the beginning. By the middle, it starts to lose momentum. Once you get to the last stretch, it becomes a slog of repetitive rehashing of the same idea over and over again. It gets pretty tedious seeing the f word used in place of many other more apt words in an attempt to be funny and get the point across. It's also presumptuous at times. For example, in the beginning, the author basically says that if you recognize the title similarity to Marie Kondo's "The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying up," you aren't ignorant, implying that those who haven't heard of it are ignorant. But to be fair, everyone can be considered to be ignorant with regards to something. If you haven't heard of The Last of Us, Undertale, and Pokemon Go, that would also be ignorant. Ultimately, this book is a clever page-turner at first that gradually devolves into tiresome rambling. It may be worth a read, but it has little to no re-read value, except unless it tells you something you didn't already know, which is incredibly unlikely if you recall that the central topic of the book is the f word. It says a lot of things that hit home that many people may have kept to themselves.
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
Love this book!!! I have looking for a book that explains why I don't give a rip about so many things I use to give a rip about! I am so glad that I am not the only one to feel this way.. and after you read this book... there will be more of us. I am happier since my conversion... I hope you do as well. Enjoy!!!
★ ★ ☆ ☆ ☆
ashley valenzuela
I got the book a week ago and have been unable to get past the first few pages. I am going to try to go back to it but it lost me at "I quit my job" If you can afford to quit your job then yeah its a lot easier to say F it about things and situations. Most of the things that we have to care about are things that we need to care about to make our job work or to make our lives work. If you don't have those things then yes it is easier to not give an F. Again I will go back and try to read it and then give an updated review.
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All the concepts and examples in this book are directed to middle class Americans. The book does not have any reflection on how her idea of spending less time, energy, and money on things you don't really care about would apply to people in different life, cultural, or economic situations. The repeated opinion that "it is really hard to get fired from a job you're good at," only really applies if you are in a privileged group of people. While this book was likely meant to be amusing and only to apply to that small section of american society, it misses the opportunity to have a broader audience.
★ ☆ ☆ ☆ ☆
Instead of spending so time on things you don't want to do, prioritize them as to what really matters to you. There, I summed up the main worthwhile point from this book. The rest is self-indulgent twaddle. If you really followed all the advice the author gives, you'd be unemployed, broke, and have no friends or family talking to you.
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
isaac kerry
This book changed my life before I even finished it. Yes, it's sweary. Yes, it's a parody of another well-known self-help book. Yes, it's hilarious. But beyond all that, it has practical, life-changing advise that will has an impact on your life from the very first pages.

We all have things, people, and events we'd rather not worry about, deal with, or waste time on, and TLCMONGAF teaches you how to spend your time worrying, dealing, and spending time on things you DO care about – all without being a jerkface.

At the end of the book (this is not a spoiler), Knight suggests that after reading her book you'll want to share what you've learned with others, and that's so true. I haven't stopped talking about what I've learned and I've already shoved my copy off on a friend who desperately needs to stop giving a ----.

Read this now.
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
lillian laurence
I bought this book at my wifes request. I read the monologue at her request and found it to be pretty funny. I than read the next thirty pages for one reason or another. very well written, quirky, and a bit funny. I wouldn't recommend this book if fowl language offends you though (that should be a clear from the title alone)... if you like fowl language, its pretty darned good.
★ ★ ☆ ☆ ☆
I just finished reading the first couple of chapters and had to put it down. I am not a prude and often am scolded by my wife because of my language. I also actually agreed with the underlying premise of the book, but that being said, the crude and tasteless language quickly became boring. The author went out of her way to let you know that she was a crude, vulgar, New Yorker and doesn't give a fck if you like it or not. This quickly got in the way of what she was trying to say and eventually wore me out.
★ ★ ★ ☆ ☆
suzy jobst
As others have said, this book was sophomoric and didn't live up to the hype. The author saying she was inspired by Marie Kondo's tidying up book is actually offensive.

