Free Yourself from Sex Addiction - Porn Obsession

I have seen porn ruin marriages and keep men from being all that they need to be. We must understand that porn exploits the weak in our society. we cannot be strong as long as we participate in the exploitation of others.

I’m of the self-help generation and often assist others with life issues. The reviews I read on this book and the title seemed to suggest it would be a helpful tool but it is far, far from that. Look elsewhere.

This book doesn't offer information on managing relapse. It also fails to mention the dangers of codependency when attempting to help another addict. I was expecting some biblically based truths here but found a sanitized text. The book isn't horrible but feels weak.

I thought parts of this book were juvenile nonsense and other parts new age jibber jabber. The thought "that I am not my addiction" was probably the only helpful advice I got from this book. Mostly a waste of money.

MY STORY IS , I WAS A COMPULSIVE MASTURBATOR , AND I DESTROYED HALF OF MY LIFE DUE TO THIS HABBIT , BUT AFTER READING THIS BOOK I HAVE NOT STOP MY HABBIT WHICH YOU NEED AN EXTRA TREATMENT BUT I HAVE REDUCE THE AMOUT I USE TO MASTURBATE , N THIS BOOK TEACHES YOU A REAL LIFE LESSON THIS BOOK IS REAL GUYS A REAL BOOK NO FAKE , THIS HAPPENS TO EVERY MAN WHO IS IN THIS TRAP , I WANT TO THANK A LOT TO DR . GEORGE COLLIN . YOU HAVE SAVE MILLION PEOPLE LIFE .

I've read over a dozen sexual addiction books and about twice more on the topic of addiction. This book is hands-down THE BIBLE for anyone who is or was addicted to lusting and being lusted after (pornography, strip clubs, prostitutes, escort services, chat rooms, adult magazines, cruising, objectifying, etc.). George Collins has felt the dark and "Noir" side of sexual addiction and is here on the other side (recovery) to share his techniques on how it shall work for you. This is THE BOOK that is the template for your recovery back to who you are supposed to be.

I've spent half of my life avoiding and denying my internal pains with sexual compulsions. This book is NOT filled with scientific explanations and complicated ideas; it is easy to read, inserted with humor, and paced with a fluid flow. I've been married for two years, father of three children, a Marine of ten years, a veteran of Afghanistan, a graduate of a university, brought up in a broken home with two addicted biological parents, and grazed with other adults of behavioral and mental issues, a family history of alcoholism/addiction/objectification.... this book changed my life.

For decades, I thought that my life and mind were unchangeable. I thought I was doomed, isolated with no hope for the rest of my life. Get to know this book and George's state of mind; and you break the chains that bind you.

As a recovering addict, a professional in the field of clinical social work, and an educator on sex, sexuality, and sexual health, I would argue this book is dangerous. The stories involve antiquated, regressive tropes that do little to combat the objectification of women or the self-imposed isolation of men suffering from sex addiction. The author reinforces implicit messages of shame, contributes to rape culture, slut shaming, and holding men responsible for the sexuality of women.

While the author is explicit that the audience for this book is heterosexual men, he invests in heteronormative, rigidly masculine narratives under the guise of vulnerability and intimacy. The book relies on narrow understandings of gender, with an occasional, tokenizing nod to those who implicitly fail at properly performing that gender. While I did not expect this book to appeal to every audience, I did expect something at least a little more comprehensive and inclusive regarding discourses on sex and sexuality.

Some of the techniques outlined in this book may be useful for uncovering trauma as a starting point in addressing addiction, but the book itself as a "self help tool" is severely lacking. The book operates from a conventional, conservative, moralistic, normative value system and leaves too many men out of the conversation.

If the goal is to confront your sex addiction in order to marry a woman who will raise your children and keep house while you work your 9 to 5, this book might appeal to you. However, if your story, like the lives of most people, is even remotely more complicated or dynamic, at the very least do not rely on this book alone to "free yourself from sex addiction."

Excellent book. I listened to the audiobook twice. The material is relevant and up to date. He lays out useful tips and tools to use for recovery. This isn't the sole book to use but I think it's one of the must have books for a recovering sex addict. His explanation of the individuals story was help to me as that story drives the repetitive behavior. He's non judgemental and is non religious or spiritual. If anything in that regard he's probably a bit of a closet Buddhist or a mindfulness type of person. Also relevant and up to date. This book really opened my eyes. I've known about my SA for many years and have read a lot of books including analytical ones. I thought I knew a lot but this added new layers- for which I'm grate.

