A Story of Triumph and Forgiveness - A Man Named Dave

ByDave Pelzer

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★ ★ ★ ★ ☆
linda wager
Dave Pelzer has been treated very badly by his mother for about 20 years. she has put amonia in a bucket and locked him in the bathroom so he couldn't breath. she ezpected him to do everything for her. he was her slavee. she would hit him and not let him eat but she woild come up with excuses so that she didn't turned in for child abuse. He was always tring to get away from her but she just kept making up excuses and stuff so she could have a slave. When he finally got away he was old enough to join the air force and he was tring to fifill his childhood dream by becoming a firefighter like his dad was and he was going to join the air force so he could well after about a month he was in the air force they told him that he wouldn't be able to be a firefighter yet! His dad was in the hospital and so he took off work so he could go see him. He tried to get his mom to go see him but she woildn't and she wouldn't she earased her little kids memory from having a brother and he was sad.

My opinion is that the book gave good advise to those who do have abuseive parents. I was always looking forward to having to read in homeroom because it was a really good book. i didn't want to putit down!! Wow that was not the only one who didn't want to put it down.
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
josh haslam
Have you ever wondered how people overcome abuse? The nonfiction book, A Man Named Dave, shows how he gets abused by his alcoholic mother. The author of the book is Dave Pelzer. This book is a story of triumph. Dave Pelzer triumphs over the abuse from his mother, who, badly hurts him. For example, Dave gets burned on the stove. Another example of his mother's cruelty is when she makes him sniff ammonia.

Dave Pelzer doesn't tell anyone that he is getting abused. His mother doesn't abuse his brothers; she only abuses Dave. She makes him sleep on a cot in the garage and starves him. Dave has to sneak to get food. For food his mother gives him garbage. I think that kids shouldn't be abused because if you are going to be abuse your kid than you shouldn't have a child. The nurse realizes that he was getting abused when she says "Your Adam's apple is swollen."

I can relate to this because a lot of people get abused. Also, people don't tell other people that they are getting abused. They need help to live through child abuse. I recommend this book to all teenagers and preteens they will understand that abuse is wrong. It can also inspire those who are being abused.

By: Natasha Rosen
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
First of all I would like to say that nit picking a few details in the series of three books is pretty petty. The books were written by a man that not only had to relive his childhood to write these stories, he had to open his heart up to this pain that know one could know but Dave. I am happy that he choose to help those of us out there that were to scared to really admit that we had to face the reality of abuse. I too along with many others are happy that we have the help of these three books. I get upset because some people comment about the story and it's being true or not. My question to them is... Have you ever been locked out of your home and not fed for a week at a time and then steal from your neighbors so you can eat? Have you ever been duct taped to a bed and abused physically and mentally or perhaps beat with a belt till you brusied and in some cases bleed? All because I stole a piece of bread ??? The list could go on and on, but that is pretty much the just of what I am tring to get across. If you have not lived that situation then do not doubt the words of those that have. Consider yourselves lucky to have had a real happy childhood. Oh yes, I too forgave my Mom and Dad and I feel like that was the right thing to do.
Surviving a Childhood of Abuse - A Brother's Journey :: A Foster Child's Search for the Love of a Family - The Lost Boy :: A True Story of Child Abuse (Shannon's NH Diaries Book 1) :: My Story :: HUSH
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lawrence medina
This book with make your gut ache & your eyes water endlessly. Dave's story of survival is a remarkable one, & books like this one are important in shedding a light on the cruelties inflicted on children DAILY in our country. So many of us would love to believe that these don't happen...or that they happen "somewhere else," but they happen everyday...EVERY day....next door, down the street. Did you know that children die EVERY day in our country at the hands of child abuse? It is an epidemic of monstrous proportions, & books like Peltzer's shed a light on that epidemic...that plague. People don't like talking about this subject, but it is so vastly important that we do start talking about it....cut the monster's feet out from under him. Thank you to Peltzer & authors like him that write the painful words to share their painful stories to cause people to talk about the painful epidemic that is America's. (Did you know that more children die EVERY year in the hands of child abuse than the total number of people who died in 9-11 & Pearl Harbor combined? America must wage a war against child predators!))
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
This is one son's survival of a harrowing childhood in which his mother, unhindered by any intervention, besieged her oldest child with imprisonment, starvation & torture. This is the third in David J. Pelzer's memoirs yet is complete unto itself.
Because of the childhood Dave survived he was uneducated in the ways of society & the military yet this resilient young man sets out to earn a career in the air force where he thrives. Along the way he marries the first girl he meets & has a son who gives his life meaning. Even though his marriage is fraught with trouble there are good times & when it finally ends it is done so with kindness.
When, after many years, he reconnects with his mother & visits her in the home of his childhood, we get to watch as the cobra mesmerizes her prey until... Must remember that Dave's childhood was before most of the laws about child abuse in the home were even thought of let alone enacted!
The truly inspirational transformation in Dave's memoir is his relationship with his dying father & the well of compassion & forgiveness he finds within. Then the love of his life enters & Dave is truly on the way to healing. All this while he has been giving talks about surviving abusive childhoods & writing books. In time he has become a major voice in the protection & survival of battered children. An amazing, heart-wrenching vital read! Highly recommended! For more of my reviews do check out [my website]
★ ★ ★ ★ ☆
I was dying to get A Man Named Dave since I wanted to know what became of Mother and Father and his siblings. I was also looking forward to finding out how Dave came to the point he now is at and what happened with the mother of his son.
Well this book gave more details to the Child Called It days. One problem is the first chapter contradicts the first chapter in A Child Called It and The Lost Boy. First of all March 5, 1973 was a Monday not a Friday. Second of all the last morning on both books seriously contradict one another. On A Child Called It...David gets breakfast for once, gets hit while doing dishes, gets a ride to school, has a lunch. On A Man Named Dave his last morning finds him getting thrown down the stairs, No lunch, walking to school. This is confusing...I do not try to nit pick but how can both versions of what happened be true unless he got several incidents mixed up with each other and unknowingly merged them into the one incident...
Other questions are what became of his brothers? Is Grandmother still living? Mother is dead and in Hell though. I was disappointed that she still blamed David for what she did. Also I am disappointed that he and his brothers lost touch.
I was glad to see that in spite of his tough life David has grown and continued to tell his story. Sad to say there are alot of David Pelzers out there. One thing positive though is abuse is no longer tolerated and action is taken when suspicion of abuse arrises.
Reading this book makes me feel as iff Dave is part of my own family. He has courage allowing us into his life as much as he has. I am looking forward though to more TV appearences and the movie they plan on making.
Still David should have closely compared first chapters on the first and third books. This brings the rating down a bit.
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
I have read Pelzer's three books, starting with his first when it was published. He opened my heart and eyes. My name was stupid or fatty. I suffered nowhere near Pelzer's experiences, but it opened my eyes, memory and feelings and it was truly a good experience for me. Let it go. He expressed so well what I never could and helped in my healing process. In our generation I think many, like me, didnt know things were different because we knew nothing else. Misery was the reality.
Pelzer captures this so well in his story, including his journey and struggle into adulthood. Just to write his story had to be very difficult, because these are things you don't talk about. He takes us on his personal journey at a level we can all read and understand.
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arleen a
As a boy, Dave Pelzer was abused by his mother to the point of starvation, lack of clothes, and extreme brutality while his father did nothing but watch. Now as a grown man, David Pelzer struggles to deal with his past. Dave joins the air force and meets a woman named Patsy who tries to bring some fun into his life. Along the way, David receives a letter from his father who is dying. He visits his dying father and realizes that he must confront his mother. Will his mother tell him why he was the only one abused out of his whole family?

A Man Named Dave, written by Dave Pelzer himself, was an excellent sequel to A Child Called It, and The Lost Boy. Dave made you really feel like you were there and made you understand what he went through.

This novel is a great book about a man struggling to deal with his past while helping people that went through the same thing. I recommend it to anyone, especially to people who might have gone through the same thing.
★ ★ ★ ★ ☆
Man Named Dave is the ending in the trilogy of fantasticlly moving set. Dave Pelzer ,now a man, copes with life as an adult but his past never seems to leave him compleatly. The Books were so upseting at times that you feel compeled to read on. One of the things I did like about the books was in the beggining he lets us off the hook (read the books and you'll see what I mean).
Pelzer, now a man, learn how to put the past behind him and forgive those who wronged him. He shows how hard work and a never give in attitude. Pelzer is somone to be admired.
In closing in this last review I will give an overall of the three as a whole. These three books are not only a study in triumph and tragady but also in how people can do unspeakable things and get away with it. This is one of the most sickening case of child abuse I have ever heard of. This mans mother was a monster who you will dislike more than Pelzer becouse he has learned to forgive. The reader will have to also.
Thank you David Pelzer for these books.
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dmitry ivanchuk
I'm a senior in school, and I've been waiting desperately for this book. I cannot say enough how much I enjoyed reading how Dave got through all the crap he did, and became a good, normal person. I also want to tell the reader from NJ (Oct 12), who said there were contradictions: First, the first chapter in the last book was March 4 (not March 5). March 5 was in the first book, so of course there are different scenes!! Even as a teen, I know that! Secondly, maybe since Dave was writing the other books "through the eyes of a child", like he said in the front of the books, and since the kid was beaten and starved every day, maybe Dave wrote that it was a Friday in the first book because that's what the kid character actually thought! Maybe the kid lost track of time?! I did a book report on his books and heard Dave speak at a local school and he said he wanted to be as exact as possible, so he wrote what the kid thought at that time! Anyway, GREAT BOOK DAVE!! YOU HAVE LOTS OF FANS OUT HERE! WE LOVE YOU!!!
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
cindy mitchell
I read both "A Child Called It" and "The Lost Boy" last year and was stunned at the horror a child can go through and survive. The first two books in this trilogy about David Pelzer's life recount the extreme abuse he went through in his early years and follow him from his rescue to bouts in several foster homes. With "A Man Named Dave: A Story of Triumph and Forgiveness", Mr Pelzer allows us into the young adult years in his life as he marries and becomes a father. With honesty, he reveals the flaws in himself, his trouble with self esteem yet comes away as a person of great strength and intregity to the reader. With his mind set on success and being a better person, he moved forward in his life, not always without hardship and at the expensive of his first marriage, but eventually arrived at a place where he could heal the wounds from his old life and focus on his future. This book ends with hope and, utlimately, shows the determination of the human spirit. Through his own personal tragedy, Mr. Pelzer teaches us that we can overcome even the greatest and most fearful of circumstances---but we must believe in ourselves, work hard and be dedicated to making a better life. This trilogy of work can be looked at as several things: a set of autobiographies, a case study of child abuse and its effects, and self help. The abuse in the first two is hard to stomach, but if he could survive it as a small child, reading it can be no worse. Read these books and see if you don't come away realizing how important life is.
★ ★ ★ ★ ☆
benjamin heslin
OK, that's the conclusion of the whole story to tell. If you have read the first book, I would say you wouldn't wait to finish the trilogy. But if you happen to read the third book first, you would still be able to understand the essence of the background, whose brief illustration is included in this book.
This third book follows the life of Dave Pelzer from the age of 18-40. This is the next phase of life for him, now that he's no longer under the state's custody. Indeed he had been preparing himself for this. As he ventured out, the same questions still haunted him. I couldn't help be amazed at and sympathize with how he dealt with the issues, and in the long and gruelling process, turned them around. I cheered for his resilience, persistence, and faith.
Reading it made me question myself - do I appreciate life as it is for me, do I contribute enough for others? The book makes us ponder, and helps shape a wider perspective of life.
Indeed, it's a story of triump! Bravo, Dave!
★ ★ ★ ★ ☆
adam shand
A Man Named Dave is a very powerful book about a grown up boy who was abused, that searches to find peace between his mother ( who abused him) before time runs out. In this book, Dave Pelzer writes about his struggles to live his life (even as an adult) without feeling frightened by his abusive mother. Even though he is out of her reach for any physical harm, his heart turns and twists to get to know the mother that had hurt him physically and mentally as well. As the situation with his mother continues, Dave lives his life to find what he was missing all along. Through the midsts of broken hearts, death, caving relationships,wasted oppurtunities, and opened doors, Dave Pelzer comes out strong and makes the best out of all that he has left. His heart turns onto those who have been or are in a abusive situation. Dave Pelzer is a man who has gone through the worst and yet, truimps with a heart to live his life to the fullest.
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
lee wilson
As I read this book, I was so captivated and distraught at times. It touched me to the core and made me cherish and value life more. This is the last book of the trilogy by David Pelzer and the ending couldn't have been more befitting. How a beautiful family is destroyed due to the alcoholism of the parents stands at the core of this really brutal tale. If it was a work of fiction, one might just dismiss it, but the fact that a mother could be so brutal to her son, is just so very incomprehensible! The fact that the tragic life of Dave ends in triumph gives immense satisfaction to me as a reader. It's simply amazing how he survives through sheer determination and immense will power and eventually triumphs.
The most poignant lesson here is the human ability to forgive. And Dave does forgive his mom in the end, thereby making him a `real' man. His challenges in life did not leave him bitter and resentful, in fact they compelled him on a greater course in life whereby he helped millions of kids who have suffered like him.
★ ★ ☆ ☆ ☆
nahar rohit
I hate to say it, but compare to the first two - this book was disappointing. While it wasn't completely worthless; there was a significant amount of rambling and pages would go on with little point or connectivity. There was a hint at what may have made his mother the way she was, but no real answers. While there are many complexities in life we may never know, the previous books touted that "A Man Named Dave" held all the answers. It didn't. It was inspiring to see that he moved on with his life, but not without it's troubles. The chapter about his second wife just gushed of a "honeymoon" period with no real substance to their relationship or commitment. I think it is a must-read for those who have experienced the first two books, but be prepared to be less than dazzled.
★ ★ ★ ★ ☆
victoria rodr guez
When I met Dave Pelzer a few years ago, you could see the chips still in his teeth from his head being slammed against the counter. He showed off pictures of his wife Martha and his son Stephen. Also in his wallet, his father's badge, which choked him up as he talked about it.
This book is good, but not captivating like the first. I never quite understood why he felt that he needed to go back and see his mother. One thing that I didn't like about this book is how it talked so much about the writing of "A Child Called It". Though that is how the relationship between Dave and Marsha developed.
Another reviewer mentioned that he never explained why his mother had become so evil. I was thinking that too, but came to the conclusion that as a child, and even as an adult, he really didn't know. My personal guess would be mental illness and alcoholism.
It was also mentioned that he stayed loyal to his father until the end, and she wasn't sure why. If you read all 3 books, Dad stayed at the firehouse more and wasn't around. As a child, he idolized his father and his father never hurt him. I think Dave also saw more, especially when his father died, how his mother was toward his father and realized that's part of the reason he stayed away.
All in all, if you have read the first 2 books, you should read this one. You will see how Dave did in the Air Force and see how he handled things with his birth parents in his adult life.
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
molly rynn
Finally finished the third book, "A Man Named Dave" and it is truly wonderful to watch this lost boy's spiritual growth to become a person with a big heart. I admire David Pelzer's courage in telling us his path to forgiveness and become a self-reliant man with a loving heart. His story is meant to be known for us to learn. Learning a man who is truly passionate about inspiring other emotionally wounded individuals and having the determination to help these individuals is truly amazing. It is definitely a book that gives me some understanding about some of the abused individuals' lives are like. David Pelzer's investigation of his past, accepting and understanding his past and with the inspirational work gives us the light about healing the emotional wounds. It is a story I read once but will remember for the rest of my life, for the sake of learning forgiveness and appreciation in life.
★ ★ ★ ☆ ☆
david bjorne
This is the last book in the trilogy of Dave Pelzer's autobiography so you should really read the first two books to appreciate this one fully. They are A Child Called "It": One Child's Courage to Survive and The Lost Boy: A Foster Child's Search for the Love of a Family. In this book, David joins the Air Force, works hard, gets nowhere, allows a girl (Patsy) to move in with him and eventually marries her because she's pregnant with his child. Dave loves his son and is a good father to him but got divorced. Eventually, Dave moved to his favorite place by the river where he always wanted to live. Dave became a published author by writing about his childhood and fell in love and married his publisher. He then became a motivational speaker and helps give inspiration and advice to other kids who are struggling with their circumstances.

