92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships

I bought it on sale for a buck and regret it. These gimmicks won't help your social skills unless you are seriously inept. Staring at a girl constantly or pretending to do acrobatic moves everytime you enter a room will only make people think you are a creep or on drugs. One positive is that a lot of psychological studies are referenced, so it might be worth an hour long skim through.

She uses adjectives incorrectly in my opinion, and beats around the bush too much. Just say what you mean woman!!! Here are just a few examples of what I mean that makes me want to vomit and throw out this stupid book:
"Throw out some 'delicious' facts about your job for the new acquaintances to 'munch' on.
"you can 'spray' your conversation with it."
"Read speaker's books to 'cull' quotations, 'pull' pearls of wisdom, and get 'gems' to 'tickle' their funny bones."
I had to skim through this miserable book.
The were 3 sentences that were worth reading in the whole 345 page book.

Leil has to constantly prove to us how great her vocabulary is. Every paragraph has a 5 dollar word that was shoe-horned into it for no reason. I found this very distracting and it took me out of it.

I'd be embarrased to try most of these tips on a work colleague or potential client and creeped out if someone in the business sphere tried some of them on me. "Sticky eyes" to make a woman feel special? Smile slower so you don't seem too friendly? No thanks. Dale Carnegie's insights might be older, but they are astoundingly more useful even in today's context while Lowndes' advice might have been useful in the 90's. The difference between timeless and dated.

Not sure where I stand on this. It was printed in 2000's so is a bit dated (has references to landline phones as some of her tips), also these are really 92 things she says are important with 92 anecdotes about her life. Many sound helpful but I really can't decide if it was worth the money and time. There are smaller more compact books out there that will give you the same information.

I love this book, I keep it handy as a reference guide to all my encounters with strangers. It is basically a how-to on being an entertaining host and/or guest. I recomend it to anyone who gets nervous around new people, or has struggled to make conversation with strangers.

Doesn't go in depth at all and it doesn't tell you "how to talk to people" but rather it tells you things not to say, really dumb things that you'd never say in the first place. Note: I did not read the entire book. I read about 25% and tossed it to the side.

Meh. The first few ideas are ok, but nothing new, the rest of it does not make sense. I didn't learn anything new and didn't like the vocabulary used to describe the stories. I had to keep my dictionary near to look up her words. Some of her words were not in my online dictionary. Two stars because of the first few ideas.. I don't recommend it.

I'm not sure why I bought this, I think I must have been drunk or something. Anyway, it's terrible. It's a list of "tricks" that are barely worthy of being listed for free on the internet, let alone paid for in book format. DON'T buy this.

Other reviewers called this book a how-to on being insincere and manipulative. I think they completely missed the point. This book is pure and simple a guide for professionals who are shy or need improvement in their social skills.

When you're in the business/professional world, social skills sign your checks, so this is an essential read for career-oriented people who are a little shy or are rusty at communicating. Not knowing how to make diplomatic small talk in this world is like showing up to work everyday wearing a HITLER WAS FRAMED t-shirt. The people who have natural social skills don't appreciate the fact that good social skills are taught. They're taught by parents, they're taught by friends, and some people just have to teach themselves. This book is pretty damn good for those people.

As the book says it counts 92 tricks, surely there is something useful for most of the folks. I’m not giving the book great review, as most of the tricks were rational, logical steps every thoughtful person should be making without much ado or in exchange of a reward. However, it’s not the book to end up in a dustbin. I pretty enjoyed reading it. Although author makes several references on Dale Carnegie saying his book is so 40s, hardly 92 tricks can change so many lives as how to win friends and influence people did. Guess it’s better to read Stephen Covey to grow into better person rather than just remember some tricks, as they seem utterly superficial. And the book seemed superficial too. As a habit, I’m making short summary of quotations and periphrases from the books both for the reader and for myself to better remember what I read.