This book was a huge dissappointment to me.
The writer makes many assumptions on the situation of the reader, which causes the book to be useful only to a very specific group of extreme addicts. E.g. The assumption that you have had a bad youth and that you're probably practicing illegal activities.
The overdramatization makes to book hard to be taken seriously.
I am clean for 36 days from porn use and masturbation and I had a great help in another selfhelp book 'your brain on porn'.
That book is really general, down to earth and uses scientific sources wherever possible.
Breaking the cycle however, actually triggered me by using very explicit and farfetched anecdotes of sexual situations.
I would really recommend against buying this book.

Collins' jarringly unconventional approach to treatment/therapy seemed very out-of-step with the way I think and work through problems. Several pages in, when detailing the manner in which he "successfully" intervened with his patients, I found myself reviewing the back cover to check his educational credentials. His first exercise for the readers' self-analysis (i.e., "turning on the lights" and confronting one's sub-personality) seemed unnecessarily negatively confrontational and lacked the logical, therapeutic approach I've found work best for me in DIY therapy. Lastly, the title of the one chapter, You Are Not Your Mind, went so against what I believe, I could not bring myself to read further.

After being involved, unfortunately off and on, with twelve step groups...I found this a great resource for recovery. George writes in a very direct style...almost as you would expect from a therapist you are working with in addition to 12 step programs. He shares some wonderful, very honest stories from his own life and recovery...and some very helpful, seemingly sound practical tools to help one heal from the destructive pattern of compulsive sexual behavior.

The only short coming I felt, was that although he seems open to a Higher Power being part of recovery, he is very subtle in approaching this aspect of recovery. My impression is that he may be coming from a Buddhist approach to spirituality, which is fine. He may intentionally be trying to be sensitive to a diverse audience, and is being respectful in his approach.

I highly recommend this book...it has been helpful to me, and I am sure it will be so for others.

This a much needed book, the advice and exercises provided in this book are very helpful. This book is raw and honest as it's gets. I've read a handful of faith based books on shame and none of those books spoke to me as much as this book. I may not agree with the authors theological view points, but this book is one that every one struggling with pornography (or any other compulsive behaviors) should read. It is a comfort and a battle cry at the same time.

Encouraging and useful. If you're looking for help to get past a sexual bind or out of a rut, this book has a depth of insight, amusing anecdotes and more than a few useful tips. It's an easy read; direct but friendly. The guy can easily relate, and he knows what he's talking about.

However, I would like to tackle the claim made by the author, where he states that his goal was that you'll "never have to read this or another book on sex addiction ever again" (page 73/209.) It's a lofty goal, and I wouldn't want to poor cold water on anyone's ambition. But is such a book possible? For as useful as this book surely is in itself, it did raise other questions in my mind.

For this or any other issue concerning moral psychology, the essential questions are: what is appropriate conduct, and what will motivate a man to do what is right? This book assumes these answers rather than dig into them. It assumes that anyone picking up this book has totally decided within himself that he'll no longer have anything to do with strip clubs, blue movies, cruising, staring at women in the mall or whatever else. Only a faithful, intimate, monogamous relationship may now be the acceptable goal or standard. And what motivates a man toward this? Because this is the right thing to do.

But what motivates a man to want to voluntarily do the right thing, all the time? Is it the law, or religion, or philosophy, or the pain of bad past choices, or some combination thereof? If you knew the answer to this question, you could bottle it, and then use it to solve all the world's problems.

For the man who has made up his mind that this is what he wants, in these pages he will find good ideas, some reasons to motivate him towards doing the right thing and getting his life back on track. But human sexuality is complex, and our hearts are fickle. What brings a man to that point where he knows he needs to radically change, and also knows what the changed man looks like that he wants to become?

I like chess, and I have read several books on it. But there's no one book ever written that can tell you all the necessary strategies to always get you over the line. And human sexuality can even be more complex than chess.

I would very much recommend this book for its valuable insight. But it won't be the definitive end answer for everyone. I don't think any one book can say it all. Life is a long journey, traveled with the advice of many alongside.

