The Empowered Woman's Guide to Pleasuring a Man (Kerner)

Excellent!!! Interesting, engrossing, informative. Essential information given from a man's perspective. A great find for the woman who is genuinely interested in male sensuality and psyche. Should be a mandate for all to read this one. Seriously. Get it.

This book does everything and more. I have used this book to get closer to my boyfriend and he has opened up quite a bit, which was my objective. We always had good sex, but now he is more verbal about telling me how satisfied he is. I read the entire book starting at the beginning and then took bits of information and used them when we were together, having to return to the book to hone my skills, as it takes a little time to get everything right, but it's been amazing. I did not tell my boyfriend about the book, as I think he would have felt like I was mechanical in some way, which you did need to pay attention to, because in the beginning I think I was a bit mechanical and as I went back to the book, I became more natural and my boyfriend more satisfied. This is an excellent reference and will keep things fresh. I highly recommend it.

This book does everything and more. I have used this book to get closer to my boyfriend and he has opened up quite a bit, which was my objective. We always had good sex, but now he is more verbal about telling me how satisfied he is. I read the entire book starting at the beginning and then took bits of information and used them when we were together, having to return to the book to hone my skills, as it takes a little time to get everything right, but it's been amazing. I did not tell my boyfriend about the book, as I think he would have felt like I was mechanical in some way, which you did need to pay attention to, because in the beginning I think I was a bit mechanical and as I went back to the book, I became more natural and my boyfriend more satisfied. This is an excellent reference and will keep things fresh. I highly recommend it.

I bought this book because other reviews stated that it was well written. I mainly bought it for fun (fairly clean) reading. However, it was incredibly insightful. I honestly didn't think I would learn anything, and thought this might be similar to an article featured in Cosmo Magazine, etc. Much to my surprise, I actually did learn a few things about men, and why they are, the way they are. (Or why their body reacts in certain ways.)

Overall, very insightful, clean, well written. If you want a good laugh, an interesting read, and are willing to put down your guard and learn a few things about men you never realized you didn't know, then this is the book for you !!

I thought there was some really good advice in this book however I think there is an expressed sort of naiveness too in it. Its all well and good to think about sexybill & wildsue "maybe" living out some of their fantasies online- but really- it sounds like his patients have been glossing over reality a bit. The reality is that if you join some online sex video community there ain't no beating around the bushes for too long. Next thing you know you'll be finding boundaries you didn't even know you had & crossing them & ....

Well anyway. A little can go a long way & sometimes its just a short drop to dressing up in leathers & getting f-ed in all the wrong orifices by strangers. Ya know?

Maybe I already took some courses in hand jobs & kegel exercises and don't want to give head either. Its not just a "natural" course and direction and believe that is implied in this book partially because of an author (male) bias towards receiving it. More like the empowered man's (Ian Kerner's after making you believe he knows what he's talking about by that point) guide to pleasuring a man.

We will never bow down, we will never surrender.

That is empowerment last I looked.

This will be an eye-opener for many. Well written. Fun to read. Can lead to more inspired lovemaking. (May repulse those who don't appreciate oral sex.) Look for the author's corresponding book for men who want to know how to really wow their women. (Same caveat applies here.)

Really enjoyed authors other book called She Comes First. But being a straight girl felt I should give this a try. Nothing like the first book. Majority of the book is just anecdotes about girls experience in keeping the spice alive in their sex life. Great story for magazines, not for a book that can only be bought as hard back. And is that supposed to be some kind of joke? Only offered hard cover?

Anyway, I don't need a book to tell me guys like being sent nudes and watching their significant other masturbate. Not worth buying, but do read his other book. It's quite empowering.

After being together for about 8 years our sex life really started going down hill. We tried things to spice it up and nothing seemed to be working. We decided to try the book route so my wife picked out this book based on all the amazing reviews. It showed up quick and she read the whole thing cover to cover. She says she learned a little about how a mans body works and functions, but other than that she said the book was totally useless and she learned nothing that she could put to use to help us. Just one opinion out of many, so though useful for some, just not us.

Good info. I'd definitely take some of the advice with a grain of salt.For instance, I really don't like the idea of fantasizing about someone else while I'm having sex with my husband being something that is classified as "normal and encouraged". Fantasy is great, but fidelity is even better. the best sex is in a committed relationship, and commitment to me begins in the mind.