In spite of his terrible parents, he was able to forgive them and move on with his life. That, I think, was the most valuable lesson in the book. This book seemed slower moving than his others but it does provide the happy ending to show how far he came in life's journey. He is an incredible person! I recommend you read this book AFTER you finish the first two.

Karen Arlettaz Zemek, author of "My Funny Dad, Harry"
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
sean dashner
I began reading Dave Pelzer's books after seeing him in an appearence on the Montel Williams Show nearly seven years ago. His story was so heartbreaking I felt compelled to buy his book A Child Called It. Now in his last book of the trilogy, A Man Named Dave, Dave Pelzer takes us from age 18 to present day as we learn of his joys and sorrows and ultimately his triumph over such a tragic childhood.
Dave Pelzer is an inspiration to us all and I feel that anyone who needs a boost or finds themselves wallowing in their own self pity should read this book and see what you can do when you put your mind to it.
I particuarly enjoy the story about how Dave Pelzer meets his wife and found myself reading that section over and over again because it is so sweet.
A very enjoyable book full of love, sadness and eventually joy, this is a book everyone should read.
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
Thank you for this book! I found so much of me in there. To this day I continue to struggle with speaking and looking others in there eyes. The feeling of worthlessness. Fought to prove myself 'worthy' even today my siblings are stuck in a vorteck of my worthlessness and I can not be part of them. I get it they need things to be okay, yet my need to feel I am okay it not possible. Sorry for my ramblings.... I thank you for that connection for the tibit of knowledge from someone who really has been to the far side and survived.
★ ★ ★ ★ ☆
jen alford
The language is very simplistic for the most part, and this is probably due to his abuse holding him back from a quality education and social life to learn to be around others more easily. That is the only thing that makes this 4 instead of 5 stars.

The story shows how Dave has started to mature with his new circumstances and how his new wife Marsha opens his eyes to the kind of person he really is. Reading this book just makes me want to befriend Dave that much more. He has such great character is makes me cry to see people take advantage of him. I hope he has learned from his mistakes and does not let other people abuse and stomp all over him. I hope he can improve his vocabulary too because I feel like it will take him a long way.
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fee doyle
Thank you! Thank you for sharing your story with the world. You are a very generous person and I only wish I could be at least a little bit as strong as you have been during the times my life has not been that easy. Thank you for teaching me to be stronger. I only wish the whole world would read your books so that they also would learn to be the best they could be and be strong along the way. I feel now that I want to read more and more because of your books. I am sure a lot of people have said this to you, but I wish I could have been there for you. As I was reading your first book, I had tears in my eyes most of the time. Now that I have finished your third book, My eldest step son, finished with the first one and is on the 2nd one. My youngest son is reading the first one and my husband will also read them to. Thank you for taking your time to write those books and thank you again.
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
I have read all three of Dave Pelzer's books and I want to comment that this man has alot of strength for someone who has gone through alot of severe abuse and numerous foster homes. No child should ever be abused because today if parents did what Dave's mother did, there these parents can be locked up behind bars. Dave's mother was a true alcholic, but I think she may have some severe mental problems. It surprises me though in her mental state, she did not treat her other children the way she treated Dave. One thing that is disturbing is that Dave's father never attempted to rescue him from a situation that was so horrifying. The sad part about Dave's father is that he too, was an alcoholic so, he wasn't exactly in his right state of mind even though he knew precisely what went on with Dave. I recommend that people read this book to get a real understanding of how abuse can affect a person's life.
★ ★ ★ ★ ☆
bluma schneider
After reading the Lost Boy and A Child Called "It" Ihad to read the last installment of this compelling trilogy to findout if Dave did indeed confront "the Mother". Reading thisbook last, I thought is was not as "raw" as the shocking andhorrific stories told of Dave's abuse in the first two books. It wasobviously more crafted and skillfully edited by his wife Marsha, whomyou read about in this book. Although at times found myself skimmingsome pages to get to the important parts, this book is a must read. Atsome points it summarized points in the other books, which Iunderstand is necessary if this book is to be read first. Certainlyyou could read this book without reading the others because of thesynopsis; however, the rawness of the beginning stories is what Ifound most compelling as a reader. Either way, Dave's story isinspriational and important.
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
As a new author, I find this book to be truly inspiring and emotionally engaging. The author, Mr. Dave Pelzer, grabs you from the beginning to the end, keeping you begging for more. The book is a MUST READ! .... I loved it and definitely would recommend it to many!!!

Anthony D. Woods
c/o Velvet Tears: Breaking the Silence
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
The final book in Dave Pelzer's memoir series, A Man Named Dave, brings his story to a final close. Many questions that I know I, as a reader, found myself asking, and I'm sure you as well, were finally answered, or at least, understood on some level. This book reads much more fluid, detailed, and full of energy than his first two books, which was very fitting in creating the sense and feel of a boy who had grown into a man. I thoroughly enjoyed reading Dave's stories and felt very inspired myself after having watched Dave himself come through all of his struggles shinning at the end. A wonderful series of books, a must read for everyone.

Again, a big thanks to Dave for sharing this with us. He's an inspiration to us all!
★ ★ ★ ☆ ☆
The final chapter in David Pelzer's chilling autobiography could be considered a "must read," but not quite a "must buy." David once again shows the dark side to his battered childhood and the changes and growth he has come through as an adult. As David illustrates his changes as a person from the time he was rescued from the home of his abusive mother, to the time he finds the true love of his life, he keeps the reader actively involved. Not only do we want to reach out and comfort him during the hard times, but also show him the correct way to survive his daily life. Every step of the way Pelzer keeps us thinking, and never fails to keep readers totally enthralled in his third masterpiece. However, if you have read the first two books in this trilogy, you may want to check this one out at the library. Repeat readers may become bored within the first few chapters, when Pelzer overlaps into the second book, and in the frequent flashbacks he uses throughout. Perhaps if the author illustrated more heavily on the present and his adult life, the book could be a must buy. But the repetition of the details from his childhood creates a "put you to sleep" type feeling. Overall, this is a good writing, but definitely not his best work.
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eva townsend
The book "A Man Named Dave" is a sad book. It is a non- fiction book about a boy and his adolescence. Dave was abused by his mother, who was an alcoholic. His dad was never at home when Dave was young so he never knew what Dave's mother did to him. There was a couple of times that Dave would try to tell his dad about what his mother did to him but his father never paid any attention. There was a few times when I didnt think Dave would make it out of his mother's little "schemes." Dave's mother did a lot of things that were cruel and nearly fatal. I really like this book because it was full of suspense and sorrow. I couldnt put this book down becauseI was always wondering what would happen next. If you are looking for a book that is a true story and looking for quick reading material then this is the book for you! By; Dave Pelzer, 284 pages
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sam mowry
It is appalling that a mother would do this to her own child. What has been done to bring this woman to justice? In my opinion, she's no better than the Beast of Buchenwald! However, I never understood why his father allowed it. His father was a firefighter; a public servant. He would not even protect his own child. I know he drank, but that was no excuse.
The school personnel and caseworkers who sought to get him out of that situation ought to be given a medal. Many would have talked to the Beast and accepted her rationalizations, knowing better, but just not wanting to go to the trouble. Others would say "the family should be together, no matter what". Whatever their excuses, a little boy was the one suffering beatings and starvation and extreme indignities, not them.
Teachers, ER personnel, and caseworkers should be held accountable for not speaking out and adequately aiding a child who is being abused. If he or she has to answer to a court of law for not taking action to remove that child from the abusive situation and the child dies or is disabled due to the abuse, that might help children in such horrible situations.
I've talked to POW's who have received similar treatment. It scarred them for life; they were grown and suffered at the hands of nonfamily.
This book ought to be required reading for all.
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john nondorf
It is appalling that a mother would do this to her own child. What has been done to bring this woman to justice? In my opinion, she's no better than the Beast of Buchenwald! However, I never understood why his father allowed it. His father was a firefighter; a public servant. He would not even protect his own child. I know he drank, but that was no excuse.
The school personnel and caseworkers who sought to get him out of that situation ought to be given a medal. Many would have talked to the Beast and accepted her rationalizations, knowing better, but just not wanting to go to the trouble. Others would say "the family should be together, no matter what". Whatever their excuses, a little boy was the one suffering beatings and starvation and extreme indignities, not them.
Teachers, ER personnel, and caseworkers should be held accountable for not speaking out and adequately aiding a child who is being abused. If he or she has to answer to a court of law for not taking action to remove that child from the abusive situation and the child dies or is disabled due to the abuse, that might help children in such horrible situations.
I've talked to POW's who have received similar treatment. It scarred them for life; they were grown and suffered at the hands of nonfamily.
This book ought to be required reading for all.
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This is one in a three part series and a very serious true story set in California.
Dave Pelzer took the right step and wrote his autobiography starting from a young boy.
He suffers the terrible mental and physical abuse at the hands
of his very mother who brought him into this world. His mother Catherine an alcoholic and demented woman treated Dave with less dignity than her dogs, leaving him with very poor morale and a smallness and emptiness making him wish sometimes that she would just kill him.
I'm glad that Mr. Pelzer had the courage to write this book because it should be helpful to teachers, social workers especially those dealing with abused kids and councellors. In fact all people who work with children should read this book and enlighten themselves of the terror our children are made to face by their own kin..
No human being should be made to suffer the inhumanity that Dave did, and I must applaud him for coming forward to tell his tale. Thanks Mr. Pelzer and so glad that you are doing so much better these days.....now in your adult life.
Heather P. Marshall
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susan procter
If you need a little inspiration; you need to read this book. If you are searching for a book that makes you want to give back to your community or humanity; this is the one.
However, I do believe that if you have read the first two novels from Dave's autobiographical trilogy A MAN NAMED DAVE may be a little dissapointing. Pelzer's third installment was quite redundant and gave way too many details about his recollections. At times it was hard to get through a chapter because he droned on. Especially since I had read many of the details in his past two novels.
But writing style and repetitiveness aside, the message Dave is trying to convey is still enlightening and clear. The human spirit is a glorious thing and it can empower us to become better people and overcome gaping pot holes and bumps in the roads of our lives.
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
valerie sullivan
A Man named Dave tells the story of one man's incredible journey through hell and how when as a child he endured the most appalling abuse by his mother. This is gut-wrenching stuff, not for the squeamish. It reveals the courage and strength Dave possessed as well as his ability to forgive his mother. Its a story of triumph and forgiveness.
I'm so pleased that Dave has the most extraordinary relationship with his son and with the love of his life Marsha. Dave, I sincerely pray that you, Marsha and Stephen live happy ever after - you deserve it. Dave also unselfishly helps other abused children and travels extensively to offer guidance and motivational talks. Dave you are truly an amazing person.
You think you had a bad childhood, read this book and you'll soon find out what bad really means. This book is so inspirational to not only abused children, but to anyone who is interested in the resilience of the human spirit.
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
The book A Man Named Dave by Dave Pelzer was an awesome book. It is a true story with amazing details showing how cruel his mother really was. It tells people reading that there really parents that abuse there children and that there are many kids still being abused by their parents and we need to help them. In this book it tells the reader how Dave's life turned out after escaping his mother. It tells how he feels and reacts when he joins the military, when his father dies and when he finds his brother Russell. I thought this book was great! I would give it five stars. I would recommend this book to anyone who has read Dave Pelzer's other books A Child Called It and The Lost Boy and enjoyed them.
★ ★ ☆ ☆ ☆
sergio maggi
The last in the trilogy, this book will bring you up to date with David's current situation. Yet, this book lacks both the charm of the earlier works, and the focus that years of separation (from the time of the experiences to the time of the writing) was able to bring to his work. The book reads like a journal written to help him work through his emotional problems--as suggested in the title, you will follow every single thought he has on his way to finding forgiveness. The book is exhausting in the way that books are that are not interesting to read, but that you feel like you should finish....
And while you will find the answers to many of the questions you asked yourself while reading the two earlier books, A Child Called "It" and The Lost Boy, Mr. Pelzer's editor (whom he married, which may explain some things) should have encouraged the same kind of preciseness and focus that characterized his earlier works. More, in this case, is definitely not better. Read only if you simply must find out what happened after David left the foster care system, and be prepared to feel terribly unsatisfied at the end.
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A Man Named Dave by Dave Pelzer is the inspiring conclusion to the trilogy also including A Child Called It and The Lost Boy. This suspenseful and inspiring novel teaches its readers the importance of strength and perseverance. Through Pelzer's adult experiences and remembrances of his past childhood, one learns that strength and determination are able to help one survive anything.
As a grown adult in this last book, the reader sees Pelzer still struggling with his childhood experiences. The ways in which Pelzer's mother treated him as a child have left him with a lifelong feeling that he is unworthy of the rest of the human race, and that he had done something to bring this upon himself. All through A Man Named Dave, Pelzer faces infinite struggles in finding himself and finding his place in the world. This novel follows Pelzer's journey from a confused boy to an admirable man, and along his way, one realizes that he too, can successfully complete his journey.
A Man Named Dave conveys a fitting conclusion to the story of an amazing man. In the struggles, defeats, and more importantly, in the triumphs of Dave Pelzer, a story of human strength is told. Pelzer's tale of his inspirational journey is one in which everyone should share, and teaches that with strength and determination, one might accomplish anything.
★ ★ ★ ★ ☆
In "A man named Dave", Dave Pelzer's final book in his autobiographical trilogy, we learn the struggles and questions Dave is faced with as he grows and matures and becomes a parent himself. We learn of the insecurities, the sense of loss and frustration, and ultimately, forgiveness and peace. If you've ever felt lost and confused by the hardships of life (and who hasn't?) then this book helps ease that confusion a little. And, despite the horrid abuse suffered by Dave, he doesn't speak down or act condescending to the reader regarding their own struggles, but rather writes with the conviction that pain is pain, but that we are, if we really want to, inherently strong and good enough to overcome and move on.
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
The first time I ever picked up a book written by Dave was the book " A child call "it" ", a friend was reading it and I began to read the book, while she went to do something. I never was able to put the book down after that, and had to purchase the three books. I was woman on a mission, I could not stop reading, until I found out what happened to Dave, and how he was doing, dealing with his pain. For a week I could not put the books down, helpiing me deal with issues in my childhood and at the age of 35 I was ready to make complete peace with myself. Like Dave I stuggled to have a happy life, and fight to accomplish my goals, and finding out I was my own worst enemy, but could not help but have that little peace in me that sometimes took control of me from my past. I knew from an early age inorder to break the cycle of my childhood, I must make my children's life loving, trusting, caring, and secure, and pass on a great memory to my children. This book will not only help you to understand others who have gone through child abuse issues ,but if you are a child from abuse. This book is a great road map to over coming your fears. I would have to say out of all 3 books I have read, this is my favorite. Dave gave me the strength to continue to strive. Dont get me wrong the other books are well needed to get the full effect of this book, and they do in deed keep you on the edge of your seat (great books as well), but this book helped me the most, being an adult I found Dave's story to be close to my heart. I cant wait to read his newest book "Help yourself" . This book is for anyone who cares about the well being of the future of our children, helping to reconize a child in need of rescue.
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I have a great deal of respect for Mr. Pelzer for a variety of reasons. First of all, with gut-wrenching honesty, he shares the secrets of his life to an innumerable amount of people. Abused people share this "don't ask, don't tell, and for heaven's sake don't feel" secret. Mr. Pelzer took his experience and overcame all of those barriers, which takes a great deal of strength and emotional maturity. Secondly, Mr. Pelzer has taken delicate issues and instead of turning his story into a platform for berating the system and people involved with the torture of his life, he has respectfully shed light on the flaws while also showing the beauty of the strengths. It takes a great amount of maturity and healing from one's past to simply not blame all of life's misfortunes on a "failed system." He takes responsibility for his adolescent acts, and also shows the depth of desire and hope that he felt and that others instilled in him.