- Some of the moves big winners make are so smooth so subtle it takes another big winner to recognize them
- Your body – the way you move is your autobiography in motion
- You have only 10 seconds to show somebody you’re somebody – first sight of you is brilliant holograph – first impressions are indelible
- Big warm smile is an asset but only when it comes a little slower, then it gives more credibility - don’t flash immediate smile – look at the person’s face for a second, pause, then let a big warm responsive smile
- Don’t break eye contact even after opposite sex stops speaking. Look away slowly
- Sticky eyes is definite boon to your bottom line – less in men-to-men communications
- Very sticky eyes or superglue eyes – epoxy eyes – watch your target person even when someone else is talking
- Your posture is your biggest success barometer – visualize a circus iron-jaw bit hanging from the frame of every door you walk through. Take a bite and with it firmly between your teeth, let it swoop you to the peak of the big top – hang by your teeth – great posture, a head up look, a confident smile and a direct gaze
- Give everyone you meet big baby pivot
- The secret to making people like you is showing how much you like them
- Caesar on Cassius – he has lean and hungry look … he thinks 2 much… such men are dangerous
- When meeting someone imagine he or she is an old friend – it supersedes language
- Hand motions near your face and all fidgeting can give your listener gut feeling you’re fibbing
- Make a habit to get on dual track while talking. Express yourself but keep eye on how your listener is reacting to what you’re saying. Then plan accordingly;
- Watch the scene before you make the scene – visualize yourself a Super Somebody. Then it all happens automatically – works best when you feel totally relaxed
- First step in starting conversation is to match your listeners’ mood – for a sentence or two – its especially useful for salespeople. Before opening your mouth take a voice sample of your listener to detect his or her state of mind, you must watch their mood and voice tone
- It’s not all what you say, it’s how you say it
- You put people at ease by convincing them they’re OK and that the two of you are similar
- First words should be unoriginal, even banal but never indifferent – passionate delivery make you sound exciting
- Whoozat? -Simply ask the party giver to make the introduction or pump for a few facts that you can immediately turn into icebreakers
- Eavesdrop in – excuse me, I could not help but overhear
- Whenever asked where are you from learn some engaging facts about your hometown that conversational partner can comment on
- No man would listen you talk if the did not know it was his turn next
- Never the naked job – throw out some delicious facts about your job for new acquaintances to munch on – uncomfortable job? Say hobby
- Truly confident people turn spotlight on other person – when sales-people shine giant spotlight on the prospect not the product that’s what makes the sale
- Keep your swiveling spotlight aimed away from you, only lightly on your product and most brightly on your buyer
- Parroting – never be speechless again you can repeat last two words your conversation partner says
- Ask your friends to tell about the time when they did … in the story they should shine
- Before going to party drop an eye on some news to be update and ready for conversations
- 85 percent of one’s success in life is directly due to communication skills
- Sure sign of you’re somebody is the conspicuous absence of the question what do you do – you should not look like a ruthless networker, social climber, gold digging husband or wife hunter, someone who’s never strolled along easy street. Instead ask how do you spend most of your time?
- Instead of having one answer on omnipresent question what do you do? Prepare dozens depending on who’s asking
- Benefit statement – highlighting the specific benefits of what the prospect will get after purchase – don’t say estate agent – say I help people moving into our area find the right home; don’t say hairdresser say I help women to find the right hairstyle for their face
- Look up some common words you sue in everyday thesaurus – start making permanent replacements only fifty words makes the difference between rich creative vocabulary and an average middle-of-the-road one
- Kill the quick “me too”! Whenever you have something in common with someone, wait for a while to reveal it. You emerge as confident big cat not a little stray hungry for quick connection with a stranger – but don’t wait too long
- For many people thinking is painful – so big winner do the thinking for them
- Start every appropriate sentence with you
- If you flash everybody the same smile, it loses value like confederate dollar. If one person in a group is more important to you than the others, reserve an especially big flooding smile just for him or her
- Don’t use any clichés when chatting with big winners
- Make people smile laugh with very intelligent similes – never start with you know the story
- Never ever make a joke at anyone’s expense. You’ll wind up paying for it dearly
- It’s not the news that makes someone angry. Its unsympathetic attitude with which it is delivered. Throw the ball always with the receiver in mind
- Whenever somebody persists in questioning you an unwelcome subject, simply repeat the original response
- Never let thank you hang alone, always follow for what
- Once a month scramble your life. Do something you never dream of doing
- When astronaut meets astronaut he asks what missions have you ben on? Never how do you go in the bathroom up there?
- Big winners speak language of their professions. Ask a friend who speaks the lingo of the crowd. Find out what the hot issues are in their fields. Every industry has burning issue outside world knows nothing about
- Read insider magazines
- Before putting one foot on foreign soil read a book on dos and taboos around the world
- Before making a purchase contact several vendors get armed with the few words of the industryese
- In sales copy not only you customers class but your product’s class too. Match your personality with that of your product. Remember you are your customers buying experience. So you are the part of the product he purchases.
- When you want to give somebody a subliminal feeling you’re alike use his or her words not yours. Listen to the speaker’s arbitrary choice of nouns, verbs, prepositions and echo them back
- To give your points more power and punch, use analogies from your listeners world not yours – use potent imaging
- Employee empathizers – vocalize complete sentences to show your understanding. Don’t be unconscious ummer.
- For visual people use visual empathizers to make them think you see the world the way they do. For auditory folks make them think you hear them loud and clear. For kinesthetic make them think you feel the same way they do.
- Create the feeling of intimacy even with someone you just met. Elicit intimate feelings by using the magic words we, us, our
- When you meet a stranger you’d like to make less a stranger search for some special moment you shared during your firs encounter and find words that reprieve the good feelings
- A compliment one hears is never as exciting as the one he overhears. A priceless way to praise is by tell-a-friend
- Keep your ears open for good things people say about each other. Everyone loves the carrier pigeon of kind thoughts
- Accidental adulation –become an undercover complimenter
- When talking to stranger who’s important for you search for one attractive specific and unique quality. At the end of conversation look them right in the eye. Say their name and proceed to curl their toes with the killer compliment
- Your colleagues, friends, loved ones – let them appreciate them with verbal little strokes like nice job, well done, cool
- Quick as blink you must praise people the moment they finish a feat – the euphoria of the moment has strangely numbing effect – you can even lie
- How kind of you – vais êtes gentil – let compliments boomerang right back to the giver
- Ask the important people in your life what they would like engraved on their tombstone – than show your appreciation for that thing after weeks elapsed
- Think of yourself as the star of a personal radio drama every time you pick up the phone, turn all your gestures into something your listener can hear
- You can use callers name far more often than you would in person
- Only after you hear who’s calling let a huge smile of happiness engulf your entire face and voice – think of why they’re calling too
- Home call advice – salute the spouse, office call salute the secretary
- No matter how urgent you think your call, always begin by asking the person about timing. For sales pitch wait until its very green
- Make sure your message reflects three Cs: confidence, clarity, credibility
- Whenever you leave a voice mail message to anyone try to leave cliff hanger
- Make sure secretaries believe you are old buddies with their bosses
- When on phone call and you hear ringing in the background stop speaking – in midsentence if necessary and say I hear your other line, dog, wife, baby ask whether they have to attend it
- Record all your business conversations and listen to them again
- Politicians six point party checklists – who’s going to be at the party, - when should I arrive – what should I take with me – why is the party being given – where is the collective mind – how am I going to follow up on the party
- Don’t try to eat at party if you want to network
- When you arrive at the gathering stop dramatically in the doorway. Then slowly survey the situation
- Do not stand around waiting for the moment when that special person approaches you. You make it happen by exploring every face in the room
- Big cats in the social jungle stand confidently in clearing so others can see them
- Be recalling some unimportant staff from other peoples lives you make them feel like the movie start form the 40s
- Like an air traffic controller try to notice the slightest details in the lives of your conversation partners’. Refer to them in your conversation like a major news story
- Right after you’ve talked to someone at party on the back of the business card write notes to remind you of the conversation: favorite restaurant, sport, film or drink - they’ll remember you
- In sales concentrate more on how customer fidgets, twitches and squirms than on what he’s saying
- The first challenge in eyeball selling is discovering who the real decisions maker is
- When saying something confusing you can identify Honcho when confused ones are starting looking at him
- Body must be open before the mind can follow – handling some relevant subject to cross-handed customers
- If your listener turns away while you’re talking ask yourself how can I change the subject to turn this person on?
- Big boys and girls see bloopers they never say butterfingers or whoops – nobody likes to be reminded of their won human frailty
- Whenever someone’s story is aborted let the interruption play itself on. Then when the group reassembles, simply say to the person who’s story-interrupts so what happened after the…
- When asking someone for a favour let them know how much it means to you. Reveal, what’s in it for you and what’s in it for other person
- Whenever you do someone a favour wait a few weeks let them enjoy the fact that you did it out of friendship
- There are 3 sacred safe havens the firs of these is parties. It is not for confrontations. Another is dining table – discuss ideas but not tough business. Chance encounters are for chitchat
- If you want info, let people have their entire say first
- Hear people’s fact but empathize like mad with their emotions - echo the emo
- Whenever you make a mistake make sure your victim benefits – do it fast in that way your goof will become your gain
- When you catch someone on wrong doing don’t confront directly – let them walk away and never come back
- Surefire way to make people in service care enough to give you their very best is send a buttercup to their bosses
- Be the first to applaud or publicly commend the man or woman you agree with – don’t wait for others
- Any two people have an invisible scorecard above their heads - player with lower score pays deference to player with high score

