Codependent No More Workbook

I am so thrilled to have been introduced to Melody Beattie's books. She is amazing and this Codependent No More and the workbook are proving invaluable! My therapist and I are working it together and I really feel myself morphing into a happier and healthier person while letting go of the anger and resentment. I highly recommend for nearly anyone but most especially if you have lived with an alcoholic, addict of any kind including a rageaholic. A must read!

This has been an amazing help in my journey of self discovery, and healing. With. Melody Beattie's wisdom and ability to explain codependency, this workbook has given me a tool to see myself as codependent, find tools through reading and then commenting, to help me work through and even overcome my weaknesses and gain strength.

If you have ever lived with any type of any addict, an alcoholic, someone who is extremely controlling, or abusive - verbally, mentally, emotionally or physically, get yourself to a safe place then read the accompanying book by Beattie and complete the workbook to help yourself heal and move onto a better life.

This is a great work book for those who are dealing with codependency. However, unlike the actual book, these exercises feel more geared towards people who are affected solely by drug and alcohol addiction. In was not exactly was I was expecting, but I would still highly recommend this for anyone who is learning about codependency.

Whew! I am not codependent after all. I am just a little sensitive and...why am I telling you all this?! Anyway, i guess this is a really good workbook to help someone with these issues overcome a specific type of thinking pattern.

This timeless book is required reading for practitioners and their clients. I've lent this book to numerous individuals who report it shines a light on ineffective behaviors they want to discard. I also recommend the workbook.

I bought the book "Codependent No More" on the recommendation of my therapist and when I saw the workbook I decided to just pick it up too. It was a great 'on a whim' purchase!! I am currently working through it and it has helped my treatment TREMENDOUSLY!! I thought I was just depressed with anxiety and these books have helped me learn that it is so much more than that!! They are well written and packed full of information, step-by-step guides to help tweak your codependent habits you never realized were hurting you. What I love most is the way this is written, it's not an attack on you or even your codependent qualities, they're seen as survivor skills you needed at one time or another but you outgrew. "Many of us have been trying to cope with outrageous circumstances, and these efforts have been both admirable and heroic. We have done the best we could."-- Codependent No More, Chapt.4 pg 40. I highly recommend these books if you're looking for a better way to survive the world, it certainly changed mine!

this is excellent if your co-dependant partner wants to wooek through it withyou. I strives to write down your feelings of living a co-depent livestyle and how drastic it is for each of you emotionally. Like I always said, "Sometimes it's just better to STAY friends. If friends keep fighting, they lose each other without all the emotional baggage of a co-dependant marriage." My husband and are were always this way. I should have gotten a divorce a long time ago. I was willing to work on it, he was not. Now, he is just to ill to leave him on his own. But, if I HAD left him years ago, I would never have known. This is just one more struggle until either him or I die first! Very sad to live your life this way. Read the book itself, first, to be informed - the signs are already there in the dating relationship, most usually.

This book is a great companion to the Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself book. It is presented in such a way as to allow a person to accept themselves without guilt and gives hope and direction for future behavior changes. I highly recommend the purchase of this book if you are serious about caring for yourself. the store.com did a great job of timely delivery of this book as well as all products ordered in the past. MG

I am working through this book and finding it very useful to help me work through a lot of things in my life. It's helping bring up things that have been unresolved in my life and helping me be a healthier person. I am realizing that all of my "issues" point back to my problem with codependency. This book, in conjunction with the Codependent No More book and with the daily meditations have been well worth the purchase. I would definitely recommend this book, but I think that anyone who buys this book would have to be prepared to take a fearless inventory of themselves... to let others go and invest all of their desire for change on self. It's a very hard thing to begin the process of change. But having started it myself, I feel that God is using these books to help me finally wake up. I feel like I'm waking up for the very first time in my life.

Thought it would be a good workbook for my group therapy class ( I am the facilitator), but it isn't. I didn't think it would be based on the 12 steps. Unfortunately that scares a lot of people away, myself included.

I am working through this book and finding it very useful to help me work through a lot of things in my life. It's helping bring up things that have been unresolved in my life and helping me be a healthier person. I am realizing that all of my "issues" point back to my problem with codependency. This book, in conjunction with the Codependent No More book and with the daily meditations have been well worth the purchase. I would definitely recommend this book, but I think that anyone who buys this book would have to be prepared to take a fearless inventory of themselves... to let others go and invest all of their desire for change on self. It's a very hard thing to begin the process of change. But having started it myself, I feel that God is using these books to help me finally wake up. I feel like I'm waking up for the very first time in my life.

Thought it would be a good workbook for my group therapy class ( I am the facilitator), but it isn't. I didn't think it would be based on the 12 steps. Unfortunately that scares a lot of people away, myself included.

I'm really disappointed. I had hoped this would be full of useful CONCRETE information on codependency, how to detect it, and how to change. I found the book to be oddly structured and impressionistic in it's language.

Extremely disappointed...this is not for an enabler.....quite frankly I don't know who it is for. I thought it would be "somewhat" helpful w/a son that I am a codependent to. Not because I want to be but each situation needs my help whether I like it or not. The book is just a waste. Threw it out...