Despite everything he has endured, I never once felt he was simply out to "abuse" anyone for their treatment of him; in other words, he was never out to verbally attack those who tortured him, the system that failed at times, and the onlookers who gawked. He delicately and respectfully (although I'm not sure I could have done it!) addressed those to whom responsibility was due, and faced responsibility on his own.

Dave, I'm not sure how you survived and lived to tell about it, but I will tell you that your story inspired me to follow my heart and fulfill my dreams of helping others who find themselves trapped in abusive situations. As a surviver of marital abuse, I can only hope I can offer a sliver of what you have given. Thank you.
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
jill williams
I have read Dave's books and his story is one of unbelievable horror and sadness and heartbreak. I couldn't put the book down as I sat with tears rolling down my face. I just cannot imagine a mother being able to be so abusive and hateful to her child. It was appalling. If you think you have a bad life, or a tough spot in the road, read this book. It will make you appreciate what you have. I have to say, this is the worst case of child abuse I have ever heard of.
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
jack metier
I would recommend this heartbreaking book to others to help them appreciate what they have. It is important to learn and sympathize with others who live such difficult lives. This book was very interesting and I could not put it down. The story keeps the readers attention because of its emotional nature. Dave has written many stories about his life and I have now read three of them. I look forward to reading another book of his collection. I find it amazing how he lived through the abuse although his mother tried to kill him. I respect Dave Pelzer because he has successfully lived through life despite his tragedy.
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
noah rosenthal
What to say. The whole story left me breathless, staring into space, uncomprehending, wishing I could turn back time and remove that little boy from his terrible fears and desperation. Yes, it is a "fantastic" book, though "fantastic" doesn't seem the right adjective as his story is so terribly sad.

What's most amazing -and uplifitng- is the third part, as the back cover of the book says "a remarkable tale of survival and the triumph of the human spirit over adversity". THAT is fantastic. I'm so glad Dave escaped his terrible fate and is now helping others. He is an inspiration to say the least.
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
vicky swinney
This book was as touching as all the rest. I especially liked the part about his wife, Marsha, I got butterflies. This man is an inspiration and I'm so glad that he was brave enough to tell his story, the whole story to the world. As a victim of child abuse, it's encouraging to see a story of someone who made it good, and stopped the cycle.
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
matt darling
The series that Dave Pelzer wrote is perhaps the strongest and most gripping text I've ever read. It describes such evil that it makes you want to escape this brutal world never to return. I forced myself to read it though and am now glad that I did so - cause I can feel how his story helps me as I am sure it helps everyone and I see now how he deliberatly left himself out to make others see exactly how it is possible to achieve miracles.
He fought from nothing. He kept doing one stupid misstake after the other and was put down so many times that it would have been enough to make him give in to his poor esteem and give up. He never did though. Even though he was feeling a fool and not good enough to talk to anyone - he did what was in his heart to do - and he reached all the goals he ever had - maybe not in a way he had foreseen but somehow it was a product of his endless fight against his past and towards the goal of becoming something good. If you can find that poise that he has - and why would it be impossible? - then why would you not be able to do the same thing?
Strangely I think this simple message finally got to me through this his last book. These three books have become as important to me as "tuesdays with Morrie". The goal with Dave's books - I see now - is to expose himself so that others - probably first hand the ones in his former situation - can see and truly feel that happiness can be achieved with seemingly no means at all. But still, without any people believing in you and telling you that (contradiciting your inner voices that tell you you're worthless or the like) noone can truly make it. He gives away the key to fokus on your own fight and allowing yourself to listen to the good things people say as opposed to taking the bad things to your heart and letting them eat to you. I think if you can make yourself read all of these books then you should definitely do it.
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
s ach
A Man Named Dave was an inspiring book. it was about the survival and what a young man had to deal with after escaping the abusive clutches of his mother. Dave Pelzer tells about the obstacles he overcame, such as interacting with others, once he left his mother's house. He talks about his biggest fear of becoming like the mother he hates so much. I liked this book because it made me think about how I wanted to treat my children in the far future. I was shocked that a mother could cause her child such pain. I was amazed that such a small child could suvive such brutality and still grow up to be a great person. The book is a great ending to the three part series(A Child Called It, The Lost Boy). I can see the three of these books becoming a movie one day. I feel that people will be reading these books for years to come. A Man Named Dave was so well written that I couldn't put it down.
★ ★ ☆ ☆ ☆
sanchari banerjee
As others have said, Dave needed to put the litany of abuse, which I believe 100% he suffered, in more context. As an aspiring writer, he only ever reached the "therapeutic" writing stage, not the storytelling stage. It's too bad. He spent time and energy making three books that record his abuse without creating a story of healing.

Often, people who have been abused to the extent he was develop psychological disorders. From what I've researched, he at least has an attachment disorder (that he admits to.) How he didn't become an abusive person is pretty amazing, but I don't think he escaped unscathed. For one thing--two divorces. He didn't recover enough to form a healthy longterm relationship. For another thing--he comes off in his writing as rather superior and, well, unhealed. It's like he's saying, "Look. Look at what I endured. I handled it." Okay, he came through and became a public speaker. That is fantastic. But, with his memoirs, he could have shifted to a more "big picture" mode, a more compassion-for-all-the-abused mode.

He repeats himself way too much. And he does show inconsistencies. I do not think he is a liar at all. But in the first book, when his mom dislocates his arm, he says the doctor looked like he didn't believe his mom's fabricated story. In the most recent book, he says the doctor "didn't bat an eye." Well which was it? I believe Dave (understandably) is still caught in being a victim.

As far as why. A lot of readers have chimed in, some saying there is no "why." Oh yes there is. There is always a why. Having known people with personality disorders, and having been the recipient of abuse by a couple of them, I have learned quite a bit, and I can give a few good reasons as to the why of this abuse.

His mom was abused herself, in a very similar manner with the starving and being locked in a room. And getting hit and belittled. People who have been hurt like this often hurt others in the same ways. David was, as he points out in this book, a good-mannered child that many people loved (according to what he said his mom told him.)

She, a woman who exhibits a lot of Narcissistic Personality Disorder traits, could not stand that this little boy was getting extra positive attention. Furthermore, he was vulnerable, a small child who couldn't defend himself. In other words, an easy target. She needed to release her own pain, and he was the perfect receptacle. He even says she mentioned that to him.

When he got rescued, what did she do? Target the next-youngest child. So you see, it wasn't that Dave was the specific object of her twisted hate; she easily transferred that hate to Richard. Her unhealed psychological wounds needed an outlet. Narcissists quite often scapegoat and target one child while treating the others very well. That is common. She presented a near-perfect facade for the public and the extended relatives, while showing her true colors to the ones she abused.

She needed to unleash her pain. That is why she did what she did.