One other title I also would suggest is 'Breaking Free: Understanding Sexual Addiction & the Healing Power of Jesus', by Russell Willingham. This covers some similar ground to Collins' book, but, obviously, coming from a solidly Christian angle. Collins' perspective is non-religious, but I would recommend both books to anyone.

This is an awesome book on a subject whose relevance has grown exponentially along with the internet. Collins takes the reader directly into the harrowing realities of the addict's experience, and its fallout to his family, his job, his self-esteem, and in the case of prostitution, the very object of his compulsions. Nothing is held back; no attempt is made to make the subject "palatable" to the reader. This is a book for the individual who is brave enough to confront the Truth of sexual addiction, and take the first step toward healing this pitiful affliction. Ferrel

There is hope! That is the message Breaking the Cycle sends and George Collins delivers. The truth is, this book and the tools it offers provide you with an opportunity to break free from ANY addiction holding you in its grip. Whatever your poison- be it sex, drugs, alcohol, or a relationship, they all do the same thing- provide you an escape, albeit, temporary from the "story" that ails you. George offers us an opportunity to understand and recognize what our own story is. He then walks us through the process of turning the page and beginning a new chapter..... This time our "true self" is the author, not our parents, siblings, bosses, or ex-lovers.

This isn't for the weak. The work is hard. It takes time. And it is worth it. If you've lost hope- this book is for you. If you know too well the "hung over" feeing that settles in your gut after swimming in your addiction, you are only steps away from the journey towards freedom. I speak from experience. I am a middle aged woman who came upon Mr. Collin's teachings by what can only be called serendipity. My life will forever be changed for the better. Yours can be too.

Cognitive Therapy is soothing. You get to tell your therapist your issues and he or she listens, an then every so often that "WOW" moment happens, and the therapist says, that was a good session, and chargers you a few hundred books.. Been there, done that. Enlightening but it did not help me to truly address my sexual compulsion and my internet porn presence.

In George Collin's book "Breaking the Cycle" he has made me face my sub personalities, my past hurts, people in past relationships and this 40 year addiction that has ruined my past life and relationships...that is my OLD story....it is NOT me.

The book gives exercises, like one on how to write a dialogue with your sub-personalites, your addict, the shamed little boy, old girlfriends, your anger...all those things inside that have you STUCK, and not enjoying the moment. His book give you the understanding why your habit/compulsion/addicition is there, and how to be "mindful" and stop acting out. To enjoy your essence, of who you are, and that your past, your OLD story is NOT you...I am ready to enjoy a future where acting out sexually is ONLY my OLD STORY, love, compassion and intimacy will be the positive energies that will complete me and all who are a part of life.

It is effective....but frustrating and painful at times, but it is "can do" working therapy with results. Better than 12 step on high octane jet fuel. If you are tired about just talking about and just reading about your compulsive sexual behaviors....get this book and take care of business.

Find your essence, and joy and live a future that is not controlled by acting out sexually.

I would also recommend Ekhart Tolle's "The Principals of the Power of Now" to compliment "Breaking the Cycle". All of Tolle's books are excellent.
Patrick Carne's book, "In the Shadow of the Net" is a great resource for support and offering solutions to minimize and blocking access to the internet and porn, and how to effectively utilize 12 step programs. I done a lot of reading....saving you some time...these are great books that get to the POINT.
If you are Christian, the book "Every Man's Battle" refers to Scripture and references how we destroy relationship with our Lust. It leaves no wiggle room.

All too often the topic of sex addiction is discussed with nervous laughter. The occasional celebrity infidelity is treated with voyeuristic intrigue and a certain envy. Unfortunately, our interest is too frequently limited to salacious details. Perhaps, our uncertain response is due our discomfort in attempting to integrate our inherent understanding that such addictions may be catastrophic with the locker room titillation which most of us men experienced as young teenagers.

In "Breaking The Cycle", the author addresses the enormous cost of sexual addiction to individuals, families, and society. He does so in an empathic manner, which allows us to peer beneath the curtain of ersatz sensuality and appreciate the emotional and psychic torment, which underly such sexual disorders, and their consequent spiral into disaster. I so admire the author's candor in his description of his own battles with addiction. His incredible work as author and counselor displays the sort of redemption we read about only in novels.