On the other hand, there are some useful tidbits. Offering a few practical and insightful (key words - "a few") views, especially for those that have a hard time saying no to others or always putting themselves last, I can see where this could be helpful. Personally I learned all of this probably 20yrs ago but it's nice to have a refresher.

To those that complain about the language, get over it. It's glaringly obvious by the cover of the book that there is "adult language" so I don't understand how people can be shocked by this.
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rachel whitmire
I recently read The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up so when I stumbled upon this parody, I knew I needed to pick it up. It came along at a point in my life when I was ready to reevaluate what I was giving my attention to and this book was a great reminder to take stock. It's a quick, explanatory, how-to guide that reads like the parody it is - so much so that there were times when it was hard to take it seriously. Then again, that's part of the point and the author makes it well. Since finishing the book, I've found myself referencing it a lot more than I had expected so while it's not mind-blowing, it's a fun experience.
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Tries very hard to be funny, but offers ZERO useful advice. If this was merely intended as a parody, it is FAR too long and pointlessly repetitive (do you really need to provide numerous blank "lists" to pad your page quota?), and forgets Oscar Wilde's maxim that "Brevity is the soul of wit." I wasn't expecting the resonant depth of Marcus Aurelius, but I would have appreciated at least ONE useful insight or strategy in a 200 page book. We can all agree that it would be nice to be less over-scheduled, and to say No to demands on our time that are not critical. But most people's difficulty implementing this rather obvious principle is NOT "how to say no" to Jehovah's Witnesses, telemarketers, NPR, karaoke, or your third cousin's twice removed "destination" wedding 3000 miles away (all her examples) but how to juggle legitimate work, child, and personal responsibilities -- NONE of which this author has. She is defiantly child-less (which is fine, but dramatically alters your choices and perspectives), self-employed (again, much easier to pull off if you don't have 3 kids to put through college), and seems to be blissfully free of the responsibility to care for anyone (like aging parents or disabled family members) but her fine self. If your situation is like hers, you really don't need this book because there's already very little in your life that you have to give a F about. On the off-chance you actually have ANY real responsibilities, the primary utility of this book will be as a cutesy coaster, bc the cover is its best part.
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joanne isamuse
Terrible. Wish I had of bought the other book with similar title.

Written by a 40 something woman and written like it is directed at teenagers by trying to be funny, doesn't work, wasn't funny.

The over liberal use of the F word gets really boring really quickly.

It's in the bin where it belongs, $20 wasted.
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
What can I say...I am very entertained by this book. It seems like I can't go more than a page without Sarah writing some quip that makes me laugh out loud. For me what makes this book a compelling read is that the material is actually based on the author's life and experiences. If this book were completely fiction, then I think the crassness would have worn on me quick, and I wouldn't have gotten past the second chapter. However, the author's writing style blends a very matter-of-fact approach to her experiences mixed with just the right amount of explicative language to be funny.

(Full disclosure - I'm about 1/3 of the way through it and am enjoying it thoroughly!)

I think this book clearly isn't for everyone, but the f-word doesn't bother me, and I think Sarah uses the word masterfully in this book. My recommendation is if you laughed when you saw the book and it's title, buy it!
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tom manning
Life-changing. It's ideas about how to live one's life like this that should be taught in school. We are all indoctrinated into thinking that we are supposed to put other peoples' needs and happiness above our own - which is one reason why so many of us are despondent and see life as a chore instead of a celebration. Highly recommended. John V. Karavitis
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kase wickman
This is a funny very and clever book and it actually makes a lot of good points. It focuses on you saving your time, energy, and/or money. You don’t do things that annoy and you do the things that bring you joy. It’s all about enjoying your life to the fullest.

She states in the book that it’s “for people who are exhausted by presenting a facade of interest, enthusiasm, and conformity to the rest of the world. It’s about empowering you to feel free to be yourself and live your best life.”

