If He Wants to Marry My Daughter - What He Must Be

This book is a very helpful guide to help fathers (or even single mothers) teach their daughters how to find a godly man.

I'm using the book for my 15 year old daughter and separately for my 14 year old son. The focus is not only what their future spouses must be, but what they must be to be pleasing to God and have a godly spouse, not unequally yoked.

Excellent book! The author issues a challenge to parents, particularly fathers, to be involved in their daughters' lives as the daughter makes a huge decision: who to marry. An absolute gem of encouragement and movtivation for dads.

THIS is an awesome book! So much information on a before courtship/dating experience! Vodie is one of my favorite authors and this one reaches out to ANYONE who is interested in getting married someday! Both male and female must read this book AND take to heart the message it brings.

This book is a refreshing explanation of biblical manhood from the perspective of a (theologically) conservative Christian. The book is accessible and short, so it is an easy weekend read. The author's use of personal stories and anecdotes make it an enjoyable read, and the content is convicting and thought-provoking. The clear argumentation and straightforward style are also helpful for the reader.

As my father did not select my husband, neither did my husband (or I) select husbands for our daughters. They have had the chance to date, get to know various men, and find the one that makes their heart happy. Whether the prospective spouse is a member of our Christian religion, another Christian religion, another religion, or none at all isn't important. What's important is the love and trust they have. This has always worked in our family; I don't see any reason to allow the father to make the selection or interrogate the prospective spouse; that simply implies that our daughter is not intelligent in choosing the person she wishes to spend the rest of her life with.

Are you kidding me? In this modern day, people will willingly hand over their daughters like chattel? What a load of horse manure. If you want a list of what qualities you should look for..how about does he make your daughter happy? Does he respect her wishes? Does he treat others with respect? Is he trying to be an equal partner with her?

Instead of this old mythological crap from the dark friggin' ages.

if you love your daughter enough to research this issue and read crap like this, then please throw this book away (or place it in the outhouse where it can be put to good use) and try this instead: trust her. yep, trust her to make her own choices in life based on HER preferences in a mate, not yours, and certainly not some morons interpretation of gods will. be a good parent by raising a daughter who can make her own informed choices indepedent of bronze age predjudices. do you really want to give your daughter away to some man who will dominate, dehumanize, and boss her around? is it indeed your place to make these decisions for her? the answers can be found in your own brain, not in any book. use your logic!

This book is preaching to the choir, intended at fundamentalist christians capable of the double-thought necessary to accept the role of women in the Bible as the utmost aspiration for a woman. Looking at the 5 star reviews will tell you everything you need to know.

Ask Voddie Baucham how to best prepare for leadership and ministry and he may tell you to get married and have children. You may be wondering what that has to do with helping your daughter choose a suitor. The answer is that it has everything to do with helping your daughter choose a suitor. This book is directed at Christian parents, especially fathers. As followers of Christ it is the father's duty to lead and minister in his own home first. If you aren't sure what this looks like, you may want to consider for yourself the qualities Voddie suggests we should be looking for in our daughter's future husband and instilling in our sons who will most likely be husbands themselves some day.

The first part of the book lays the groundwork for the vision and thought behind these counter-cultural ideas. Chapter one expresses the need for fathers to have a Christ-centered multigenerational vision that extends to the children, grandchildren and beyond. Chapter two describes marriage as a ministry, explaining how marriage is a fertile training ground for future church leaders as the Christian marriage illustrates the relationship of Christ and the church to a lost and hurting world. Chapter three explains a father's role as he exercises gospel patriarchy.

Chapters four through eight lay out the qualities we should be looking for in our daughter's potential suitors and instilling in our own sons. They are as follows:

* He must be a follower of Christ (chapter 4)
* He must be prepared to lead (chapter 5)
* He must lead like Christ (chapter 6)
* He must be committed to children (chapter 7)
* He must be a protector (chapter 8)
o He must be a man of personal holiness
o He must be a man of true gentleness
o He must be a man of great resolve
o He must be a man of genuine compassion
o He must be a man of true bravery
* He must be a provider (chapter 8)
o He must have a job
o He must have a work ethic
o He must have a plan
* He must be a prophet / priest (chapter 8)
o A man must pray with and for his family
o A man must preach to his family

Chapter nine discusses the importance of protecting our daughter's purity, heart, focus, future spouse, and hope. Chapter ten talks about the importance of raising our own sons to be Godly men and describes how our influence as fathers will influence our daughter's choice of potential suitors. The conclusion offers some thoughts on the issue of ethnicity in relation to marriage and children.

If you're a father, I strongly encourage you to pick up a copy of What He Must Be ...if he wants to marry my daughter. At the very least, I hope it will show you that you don't have to accept the cultural norms when it comes to preparing your daughters and sons for marriage. God has called us to something much larger and we should seize it and move forward with all our might.

Voddie Baucham Jr. is a pastor, conference speaker, and Bible teacher. He is a graduate of Southwestern and Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminaries and has also studied at the University of Oxford. Baucham is the author of The Ever-Loving Truth, the Telly Award-winning Ever-Loving Truth Bible study curriculum, and Family Driven Faith. He and his wife, Bridget have five children. Learn more about Voddie Baucham Jr. and his ministry at [familydrivenfaith.org] and [voddiebaucham.org].