This is a wonderful book for anyone who wants to talk to other people but is shy like me. I've been a SAP (socially awkward penguin) for many years until I stumbled upon this book. I've only read 1/3 of it and have already started to see changes in my life, as I used some of the techniques suggested in this book. I feel more confident when I speak to people and continue to make more friends as time goes. I would definitely recommend this book to anyone who has struggled in a similar way.

I was really excited when I found this book... but sorely disappointed when I read it. Here's my beef:

- Too obvious. Out of the 92 tips, I found about 5 to be helpful-- the rest are painfully evident to anyone who has been to more than 2 cocktail parties. I learned to stand up straight in kindergarden, thanks. Got that smiling thing down, too.

- Some of the tips are plain awful. The author suggests you read the paper to get topics of conversation. "Anything that happend today is good material" she says. OK, if you want to get into some heated political debate about the Iraq War, go right ahead.

- The writing style is too verbose/ unecessarily emotional for my taste. The whole thing could have been compressed into a booklet, sans all the exclaimation points and cutesy anecdoetes only tangentally related to the topic at hand.

- Related to the above point, the author spews out annoying untruths. She says "most NYC subway riders only know 2 things about the subway: where they get on and get off" As an 8 year NYC resident, I can tell you we do occasionally go places besides work and home.

- The advice is potentially damaging. She says "big cats are anotomically correct... they'll say "breasts" when they mean breasts". I've worked for a number of fortune 500 companies, and I can tell you no 2 have the same culture. Making generalizations like this can cause you to not only look silly, but lose your job in some places.

- "How to talk to a celebrity". Enough said.

By the way, it is perfectly OK to ask someone what they do.

This book was clearly written in another era where some of the advice is "get a phone recording machine" and "bring along personal calling cards". Its not bad advice but you have to have a high tolerance for lots (and lots) of corny alliteration and phrasing such as "Jiminy crickets" "I didnt give you my measurements, what are you writing down there?" "Sly fox" and more. Essentially, it needs a serious editing for 2016.

I was in the Navy for 8 years. When I left my first submarine the ship's engineer bought this saying I'd have to learn to speak with people that weren't engineers or submariners. I read this book and it literally changed my life. Just using a few of the tricks made introductions, conversations, and farewells much easier and like the book says, it really teaches you the fundamental necessities that make productive and good communicators. I'm buying a second copy to give to a friend. I can honestly say I feel comfortable striking up a conversation with virtually anyone. It's a great book, easy read, and well written guide. I highly recommend it!

I discovered an e-book today every writer should read. "How To Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tips For Big Success in Relationships " by Leil Lowndes. http://www.the store.com/How-Talk-Anyone-Success-…/…/B000SEI4V0. At almost $9 for the ebook, it's not cheap, but don't let that stop you from getting it! I'm listening to it now as an audio book.