I purchased this workbook along with the original "Codependent No More" book. My issue with this workbook (and even in the original book) is that it is very religious based. I am not religious, so some of the activities in the workbook are hard for me to do. It is based on a 12 step program, and almost every step has to do with God. I wanted to return the book, but it would have cost just as much to send it back as I paid for it, so I am trying to work through the book by replacing "God" with "Higher Power" or the universe.

I chose this book to review because this subject is very personal to me. Without going into too much detail, I have a family member that has an addiction. It has been a very trying time for me over the past year. I actually own the original book CODEPENDENT NO MORE but I haven't opened it yet. However, when this book was offered to me I realized that some good would come out of me reading it.

Going to a 12 step program such as Al-Anon, Nar-Anon or Codependents Anonymous is something the book highly recommends. The format of the book is shaped around the 12 steps of Codependents Anonymous with each chapter going into detail about a step or two. The steps are similar to those in other 12 step programs with slight adaptations to fit Codependents. Each chapter has exercises and activities to make sure the reader understands the steps discussed. Since it can take months or even years to move past certain steps, it can be a while before the book is finished. However taking as much time as it needs to come to this understanding is beneficial to find healing.

There are some places where I am in disagreement with the author. I'm not sure if this is because of my faith vs. the theory but several times I felt that I could not agree with Beattie. I completely understand the need that I need to focus on myself and reevaluate how I am acting and thinking. Maybe I just read it wrong or I'm not completely understanding but there were times when I felt that it seemed that the addict or whoever is causing you to be codependent was not at fault and you were. To worry or even think about them at all seemed to be wrong. It's said that you might even need to completely cut them out of your life in order to make yourself better. The thing with that is that even if you DO cut them out completely and never see or talk to them again, you'll still think about them. To completely have absolutely no feeling for them is impossible or at least it is for me. Still it's a good thing because it makes you think a lot and helps you to reevaluate how you have been living your life.

While I feel that the info in this book is very valuable and highly informative, as a workbook it fell flat for me. When I think of a workbook, I expect to be able to write IN the actual book. If an exercise called for jotting down thoughts or creating a list, I would expect to see actual space and lines in the book to write in. I also would have like a questionnaire or a survey to take to evaluate how you were before starting to read the book. Unfortunately this workbook contains none of that. Anytime there is an activity that calls for writing, the reader is expected to write in an external journal. I don't like that because that seems to defeat the entire purpose of a workbook. It means having to keep up with an extra item and seems pointless. I would want to keep everything together and in the future having to keep referring back and forth between two books would be confusing especially if you lose one. Therefore while the information is greatly useful, the actual setup of the workbook failed.

This is a book not to be rushed through. I read it pretty quickly to finish it in time for the tour but it's a book that I will be going back through again more slowly to make sure that everything sinks in. I found that I have been doing a lot of stuff already that the book mentioned prior to reading the book but there is still more that I need to learn and practice. Regardless of any criticism I've had in this review, please note that I'm not in denial about any codependency issues that I have. It is something that I have to work on in my life and pray that healing and hope will come my way.

This workbook and the original book "codependent no more" has been reviewed in depth by many so I won't rehash that. I would like to add however, while the author's description of codependency is helpful, it feels hypocritical and even schizophrenic to say the problem is that we have given our personal power to someone or something outside of ourselves - and then recommend giving it to religion/religious group.
The twelve step programs substitute one addiction for another. You'll occasionally get someone involved in the belief system to acknowledge this; perhaps because they simply feel the "program" is a healthier addiction. The goal is to become stronger and freethinking. Religion has hardly, historically been a place for that. Religion may feel safer since it's an unequal relationship, much like a parent/child relationship. One person/entity is the correct source of all things and we adjust. There is no give-and-take, there is no taking responsibility on our part, there is simply adjusting. That sounds to me like codependency by definition.
Religion can be and probably is a healing source and helpful solution for many but there are also many others who want to take personal responsibility. iI's a shame the author relies on the somewhat outdated philosophy of the 12 step template which focuses on giving control of our lives to religion as the "only" solution.

This doesn't replace the "CoDA 12 Steps/12 Traditions Workbook", but the "Codependent No More Workbook" is certainly a good supplement. Anyone who's working with the CoDA workbook knows it has a tendency to be thin in places. The readings tend to end a bit too early. And sometimes you want some more questions on a specific step. Beattie's book is very good for supplying additional material. It's also an unfortunate reality that sponsors are often unavailable in CoDA programs, leaving a lot of us without that guidance. While we don't rely on outside literature as our primary source, some additional materials definitely helps to fill in some blanks.

Whoo! The workbook is finally available on the store, so here's a link...
 The Twelve Steps & Twelve Traditions Workbook of Co-Dependents Anonymous

I'm an atheist so I find surrendering to a "higher power" ridiculous at best.
There is probably some good advice for many people. I'll still consider some of the ideas as far as I "understand" them. It's all a process...