Unconscious Mistakes Women Make That Sabotage Their Careers (A NICE GIRLS Book)

Received the book on time, but the front cover was bent. I ordered an exchange, but when the second book came, the cover was bent even worse than the first. So I just sent the second one back and dealt with the bent cover. Hopefully, the store can do more to ensure customers aren't sent damaged books when they order NEW copies. Other than that, it's a good book that provides a lot of insight about behaviors that women may not think are subconsciously judged by their male (and female) counterparts. I bought this book before starting my full time career after college and I'm currently in a tough consulting firm, so these tips have come in handy. Great read for young, professional women!

Dr. Frankel hits a homerun again! This book should be mandatory reading in college for women and men! If you are looking for a book that will give you endless "ah-ha" moments, this is the book for you. Young women preparing to enter the workforce especially need to read this book so they can come out of the gate with a strong foundation of knowledge, insight and introspective understanding of what behaviors to avoid and what childhood messages they should leave back at mom and dad’s house.

The workplace has become so complex and the “game” so much harder to play in recent years. We all need a good playbook to help us win.

Still reading but this book will be my "Professional Bible" as a wonderful woman called it! THIS IS A MUST HAVE FOR ALL WOMEN AT ANY PROFESSIONAL LEVEL! Don't let the title scare you! Totally would not have bought it because of the title, only bought it because a trusted source told me it was a must have. Glad I listed to her. Don't like it? Gift it to another who may! Trust me, not a waste. And I'm not huge on these books either.

I had an epiphany-like moment over and over again when Frankel points out that when people shame a woman for unladylike behavior, it's not because there is such a shameful thing as unladylike behavior, it's because it's the easiest and most effective means of getting whatever it is they want out of you.

Because we've been so conditioned to be pleasing to others, accusing a woman of behaving in an unpleasing manner is like an automatic shut off button that manipulative people use against us. Accusations and implications of this manner have no basis in reality, it's just a means of shutting us up and keeping us out.

I'd downloaded several other career advice audiobooks before this one, as I was looking for career advice because I'm a new grad starting my first corporate job. I found the other new grad career advice books rather trite and unhelpful. I was hesitant about this purchase because I wasn't worried about snagging the "corner office," so much as just getting started, but I am so glad I found this gem as I begin my journey through the corporate world.

I'm so impressed with the book I intend on buying copies for female friends as graduation presents. I also loved that Frankel recommends a plethora of other resources and career coaching books throughout. She is a generous author who never fails to cite and recommend her influences, a rare skill in a world of self-promotional and narcissistic branding.

I know a lot of women will bristle at Frankel's direct advice that hacks away at traditional femininity - in a perfect world, we should be able to be ourselves at work and get ahead - but we don't live in that world, and a more subtle idea in this book is that perhaps many of the soft-fuzzy-nice-girl characteristics women have aren't inherent, so much as conditioned, and in the process of unconditioning ourselves, we find out how human we really are. Frankel doesn't waste time pining for an idealistic world - this book isn't for idealistic women, it's for ambitious women who want to succeed and thrive in the world that exists. Success in the corporate world, like it or not, entails conformity. Frankel points out the mistakes women are making in regards to that expectation of conformity in terms of how we prioritize performing gender over performing our jobs.

And at times it's a bitter pill to swallow. Nearly all the advice comes back to: stop acting like a coy little girl; put on your big girl panties and step up to the plate. It's hard because it forced me to confront how infantalized some of my behaviors are. As girls there are many emotional developmental areas where we're not encouraged to grow. Girls are protected from overcoming many barriers, like failure, and consequently there is a kind of emotional stunting that we turn a blind eye to and justify through the idea of inherent gender characteristics. And our society will let us tread water here in that emotional retardation for the rest of our lives, but if you want to get ahead, you have to get over it. Frankel's book is the first step on that path because she simply made me aware of what was in my blind spot. The book holds up a mirror - if you don't like what you see, it's on you to change it.

Within just one year of completing college, women are earning 8% less than the men with whom they graduated. By mid-career, that number increases to more than 20%. Some women roar ahead in their careers, but so many more stagnate. How can you join those who are succeeding?

I’m a guy, not a woman, and yet I was irresistibly drawn by the book title as well as at least a third of the 133 unconscious behaviors that ultimately sabotage women (and many men).