I believe his books could have a lot more far-reaching if he had developed himself more as a writer and applied much more of whatever therapy he went through.
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
kelsey graber
I discovered the David Pelzer books after seeing him on the Montel Williams show. I was so horrified by his story. . . and my heart went out to A Child Called It.
And I bought the book.
I've read all three. David's survival is truly a triumph. Most people would not have continued to live, let alone rise above the problems, let alone be able to talk about them.
David's tales are comparable to the horror stories of the Holocaust - except that the villain in his stories was someone who was supposed to love him. I do wish that I had found out exactly WHAT had triggered David's mother. If the only stimulation for her actions was alcohol, then this series may be the most powerful lesson in the world against liquor.
I appreciate David's sharing his story with us. It's one more reason to be grateful every day.
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
This book came weeks before the expected delivery date. Seller is on top of the shipping process! This book is absolutely heartbreaking. But the way he describes his experiences will suck you in. You won't want to stop reading.
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
I've read all of Dave's books and each one reminds me of my childhood years. I was an abused child and reading these books brought bad memories of my past. Tears filled my eyes. For the first time ever males such as Dave are writing "their" story about abuse. Not for "MONEY" as some critics have mentioned. But to help people like me. People who have suffered silently through such a terrible childhood. Men need to stop suffering silently. It is not wrong to "tell your story" and I admire Dave for doing just that. I truly recommend any boy/man to read his book. It will move you and hope, heal some wounds!
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
krista ling
This is the third book of the trilogy. It too is a good book. Dave enters the Air Force and is part of Desert Storm. He gets married to his first wife. He and his first wife have a son. Dave is very devoted to his son. Eventually Dave divorces his first wife. He received a JC Penney Golden Rule as well as one of the ten Oustanding Young People awards for his work with kids in juvenile detention centers. Dave meets Matsha whom he eventually marries.
It's a book about a young man who has overcome many obstacles to get where he is today. It is not easy for Dave because of his past.
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
nick morgan
The end of the trilogy. I finally got my head around part of what makes him so compelling. If you read what the marketers put together, you may think this is gloomy and such. Nope. It's about how he survived, and is therefore inspiring. But what finally comes together for me in this conclusion is the author's refusal to let me hate his mother the way I'd like to. Damn, life would be easier that way. Pelzer's no saint, mind you. He's human too. But dang, I really did want him to let me hate his mother. You can learn a lot from this guy, even if you do hate his mother.
★ ★ ★ ★ ☆
jaycee delorenzo
when i first got this book, i was so excited.. i heard about " A child called it" from my friend and she was always raving about how amazing the memoir was, i didn't know there was a second and third book and when i found them all grouped together i seized the chance and bought this edition, but i soon regretted it.. i loved the first part, "A child called it" was amazing and touching and it made me love my life and my family for being so good to me.. it made me realize that i have a lot of things to be grateful for. However, as i got to the second book it made me really depressed and i just couldn't continue reading..!

it sat there on my desk for three months now and i think it will be there for a longer time before i gather up the courage to go on reading..

it's an amazing book, but the amount of sadness and depressing reality makes it a trully heavy reading
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to a story that has and will continue to touch my heart. through years of abuse at the hands of "The Mother", an adult david still trys for her love. as someone reading this story, its hard to understand why one would continue to try after what she has put him through, but raising a child of my own, im reminded that my daughter only wants to be loved by me and will do almost anything to get that love. he has grown up to be a fine man, hard working, providing for his family and showing love to a child! in raising a child, he is able to see what a family is all about and that in itself has to be the best reward!
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james willis
"A Man Named Dave" is a sequel to the books, "AChild Called It", and "The Lost Boy." Although thefirst two books reveal all the horrific experiences this man endured as a child, this book reveals all the courage and strength he had and the power of forgiveness. When I read the first two books, after I read each one, I could not believe that a child could ever endure such apalling forms of abuse. I kept looking for closure, wanting to see his mother be held accountable and punished. I felt angry and frustrated that it was never revealed and couldn't believe this child was still seeking his mother's approval. When I started to read "A Man Named Dave", that is what I wanted the book to reveal. I was hoping to see her punished. As I started to read through the chapters of this book, I began to see things differently. Dave wanted the reader to see his experiences in a different view. He wanted to show the reader, instead of hate and punishment, forgiveness, which I never expected with all the anger I felt reading the first two books. In fact, I couldn't imagine. As you read what Dave is trying to say, you begin to see things differently. I believe that all his courage, strength, triumph, and success was her punishment. To see that he overcame this, is so incredible, it does bring closure to this issue in this particular case. It also brings a sense of relief. These are excellent books by Dave Pelzer and I encourage everyone to read them. Fortunately it is a very happy ending. Dave deserves and is truly blessed. What respect!
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
I have not read the books that preceded "A Man Named Dave", but I read this book and also Dave Pelzer's "Help Yourself". Both books were very well written and contained valuable advice. Although I still don't think I fully understand the concept of "forgiveness", I think this book explores the topic of forgiveness quite thoroughly. I think that Dave is an exemplary individual of honesty and integrity--because he had the courage to stand up and break the cycle.
There were a few times in the book that made me cringe. Each time Dave would go back to visit "The Mother" as a fully grown man, I just wanted to beat her to death. I wanted Dave to just stay away from her! However, through his visits with his aging and dying mother, I think Dave realized what a sad and pathetic person she was. I think that he understood that she was a raving lunatic and that the abuse was never his fault.
It was also heartbreaking to read about Dave's relationship with his father, a homeless alcoholic who never lifted a finger to protect little Dave or any of his children from his wife's wrath. Dave was starved, beaten, burned, and tortured on a daily basis by his mother. Dave was not allowed to be a part of the "family", and was forced to live in an unheated garage. His dad had once been a fireman, and Dave looked up to him, even though his dad never protected him or stood up for him. His dad ignored his wife's abusive behavior. Once his father abandoned the family and presumably became homeless, the Mother's daily attacks became even more vicious. However, Dave went to the hospital to be with his father as the former fireman died of cancer. He forgave his father, because Dave knew that he couldn't change the past. I don't know how Mr. Pelzer's heart has such forgiveness and compassion. Compassion is truly the mark of a great individual.
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sarah ensor
Although I have not read David's previous stories accounting his young life, "A Child Called 'It'" and "The Lost Boy", his conclusion to this trilogy certainly stands on it's own as we watch his life twist, turn, and unfold into an inspiring account of resilience, discovery, and happiness. This is a must read for ANYONE who feels they have been physically or mentally manipulated to believe they are anything less than a complete and capable human being. It is a victory for all of us who are searching our way through the dusk of our raising to discover and absorb the warmth within the rising sun of adulthood!
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ashlee hyatt
I enjoyed the book, as I have all of Dave's books.I do not hold any mailice towards those who hung me in that oak tree, burnt me on a stove, kicked me when I could take no more, forced me to eat human waste and molested me that sunny Easter morning when I lived in that Jacksonville, Florida orphanage. I have forgiven them for those acts.What I cannot forgive them for is how I feel today, as a grown man, because of what they did to me yesterday, as an innocent little six year old boy.Author, Roger Dean Kiser"Orphan, A true story of Abandonment, Abuse and Redemption."
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My mom inspired me to read "A Man Named Dave". She read it and decided I was mature enough at 15 years old to start reading David Pelzer's bestselling series. I'm so glad she recommended this book to me. It is without a doubt the most inspiring book I've ever read.
"A Man Named Dave", tells about the life of David Pelzer after turning 18 and going off on his own, taking on the responsibilities of an adult. This book describes the challenges and effects child abuse had on David Pelzer even years after he had been removed from his dysfunctional home. He told about how his mother's sick games affected him in his everyday life and how it made him into the man he is today.
There was absolutely nothing that I disliked about this book. The tactful ways that David described his real life experiences were informational without bringing you over the edge with complete hatred of his manipulative mother and his dysfunctional, biological family. My favorite part of the book was how I saw David handle his father's death and how it changed him into a better man. At first, I was outraged about the absolute love David still showed toward his father, but as I read on David described what his mother put his father through. I started to understand why David's father was the way he was, which ultimately helped me understand how David acted throughout the book.
Knowing people who have grown up in dysfunctional and abusive households, reading this book reminded me of experiences my friends have gone through. It also scared me to think about the experiences my friends didn't tell me about, and that's why I wouldn't recommend this book to anyone under age 14. For everyone else, "A Man Named Dave" is a book that gives you a great insight into the mind of an abuse victim and everything it takes to "forgive and forget".
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
carrie laben
The last part of this inspiring trilogy maps out the life of David Pelzer starting at the age of eighteen. He has to drop out of school to work so he can support himself. He insteads on joining the Air Force to become a firefighter, to follow in his father's footsteps. He is greatly disappointed when he finds that he will not be receiving the postion he had signed up for. He instead becomes a cook and has several doubts about himself and his self imagine. At this point David believes that he will never amount to anything just as his mother has told him.
One day while in the Air Force he recieves a call from his foster mother telling him that his father is very ill and that he must come home. He later finds out that his father has cancer and will not make it. He decides to visit his mother's home, where he is once again treated like "It". This leaves him feeling almost as though it was his fault that he was mistreated the way that he was.
When his father does die, he gives David his only prized item that he owns, his fireman badge. David gladly takes this knowing that it is very important to his father. He feels sadden but he feels like a better person for being able to be there in his father's time of need.
David later meets Patsy, who he marries and has a son with. After the treatment that he has gone through from his own mother, he finds it hard to trust Patsy. The two later get divorced, but David does not lose any contact with his son. It seems that his sonis the element he needed to beleive in himself.
David later tries to talk to his mother and ask her what he did wrong to make her mistreat him. She acts as though "It" and David are two totally different people. It is then that he decides that his mother truely is ill. He realizes that he must forgive her for what she has done.
I recommend this trilogy because it makes you try to do everything in your power to understand people. It makes you think twice about making fun of the "weird kid" and makes you think about their feelings and not just your own.
I think that it is great that he can openly share his horrible life with other children that may be experiencing that same abuse. David Pelzer is a great man for trying to influence children to talk to someone about their problems. He creates a safe agression release for the children that he speaks to. He helps them to find a way to get away from their anger and abuse.
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
erica heintz
I am a student working towords a degree in Crime Victims\Survivor Services and hope to continue on in the field to become a Social Worker and I just wanted to say that this is the best series of books that I have ever read. Dave is truely a hero and should be applauded more for the work that he has done for the world. While reading these books I actually found myself crying, or feeling his pain with him and also sharing in his joy. Dave, I wish that their were more people like you in this world with your courage!!!
★ ★ ★ ★ ☆
alina balusescu
I recommend this book because it tells the story of what really happened in the Pelzer household. It made me laugh, cry, and even worried about what will happen to David. The scary thing about life is that you never know who is being abused or being an abuser until you know them personally. Also, you should report child abuse right when you witness/ hear about it because if you wait then it might be too late. Dave Pelzer kept me reading until the end. I am looking forward to reading the rest of the series.
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
victoria patterson
First let me ask this of you: why on heaven's earth hasn't Dave yet been awarded the Nobel Peace Prize? Firstly, i read Dave's first book at a very difficult period in my own life, where i was confronting my own personal history. His in depth descriptions of his struggle to survive and heartfelt aspirations for both himself, his son Stephen, his new bride Marsha and those he met and is no longer involved with is so deeply moving and so honest. In this book, the third book Dave had written, we learn to see the real route of recovery that brings you to the heart of one amazing survivor. He lets you into his own private world, enchanting you in a text about his own personal discoveries and triumphs, who he becomes and who he always longs to be. i laughed and cried and cheered for Dave with all of my heart. His accomplishments far surpass that of any regular hero even, and the honesty and genuine care that he puts into these books is far beyond astounding. i actually sent my books to Dave himself & they came back lovingly signed, not more than one month after i sent them. He reminds me of what is real and true and just in what's become of people who have survived unbelievable odds and come out a beautiful person. i only wish that i were rich to give him and his family a giant castle to overlook the Russian River. Dave Pelzer could write a paragraph and it wouold be filled with chilling honesty and love. His bravery and discoveries with putting his willingness to forgive his abuser is both heart rendering and renewing of an incredible fighter, by no means the boy he was once labeled as by ignorant classmates or onlookers.
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
jodie milne
A Man Named Dave is the amazing conclusion to the story of David Pelzer's life. This book stirs almost every emotion possible in a person. There is hatred and disgust for Dave's mother for abusing him and treating him the way she did. There is sadness, fear, and guilt when reading about what Dave was put through and what he endured as a child. This book is all together very emotional. Once I started reading this book I could not put it down. Pelzer's way of writing sucks the reader in and makes you want to keep reading on. I found myself bringing this book with me almost everywhere I went. A Man Named Dave is the continuation to A Child Called "It" and The Lost Boy. All three of these books are amazing. I would recommend all three of Pelzer's books to everyone. But, the first two are very emotional when reading about the abuse he endured from his mother as a child. Pelzer's last book tells more of his life after he is 18 years old and is living on his own. It goes through his life as an adult. After reading this trilogy, I feel a reader will think more about how great their life is and will realize just how much they have. These books make a person appreciate their life much more, and almost create a new outlook on life. It inspires a person to overcome almost anything they encounter. It makes me think that if David Pelzer could survive what he did, then others can deal with situations they are faced with in their lives. Overall, I feel this book was very inspirational and I would recommend it to any reader.
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
gwen cryer
"A Man named Dave," written by David Pelzer, is about his life growing up and his experiences of being mentally and physically abused by his mother for many years. David's goal throughout this book, is mainly to get out of his mother's control and out on his own. This is a triumphant story, describing the obstacles, which David had to live through while growing up with his mother.
Pelzer writes with very descriptive sentences, for example, "I use the top of my shirt as a tent to cover my head, imagining my exhaled air will somehow keep my face and ears warm.(1)" This quote puts you in Dave's position and you feel his emotions and thoughts. Imagery is used a lot throughout the book, mostly describing what he feels, or what how his mother is treating him. David quotes, "Above me The Mother stands poised, revealing her yellow teeth and putrid, steamy breath.(39)" Throughout the book, you encounter stories, in which he describes how he was treated and abused. It makes you so mad and makes you realize that some people do go through with the same experiences.
Throughout A Man Named Dave, I kept wondering what was going to happen next, was he going to ever get away from his mom's abuse? If he does get away, will he keep in touch with her, because she is his mother? My emotions were very high while reading this book. At parts I just wanted to cry, and other parts I just wanted to yell at the mother for mistreating Dave in such a manner.
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
michael kriegshauser
Dave pelzer, if you read this, i think you are such an extraordinary man and i admire you for being so brave. Your life has so many values which we can learn from,and by reading this book, you have probably made me feel more emotional than i have ever felt about someone, and not myself. And it helps me, when i think about what i would like to do in the future.
This is for everyone else, Dave pelzers life is one to be noticed and remebered. Although shocking, it hits you hard even more for the reason that things like this are really happening, and this must be put to an end. Fortunately for Dave there were people who put their job on the line to save his life, and lead him to one where he would be given the chance to live a real life, although he suffered so much that no - one else could ever imagine. Things happened to him which i thought were not possible, it shocked me when reading about the way his drunken mother abused him, physically and mentally by playing games, and only being nice to him, when she knew the social service were coming, leading him to think that everything was over - it makes you think, 'well why bring this child into the world, and give them a life such as this, of violence and abuse'. I know this sounds like a report which is not telling you about the book, because this is not my point. I recommend you to read this, because it is so moving, and even for those people who aren't particulary emotional people, sometimes like me, it even touches you, and it goes deep down into your heart because you know what you are reading is real and horrifying, yet this person has surived, and you can't imagine how. It is a story about probably the bravest and strongest person i have ever known of. If it was me in his past situation then i know that i would have wanted to die. And although at times, Dave did, he still had that little bit left in him, that made him want to survive, show that mother of his, that one day, he would become something, but yet it was to survive and make something of himself, for himself. When i was reading the first part of the book 'a boy called it', there were many times when i actually cried when i read about all that he suffered and the way he had been abused. There are so many people, in the world, who believe that they've had it bad, and fair enough some of them may have, but it's nothing compared to this, and i know that its wrong to compare people's trauma because it affect different people in different ways, but once you've read this, you'll know what i mean, but its not even as though you are comparing them to some person in a book, but a real person, who couragously told the world about his real life. He could have easily kept this to himself, like most of us porbably would, but this amazing man, who could have turned the most psychologically retarded person, but thank fully he didn't, otherwise we would not have been given the chance to learn of one man's brave, and amazing energy and will to survive the worst possible trauma someone could be put through.
Finally all i want to say is that this book, is truly an amazing journey to read, and it makes you look at things in a different perspective, and it makes you see just how un - perfect this world in which we live in is. There are children similar to Dave, and Daves book seems to have spoken for many of those poor souls - who, all they want is love and comfort.
This really is a journey of a very brave man, and he is truly inspiring.
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
A few years ago one of my friends was reading a book called A Child Called "It". The cover intrigued me and the more she told me about the book the more I became interested in reading it. So I looked for it at our school library and checked it out. This book immediately engrossed me, so I decided to read The Lost Boy. I enjoyed The Lost Boy even more than A Child Called "It". So when I found out Dave Pelzer came out with a new book, A Man Named Dave, I immediately went out and bought it even before I had read it. A Man Named Dave, in my opinion, is the best of the three novels. The reason I liked this book more than the other two was, because he was stronger against his mother, he wasn't her "it" anymore. It was great when he stood up to his mother in all of the situations where he encountered her. I loved the fact that he tried so hard to be a great father to his son Steven. I enjoyed the fact that he didn't take after his mother parenting wise. Dave Pelzer has turned into a wonderful person despite all of the hardships he has gone through in his past. Dave has won many awards such as: The Points of Light Award, J.C. Penney Golden Rule Award, The Outstanding Young Persons of the World and was one of the Ten Outstanding Young Americans. I would recommend this book along with, A Child Called "It" and The Lost Boy to anyone, these books will really touch you.
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
leland cheuk
"A Man Named Dave" is an inspiring conclusion to "A Child Called It" and "The Lost Boy." One of the things sthat makes this book influential would be that fact that it is a nonfiction book about the author, Devid Pelzer.
I started reading this searies last year. The first and second books nearly made me cry. I could not believe that someone could treat their own child like that. David's mother made him do several chores in certain time limits. She also forced him to clean the bathroom with a mixture of ammonia and bleach. Not so bad?? Well, that's only the first part, she then shut the door and window. Fortuately, David was a very bright child. He came up with the idea to breathe fresh air from the vent. I think that's pretty clever coming from someone that was so young. David's mother once put his arm over a hot burner on their kitchen stove. This happened just before he was rescued. It was those nosey teachers that, in my opinion, saved David Pelzer's life. I just sat and thought "It's about time!" I was so happy!!
The book also talks about his foster homes and his own efforts to "break the cycle" when he had children of his own.
I liked the way the books were written. The first two ended with "cliffhangers" to make you want to read this one. Well, it definitely worked for me. I have read and loved all three!
The one thing that I dislike about this particular book is that he puts himself down. David still, in many ways, considers himself that child called "It." To me, no one is an "It." Everyone should be treated with respect. I know that isn't the way it works in our world today, but theat's how it's supposed to be.
For the most part, I lived this book and really enjoyed reading it. It would be well liked by anyone who has a heart. However, I think those who pick on others just because are the ones who really need to read the series. Ever since I began reading it, I think that I have become somewhat of a better person.
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
As a social worker, I found this book to be very authentic. Dave did a great job explaining his strength to move forward while emotionally processing his past. Had this been a novel, the story probably would have ended with Dave joining the service---determination trumps troubled childhood. However, in this book, Dave lets us share his true journey of healing and growth. It is a great explaination of the pull of family ties and the human need to find some level of understanding.