It also offered a lot of good ways to not offend people. For example, one thing she used in the book, was talking about being a parent and letting your young child sleep in your bed every night. If you and your friend have opposite thoughts about this then, you’d make it a matter of opinion rather than feelings. Everyone has opinions and everyone has the right to them. You’d say something like, “yeah, everyone’s got their opinions” and change the subject. Really it’s to save that friendship instead of getting into a huge argument about it. It also saves you all the time and energy it would to remedy. This idea really made me start thinking things differently.

The biggest thing she stresses is not caring what others think. You can’t control what people think. However, don’t be a jerk to people either. Don’t take it to the other extreme. Instead, focus on an honest politeness. (If you hate karaoke, and all your friends want you to go, just tell them that you really don’t like karaoke and rather that they go without you and have a good time. And next time, you’d do something different.)

One of the negatives of this book that many people in the reviews disliked, was the amount of the swearing. Now, I listened to this on audiobook, and I’m glad I did. Sarah read it herself and allowed her clever sarcasm to be heard. It made me like her even more. Yes, there are a lot of swearing in the book, but I think Sarah was being ironic because you really shouldn’t care.
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mario anglada
My husband gave me a copy which I read and completely enjoyed. I bought 5 copies to give to some friends and family who struggle with taking on too much, (ages 28 - 75). The book is insightful, the value is delivered in a hilarious (LOL) fashion. The books given have now been loaned to family and friends of the recipients of my books. Worthwhile, easy read with a very needed fix so many of us have a need for.
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This is one of the best books I have ever read on setting priorities in your life and basically taking charge of your own time. She is giving us all something important to think about in a very humorous way.
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"You must have been fed up with looking at your life as a series of obligations to be met, people to tolerate, and calendar squares to be desperately reshuffled until a blessed wild card in the form of a free afternoon rose to the top." If you can relate to this statement then you MUST read this book. It will change your life.
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annie mccarty
If you have to read a book to not give a $&@" then your trying to hard. Give away anything that may be considered some what meaningful, eliminate debt, live on what you need, find some one to screw, know that your smarter than most people you meet, then give up on your dreams because if your reading this it's not going to happen.
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I say the f bomb a lot but she takes the cake. It has a good premise but you don't have to read the whole thing to get the gist. It is repetitive. I wish there were more real life examples. I am one of those people who *gasp* is not on Facebook, and I'm pretty straightforward but even this book made me realize that there were still some things I just need to say no to. In an honest, nice way. Thanks for that.
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c sar
Not only is this really funny, it's totally on point. We wear ourselves out and become resentful in trying to please everybody, or hang onto all the shards of information and opinions being hurled at us daily via social media, the internet, coworkers, family, etc. This book actually gives a very practical method for sorting out what you truly care about giving your resources to, and what you don't. And worksheets!
I listened to this on audiobook, and she narrates it perfectly (PDF of the worksheets comes with it).
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brandon uttley
1. Do not read this if you have a mental start each time the word "f*@!" is used. You'll have so many mental starts that a stroke or heart attack might occur. That's not good for you health.
2. Do read this if you don't mind a healthy dose of swears and want a light-reading style self-help guide for thinking through how you can make more space for yourself and your needs while maintaining relationships with those who mean the most to you.

