How to Break Your Addiction to a Person - Love Doesn't Work

sent this to a friend who is struggling. Read this book about 20 years ago and it really helped. Nice to know you're not alone and not crazy! Gives some good tips and techniques for breaking the cycle.

25 years later, Halpern's book is the standard in this area. With easy to understand text, he spins a behavior type that is dead-on. Many readers will recognize aspects of themselves in his vignettes. The trick, of course, is to get past these behaviors so that one can have meaningful, loving relationships. I recommend this book to clients and the general reading public wholeheartedly.

There are a wide variety of obsessive, addictive, compulsive situations, and the author focuses exclusively on people breaking up from a relationship. If that is where you are coming from (and most people will be), the book is excellent because it covers the internal thinking that goes on in your head and how you can transform that into something more realistic and objective. I really liked that and found it beneficial.

My concern is that some of the most dysfunctional addictive situations are NOT based on actual relationships, and the author should at least touch on these. For instance, how about a high school student who has an obsession with one of their teachers? The book is pretty lengthy, so to intentionally exclude such cases just seems wrong to me.

I read an earlier copy of this book, but I can see that only the cover has changed for 2003, not the contents. Maybe a second edition could address my concerns.

The brightly coloured cover and the snappy title had me expecting something less substantial from this book and I was pleasantly surprised! It is a meaty read with clear explanations, constuctive advice and exercises to help the reader out of this emotional trap. Well worth the cash and the time.

This book does have some interesting parts. I wanted to see and learn more about myself, but went away without much more than I've already learned. There are some interesting stories about other people, some I could understand, and others I really could not relate. So I gave the four stars if perhaps there are people out there that can relate to the stories of other people.

If you feel you have an addictive personality, then this book might help you to see that pattern. I recommend it for that purpose. Another book that was my saving grace in ridding my "hold" on another person that was just not good to me is Barbara Rose's "Stop Being the String Along". I feel that if you're in pain over a person, you will receive life changing insight. Give both books a try, they can only help you.

I thought this book was really well written. Although, some of the chapters did not apply to me and although I am not currently in an addictive relationship, I recognized some of the self-defeating patterns presented in the book. I recommend this book to anyone who has had trouble getting over someone (ex-boyfriend/girlfriend) or has had trouble leaving past relationships out of the present.

After reading several reviews online I visited my local B&N, sat for a few minutes reading the opening pages, compared it to some others and ended up taking it home. I'm halfway through already but am finding that it's lacking in help. While it contains some valuable information and quick tips, I feel it's relying/blaming too much on my parent's rearing. I'm still waiting for the brilliant wisdom to shine through as so many had said it would. Will post again if it gets any better but for now I must say, so far? No good.

This book was not only informative but an excellent resource for anyone going through a bad relationship. I would recommend this book for all ages of they wish to succeed in "breaking your addiction to a person"

Reading this book was one of the cornerstones & turning points in my recovery from relationship addiction. I read it cover to cover in a few days, rinsed & repeated. It was recommended to me by someone very knowlegable on relationship issues and I recommend it VERY HIGHLY.

the service was very good, i would use the vendor again. the book came sooner than promised. I did not like the book, it seemed like it was written in two days, cheap writing, I had no problem with the vendor. I would not recommend the book to anyone.

The insights represented in the book have been key to helping me take purposeful steps to begin to realize God's best for me.

Addiction will almost always lead to destructive behaviour. The insight here helped me understand how, through my addiction I had placed a relationship before God - and with the end of the relationship a couple of years ago, I took a path that would surely have led to my destruction.

It was an incredibly painful eye opener - I chose to sin after a break-up, yet my break-up was not with God - so why did I betray God? Howard Halpern's book will encourage you to find that source of insecurity and need for validation and help you on a road to realizing the gem that lies inside every one of us.

I would recommend picking this book up, going through the table of contents and selecting three key topics that are most relevant to you right now and dig in. You will be blessed for taking the chance.