If you're worried the series will be too disturbing, do what I did and start in the middle with his stories of adolescence. This will assure you that he survives with a sense of humor. Then go back and start at the beginning. However, save this one for last.
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
This is not for the weak of stomach though. It is pretty graphic as it shows the types of abuse went through when he was younger, as well as how it affected him the rest of his life! There were times I needed to put the book down for a day or two to digest and fully absorb what was written, before I went to the next section. This book takes you through all the emotions. I am so glad he had the strength to write such a book as so many turn their cheeks and try to think things like this don't happen in our society. This book truly gave me the kick in the butt that I needed to do something I have always wanted to do. I signed up for a 3 day training program to be an volunteer advocate for women and children that are victims of domestic violence. No one should have to live like this, though many still do. No excuses, read this book and do something to stop domestic violence!
★ ★ ★ ★ ☆
If you have read the two previous books, "A Child Called 'It'" and "The Lost Boy", I highly recommend that you read "A Man Named Dave." However, if you haven't read the previous two, I urge you to read those first. It makes a big difference.
This is a great book. One if the things I really enjoyed, was that it answered all the questions that I still had about Dave after reading "The Lost Boy," like "Where does his relationship with his mother end?", "What happens to his father?," "Does he ever find true happiness?" and many others.
Another aspect I appreciated was that, like the other books by Dave Peltzer, you could really see inside Dave's head and get to know his line of reasoning. This helps the reader to understand his reasons for reacting to the events in his life the way that he did. It is very heartwarming to see the forgiving spirit that Dave shows in this story.
Although I enjoyed the book as a whole, I found that it did get a little dull near the middle. However, it picks up at the end and has a nice, feel-good conclusion. At any rate, I think that Dave Peltzer is an excellent writer and an amazing person. This book is definitely worth taking a look at.
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
ken white
I read this book and could not believe the similarities in David and my childhood.Anyone who has been there can easily connect with this book.I believe that this is the best piece of literature there is to show survivours that you can make it and like David this has made me very determined to be the best person that I can possibly can and then some. We need more Davids to come forward to help stop the horrible abuse that continues to plaque our homes and children. Read the book,get involved, make a difference. Our children need us. Proof of this is just look at how busy David is. If this is not a problem out of control still why is he in such high demand?Save and rescue our children but don't stop there.Make a difference.People like David and his mother do exist,maybe right next door to you.I thank David for putting his live out there to help others. As hard as it is for us to read this it is exhausting for David to write it and talk about it. This is where the humour comes into play. It is the coping tool a lot of us use to keep us on track.I for one am glad David is making money at this because he uses it to help other victims. David, keep up the good work and God bless,he really was listening all those dark times.
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
m keep
A story of triumph and forgiveness. This novel guides us through Dave Pelzer's past; as if we had experienced it first-hand. This would be a novel that i would recommend to people who are at least fourteen years of age due to the brutality, language and disturbing content.

"You're not a person, but... a thing to do with as i please." These are the exact words that Dave's mom used to describe what she thought of her son. Never expecting anything like that to come out of a mother's mouth. The whole book tends to be shocking and repulsive.

Dave was only able to relate to his father even thought he was rarely home. He was the only one who helped Dave when he was a child. That little bit of attention that he got from his father ended up to be the only good memories that he had. Sad enough, there is a whole chapter that talks about Daves' fathers' slow, painful death in which he endured. After the death of his father, he immedietly gained strength and was instantly encourages to make something of his life. All he wanted was to make his dad proud, thats all he cared about...

Sad, yet inspiring...
★ ★ ★ ★ ☆
The only reason I didn't give it a 5 is because it isn't the best of literature.

This is the same review I will be giving for the trio of books written by Dave Pelzer, "A Child Called It" and "The Lost Boy".

This trio of books is heartbreaking, yet inspiring. For someone to endure such shame, pain and abandonment of the soul and still come on the other side intact is quite a miracle, and one which I'm sure only God could have seen him through. I would recommend this book for anyone.
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
divyjyoti mishra
This book is important because it shows how you can overcome great adversity. Dave is courageous to share such personal and heartbreaking details of his life. But in so doing, he offers others a roadmap of how to cope, overcome, and PREVAIL. Thank you, Dave!

Also recommended: Christmas Gifts, Christmas Voices--another roadmap that shows how loss and heartbreak can be overcome through kind actions...
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
matthew mccrady
This story is about a man who went through an abusive childhood, foster care, and a bad marriage and he is still standing tall. The man's name is Dave Pelzer. When he grows up he goes to the air force, and is underappreciated. His drunkened father dies. He gets an apartment, and he meet a woman named, Patsy. They get married, and have a kid named Stephan. These guys all of a sudden have a rocky road to divorce. Dave finally stands up to his drunkened abusive mother, and says some pretty deep things. Dave's days lightens with his new lady named Marsha. This is a good , no wait I mean great book. In my opinion, this is the best one. You might want to read the other two books,("A Child Called It","The Lost Boy") before this one.
★ ☆ ☆ ☆ ☆
cheryl hughes
In each book, some of the same stories show up and each time there are some differences. For instance, at the end of this book, we learn that on the day he was taken from his mother, he came to school with no skin on his arms, which is what pushed the teachers, principal and and school nurse to finally call the authorities! This story's been told in the other books and this rather critical fact left out until now. I begin to wonder what else Dave isn't telling completely.

I also wonder about Dave's apparant lack of insight into the dynamics of dysfunctional families. Maybe when he was a kid, this information wasn't so available, but in the last two decades, for sure, it's been out there. He never seems to put it together that his grandmother probably abused his mother in ways very similar to the ways his mother abused him. He doesn't seem to wonder much about what happened to them, or about the deeper roots of the pattern of abuse. Why doesn't he go for counseling, or even to Al-Anon, and get some of this stuff figured out? He seems unaware of how he continues in abuse-adapted behavior as an adult, as in his relationship with his first wife, in his relationship with the folks who were first going to publish his book and promote him as a speaker, and in his continuing efforts to connect with his mother and grandmother.

I wish Dave well, and I hope that if he writes more books he will find and use the services of a really good editor.
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
reynold forman
I thought I had a pretty good grasp about the atrocities that an abusive parent could put their child through, but Dave Pelzer's mother goes beyond anything I've read before. The truth and simplicity of the emotions Dave goes through while writing his three books is sure to touch anyone. I personally dare anyone to read his books without feeling an incredible maternal instinct...man or woman. I didn't think that Dave's second book would be as good as the first, but I was wrong. After the second one, I almost didn't buy the third; thinking it could only be a disappointment after the first two, but if anything, A MAN NAMED DAVE was the best of the three. The metamorphosis of this man into a normal human being was incredible to behold, however you can still sometimes see the little boy that he was. I have always thought about becoming a foster parent, and this book made me decide for sure. There are more children out there like Dave and when you read his book you'll understand better what a person must go through to truly forgive an injustice.
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
anita king
I found this book difficult to put down and finished it in 3 days. While it's tragic what Dave went through it's truly inspiring to see how a child can overcome the most horrific of events and turn his experiences in to something positive and rewarding in his life. It took great courage for Dave to live each day and get to where he is now and the book inspires me to
pay more attention to my own interactions with my son and other children and to be a better parent. The teachers who risked their careers to help Dave made a difference in the life of a child - there's no greater accomplishment.
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
sam gossage
I was very fortunate to be raised by two loving, protective parents and cannot IMAGINE what it must have been like to grow up in Dave's home-if you could even call it that. Prison or hell would be a more adequate definition.

I could not put this book down and am so grateful to Dave for shedding light on the dreadful reality of child abuse. How someone could do that to an innocent child is simply mind boggling to me. This book is a must read-I have passed it along to several friends and they were equally moved by this tragic, yet triumphant story.
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
A man named Dave is a good book. I would give this book five stars because he try to go through life with problems that he try to over come. Like will Dave and his Mom ever get a long? Will Dave's mom like his wife? Will his wife like his mom? Will he ever get to know his mom after all these years? Will he ever get close to his mom? Will his life remain hunted by memories of his years as a bruised "it" locked in his mothers basement.? Will he stay in touch with his dad? Just read this book and u can find out all of your answers
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
I saw this book and decided to buy, then noticed there were two prior, so found them and bought all three. I had no idea my husband would not be able to get my attention all week end and Monday. I devoured all three and will never be the same. Thank you for sharing your deepest feelings, your pain, your triumphs, living life one day at a time, enduring, forgiving and loving. Thank you, Thank you!
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
I have just completed A Man Named Dave today, the third book in the gut-wretching trilogy. You have to read all three books to see how Dave came full circle in his hell of a life.
It's truly wonderful how Dave was able to be strong and determined and come full circle in a life that could have been very horrible.
God bless you, Dave Pelzer, and keep you and your family safe! You deserve it!
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
lauren saft
The book "A Man Named Dave" is the compelling ending to the series about David Pelzer's life story. The book goes through it all though, David wrote them each so that you wouldn't have had to read the others to read this one. I hadn't so this was nice. I think that this book could be read and understood by anyone who can relate to the human struggle. All ages could see the triumph and the challenges. I think that this book is really inspirational in the way that David writes, he uses very strong imagery in order to get his readers to understand what he really went through. The style that He writes in is very up and down, he has you all wrapped up in the book at parts where you can even remember the real world and then parts where you can relate to it on a personal level. I really enjoyed this book and I think it is a great story of overcoming life's obstacles. Everyone should read it, I absolutely guarantee that it will move you. 5 stars!
★ ☆ ☆ ☆ ☆
This book, and the rest of the series, was just too unbelievable. Not because of the level of the abuse, but because of the level of detail included and the level of detail excluded. The entire time I was reading it I thought it was untrue.

