DON'T SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF IN LOVE by Ph.D And Kristine Carlson Carls Richard (1999-12-24)

Be consistently grateful. Respond with love. Never underestimate the power of love. When in doubt, pause.

Sometimes it’s hard- reading this, I’m thinking who are you to tell me what to do? Oh, right- I bought this book and sought it out

So yes, helpful advice- gratitude is empowering and humbling
Love is the greatest gift you can give and most precious when it’s received

Authors make it sound like do this and it’ll all be ok... when, the book doesn’t have that buffer like be prepared for this...

So,... when hurt,.... pause

I have found that helpful

I’ve found it to be hurtful as well- I didn’t guard myself for the blow that followed the pause. True love is about trust, communication and all those sunshine things the lucky few find

Authors have those rose colored glasses which give you hope

Found a daily devotional more relevant, applicable and appropriate than hoping one could hold two together

To treasure another means you too feel treasured
That’s beyond individual control
Focus on what you can control - that’s not small stuff

Having practiced as a marriage and family counsellor for many years I had read and recommended many good books on the subject, which made valuable contributions to fostering loving relationships in the home. While browsing at a flea market book stall last year, this book caught my eye and I figured it could be a valuable addition to my library so I bought it and read one of the short 100 subjects each day. I am now on the second time around. What an absolute gem it has proved to be. At the stage of life where I figured I pretty well had it all together, I was blown over by their simple practical suggestions to deal with the nitty gritty of living with someone else who, like yourself, is neither perfect nor a replica of yourself despite all the years spent together. Their presentation is fresh, challenging and do-able, taken one day at a time. From now on It will be my gift to all couples embarking on a lifetime relationship.

My boyfriend and I read a section from this almost every day. It is very good and helps keep us centered and focused on whats important versus the little minutia and one sided BS that we get caught up in. Its super practical and realistic. It was a great purchase. I bought it just for me to read but he saw it one day and read the first section/article and he liked it and asked that we read it together on a regular basis. That was an unexpected surprise. Very happy with purchase. And it is small enough to take with me on vacations and such. Great purchase worth every penny.

I listened to the audiobook and really loved the tone of the book as much as the content. Each chapter in the book is a polished gem of insight and truth. The author approached each topic with a good sense of humor and personal experience/stories. Pointing out the contrast between hurting behavior and loving behavior in such a way that you can't deny it, they give very practical, hands-on tips on how to be a better partner for life. The book definitely focuses on growing together as a couple - not necessarily perfection! Definitely a recommended read.

This book is extremely well written and offers invaluable insights on how to grow and evolve as a human being. The applications here are universal, so it would be a valuable asset for anyone who is interested in humbling themselves and looking within and seeing ways to avoid life's constant pitfalls and lead a happier life. Everything discussed in the book is sound in thinking and reasoning, however you might think that putting into practice his teachings are easier said than done. But they're worth giving it a try, since you run the risk of increasing your own level of happiness. This book is extremely easy to read and is broken down into many many tiny chapters (2-3 pages max.)and each chapter has as its title to the subject matter he offers a solution to. I highly recommend it.

The authors continue their book series in the right direction. This book could save a relationship or two and has no doubt done that many times for many people over the time this book has been out there. (I got my copy in 1999)

Sometimes the best advice is the most obvious stuff. This is just good wholesome and wise advice. I think one chapter in particular strikes a cord with me - and that is about taking responsiblity for youir own happiness. Too many people want others to give them that special feeling - but it has to come from within you and not from others.

I liked the book and have enjoyed all the books in this series. I recommend this edition as well.

This cheerful book aims to make us stop and smell--if not roses--whatever is sitting in front of our noses. It is just like the other series of "Don't Sweat" books but with a love-minded twist. It offers meditations designed to make us appreciate our lives, keep our emotions in perspective, and cherish other people. I also highly recommend "Open Your Mind, Open Your Life: A Book of Eastern Wisdom" by Taro Gold. If we all followed the guidance in these books, we would be happier, more harmonious people.

Many times life can become overwhelming. Don't sweat the small stuff in love can keep you focused on the most important thing in life--love. A good book for inspiration and remembering what matters. Annie Lawrence, author of Love's Secret Live Your Life In Love.

When a person is having problems in relationship the last thing someone needs is to be Patronized. This is the reductionism of the difficulty of humanity. It is at times very difficult to be involved in a relationship. This book is like that pat on the back that you get from a buddy saying 'aah everything ul be alright pal, ya just gotta look on the bright side.' You know those types of friends that avoid intimacy at all costs. Thats what I felt like reading this book. I received this book as a Christmas gift and was very anxious to read it and learn something new and useful. Only to find it shallow and uninformative. I am very suprised that the ideas in this book were written by an individual with a Ph.D.! Anyone could conjure up such ideas within a week and publish a book just as effective.
I supposed this book was written for those who want something happy to read about regarding 'the little things.'
Those who believe that we sweat the small stuff all too often are destined for mediocrity. Life does not fit neatly into a list of 100 things to do that make life better. Each person has a unique personality that is individual and different. One hundred things to do to make it all better is Patronizing and offers no insight into relationship. You and I already know this book inside and out before we even read it.
If you are having problems in relationship and need guidance, this is not the book that will help you. If you want to confirm what you already know about the little things than this is your book.

This book is fantastic, buy it! The topics cover everything from how to keep workday stress from affecting your marriage to making the "fresh start commitment." Whether there is something that you feels needs to be fixed or you just want to read something positive, this book covers it. I'm going to get some of the other books in the series because of this one.

this book has totally changed my life, I think of everything I read in that book everyday. I am way less stressed, and know how to deal with situations now. I am really glad that there are people in this world like Richard Carlson that care enough to help others. I have a whole new perspective on life. Thankyou so much.

Puts things into perspective. Let’s you know what’s important and what isn’t and why most of our conflicts come from things that we one exaggerate. Sometimes love is hard because of all the specifics we hold on to, all the little expectations, all the meaningless arguments we blow out of proportion etc. maybe we may it harder than it is because we sweat the small stuff.