Not as illustrated as "She Comes First" which would help I think. My problem was getting my lady to read it fully. She was put off by exactly what I want her to be enthusiastic about. Perhaps over time

Oh my - such a disappointment I actually wrote Dr. Kerner and requested my money back. I don't know if I reviewed "She Comes First", his other book he wrote prior to this one. That book? 5 Stars. This book? 0 Stars, but that wasn't an option. This book was boring, banal, and had no new information to offer me. If you want the technical details about how to sexually please a man, there are MUCH better books on the market. This book will offer you about 5 minutes of warmth if you throw it in the fire - that's about all it is good for. If you want to understand the male psyche, so many more books with real information. This book just reiterates what other authors have already said - WAY too many quotes throughout the book. Maybe the male psyche is so pathetically shallow that there is a finite amount of information out there and it has been expended - but I don't believe that. I think the male population is as complex as the females, but in opposite areas - which is why men and women come together so well. (this is NOT a LGBT bash - just being simplified here). The only reason I finished the book is a weird sense of obligation and desperate hope it would get better.

The anatomical diagrams and instructions on sexual acts were helpfully detailed (I would have appreciated more diagrams to accompany the sex acts, just to illustrate the things that are verbally told to expect. I'm a visual learner). I appreciated the friendly tone and clear language. I own the Kindle version of the book, so I had to go to the Appendix to find some of the illustrations, which was an inconvenience. This may or may not be the case for the print version.

However, I found some of the explanations of male and female psychologies to be simplistic, and catering to many socially-constructed gender stereotypes (granted, given how socially-enforced and pervasive many gender norms are, can we blame the author?). Some of it just seemed like plain pseudo-science. Perhaps I'd be more considerate if the author's tone seemed a little less "authoritative" regarding such matters.

I had read “She Comes First” and really enjoyed it; so I have been interested in this book ever since.

Unfortunately, this book seems to be out of print because it’s rarely available on the store. Luckily, I found this book at my local library and just finished it this week.

I found it to be very insightful and worthwhile especially if you can convince the women in your life to read it.

A lot of the more emotional, connection/confidence chapters were stuff I already knew. However, there were still a lot of insights into men's attitudes towards sex that were new to me, and very helpful.

Overview of the male anatomy was very helpful too.

The title of this review should perhaps read, "Especially for Senior Gals Like Me."

A friend that turned me and my husband onto the Seasoned Romance, Book One: Ten surprising interviews with age 60-plus men and women who reveal candid, often-intimate details about their secrets for loving, long-term relationships (Volume 1) and She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman books also mentioned PASSIONISTA.

I ended up buying all three mainly for me, but my husband has read all three books, too.

He says he feels more confident in understanding what makes me tick, and I have sure enjoyed what both of us have learned.

I enjoyed all three books because I've realized how little I know about pleasuring my husband. I always tried to please him, but I came from a generation that simply never talked much about what really, really pleases us.

That's all changing, and viva la change!

Best of all, we've both been inspired to get into better shape so we can enjoy more of what we are learning about lovemaking and each other. Just the past few weeks of working out more and watching what we eat better has boosted our sex life to higher peaks than I would have dreamed.

The subtitle of this book: THE EMPOWERED WOMAN'S GUIDE TO PLEASURING A MAN. Boy howdy, that says a mouthful. Literally! (That's one racy joke I would have never written before reading these books, that's for sure!)

I can't wait to see what the next few months hold as we continue to work out together and enjoy the mutual benefits.

I would recommend this book to anyone. I was amazed at what I learned and just applying a few of the techniques in this book will maximize your and your partner's experience.

As the author conveys throughout the book, the secret to having an exciting relationship in the bedroom is to first have an exciting one outside of it.
I enjoyed this book, but didn't really feel that Dr. Kerner provided enough detail on the workings of the male body. The book seemed to lack depth and felt rushed along. A good jumping off point. It's easy to think from She Comes First that that's what this book is going to be about, but really it's just a small piece of a bigger idea.

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While there is a modicum of interesting information in here, it's almost word for word his other book, "Be Honest: You're Not That Into Him Either."

He just tries too hard to be cutesy and it just makes him sound like a smug jerk who knows everything, including everything inside every woman's head. Pass.

Much more than a collection of explicit techniques, this book provides insight into the hows and whys of male sexuality. It provided a platform from which I've been able to affect the sexual enjoyment of not just my lover, but also that of myself. I often used the pause button to absorb the information. I am very happy with this purchase.