The book also seems to never really tell you what happened, but instead, lavishes over specific details that lead you to believe it was horrible. The only reason I read the second book was because the first one leaves you wanting to know what really occurred. It just wasn't really clear. The second one tells you more but in a very flat manner. The third was just outright boring.

The rest of the series was even worse, and gets worse as each book is read and the writing style and author's writing skill are both extremely poor.

The reality is the three books that make up the series should have been one volume. By publishing the story in three books the author practiced a way to rip off readers. That alone is a demonstration of his dishonesty.

Then there is the controversy over the length of time these books are on the Best Seller list because the author is buying enough copies himself to keep them there. Another demonstration of his dishonesty.

By the end of the day that it took me to read all three books I felt totally cheated by the story and by having to buy three books.
★ ★ ★ ★ ☆
Kudos to Dave for such a revealing story about the abuse he received at the hands of the most important person in his young life. As an adult child of an alchoholic, I could certainly empahsize with his feelings that he deserved the abuse and also the confused feelings he had about the Mommy that once was and The Mother that currently existed. How fortunate that Dave was able to maintain his focus on acquiring compassion, joy and love in later years, despite the fact that he barely received any nurturing at all while growing up! I only have one negative thing to say in this review and that is to suggest that the author might want to enlist some literary help. The book contained long paragraphs of dialog, a lot of it redundant and even a little tedious to read through. The story of his childhood does not need to be overly padded with repetition. Other than that, I was glad I read the book and got to know more about this man called Dave.
★ ★ ★ ★ ☆
sharmaine dela cruz
This is a heart wrenching book,but also a testament to the miracle of forgiveness. Although the people in this book may not seem to deserve forgiveness, it shows that to truly move on the human spirit must forgive and let God be the judge.
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
brian glendenning
this is the third sequel to a child called it! i like the part where dave pelzer's mom talks about his father dying, and asks, don't you have something for me? didn't he give you anything before he passed away? and dave says no! father didn't give me a thing! then his mom says you're lying! and slaps him and makes his nose bleed! read it if you like dave pelzer as much as me!
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
jarrett heatherly
Mr. Pelzer's trilogy wrapped up quite well with this book. An honest and emotional recollection of getting over his haunting past as a severely abused child. If you haven't read "A Child Called It" and "The Lost Boy," you must read those memoirs. If you've read the first two books, you must read "A Man Named Dave." Highly recommended.
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
collette ostler
Through Dave's courage to share with everyone a very sad and disturbing youth it helped me understand how fortunate I was growing up, and the importance of forgiveness. The book open my eyes to a new view on abuse and the victims.
★ ★ ★ ★ ☆
becky johnson
A Man Named Dave is a very powerful book about a grown up boy who was abused, that searches to find peace between his mother ( who abused him) before time runs out. In this book, Dave Pelzer writes about his struggles to live his life (even as an adult) without feeling frightened by his abusive mother. Even though he is out of her reach for any physical harm, his heart turns and twists to get to know the mother that had hurt him physically and mentally as well. As the situation with his mother continues, Dave lives his life to find what he was missing all along. Through the midsts of broken hearts, death, caving relationships,wasted oppurtunities, and opened doors, Dave Pelzer comes out strong and makes the best out of all that he has left. His heart turns onto those who have been or are in a abusive situation. Dave Pelzer is a man who has gone through the worst and yet, truimps with a heart to live his life to the fullest.
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
I have read all three books in the series, and I feel I have gained so much from all 3. Dave, as a boy, lived as no child should ever have to live. I am a single mom and have done everything in my power to surround my child with as much love as possible,so it almost was impossible to imagine any mother torturing her own flesh and blood as "The Mother" did with Dave.. After reading this book, not only did I feel extreme sorry for Dave and all other abused children in our world, but I also felt an extreme sense of pride for him and the amazing accomplishments he has made in his life. This is a must read. You will cry with Dave, laugh with him, and get angry at him so many times in this book. But most importantly, you will learn about surviving, willpower, trust, and how we all have to ability to make a difference. Thank you Dave Peltzer for making such a difference. I kiss and hug my child a little longer and a little harder each and every night because of what you've taught me. You're better than Superman!
★ ★ ★ ☆ ☆
della kh
This 3rd and final book of the series of Dave Pelzer's life tells you what happened to him after he escaped "The Mother". In the beginning of his series, everyone in his neighborhood thought that his mother was an average mom. They thought that she was a great Cub Scout leader, and a loving mom, but little do they know that behind closed doors, she abuses and belittles her child. Most of these things happen in the first book, A Child Called It, while the second part of his story, his life in and out of foster homes, happens in the second book, The Lost Boy. But the final book, A Man Named Dave, gives most of the answers, at least enough to keep Dave happy. This book tells how he went on with his life and made something of it, even though he had a horrible childhood. It tells you about all things from meeting his wife, to his growing relationship with his grandmother, to the birth of the one he loves the most, his son Stephen. This book tells a lot about being strong, having courage, and perseverance. Even though the answers Dave got were enough for him, I, as a reader, wanted much more. Such as, "Why him?" "Why was he abused in stead of his brothers?" Although they are good books, I don't recommend them to children under 12 or 13 and as far as the 1st one goes, noone with a weak stomach should read it.
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
I just finished A Man Named Dave this morning. I stayed up all night reading it, I could not put it down.
I have also read the other 2 books in the series.
This book is extremely well-written. You feel like you are really there with Dave. I was in awe at the dialogue... it was so real, not like the normal stuff you see on TV or in the movies.
One of the things that struck me the most was when he said this to Stephen, his son..
"Just like in baseball: you'll get a few hits, but most likely, you'll strike out more than you get on base. But don't quit. Find your focus, relax, take a deep breath, and give it a good swing."
Dave, please continue to keep us updated on your life. We can all learn so much from you.
No one deserves to be treated as you were. You were not at fault for what happened.
You broke the cycle of abuse... not only for yourself, but I am sure for many others as well.
You are a hero - just like Superman.
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
prayogi rahmad
A book that you cannot quit reading until finished. I knew that after reading this book I would be hard pressed in finding another that would give you the understanding of human frailities, strengths and forgiveness. It's a book that leaves you with a feeling of "WOW", what a remarkable man, no make that human. My hat is off to Dave!!!!!!
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
I learned about this series from my 14 year old grandson. He isn't into reading, but he couldn't tell me enough about this series. I read it and agreed with him 100%. It keeps you on the edge of your seat, you can't put it down and you feel all the emotions David experienced....except the power to forgive his mother. I never will. My grandson asked me by the third book, did it make you cry grandma? I had to say yes....he said he did too. This is a 14 year old that plays high school football, is in ROTC and a cadet for the city police department. He wants more than ever to be a peace officer after reading this.....Our hats off to you David. My grandson would love to meet you in person and so would I.....
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
emily lyons
I found all the books in this series very honest, and at times horrifying, but if we don't all learn from the darkness that can take over humans, we will never hope to live without the pain that too many children face at the hands of the adults who are supposed to be there for comfort and compassion.
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
I recommend "A Man Named Dave" to anyone who is interested in reading about hope, success in perseverance, and the power of forgiveness. It is an intense book that will keep you thinking about all his messages and all the emotions he went through well after you finish reading the last page. What amazed me the most about Pelzer and the book itself was the many amazing instances where he had to fight the urge to give up hope and be wasted away into a life of crime and impoverishment, in order to live a success life which entailed helping others who are less fortunate. In turn, he was also able to find satisfaction in his own personal life by dealing with his past and enjoying living his current life. I recommend it!!
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
phillip low
Myself, being a victim of abuse this book has really helped me in so many ways. I was shocked at having the same feelings as David did. This wasn't something that you can just talk to anyone about. I really related to this book and couldn't put it down. Thankyou, so much David. You really have helped me in so many ways. God bless you.
★ ★ ★ ★ ☆
lynda howe
I've seen a number of people mention their admiration that Dave has forgiven his mother, yet their disgust at the criminality of his father for "not doing something". I find this both perplexing and nauseating, because it's a warped outlook. If they have disgust with the latter, they should DOUBLY condemn the principle of forgiving evil!
Dave, of all people (who has the status of hero to so many) ought NOT to spread the message that it's OK to forgive evil, which his mother personified. That's a warped message to be spreading, since people who forgive evil are liable eventually to be callous to good people.
Part I VERY MUCH admire: The fact that, even though Dave had been put through hell, yet he summoned up the excruciatingly-difficult objectivity necessary in dealing with and rectifying a callous world. Why? So that the *world* could handle it. Yet I bet the vast majority of the world, had they been in his shoes, would have self-pitied, self-destructed, or turned criminal.
THEORY: WAS HIS MONSTER-MOM PERHAPS POSSESSED BY EVIL ENTITIES DUE TO ALCOHOLISM?? This might explain why Dave's dad was so deathly afraid of his wife - maybe she had superhuman strength during possession? Who can imagine what dire consequences an evil entity (speaking via his wife) might have threatened him with? (I read that the Son of Sam serial killer admitted to Father Malachi Martin that he'd been possessed. So my theory is not that farfetched!
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courtney engle
These books were the most horrifing, yet life changing because it has really opened my eyes to the abuse all around me. Dave, and Richard have horrifing storys, but they have handled it well and so many people can learn from them. Someday I would like to become a social worker, and meet Dave and Richard.

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evan leach
A man named Dave is a book about a man who wants to join the air force to make his father proud before he dies of cancer. He works as a chef and he cooks food for his crew. He is enlisted to be a firefighter, but his paper work that he did got messed up. Then he redid it and he became a boom operater. He meets this girl named Pasty and they find out that they have a lot in common and before you know it they live in an apartment together. Then they get married.
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After reading the first two books( A Child Called "It" and The Lost Boy)back to back over the course of three days I started this one. I quickly read the first half of the book, cheering Dave on and hoping that he would get some answers about his mom. He didn't,... at least not any answers big enough to explain how she could could have tortured him to the extent he describes(i actually hope he exaggerated).
The language/writing in the first two books works,... they are told through the voice of David as a child. The first half of this book held my interest but, the last few chapters of this book were really hard to get through, i am happy to hear that things work out for him BUT, if one more person wiped a "single tear" from their cheek,.................
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
ok well im actually 2/3 thru the first book, "a child called 'it'" but i felt i had to express how much i liked the book.. plus i needed a break! ive been reading it nonstop thru my last two lessons in school (Science and German. bleh.) and on my way home. i honestly couldnt put it down!!.. Im not usually one to become so fixated on a book, and im only 2/3 thru the it, as i put before, but its become my favourite since i was on the very first chapter!
my second favourite book is 'junk' (i forget the author now) but it also includes a boy named David (nicknamed 'Tar')who gets abused which i think is quite weirdy cuz the two main characters have the same name.. er, anyways, i totally loved this book!
★ ★ ★ ★ ☆
michael goldberg
Think about getting burned on your arm by a gas stove, locked in
the basement, sleeping in the cold garage, having to search through the trash for food. That is how Dave Pelzer lived when he was a little boy.
Dave Pelzer, author of the international bestsellers, "A Child Called It", "The Lost Boy", and "A Man Named Dave". In the book "A Man Named Dave", Dave talks about how he was determined to make something out of his life after he was rescued from his mother. This book is the last of the three.
Dave is just someone who had the odds against him, who never gave up, and who now has a wife, son, and travels throughout the country inspiring hope in many individuals. This book is an inspiration to all ages.
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I saw Dave Pelzer on a talk show, and he was telling about the books he wrote - his life story. Of course, he talked of being abused by his Mother. I bought the books and when I started reading, I kept reading.I'd put it down for a few hours and I found myself picking it up. What that boy went through is unimaginable. It was inhuman, and after I read the last book and closed it, one statement came into my mind. In the end, all he wanted was his Mothers love and approval which he never had. This is a gut wrenching triligy of books but this man lived through it. I hope everyone comes away from this book much more educated about child abuse.
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diana ward
I have read all of Dave's books and while the first two were very disturbing to read, A Man Called Dave was wonderful. It really shows people how a person can overcome so many heartaches in their life. The first A Child Called It was very heart wrenching and graphic. It made me so angry to think that a mother and father can treat their own flesh and blood so cruelly. A Lost Boy was not as graphic but still extremely sad. Dave is such an inspiration to us all and makes us think how lucky we are to have been brought up the way we have. God knows that there was a reason why he endured all he had and clearly after reading the books I can understand why. My heart goes out to Dave and all the abused children in the world and may God bless them and keep them away from this evil.Thank you Dave for writing these amazing books. It really opened up my eyes and I am sure everyone else's.
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norma j hill
I have read all of Daves books. At first I had Horrible nightmares. It touched me all the way to the core of my soul. I could not even imagine how a Mother could be as horrible as she was. I have Three children of my own. I was a abused child my whole life, I thought I had it bad until I read his books. They helped me to put a close to my anger and resentment I had against my Father and Stepmother. I also have been very angry at my real Mother for leaving me and my two siblings with our Father. But Daves books let me know that if he could survive and become what he is today anyone can. Dave you are truly a inspiration to me. I will tell everyone about your books and pass them down to anyone that woukld like to read them. Thank you for sharing your life with us all. You are somone I will never forget!
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yeganeh sheikholeslami
After reading "A child called it" in september of last year i was very touched, moved, upset and quiet honestly traumatised on what david went through with his mother, david has been been through so much in his short life and i wander how on earth he survived all of what he went through, the other things that i would like to add is "why did his mother do this to him" did she go through this when she was a child, was her mother or father doing the same things to her? There must be a reason for this woman doing what she did?
I have just tonight finished "The lost Boy" And i must say what a fanatastic read, the foster carers, social workers, everyone that tried to help david must be very proud of what he has achieved.
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The book A Man Named Dave was an immaculate book about one mans life. He tells a tale of his life that brings us back into his childhood and makes us witness the brutal torture of his mother. He then takes us into his life on his own when he joins the airforce. In this book, David goes through many trials and tribulations down his trail of life. From being beaten by his mother, to being passed from foster home to foster home, to dealing with the death of his father. David experiences, probably, the most horrifying things that can happen to a person. David learnes that he is no longer weak but strong and knows now that he can stay strong for the rest of his life. This book recieves five stars from me and should by everyone who challenges the life of David Pelzer in this book.
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I grew up in the "Brady Bunch", so this really open my eyes
to a problem I know nothing about. One reason I found the
book so good is the determination of Dave to be the best he
could be for his mom and dad, while they never tried to be
the best they could be for him. Obviously his mother had a
mental illness, now in 2002 she could have possibly gotten
some kind of treatment and Dave been saved a life of pain.
I really got the feeling that Dave has completely moved on
with a wonderful life, he beat the odds! I read all three
books and loved them. Can't wait for Dave to write one on
raising a teenager... got any advice for a mother of 3 boys?
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brett guist
A Man Named Dave is a story that will touch your heart. In the novel Dave Pelzer, a man abused as a child, bounces back from a disturbing childhood. When Dave was growing up he was taught that there was no use for him in the world. As time goes on and Dave moves in with his foster family he soon realizes that he can be whatever he wants if he puts his mind to it.