I readily commend this work to professionals and lay persons who have even the slightest interest in the topic. Having read it, I genuinely believe, those who suffer such addictions will be far more capable of identifying similar struggles in themselves. Equally important, and as the author makes brilliantly clear, such self-awareness offers the clearest path to warmer and more intimate relationships.

Compelling, articulate and thought-provoking. An excellent reference to stimulate group discussion using author's and other's experience as case studies. I like the citations referring to other authors and subject matter experts to reinforce theory. The author has well captured the multiple complexities of sexual addition illustrating real life situations people endured, managed or mis-managed as addicts; however he offers solutions to compulsive behavior. He is effective at hitting the nerve of us all to do something and take action and not live in reaction to our history.

I recently purchased Mr. Collins' book. My marriage was in crisis due to my personal problems with pornography and I have looked at other self-help books in this area. Breaking the Cycle is different. It's in your face, it's direct and it gives you easy to follow directions and information. This book has opened both my eyes and my heart and has also helped my wife understand this embarrassing topic too. This is not a book rich in therapy talk or diagnostic studies but rather true to life experiences and how to help get out of this mess. I needed that. I look forward to another follow up to this book.

This is a remarkable body of work. A fascinating approach to help my generations biggest internal epidemic (Sexual Obsession). Collins carves a path for the addicted that can not only lead to freedom from such behavior, but also to profound happiness in all areas of life. The act of reading this book can create a dramatic shift in ones way of understanding how the mind works for and against us. George's compassion for the addict is gentle yet "fatherly" firm and will allow the reader to drop their guard long enough to allow their hearts to open up to a way out.

Possibly one of the most potent self help books ever produced, because it addresses a topic so out of control yet so difficult to speak about. Colllin's often quoted phrase "You're only as sick as your secrets" is a heart changing theme from beginning to end. The real talk and language entirely necessary and careful applied throughout. A truly historic effort by Collins.

There are many books on sexual addiction. However, most of them are based on the famous 12 steps for recovery. This book does not refer to the 12 steps directly. Rather, this book offers daily practical and easy-to-do methods to those who suffer from the addiction. It is worth trying the excercises the book offers. Sex addiction is nothing but misfortune. But it is no use to blame someone, especially the parents. Although those who suffer from this addiction tend to think it impossible to cure it, this book gives real and practical hope and ways for the recovery.

This book cures. Collins provides tools, clarity, comfort and courage to people, like me, who are sex addicts. It's not candy-coated and his language is direct, even forceful. And if it weren't forceful his voice would be just another among the failed namby-pamby sex addiction counselors. Different therapies work for different people and Collins' approach is unique in that he comes from sex addiction and he explored various treatments before developing one that actually works. I know because I am one of those who have had the privilege of Collins' wisdom. I'm the successful neighbor, colleague, husband and father who lived a double life until I connected with the therapy laid out in this book. The book explains the emotional and psychological foundations of sex addiction and then provides clear, successful steps an addict can take to get from darkness to light. Don't be fooled, this is damn hard work. More importantly, it's not a bunch of new age garbage, it's real. It's well-written and refreshing in tone. Above all, it cures.

Well-deserved praise to Mr. Collins for his searing insight into this most vexing of addictions. As someone who has experienced compulsive sexual behavior, I am extraordinarily grateful to have experienced George's compassionate, nonjudgmental help first-hand and when most needed. Sex addiction can be particularly misunderstood and prone to amateurish opinions and half-baked conclusions by the public at large. With George's expert, gentle approach, I was lead back to myself to critically examine the various negative scripts and stories I created. This creation only served for me to remain feeling trapped within the maze of my own life. As a gay man, I initially doubted that George's methodology would be effective. To the contrary, all principles and exercises presented are universal. Blessings and healing to everyone on this shared journey of self-discovery.

This is a remarkable body of work. A fascinating approach to help my generations biggest internal epidemic (Sexual Obsession). Collins carves a path for the addicted that can not only lead to freedom from such behavior, but also to profound happiness in all areas of life. The act of reading this book can create a dramatic shift in ones way of understanding how the mind works for and against us. George's compassion for the addict is gentle yet "fatherly" firm and will allow the reader to drop their guard long enough to allow their hearts to open up to a way out.