Chances are it will make you a better writer of dialogue for having read it, as well as a more successful person on many levels in life, too.

It made me realize that rich, influential people have their own way of talking that is so different from how the rest of us talk. One quick example: Rich people never ask each other "what do you for a living?" Instead, they ask, "How do you spent most of your time?" It's almost a secret handshake. Ask them the wrong way and they instantly know you're a nobody.

It is a real eye-opener. Writers, you owe it to yourself to give it a read. You can thank me after you do!

(I made a point of posting this on two FB writer's groups, as I thought it would greatly benefit anyone trying to learn to write dialogue.) Bill Collins, author of the new fiction novel "Vegas Fever."

Seems okay, not great, but okay. It seems to be divided into sections for various populations- the shy, the socially awkward, and for those trying too hard to be what they are not. Some of this information made me cringe like please do not do that. Out of the 92 tips, I liked and will use about 10-20 of them.

A good companion to Dale Carnegie's books, which you must absolutely read if you're interested in this subject. Leil Lowndes offers a collection of brief, but to the point techniques which will make you a better communicator: anything from how to make a proper introduction at a party, to good etiquette in asking for a favor, to how to inject yourself into an existing conversation at a party.

Not surprisingly, all of these techniques have very little to do with you, and everything to do with paying attention to how others feel, dress, talk, and their interests. Being a good communicator is about listening, not talking, and Leil's book is a great resource which will remind you of all the subtle things you can do to improve in this field.

I have some social anxiety, even out with friends. Since reading this book, I have been able to use these tips to keep conversations going and to connect with people. I also noticed that I am able to get my husband to share more details about his day with me and his aspirations.

I look forward to using the business tips. I'll be graduating with my Master's degree in May and looking forward to making a promotion happen.

I also have a big public speaking engagement in July, so as I'm feeling more comfortable in small settings, this book will help me gain the confidence to tackle a large crowd.

I disagree with some of the other reviewers when they say her humor is off or dry. She's honest! Her humor is appropriate and makes the book more entertaining. We are all human and can see how bad communication skills can make us flounder. We have to be able to laugh at ourselves and move on.

She's not snobby at all, she's just sharing what successful people are thinking. We are constantly being judged, and if we can have a better understanding of what we can do to make a good impression or be more sensitive, we need to hear the truth.

Here is a great book that will enable you to show others what they want to see. I like the way the book is set out, and I like how the author has described each idea clearly, often drawing from personal experience to illustrate to perfection. I feel that, having the skills described, the only missing ingredient is personal congruence.

There are two possible ways to use the ideas in this book: firstly, you might use the techniques to generate a manipulative façade - a lot of the ideas here could be used by a salesperson; secondly, you could use this knowledge to express a genuine and attractive personality. People will eventually see through the former, which gives only a short term gain. But in the case of the latter you will be more loved, valued, and respected, and this will greatly lift your self-esteem for the rest of your life.

All the ideas that Lowndes presents are universally applicable, and they could be applied to any race or culture, or translated into any language - I would imagine.

If I can be very British and quote Shakespeare, ' To thine own self be true'.

This is a good book to help you increase your confidence with some techniques on how to approach and talk with people. It's good for a quite and shy person, if you are looking for something to go above the confidence, this book will only give you a little insight, however, for a shy person who needs to step out of comfort zone and take more risks, this book is a excellent way to start.

This book was AWFUL. The author was so sexist. She referred to men in the corporate world as "Corporate Beasts" and, by her own account encouraged her recently divorced woman friend to find a boss who was an attractive and rich "beast". Her anecdotes are cute, but there is no reference to real research, the tips are easily found anywhere (except usually, eye contact is not referred to as "sticky eyes" - which just made me picture grotesque zombie-like diseases) she was more pleased with making flowery analogies than she was with referring to facts and actually helpful information.

Do not waste your time or your money!

This book goes straight to the point, and actually does have a LOT of useful tips and tricks for people to use during social interactions. I have even noticed I've used several ones myself. I would say this book could run down to about 40 good tips, 20 common sense tips, and the rest would be trash.

Lowndes loves alliteration which makes for a fun read. The titles are obnoxiously brazen and several of the tips have a shallow focus, but there is still a lot of good information in the book. Respecting others' time and giving people a way to save face are examples of the more appreciated advice. The chapters are all short and Lowndes tells entertaining stories, which makes this an easy book to read.

I think the book lost a little credibility when it referenced NLP practitioners. There have been three major aggregate studies in psychology which have shown that NLP is pretty much a pseudoscience.

The author is too verbose; I think the book could have conveyed the same message while having a third of the current word count. On the plus side, there is a box for each chapter that shows the technique in one paragraph.

I found the hierarchical social perspective of the author a little condescending ("lesser dog" is one of those descriptors that I found questionable).

Most of the techniques presented in this book are/have:
- unsubstantiated suggestions (only a hand-few of the techniques are supported by studies).
- a low chance to see application by most people.
- minor positive effects for most people.

I think the application of all techniques will have a positive expected value for most people, but it will not be major.

If you only read one book on communication, make this the one. It's easy, concise, accurate, gives the "why" behind the tricks. Great examples, but not so many that you want her to get on with it. We're busy people and this is a great book that only takes 2 days-1 week to read. So concise!!!

9 Sections: each helps you master a different type of communication.
A gray box at the end of each "tip" with a 2-3 sentence summary with a catchy phrase for the tip to help you remember it (great if you just want the tips and don't care to read the whole book).