The novel shows the strugles that Dave had to go through as a man and also the things that he learned through his childhood. Dave soon finds that even with the hard times life is worth it. Dave also soon begins a family of his own. Learning from his experiences as a child he now raises a child of his own. You will never want to put this book down.
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In this book he explains the difficult journey in life that he traveled on. And how he over came it and became a better person for it! Also how the people that came in life really tried to understand him better and helped him! I really loved this book. And I hope that you do too!
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dina d alessandro
I would've been really mad at myself if I hadn't read this book or at least gotten it since it's the last of the series and everything. I just hadn't expected it to be this bad; I thought that it'd be even better than the previous one (I thought that was the best of the three). I just found this book boring and pathetic. The whole time, he's just asking himself the same question over and over again. I think the only reason this book came out was because it didn't fit in with the second one and so a third one had to be written. Only now all that's left to say is that he's an adult. I honestly don't think this book is worth buying. If you're like me and you've just got to know the ending, then get it borrow it from the library.
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penni higgens
The book A Man Named Dave by Dave Pelzer was an awesome book. It is a true story with amazing details showing how cruel his mother really was. It tells people reading that there really parents that abuse there children and that there are many kids still being abused by their parents and we need to help them. In this book it tells the reader how Dave's life turned out after escaping his mother. It tells how he feels and reacts when he joins the military, when his father dies and when he finds his brother Russell. I thought this book was great! I would give it five stars. I would recommend this book to anyone who has read Dave Pelzer's other books A Child Called It and The Lost Boy and enjoyed them.
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susie anderson bauer
I received my book last night and I could not put it down. I read Dave's previous books in this trilogy this past week-end. His childhood has striking similarities to my own. I so very much apprecitae Dave's ability to put into writing, the events of his childhood abuse, his feelings and his insights. These insights are very moving and are providing me with guidance. I thank Dave for his courage to survive, to heal and to reach out to others. I feel privleged to have read this book on the date of its official release. I, also, have pledged my life to making this world a safe place for children. The best to you Dave, and God's many blessings on you and your family.
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pia williams
Thank you for sharing your story. This final book in the trilogy answered a lot of questions that I had. I am amazed at EVERYTHING you have overcome in your life. I am so happy to know that you now have a wonderful wife and son. You deserve only the best. This book is a must read!
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I first Heard about this book from a few people in school and i started reading it i came home and my mom has been sick for a while... so i would read her to sleep but i couldnt put the book down and my mom didnt want to go to sleep... we were so Intreeged and didnt want to put it down.. if i didnt have to go to school i would have read it to the end it problaly would have only took me a day but betwen school and every thing it took me 2 days.. we just bought the other two and his brothers book i cant wait to read them also...

David was so strong i dont think i could have done it... I am so amazed that someone would actually do that to their own flesh and blood...