Possibly one of the most potent self help books ever produced, because it addresses a topic so out of control yet so difficult to speak about. Colllin's often quoted phrase "You're only as sick as your secrets" is a heart changing theme from beginning to end. The real talk and language entirely necessary and careful applied throughout. A truly historic effort by Collins.

There are many books on sexual addiction. However, most of them are based on the famous 12 steps for recovery. This book does not refer to the 12 steps directly. Rather, this book offers daily practical and easy-to-do methods to those who suffer from the addiction. It is worth trying the excercises the book offers. Sex addiction is nothing but misfortune. But it is no use to blame someone, especially the parents. Although those who suffer from this addiction tend to think it impossible to cure it, this book gives real and practical hope and ways for the recovery.

This book cures. Collins provides tools, clarity, comfort and courage to people, like me, who are sex addicts. It's not candy-coated and his language is direct, even forceful. And if it weren't forceful his voice would be just another among the failed namby-pamby sex addiction counselors. Different therapies work for different people and Collins' approach is unique in that he comes from sex addiction and he explored various treatments before developing one that actually works. I know because I am one of those who have had the privilege of Collins' wisdom. I'm the successful neighbor, colleague, husband and father who lived a double life until I connected with the therapy laid out in this book. The book explains the emotional and psychological foundations of sex addiction and then provides clear, successful steps an addict can take to get from darkness to light. Don't be fooled, this is damn hard work. More importantly, it's not a bunch of new age garbage, it's real. It's well-written and refreshing in tone. Above all, it cures.

Well-deserved praise to Mr. Collins for his searing insight into this most vexing of addictions. As someone who has experienced compulsive sexual behavior, I am extraordinarily grateful to have experienced George's compassionate, nonjudgmental help first-hand and when most needed. Sex addiction can be particularly misunderstood and prone to amateurish opinions and half-baked conclusions by the public at large. With George's expert, gentle approach, I was lead back to myself to critically examine the various negative scripts and stories I created. This creation only served for me to remain feeling trapped within the maze of my own life. As a gay man, I initially doubted that George's methodology would be effective. To the contrary, all principles and exercises presented are universal. Blessings and healing to everyone on this shared journey of self-discovery.

Breaking the Cycle, steps away from the clinical mind boggling statistics that can sometimes clutter up books. Mr Collins gives you the tools, teaches you the tricks and gives away the secrets. He knows first hand the deep pain that comes along with this addiction/compulsion and wants to reach and help as many people as he can. I'm an avid reader and have struggled with porn addiction most of my life. I've read other books out their having to do with porn addiction and more or less they left me with more questions than answers, a mind full of numbers, or, me asking myself if I missed a chapter because I'm still looking at porn. Breaking the Cycle, saved my marriage, and my life. Those of you who are suffering know just what I mean when I say my life. I'm forever in your debt George, thank you for creating a book for men like me.

If you're looking for long theories and intellectual explanations, don't waste your time reading this book. George's work is for people who want to do something about their problem; to to get out of a situation they never, ever expected to find themselves in. He is credible. He starts by telling his own story which proves he's walked the path he's prescribing. He never says it is easy to overcome an addiction so don't look for any sugarcoating. The flip side is that he never stops encouraging you to do what you have to do to regain your life.

The techniques described in this book are life saving and life changing. George's methods took me from an unhappy, unfulfilled, spiraling existence to one of joy, peace, fulfillment and success. With daily practice, life keeps getting better and better.

This is an advice about my experience about this book: In fact it made me feel worse because, besides finding the "technics" realy silly and a bad joke, thinking about the problem just makes it uncontrolable, it is not helpfull at all!. Despite all good reviews, I don`t recommend this book. If you also have the problem and it is affecting your life, look for professional help. If you think your problem is not that serious, which I found out is the majority of cases, and no one is killing himself for that,(as this book keeps suggesting) just try to have a purpose in your life and keep busy, so that you wont have the time for porno or whatever kind of fantasies that are consuming your days. What helped to help me focus and avoid wasting time is Bryan Golden's book "Dare to live without limits" It is very simple and easy to follow and it really helps! Apologize about my english, it is not my first language.

Sex addiction is good . Means you are alive . Porn keeps it alive. Life is short. LH.

Who knows maybe the whole reason for our EXISTENCE on this planet is to procreate , ever thought of that? .