The author's witty, pleasant, and brilliant. High-brow tips that take no time at all to learn with her book!!! Just invest less than a week to read this and it will change all of your relationships (and maybe will help you score better financial deals, get you that job, etc.)!

Excellent book. Just case in point, I can see many people in my work place can benefit greatly from this book.

Even though it may seem like common sense to many, nevertheless it's good to have all the tips in one place just so to remind you not to overlook something. Recommended!

You will love this book and thank the author for it. Initially I thought that it's another one of those books that tell you theories that you would already know just to fill the number. It's not. Each trick is useful, makes sense, easily used, and you will be able to realise that some successful people that you have come across in your life are practising these techniques. Sometimes you just can't put a finger on it as to how some certain strangers come across to you and look like a SOMEBODY the first moment you meet. This book tells you why, and the best thing, you can do the same! This book is not just for shy people. That's the wrong mindset. It's for everybody! Wonder why Obama comes across like a great speaker? Read this Book!

This book provides some interesting tricks on how to get along with people, but some of them are kind of crazy (hence why I knocked off one star). For example, "How to use your eyes to make someone fall in love with you" is not something I would have put in this book. However, some tricks are actually very useful (e.g, Parroting, how to make "where are you from" sound exciting).

Overall I would say this book is worth a read, but if you do then don't take everything you read seriously.

Great book. I've read it twice now. Even if you cant relate to every single tip she has, you'll relate to the other 90 tips. It's very well written, not boring at all, very helpful. Each time I've read it I've noticed my communications skills with others have improved, even when I'm not consciously trying to take her tips. It gets en-grained in your brain and you really learn a lot. Plenty of examples and analogies to help you relate what she's saying into real life. Very well written and highly recommended. I'd read it a third time. And I probably will.

If your message is important to you, you should take a little time to work on your attitude and responsiveness if you want to really be ready for success. Ask yourself if you would really want to listen to you when you do not take the time to be an interested communicator. If not, now may be a good time for a change. This book is your start, alsoHow To Talk To People: "Simple Steps To Connect With Anyone Instantly!..really great places to start!

I've been reading this at the bookstore and I've read many of the reviews. I expect to buy the book.

The reviews that are critical justify their position because the book is teaching the reader to be insincere. I don't agree. I hope it will help me to build good habits so that I interact with people in a more favorable manner without even realizing it.

How To Talk To Anyone goes through 92 little techniques that you can incorporate into your communication to improve the way people perceive, respect, and respond to you. The book is written in several short chapters, only about 3 pages each.

The author gives some great advice regarding body language, facial expression, how to read people, and how to keep the conversation flowing. The author also goes into how to sound more pleasant on the phone and how to sound like a few knowledgeable person in almost any setting.

The author does need to work on her humor as I found her sense a little dry. She can also tend to come across and picky and shallow from time to time, but I suppose we all have to deal with these types of people anyway. I also really would have liked all of the summaries given at the end of each chapter to have been listed again at the end of the book, to allow one to easily review the main points without having to flip through the book.

However I really enjoyed this book and will likely be going back to it to refresh myself and to stay on top of the techniques mentioned. A must read. 5 out of 5 stars.

Excellent for general conversation skills. What I like about the book is that it discusses conversation tips for so many different situations, how draw others out, and how to appear interesting if you're not a natural talker or extrovert like me. Though not written expressly for the shy person, reserved people will be helped by this book.

Other good books I bought and would recommend are "The Power of Eye Contact" and From Shy To Social: The Shy Man's Guide to Personal & Dating Success (if you're a single guy and having difficulties in the dating world because you're not outgoing).

This book has a lot of good information. It provides easy to understand action items that one can work on implementing into their daily life. Within the first few chapters the reader is already given tools to increase confidence in social situations, make strong connections with people, and win the admiration of co-works clients and peers.

I read "How to Win Friends..." first, so I had a pretty good idea of where this book would go. I think this book would definitely be helpful to anyone wishing to gain some oourage networking at parties, events, or seminars. But you have to try and apply what you read, or else you're wasting your time.

I bought this book because I usually have a difficult time keeping a conversation going. Either the other person is boring, and utters few words, or I'm not really interested in listening to them anymore. BUT you have to learn how to focus even on boring people. The books one tips stresses how important it is to focus on what someone is saying, in order to pull keywords, and use those keywords to keep the conversation going.

Overall, the book is an easy read. The author uses stories to describe her tips. And the tips are about 3-4 pages each. I finished this book in 2 days.

In conclusion, go buy the book and try to practice what you read. You might feel like a fool at first, but you'll began to see these tips work.

I rated "How to make anyone fall in love with you" by the same author a four star. I think this book is even better, and certainly more applicable in general circumstances. Though I dont agree with the author's mildly negative comment on Dale Carnegie's classic "How to win friends and influence people" who wrote in the Introduction that Dale's book is not good enough for the much more complicated world nowadays, I would rather say Dale's book focused on mindset and strategies, whilst this one gave you many useful tactics. Both should be read seriously, if you want to be a successful warrier in the business jungle. Highly recommended!

 

p.s. The tactic I like most is called "The Tombstone Game" in page 226 Technique 59:- Ask the important people in your life what they would like engraved on their tombstone. Chisel it into your memory but dont mention it again. Then, when the moment is right to say I appreciate you ro I love you, fill the blanks with the very words they gave you weeks earlier. You take people's breath away when you fed their deepest self-image to them in a compliment. "At last, they say to themselves, "someone who loves me for who I truly am."