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Thank you Dave for writing an incredible book. It definitely lives up to A Child Called It and The Lost Boy and even surpasses those two books in its power and storytelling. A Man Named Dave is such a good read I read it in one night. I can't recommend this book enough!
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marcela vaccaro rivera
This is the best page-turner book I've read in ages! I recommend reading all of Dave Pelzer's books. "A Child Called It" was the first one I read and Dave has shown his ability to keep you interested by recounting his real life horrors in a way that will open your eyes if you have a soul. Awareness is the first step to making the necessary changes in protecting our young. Dave shares the choices he made, good and bad, that led him to the epitome of strength he portrays today. He shows us all there is a way to be victorious in the shadow of adversity.
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Great book...Dave pelzer you are truely gifted and I thank god for having placed you on this earth for us all to learn from...keep writting Dave, keep changing lifes.... Your three books forever changed my life.... your wonderful keep on writting Dave.. you have a gift
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will harris
This is a great story about a man who never gave up. In Dave's first book, he tells his true story about how his mother abused him and how he had the courage to survive. In his second book, he tells about how he had such a hard time finding a family to love him. This book pretty much ties it all together. This book taught me to never give up and that anything is possible if you want it bad enough. This was a hard book to put down. I always wanted to know what was going to happen next. I don't think I would ever be able to live through what he was put through. Dave is a great role model and I just love all of his books!
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lori lyn
Thank you Dave for the final episode of your trilogy. Anyone who has been though child abuse knows that you cannot become whole without healing. It sounds like you did a great job of healing. I applaud you for having the courage. Some of us never get that far. May God bless you immensely for this. Ella's Children (Book 1 of The Tin Train Series)
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patti schaub
An excellent, self-revealing book. A true profile of courage. I admired Dave's courage to become a "whole" person and not repeat his parents mistakes. Dave's determination to help abused kids regardless of the cost to himself was inspiring.
The question of "why" Mother changed was not answered.....this is "REAL LIFE", often we don't know why bad things happen. We like neat endings, but this is not fiction.
This side of Heaven Dave will never know how many abused kids he has helped; and how many adults he has encouraged to forgive those who have hurt them. Dave, Thank you.
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dylan kinnett
In the book A man named Dave I thought it was a good book in my point of view. In the book it explains how a young man that has been abused by his mother finally moved away and began to live on his own. Also it tells how he thought oif his life and how he lived it up untill the time he got married and had his first son. He had much love for his son and he tought the proper love that was needed for a person growing up ing a family. I give this book a rate of 5 stars because I thought it was well written and a good story for others to learn from. I encourage others to read this book and to find it as good as I did.
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This book is filled with the same intensity and emotion that the first two had , but it leaves you with a warm feeling in the end. I'm so glad David Pelzer wrote this triology and opened many people's eyes to the horror that some children are going through out there. It makes me appreciate my own child even more and treasure the family life I had as I grew up. This was the perfect end to an incredible story of triumph. God bless you David, you are an inspiration.
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tanya walker
I've read the three books in Dave Pelzer's series and this is a fitting conclusion to a remarkable trilogy.
Telling the story of his adult life to the present, Dave tells of his military experience and subsequent marriage/divorce/remarriage and his son. I felt like this was a conclusion to a childhood that was filled with pain and repressed feelings. Not a lot of people have lived to tell the story like David did and I think its a story that should give others hope who might have faced similar situations to David's.
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I understand that I'm in the minority here, but I truly found this third book in the series by Peltzer to be preachy and over the top. I realize that the bok is a celebration of his triumph over the abuse and atrocities that he suffered, but I felt that the first two books were more "real" than this one. I can almost feel the presense of a finger reaching out, shacking, and wagging at the reader. I didn't even read the next one because I felt turned off by this one. No disrespect meant to the author.
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I really enjoyed the book A Man Named Dave. This is just one of his books. There all about his life and how his mother abused him and not the other children. She would do horrible stuff to him like stabbed him with a knife and made him drink bleach and amonia and made him starve and she even treated him worse than the dog. I really liked this book it really tuched my heart and made me cry. I didn't really dislike the book except for the mother that was the worse part of the book.
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michael katz
This book is the best depiction of child abuse that I've ever read about. I could not put the book down, literally. I don't think Dave could have explained the realms of the "system" or of the games that alcoholics play with everyone around them any better than he did. I've read all three of his books and am looking forward for the next one. When Dave achieved a goal, I felt myself wanting to applaud and yell "Way to Go Dave." Sometimes I did. An extraordinary book, one that everyone must read. Thank You Dave, for giving me the pleasure of catching a glimpse of your world, then and NOW!
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I thought that this book was a good way to finish the life story of himself. Although this wasn't as good as the first two, it complete the whole book. I really enjoyed reading though about how his life ended with his son. What is just so unbelievable is how anyone's mother would do something like that. Why would someone's parent not want to claim the child. If you didn't want your kid, give him up for adoption, you don't just treat them like a nothing. Even though they might do the worst thing in the world or say the worst thing in the world, you treat them like your child. I just didn't understand it. I enjoyed reading the final version of Dave Pelzer's book. He really did a good job!
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bruce hill
The book is well written and details the journey of a man to seek answers for his childhood abuse at the hands of his mother. There were times I felt the story was too drawn out but overall it is an excellent story of courage and self-discovery.
Would highly recommend this book.
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john dittrich
This book by Dave Pelzer was by far the best book I have read. He mixed great wording and tear-jerking events to keep the reader flippin' pages. The boy who went through so much as a child just to be able to call himself Dave has risen out of the shadows of abuse, not only to write about abuse, but also how to prevent and conquer it. Dave Pelzer is an inspiration to all of us, and I would recommend this book to anyone! But make sure you read the first two ("A child called It" and "The Lost Boy").
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I would just like to say that Mr. Pelzer is a great Hero for coming out and sharing his story with the world so that others may change. I myself experienced some types of abuse as a child and can say that these books helped me to realize and understand that I am not at fault for my past. I also can say that this book helps me to realize that even when I am under more stress than I believe I can handle, that I can overcome my past and NOT repeat the abuse history.I hope that anyone who has ever suffered any type of abuse WILL read all of his books and learn from them that you are not a victim of your past, but you can learn from it and become a person from the experiences.
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I like the book but..soo sad, a child should never have 2 go through anything even compared 2 what poor dave pelzer went through...it has made him a strong man but...WHEW the pain of getting there. idk wher his mothr is or what became of her but she is a TERRABLE person. i do hope she has 2 pay 4 what she did 2 him..if not here she will in the world 2 come regardless, if she hasnt made things right with him and her creator. thanks!
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robbie hoffman
...but it is actually "Santo and Johnny":2 brothers from the 50's and 60's who play rhythm and slide guitars.All instrumental with cover versions of contemporary hits.Their original tunes are tops!Give them a try....
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tanya m
I read all three books. It is horrific what he went through as a child, but inspiring how he accomplished so much!!! I don't know him but do admire his tenacity and the life he built for himself, his son,a
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I can honestly say I have never read a series of books in which I have been so inspired! Dave is truly a better person than I in that he not only forgives his parents but honors those that finally saved his life by reporting the abuse to the authorities. I don't think I would have been as forgiving. Our society has come a long way in protecting our most vulnerable, our young people, but we still have a long way to go. When I have a down day, I think of a little boy named "It" and it brings things back into perspective. Stephan is a lucky young man to have a father like Dave. WAY TO GO DAVE!
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wendy schmidt
I thought that this book was a good end to the three books. Dave Pelzer truly has a way that can change many people's life forever. It makes me feel how lucky I am to have a family that cares for me, and makes me appreciate what I have in life. I think that Dave is a strong person and finally deserves happiness. Although I thought that the other books, "A Child Called It" and "The Lost Boy" were better, I think that this was the best way to end the book. I glad Dave gets the happiness that is well-deserved.
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It was very exciting to find out how his adulthood went for him. I give Dave a lot of credit for forgiving his mother after all she put him through. God bless this man for sharing his life story. Hopefully, this will help other abuse victims out.
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emma scholes
This book was so inspiring!!! Dave Pelzer is such a forgiving and loving person who should have never had to go through such a terrible childhood. To be beaten and tormented again and again, only to come up on top and be a loving husband and father. The only women he had in his life was his mother, and yet to this day, he looks up to women as respectful human beings. I would recommend this book to anybody who loves to read. I believe anybody who reads this book, will have a life-changing experience because I sure did!
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Everyone loves Dave Pelzer's books because the story he tells is an incredible story of suvival. I just think it's important to remind readers that there is no real evidence to back up the details of his story (some of it may be innaccurate, there's no way to prove it either way). We want to believe it and believe that Dave is an honest man, and that may be the case, but remember also that he is making a lot of money off these books, also earning a living through inspirational speaking, and money can be a strong motivator to twist truths to make books (or talks) more exciting. His "flowery" language at the beginning and end of all his books bothers me because I feel like he is trying to manipulate me into feeling "moved" by his experience. If he just stuck to the story and weaved his spiritual realizations into the text of the story in a more realistic way, I feel his books would be much better and would feel less manipulative. This is an entertaining book, though, and can be read in a day or two.
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tom ae
Anyone who works with children needs to read this series. So many times we are amoung children that are abused and no one knows it. In Dave's books he tells us how he would try to reach out to people but they didn't know it. I work with children and now I know what to watch for and what to do if I notice any of this. Dave is a man that has been threw a lot and NO ONE should ever know the kind of hurt he did. My heart goes out to Dave and all the abused people in the world. Thank you Dave for writing this series!
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karla webb
i found this book very interesting, i have read the previous two and am now on 'help yourself', after reading 'a child called it' and 'the lost boy' i was in tears but made me realise how precious life really is and to take one day at a time!!
it made me think of my life and changed my outlook on life and i feel a different person after reading these books, it made me think how Dave cope with his life and he truly is a very strong person and an excellent role model and i truly believe to follow your dreams!!!
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A Man Named Dave, even though it sounds awful, was perhaps the most boring and irritating book I've ever read. As Dave Pelzer is a grown man in this book, I didn't feel the sympathy that I felt for him in the first and second books. It lacked the shock factor of A child called it (a compelling read), and had the American quality of rambling on about nothing for hours all the way through. Frankly, I found his forgiveness for his mother annoying and tiresome, and I wished he had flipped and stabbed her in her sleep or something because that is what she deserved. His motivational speaking bored me to tears, and I found myself skim reading for page after page when I sensed a speech coming on. I felt I had wasted my money after finishing this book, and didn't even bother reading the summary of the fourth book as I knew exactly what it would involve; `learn to love yourself' and all that jazz. I would recommend this book to people who don't mind reading 424 pages of mush. Saying that, I would highly recommend "A child called `it'", because that is an excellent story, and was a book that taught 'triumph and forgiveness' without a further four books.
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michaela kuhn
I read all three of the books, I have to admit that I found it very hard to read, at times. I did finish them and was glad I did. It is so hard for us to believe that another human being can treat someone so terribe, but to have that person be your mother, the one that gave life to you. I have 2 adorable boys, and I admit there are days that they get on my nerves, but to take their childhood away from them to torture them is completly unthinkable. I marvle at Dave Pelzer, you have a very strong soul, where many of us would have given up.
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traci nigon
I cannot express the depth of understanding that I have gained from this book. I spent 30 years feeling unique in my upbringing. I have been able to understand and put to rest many conflicting feelings toward my parents because of this book. I cannot stress enough the importance of this book to the abused (ME) or more importantly, to my spouse in understanding my fears and relational misgivings. Please read this and if you know someont that needs it...you can do no better than Mr Pelzer. his honestly can set you free.
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renee schnell
These are 3 of the most powerful, emotional, intense books I've ever read. If you make it through them without shedding a tear you must have not read them right. I have such admiration for this person who had such a horrible youth and he still became an amazing adult. Read this book and then recommend it to all your friends.
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jeryl hayes
I loved this book. I already read A child called it & The Lost Boy. I was touched by all three. However A Man named Dave brought tears to my eyes and made me very emotional. I applaud David Pelzer for sharing his life. He seems to be a re-markable man.
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kate mulley
I have read the trilogy of Dave Pelzer's books and found them all to be a riveting read. On several occasions throughout all the books I had to re-read pages over again because my emotions got the better of me. All the books are well writen and easy to read, once started I could not put them down again till finished.I congratulate the author DAVE PELZER on three truly great books and thank him for sharing his live with us all.
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This book talks about how when Dave was a little boy, the way his mother treated him, unequal to his brothers. And how he recuperated over the years that he was seperated from his mother. He say's that the voice and face still haunt him in his mind. He say's that he will never fully heal from what she put him through as a child. He found out that, in heart and soul, as a nameless little boy he finally was a free man.
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booklover sg
This was a really good book. It's almost like as soon as you read the first page you can just about guess what's going to happen next. My opinion on the author is, he's a very good writer. It's like he know what to write to catch people eyes. The reason for me picking this book is my best friend read the book "A child called it" and said it was good. So i figured a man named Dave was going to be the sequel, so i thought i might find out.
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kirstin korinko
"A Child Called IT" and the "Lost Boy" were the best books I have ever read. It is amazing that Dave is as strong as he is today after going through his mother's sick games. I wish I could meet Dave in person and thank him for everything. After reading I wanted to give him a big hug and wipe my eyes. I stay up reading every word of the book and can't seem to put it down to sleep. Thanks Dave! I am so prowd of you!
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katie wood
This book is about the compassion and forgiveness the author finds in the face of horrible abuse. In the first two book we all felt the author's natural reactions to his abuse. Now in the third book the author gives us the solution. Not the solution to abuse but the solution for all victims of abuse - compassion and forgiveness. I did not get this understanding until after I read the book An Encounter With A Prophet which more explicitly shows how to accomplish the solution.
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My heart goes out to Dave Pelzer. I admire him so much! At first I just didn't understand why he didn't hate his mother, but eventually realized he is a better person for not. I am so sorry he had to go through it all and no one was there to help. I hope some day I am able to see him on a talk show. I hope too some day they can make a movie on Dave's books. God Bless you Dave Pelzer!
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I only began reading this book as an assignment for a policy course. I am so glad now that I read it. It is moving and thought provoking and throughout the book I wanted to just reach out and help him. I would highly recommend this book to anyone. I couldn't put it down. I will now be reading the others in the series by the same author.
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laura bandstra
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diane murphy
in all my life,this is the most heart wrenching story i had ever read in my life.i'm a fan of biographies and i had never read a story which really touches ny heart.i'm a child of abuse however mine wasnt this bad.i'm actually greatful for what i have in my life.At least now i know i wasn't alone undergoing the pain in my past.To all parents,love your child.
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ramaa ramesh
Really gives you answers to a lot of questions that you ask yourself during the first two.
I am in the process of adding all of Pdlzers books to.my kindle,he's a great writer, and so brave to be so honest
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mahesh gondi
I thought this book was great. I have never seen a man like him so full of hope and determanation. I also think it is cool that he goes out and tells his courageous story. I would recommend this book to anyone. It incourages people to go out and follow their dreams and to live life to the fullest and it also teaches you forgiviness.
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brian murray
The only word that comes to mind is "UNBELIEVABLE". I promise you that after reading the 3 books in this series you will probably pick them up and start all over again. Do you know of anyone that hasn't read these books? Tell them about the books and they'll thank you for it. This should be required reading for everyone. Way to go Dave!
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I read the 3 book series and have the utmost respect for Daivd Peltzer. Surviving what he has, and being able to share his story with others is completely amazing. No one should have to go through what he did, but he is a survivor. I hope that the rest of his life will be happy.
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michael rowley
I have to say that I was very disappointed by the entire "A Child Called It" series. I couldn't put down the first book, simply because the horror of it was so captivating. When I finished it, I couldn't believe that he did not explain anything about WHY his mother had turned so evil. So, like everyone else, I had to read the second book to find out. I felt so cheated by the second book because once again, he did no analysis on WHY, and rubs it in by specifically referring to it on the very last page! So, I bitterly continued onto the third book, staying up late just to finish it so I could get it over with (many parts were boring). He did spend about 1/2 a chapter trying to explain WHY, but he does such a terrible job of it that I was thoroughly disappointed. I also have NO idea why he is so loyal to his father. His father sat by and watched while his mother nearly killed him! And yet he defends his father to the end...it's completely crazy. His sentimental writing style is also completely unconvincing. Not that I doubt that he has a lot to offer because of his incredible experience, but he's definitely NOT a writer, and it's too bad that he wasn't able to address the issues of abuse and anger with a little more depth and complexity.
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I don't understand what people are having a problem with. This story is true and it CAN happen, even today. Why is that so hard to fathom? I'm sorry if everyone hasn't lived a perfect life like the other reviewers but they need to wake up!!! The whole trilogy is amazing but not for the sensitive.
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aaron goodall
I was thrilled to finally get to read the third book in this trilogy. Like the first two, it was a compelling read. He has an incredible story, and I feel very fortunate that I was able to share in it. I feel "satisfied" now that I finished this book. Thank you, David Pelzer, for showing us how to overcome and forgive.
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I love the book called It. I was crying through out the whole book. I was also mesmerized at Dave's courage to live as a child. I feel for him as a little boy. I just want to say, I am so proud of you David for keeping the faith in God and in yourself. You have made a difference in my life. Thank you so much :-)
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sj homer
A theatrical, less than satisfactory ending to an otherwise good, albeit clumsily written and not wholly convincing story. The dialogues used in this book feel fabricated somewhat and most of the stories told here were simply a rerun of those that were written in the first two books in the trilogy. If you liked Pelzer's earlier works, I advice you not to read this book as it didn't really add anything much nor answer any "why's" from the original story. Disappointing.
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carmel morgan
I bought this book for my sister who isn't much of a reader. It's hard to find books that are interesting for teenagers. Not only will an adult like it, but it is a great distraction for the teenager stuck on Jerry Springer!
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I found this book to be well written and an excellent example of how it is possible to turn your own life around if you have the will power to do so.The previouse two books in the trilogy have to be read to fully understand the strength of character that Dave Pelzer must have.
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jason kormes
It is truely amazing that a person that has dealt with what Dave has can right the wrongs done to him throughout life and survive as he has. My young sons have read all three books and are amazed at what he went through and what his mother got away with. He is quite a man! Good Luck Dave in everything that you do!
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marie t
David Peltzer has captured his entire life in this book. David somehow endured a horrific childhood to become an incredible adult... A lesson for all of us to ponder. This book is a must read for anyone who says, "It is not my problem."
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jordon salbato
The books that the Pelzer brothers wrote are astonishing. They had an awful childhood and rose above it all. I read Dave Pelzer 3 books and his brother Richards 2 books in a 2 week time span. I could not put them down.
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cameron dayton
I think A Child Called "It" and the Lost Boy was breath taking. I couldn't put the book down after I started reading them. David Pelzer is an inspiration to all abused children in this world. I was glad to read that he had triumphed through such an ordeal as a child.
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I read all three books and found each one inspiring. Yes, they are very sad and I shed a lot of tears but Dave Pelzer is an amazing man who triumphed against the odds. I couldn't put these books down. Highly recommended!!!
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david burk
A very powerful book about moving on, forgiveness, and coming full circle. A must read for anyone who has experienced hardship(s) in life, or has suffered from poor self esteem. Dave Pelzer proves not only can you survive; but you can SUCCEED!
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amy christin
It's time to man up Dave and tell the truth, the whole truth and nothing but. The final book in your trilogy of abuse "A Man Called Dave" is as hard to swallow as the frozen hot dogs you claimed to have shoved down your throat in a "A Child Called It."

You start by recapping the abuse, entry into foster care and finally induction into the Air Force. Are we suppose to believe you didn't know what shampoo was until you got to your first foster home? What did you use to wash your hair before your Cub Scout meetings? And don't tell me you didn't know how to properly fill a bathtub when you were kept naked
in cold water in one by your mother.

And how did your older brother Stan become your younger brother and why did we have to wait for the third book to find out he is mentally retarded?
You can't even be honest about the funeral Mass for your father. No priest
would ever give a eulogy consisting only of mentioning an upcoming potluck
and the cancelation of a Wednesday night sermon.

Your time in the service dosen't make sense to me. You may have been a
"working fool" but you didn't fool me with your superhuman exploits.

When you first decided to go about the country giving "inspiratonal" talks, you said you were mismaanged by the compnay you signed with to promote your speaking engagements. But weren't you taking advances from
the same people you said cheated you?

Your most blatant discrepancy is revealed when you return to your old
elematary school and meet with one of your former teachers who reveals
how you were "rescued". You should have gone back and read your previous
books so you could get the story straight.

Your first wife, Patsy, had it right. She didn't believe your stories
and neither do I.
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tara reid
This book is emotional and you should read all his books. Every parent and teacher should read these books just to let you know that this abuse really does happen in life. Lets not just sweep it under the rug any longer.
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scott hefte
In this book dave met with his mother for all the horrible things she did to him in a child called "it". Dave forgave his mother for all the horrible things she did to him as a little child. This was a great book.
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sarah keeton
This book is so amazing. I don't know how Dave can forgive the abuse he suffered as a child. He had the spunk and determination to turn his life into good by helping others. In my eyes he is a hero. Great reading!
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aisha elvira
...badly written, so bad that the writing renders the complex story completely opaque. Made me wonder if any actual editors read the manuscript. I kept imagining this story told by an actual writer. He desperately needed a ghostwriter. Truly awful.
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