Release the Beliefs That Hold You Back from Living A Better Life

After reading this book I scoped other people's points of view and this girl Lori nailed it. Please read this. It's perfectly said.

Gabby and her husband nicknamed “Hollywood” are about branding, not spirituality.

- But if you're one of those rich girls she peddles to, whose on a "spiritual journey" so your parents pay your rent or triggered at the idea of getting a real job, this book is a perfect fit for you.

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"I had many problems with this book. Mainly I found it boring and repetitive. Plus I agree with some other reviewers here - that Gabby doesn't go deep. A lot of her info is surface oriented. "

"Gabby held a blog contest - which required people to write positive reviews on the store - if Gabby were to consider posting their submission on her site. I suppose this is a good marketing tool for Gabby to come up with to get a bunch of writers who want some publicity to write positive reviews on the store about Gabby's book - but - in the end, this means that if you're considering buying this book - you should pause before you do so - and make sure you're not being lured in by insincere reviews."

"When I first discovered Gabby I really liked the message she was sending. I flipped through her book "Add more Ing to your life" and I was looking forward to reading it. I never ended up reading it or any of her books because shortly after I decided to attend one of her events in person. Hoping to feel uplifted and inspired. Instead I was very dissapointed. The spiritual talk was held at a glitsy night club and bar. Everyone was dressed in designer clothes with Prada shoes etc. It just seemed like everyone was into themselves into shmoozing and some were even rude. The vibe seemed really opposite to the message she speaks about. She spoke well but what got me was after her talk she walked passed me and gave me a kind of... well...dirty look. Now that could just have been my imagination but I don't think it was. After that I just couldn't take what she writes seriously. In person it seems she is all about the designer purses and glitz while in a yoga pose and wanting to be a guru. I do think you can have money, success and even designer shoes and still be spiritual but from that experience her words don't seem genuine all that left for me was all about the shoes" - Wave234

I really liked the topic and intention behind this book, so I was pretty excited to dive into it. However, upon reading it I found myself disappointed for a few main reasons:

1. The author appears to talk about her own personal internal experience around judgement as if it's true for everyone. In the first few chapters, it was hard for me to get through it because she was describing her own internal experience of judgment and sharing it by stating that this is how "we" experience it collectively. While reading it, I knew my internal experience was different, so what she was describing wasn't true for me. Eventually, when listing steps for how to deal with judgments she states that "it's different for everyone". Okay... so if it's different for everyone, then why not share examples of the experiences of others other that your own? This book would have been much stronger had the author interviewed some of her followers who were doing a similar practice as her an share those stories in the book. It would've also been able to resonate with more people and had a greater impact. Unfortunately, I think that really being able to all of our unique individual experiences of judgment and really being able to describe where it's constructive and needed vs. not is incredibly important in doing the steps described later in the book. Without that solid foundation, it just falls short.

2. In the first chapter, the author talks about early childhood trauma in a way that comes off as fairly convoluted. While reading it, it came off as if she was merely sharing her thoughts from personal experiences on this rather than any substantial knowledge on the topic. Had the author read some books on early childhood trauma and maybe even referenced some sources on the topic of trauma this would've made a lot more sense and been more clear. However, a part of me also wonders if that discussion was even necessary to add in the book because, in my interpretation, A Course in Miracles teaches that separation happened (its not explained why but it's also not really needed to know) and we have an ego and therefore, essentially, live from a place of fear (not literal fear, but fear is the closest word to describe it). So in my interpretation, I see that separation as a part of nature and that's why we habitually judge... as a reflection of that separation. The author describes it in the book as if early trauma during childhood is what caused this separation. I suppose that leave it in a nature vs nurture debate. Like, so if a person had a good childhood and never experienced any trauma, would they still judge and be separate? I would think they would, because it's on a spiritual level, but the author's description in the book made it sound otherwise.

3. The author kept throwing around this idea that the reason we judge is because we don't feel safe. This was not only confusing to me, but it also didn't resonate because I generally feel safe most of the time. Everybody's level of feeling "safe" varies. Just as some people feel safe in certain places and then not in others... it's on a spectrum. So how is that a reason as to why we judge? It doesn't make sense.

4. If you've followed this author or read any of her other books then the steps and strategies that she provides in this judgment detox are exactly what you've heard before. There's even a large section explaining how to do EFT with script to follow, which, to me, seemed a bit over done. I'm not against EFT by any means, but I've tried in many times hoping it would help. However, it's one of the few therapies that haven't done much for me. In fact, I sometimes even have a negative somatic reaction to it to where I can feel sick-like afterwards. So, it's certainly not for everybody, even though it may be shared by authors and teachers as if it is.

So, overall, I'm pretty disappointed because I was hoping for something I could really dive deep into, but it's just not something that gels with me. I have recently discovered Nonviolent Communication and I've started reading that book. While it may not necessarily focus on "detoxing judgement" per-say, it is about learning to increase compassion and empathy in relationships on a deep level, so that seems to be more in alignment with what I've been seeking at this time.

Parroting of other deeper, more authentic teachers,
And unfortunately, not well. Don't learn anything from Gabby you can learn better and more deeply by actually reading all the books by all the teachers she's plagerizing.

The concept of judgement holding us back is thought-provoking, Gabby makes it relatable & easy to understand giving a toolbox full of actionable directions to guide us back to a joyful & serene existence.

Another great book from Gabby Bernstein! This one is so important, especially at this time given all that is going on in our country and our world. I highly recommend this book and am grateful she wrote it.

Another exceptional gem by Gabby! She has such a special gift to write a book in such a way that it draws you in and speaks to you. This book is so helpful in getting you past the destructive thinking and to a more productive and healing path.

Another great book from Gabby Bernstein! This one is so important, especially at this time given all that is going on in our country and our world. I highly recommend this book and am grateful she wrote it.

Another exceptional gem by Gabby! She has such a special gift to write a book in such a way that it draws you in and speaks to you. This book is so helpful in getting you past the destructive thinking and to a more productive and healing path.

In today’s world, new age thought has deeply permeated our culture by cloaking itself in Christian terminology and dressing itself up as business books… a wolf in sheep’s clothing. I hope you will look closely at the message of “A Course in Miracles,” “The Secret,” and other new age teachings. They sound very much like the devil speaking to Eve in the Garden of Eden… seductive whispers that we don’t need God because we have all the divinity and power we need inside ourselves to create whatever reality we want. Watch "Proof the New Age is Satanic" by Steven Bancarz on youtube or "The Lies We Buy: Exposing Spiritual Dangers" by Sharon Lee Giganti or "The Beautiful Side of Evil" by Johanna Michaelson.

Hated it! Judgment is part of survival. Just because you are judging something in your head, you aren't a bad person. It's all part of growing and learning. This book goes off on a tangent and irritating.