Leil Lowndes does a masterful job of providing time proven tips to developing and deepening rapport with people. In a time, when we are consumed with the digital age, interpersonal skills are so important to develop long lasting friendships and business alliances. Networking is dependent on the skills examined in this book that resonates today more than ever. I personally relied upon Leil's advice in developing a deep network of connections and friendships.

It's heavily directed at people who are looking to socialize to improve their job life. Some of it can apply to day to day party interactions, and some of it can be general 1 on1, but the tips in this book are mostly about going to gathering that are job focused, schmoozing and making business connections.. Not terribly helpful for someone who simply wants to be better in day to day conversations.

Got this book not knowing what to expect, but I find books with lists like this easy to read and quick to go through, so I took a shot. Got some good information from it. Some things most people will know and some you haven't thought of. Was valuable to me in that I can use it for my work and relationship situations. The same skills apply to both. I am in a business where one relationship can make your or break you. Because of this, even one tip could mean a big bump in my income. For that reason, I give it 5-stars, since a little can go a long way here. Of course, this works for personal/romantic relationships also. You don't need all 92 of these tips to get 5-star value out of it.

I want to say from the bottom of my heart that Leil Lowndes is amazing. I have 4 of her books which are:

1. How to Make Anyone Fall In Love With You

2. How to be a People Magnet

3. UpDating

4. and now this one, "How to Talk to Anyone" (which was originally titled "Talking the Winner's Way")

In addition, I have her audio programs "Love Advantage" as well as "Conversation Confidence".

I live in Tokyo and I have been having small group sessions where we read her books and apply her methods. I must say that in a very self conscience and shy environment such as Tokyo and Japan in general, it is a very challenging task yet it is well worth it.

I have read other communication books in my life and while they had some merits, hers simply stand out as the best. I have been making a variety of bloopers in my life and her books have come into my life at a very good time.

This author has consistently hit the bulls eye when it comes to making connections with people. I just sent one of her earlier books to a friend of mine, who loved it as much as I did. This new one continues her savvy take on how to overcome our people-averse society. I wish I knew how she knows as much as she knows, but happily she shares it with us here.

Strange thing with books is the effect you have when you go to talk to someone after reading one. Read a book about the history of Stalinism and you will probably feel quite bleak. On the other hand, read something comedic and you will be more of a social butterfly.
This book is like this and it does help your communication skills with one side-effect: people will think you manipulative.

Reading this book and using its tips will give people the impression you are "trying too hard". To do things like 'Sticky Eyes', 'Flowing smile' and 'The giant scoreboard in the sky', you have to remember them and react to stimulus differently. Maybe its just me, but I find people pick up on this slight shift in behaviour and normally disapprove.

Of course, most people say that this is reason to chuck this book out and I have to admit that the author does come across as annoyingly judgmental of the people she meets.
But this is to miss out on some true gems of communication.
For example there is 'parroting', which is conversation for the lazy. Essentially all you do is repeat the last few words of what someone says to you (e.g. Me: "I'm going to London to see the Queen", You: "The Queen?" Me: "Yes, the Queen in Buckingham Palace" You: "Buckingham Palace?", etc).

There are also other tips about getting ahead in the 'Big Cat jungle' of business, such as the observation that a business dinner should be a safe haven from business conflicts or that you should not return favours instantaneously.
As for the more manipulative tips, some of them do work well, but should be attempted gradually and not in the manner suggested in the book.

So, this book has a number of good tips for improving communication but it is best taken in small doses and the author is a little too neurotic in places.

One last thing to mention is that, for any faults it has in the way it is written, this book does make a marvelous prop or bookshelf filler. I've taken it to a number of job interviews and to friends houses and the book itself gives you a favourable impression. In fact I even had a friend wanting to borrow it once I'd finished as the cover has such a warm, inviting feel to it.
Rather like having a Bible on your shelf, this is the type of book to be dipped into occasionally but shown off frequently...

I love this book. I devoured it. It really gives some great insight into the human mind and how we communicate. The chapters are short, which I like. For the most part, the lessons learned are pretty straightforward. Once you're read through it once, you can go back and quickly find and remember what the gist of each lesson is. Memorize this book and you will be a bigger success in life.

Here is an open letter of appreciation to the author:

Dear Ms. Lowndes:

Thank you for writing a classic in personal and business relationships. Over the last month it has been my daily study guide. To live most of if not all of ninety-two most effective relationship success tips (tools) you provided, I restarted reading your book again today.

A week after reading "Echo the EMO" ( #82), I had to give a persuasive presentation to an audience of over three hundred and as you may guess, I felt the EMO, I conveyed the EMO and the presentation was a dynamo.

Your anecdotes and flow of language is quite charming. Reading "lumbering along I spotted a Nordic skier swiftly striding toward me," or "the essence of YOU has already axed its way into their brains" I am mesmerized by your picturesque language - something that I would love to emulate more.

Since I live in metro-NYC, I am looking forward to hearing you live one of these days.

May you continue to bless many with your writings!

Warm Regards,

KC

This book is very long. However, it both confirmed and added to what I already knew about good communication. I put some of Leil`s suggestions to the test at some networking events that I went to and I discovered that they do work. This book is well worth the time and effort to read.