I plan to listen several times a year, whenever I start getting worked up about what I "should" be doing. F that. I've only got one life. What do *want* to be doing? I have successfully moved to the GNF lifestyle. Join me, the water's perfect over here.
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katie nath
I wish I could get a refund. I couldn't finish the book. It doesn't end with a full stop without dropping an F word, it's becoming way too offensive and exhausting, not fun to read, drains the f*** out of you. How did Sarah Knight think this book was magical or helpful at least? If I was Marie Kondo, I'd be insulted. Other reviews found this book funny, I don't. Save your money, and just listen to Alan Watts lectures on YouTube that are related to something like this, you'll be much more enlightened at the end of every lectures by the man, for free, than having to read this book.
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This book & her other books are on repeat for me! Absolutely love Sarah. We’d be besties in the Caribbean if I ever left the corporate wonderland. ? she’s my spirit animal. Love these books!
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While this book makes a good point, I found the author to be extremely repetitive. The extensive use of word f*** was also annoying.
However, this book did make a slight change in my life, and put things in perspective for me. The author makes a good point about accommodating yourself first, and avoid making decisions and saving one's face at the same time.
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tj tunnington
I would give it 5 stars but I give a f%ck but she brought her own politics about a "Free Palestine" into the book. Hard to believe a sophisticated and experienced editor would do something so polarizing. Undermined some of the message of the book.
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josipa ozefa
Knight has written an entertaining parody that encourages you basically to declutter your mind of wasteful f*ckss. People, projects or anything that's not worthy. Simplifying your life. Excellent read & hilarious!
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james elliott
Sarah Knight's brilliant book posits that just as too much clutter in one's living space can make life unnecessarily stressful, too much clutter in the mind and on the to-do list can turn life into an endless, needless guilt parade. She says enough with the karaoke parties and poetry slams (if those are on one's list of perceived social obligations), enough with precious funds being spent on Kickstarter campaigns for acquaintances, enough with a life philosophy of people pleasing. It's time for many of us to give way less of a f*ck. Knight, with wit and charm, presents a system for identifying what truly matters in one's life and focusing just on those things, be they Downton Abbey or spending more time with a spouse. Reading this book led me not only to lots of laughter, but a much-needed sense of relief. Highly recommended!
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jessica rhein
This might seem like simply your basic, irreverent, laugh-out-loud page turner. Which it is. But it's all that plus also very smart and deep life lessons. I couldn't put it down - now I can't wait to get out there and direct my f*cks where they actually belong.
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She stole the hard work of two authors and tried to create something of her own. Normally I wouldn't go out of my way to write a review but this is clearly a 1-star and she should be ashamed of trying to 'make it' by misleading people.
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I really wanted to like this book, I mean come on, The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a ****?. You gotta love it. But I had to stop after 30 minutes and here are the four reasons why.

1. The author, Sarah Knight, goes to great pains to explain how her book was inspired by Marie Kondo and her book The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up and how her book was modeled after it. I am a great fan of Marie Kondo's book and this claim is one reason I decided to try Ms. Knight's book. I will just say, if imitation is the sincerest form of flattery then Ms. Kondo need not be flattered.

2. I found that I already don't give a ****. I mean, if this was a college course I would have passed with honors. In fact, I could have written the book, well if it wasn't for the words and the actual writing part, but I could have come up with the concept for it. She didn't impart anything to me that I didn't already know.

3. The narrator (also the author) has a serious case of "vocal fry". For those who don't know what vocal fry is think Britney Spears or the Kardashians. “Vocal fry” is that guttural growl at the back of the throat, as a Valley girl might sound if she had been shouting herself hoarse at a rave all night. The less charitable refer to it privately as painfully nasal, and to young women in conversation sounding like ducks quacking. “Vocal fry” has joined more traditional young-women voice mannerisms such as run-ons, breathiness and the dreaded question marks in sentences (known by linguists as uptalk). Anyway, I could probably have lived with it if the the information being imparted transcended the annoying voice mannerism, but it did not.

4. At some point about a half hour in the author gives some examples of what she gives a **** about and what she doesn't give a **** about. Three examples:

1 - Don't give a **** - A nuclear Iran. Give a **** - Climate Change. Really? A nuclear Iran doesn't bother you, but climate change does? Obviously a liberal. Deal killer.
2 - Don't give a **** - College Football. Give a **** - Campus Rape. Really? Campus Rape. Obviously a feminist. Deal killer.
3 - Don't give a **** - The Pope. Give a **** - Reese Witherspoon's latest Instagram. Really? Reese Witherspoon? Obviously an airhead. Deal killer.

It was at this point I decided I didn't give a **** and gave up.
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