This book will make you mad, yet it is fun to read and very practical. It could change your career trajectory. And regardless of whether you are male or female, it can equip you to help the women in your life succeed (or at least not get in their way).

If you’re a woman looking to completely change your outlook on career choices, then this is the book for you! I know, I know. There are a million books out there about how women should lean in and take the corporate world by storm, but none of those books tell you exactly how to do that. Not so with Nice Girls Still Don’t Get the Corner Office: Unconscious Mistakes Women Make That Sabotage Their Careers by Dr. Lois Frankel. In this gem (updated for the modern work world), you don’t learn about why you should succeed, but rather how you should do it.

In all honesty, I didn’t expect to learn much when I started listening to this on audiobook. I already cleaned up my social media profiles and know to dress for success. I also know that crying in the office is counterproductive and that both men and women will belittle you. This book, however, is immensely helpful. Not only does Dr. Frankel tell us women what to do and not to do, but she offers tips for actually doing it.

What I loved most is that she tackles the mostly-ignored topic of women dragging other women down. I’ve long believed (based on experience) that one of the biggest obstacles to women in the workplace is other women. I’ve asked women who are just starting out in their careers, as well as those who are already established, and they all agree that there is an element of womanly competition that can be devastating. This part is usually glossed over or buried beneath chapters about empowerment in the mainstream books because it’s the dirty little secret that no one wants to talk about. Yet, it happens all of the time. So, if you read this book for nothing else, read it for that mini-section.

Nice girls is a great motivator for transitioning an attitude of sweetness and complacency for an attitude of assertiveness and forward thinking. I found the book to be easy to read and follow and will use many of the "coaching tips" in my career. It would have been even better if the author would have showed a more progressive view of dress and culture as I find even in professional settings there have been major shifts to allow for personal expression - such as tattoos. While I don't choose to have them some of my colleagues do and they are the best at their job so that was a large area for me that I disagree with the author on.

Terrible. Follow this advice and you are likely to make some enemies at work. I only read this book because a co-worker has been raving about it. No wonder she has been so rude to people lately and acting like she is better than they are. She is following this advice. Sorry- I'm a nice girl and it has served me well. I may not be in the "corner office" but those who are know who I am and appreciate the work I do and reward me accordingly.

This book is very interesting. My experience with Women leaders from a man's perspective is that most are hesitant to lead with confidence and aggressiveness. You got to make a man feel like saying, "damn she knows what she's talking about." I once worked for a tiny lady (4'10") in the military who was a Master Chief Petty Officer, and she was about 10 feet tall when it came to knowing the job, and getting business done. She held many men accountable along the way simply by exhibiting confidence exactly like most of the thoughts, and experiences you will find in this book. Superb job Ms. Frankel.

I read this book to see what women think about other woman from an executive standpoint. On point! And you bet I will keep in my professional development library to share as needed.

I first read Dr. Frankel’s best-selling book over a decade ago. Her practical advice for those climbing the corporate ladder is just as relevant today. Plus, this revised and updated version covers things that weren’t even on the radar screen back then. For those women struggling to move ahead and wondering what they’re doing wrong (and what to do about it), this book is a must read!

General professionalism tips that are mostly common knowledge. They are presented as 130+ mistakes made by women. Even though this book says it’s been update to reflect modern times, I found several tips to be outdated still.

It gives some nice food for thought, but found many of the tips were pretty common sense. Other than giving other resources to read or look into, there was not much insight on how to work on changing the mistakes. The examples given were about a paragraph long and the rest of the information was not that helpful.

As an administrative professional, I DO agree with her assessment of the "female ghetto" that is administrative services. I have been trying to claw my way out of the pink ghetto for a while now, and my biggest reason for getting this book was to gain insight on how to behave more like an executive, and less like a secretary, to break out of the pigeon hole I'm in. There are some good tips in here, and some I don't agree with. I didn't get the impression that she was telling women to go from "sugar and spice" to "insufferable beotch" at their jobs. What really bugged me was apparent pro-feminist, anti-white male tone, as she repeatedly referenced "data" regarding "women and people of color," as well as the "gender pay gap," which has been shown by professional economists to be seriously flawed. I didn't get the book to hear inferences to the author's obvious political viewpoints; I got it to help me focus on how I can change my approach in my professional position as a woman (who has no bone to pick with the "patriarchy.")