Read it!!! It is ok. Most is common knowledge. Each chapter (92 chapters) is a different "trick." But most of these tricks are intiutively understood by 5th grade. Like one for example was she said try not to take so much attention to people when they make mistakes. She said she one was out to dinner with 3 important business executives and their waitress dropped a tray right in front of them and these men took no notice of the situation because they were polite. OOOOOOOOHHHHHHHHHH. What secretive knowledge thank goodness I have this book. There is a few good ones but not worth the money. Worth the read if you get this book at a salvation army, but nothing extraordinary in this book unfortunately.

This is a good book for people that are looking to learn some great quick tactics about conversation. It's for people that enjoy reading Chicken Soup for the Soul type of books. There's a lot of examples using stories, they are short, but they don't necessarily go into detail for those that are looking for technical breakdown on how conversation works.

I would suggest taking a few things from the book to start practicing first, and take it one day at a time for the tips you think are relevant to you.

Leil's book has changed my life!
I'm so glad I stumbled across this book. "How to Talk to Anyone" is filled with wonderful gems of knowledge. And, as someone who works in pharmaceutical clinical research, I appreciate how she backs up her techniques with research studies and statistics (this book is based on science, not fluff!). Leil's witty and straight-forward writing style truly makes her book come to life. My friends and I often go to the park and read her pearls of wisdom out loud...her tell-it-like-it-is New York attitude is so refreshing! I've read this book several times- each time serves as a nice refresher course. It's quite fun to try out her tips, and to see the amazing response that they have (in social settings, at work, with family members, etc). Many people have commented on how my communication skills have improved (and all I did was follow Leil's simple rules). I've seen that Leil's courses (through Verbal Advantage cost $2000+), so to only pay around $15-20 for this book is a total bargain. I also recommend her other books "How to Be a People Magnet" and "Updating".

The only problem I had with this book is the auteur choice of words is very difficult for a second language person. She could pick an easier way to described here book. I had to translate at least 19 words each page just to understand what she is trying to bring on the table. Took me a long time to read this book. However, the book is great, if you don't have any problem​ with the English language you will like this book.

This book does not have alot of new or fresh ideas and is a little dull. Most of the stuff (thus far) is common sense. If you have very many decent communication skills already, I doubt you will find this book super useful. I am halfway through the book and have learned relatively little new information. However, if you struggle some with your communication skills, it might be a good book for you.

"Language most shews a man: Speak, that I may see thee." The great English dramatist and poet Ben Jonson wrote these words in the seventeenth century. They are as true today as they were then. People evaluate you by the words you use and the way you use them. Of course, people also make judgments based on your body language, dress style, attitude, facial expressions and similar criteria that immediately register at a subconscious level. This outstanding book will put you well on your way to becoming a more attractive personality as it reveals the secrets that drama and speech coaches, sales trainers, communication consultants, psychologists and other behavioral experts employ to help their clients become more charismatic, dynamic and appealing. The famous journalist and social critic H.L. Mencken once wrote, "Before a man speaks, it is always safe to assume that he is a fool. After he speaks, it is seldom necessary to assume it." This cynical maxim may be true for many - but certainly not for those who study this book. It is chock-full of wonderful insights and proven techniques - a whopping 92 in all - that you can use to become the type of person that others admire. We recommend putting its valuable lessons to use.

Thank you Leil for sharing your generous gift of experiences. I immensely enjoyed studying your various stories and intend to utilize the techniques in a multitude of social settings. Recently, I was at a party and I tuned into the radio station that most of the strangers seemed to be listening to...you know the one "WIIFM". Once on that wavelength, conversations flowed fluidly and brand new bonds occurred.

Leil, the adventure I had was so fond that I am excited to explore your future offerings.

Thank you again for the gift.

Kind regards.

How To Talk To Anyone, offers alot of basic and practical advice on interpersonal skills. Alot of it is learning how to connect with the person you are speaking to.

Leil Lowndes makes this all very easy to understand. She breaks it all down in to "Techniques". For each technique, she gives a real-life situation as an example. This helps to make each of her techniques easy to understand, and easy to remember.

Have you ever heard this conversation after Thanksgiving?

BOB: Hey, Sue. How was your Thanksgiving?
SUE: It was good. How was yours?
BOB: Good.
SUE: Well, that's great...[trailing off into awkward silence].

I'm sure that everyone has noticed that you don't just hear similar conversations right after a holiday--you hear the EXACT same conversation verbatim--word for word. I got so tired of it that I almost wrote off small talk as a fantasy for little children.

As a child, "Good morning. Good morning. Good morning, how are you. I'm fine. I'm fine. And I hope that you are, too," is more than adequate for our conversational needs. However, as we grow older, it is important that we cultivate those skills into something that will help us develop better relationships.

I'm was a boring engineer--well I definitely seemed that I fit the stereotype, because as long as you cannot convey how amazing you REALLY are to other people, you may as well just be another robot off the assembly line spouting generic catch phrases and slogans.

I used to struggle with conversation. How do you keep them going? What do you talk about? As of this writing, I have not even finished the book, and have already noticed my conversation skills have improved exponentially.

Guys, do you want to talk to that special girl? Well, you don't need corny pick up lines--you need to know how to talk to people. What happens when your "material" runs out? You are then forced to have a real conversation. Are you equipped to do so?

I read Dale Carnegie's "How to Win Friends and Influence People" before reading this book and I would strongly suggest you pick it up as well because it is literally timeless. What Leil Lowndes' "How to Talk to Anyone" does is expand upon Carnegie's concepts.

Carnegie tells you the theory and Lowndes gives you more specific examples to give you a kick start. The art of conversation is a dying one, however, you can develop strong, healthy relationships if you apply the concepts of this book and "How to Win Friends and Influence People" to your life.

When I read this I was going through a rough stage in my life. I had always viewed self-help as an avenue for the socially desperate, something to be shunned and ridiculed. So by my own standards, I'd reached a new low when I decided to read this book.

It didn't help. If anything, it made things worse. Firstly the book has no moral basis. These are tricks, after all. A few common sense tips, some tools and many outright gimmicks that only a narcissist would use without a shudder.

Secondly, it assumes the reader already has social capital but few social skills. If you look like a loser, people will ignore you no matter how hard you try to win them over with conversational slips. However, if you're an important, attractive person, you could be a bore and people will be hanging on every word you say. Which brings me back to my first point: this book has no moral basis.

If you're a loser with no social skills, what you need is some moral guidance, not a list of tricks and gimmicks. That'll only make things worse for you, as I quickly found out by taking Lowndes' advice. Find a book that teaches you how you should act and why.

I'm giving this book 2 stars rather than 1 - there are some decent points. The first several tricks are really just the basics that everyone should have been taught by their parents. If you don't understand the importance of eye contact when speaking to people, then...well, you should!

There's also another trick that can help you out in situations where you're stuck with someone who's in desperate need to talk to someone. Repeat the last 3 words of what they say in an interrogative tone. I did this with a friend of mine once - he was obsessed with a single subject and wouldn't shut up about it. Very tiresome. Although it felt rather diabolical to spur him on with this algorithm, after a while he ran out of steam and seemed to be at peace for once.

This masterpiece has been like a drug I have been addicted to for the last three days. This book has inspired me. It makes me laugh now to think how absorbed I was that my imagination brought me to a place where it felt like we (Leil and I) were talking, that I wasn't just reading anymore. She has done a great job putting this atlas to the world of communicating together. I look forward to reading more of her work.

I read this book once and I continually review and am rereading it with a highlighter. I am in the military and trying to meet people and get ahead and these methods have significantly improved my communication skills for schmoozing.

After reading just the first chapter of "How to Talk to Anyone," I was astounded!! I have been researching this field (I am 24 years old, and a developmental trainer) for almost 7 years and I have never seen, heard or read such stuff. Leil's technique about the "Flooding Smile" is in itself worth the price of the whole book, many times over. I feel a sense of excitement on having discovered her material that I felt when I first read about NLP - which was a life-changing experience for me. Really, Leil's book is AWESOME!! and if I could, I would shout it out and jump up and down and tell everyone about it in the voice of a kid who just found out where his favorite toy was all this while, after all! I can't wait to start living these techniques and scream these techniques out in my training sessions.

Amazingly insightful read. I personally recommend this book for anyone in any walk of life.

I would basically call this book the modern and thorough version of Dale Carnegie's "How to Win Friends & Influence People"

I have developed a fascination with personal relationships and want to become a master communicator and master friend to others. I want to learn how to be totally charismatic and attract people to me like a magnet. I want to learn how I can get others to like me, because they can sense and know I like them by focusing on THEM, not me. I want to learn special words and grammar and what to say to others for them to feel attracted to me, even on a subconscious level.
And now Leil Lowndes has told me exactly how to do it. Her book is FANTASTIC. I've started using some of her techniques and notice how people are responding to me more positively already. Now I'm going to order all her books.

After spending most of my adult life being somewhat shy and reserved, this book has really helped, and I haven't even gotten half way through it. Needless to say, all the basics have to be there, you have to have some level of self confidence and ability to talk to others, but these tips help you make the most of what you already have. Rome wasn't built in a day, though, and it will take some time to take full advantage of all the tricks Lowndes has to offer. After every conversation, I now evaluate how things went and what I forgot to do or what I could have done differently. Thanks Leil!

I have to say that this is very good book on building general social skills. Some of the stuff I already knew, but there was tons of stuff that I had never known about! Now I find myself making more friends than I can handle lol. A definite must-have for the clueless introvert.

Jesus... I don't even know where to begin. This book fails on so many areas.

Slowly curve your lips to smile so it would look more sincere???? Whaaat??? A sincere smile is not learned or calculated. A sincere smile just shows up naturally.

Another thing that is very well-known is to look people in their eyes, all the time. There is a big problem with this. While it is true that you need to look people in the eyes. It is not the case all the time. The big exception is depending on the person. The world is not just all Americans. There are many cultures where looking someone straight into their eyes for a long period of time is considered very rude. It can be seen as intrusiveness and aggressiveness. In some others, it is an invitation for a fight, like "What are you looking at?"

Another problem is many people can look at you straight in your eyes and still lie. They are called sociopaths and pathological liars. See, from this alone this book and any other books that profess this has already failed.

Many help coaches like to box people into their definition but people are different. Not everyone is like you and that's the way it should be. People act differently to situations so stop interpreting people based on their body language.

Now, onto the CD itself. I wish somebody else read this book instead of the author. A professional reader, maybe. The author's voice is very annoying and she tries so hard to be enthusiastic but it fails. You don't need to sound like you are jumping all the time to sound sincere and enthusiastic. Also, I cannot understand many of her words. I listen to audio books all the time and this is the first time someone's voice annoyed me and couldn't understand what she was saying.

This book effectively functions as a primer for the socially awkward as regards how to approach people and maintain personal contact through body language, conversation, flattery, attention, and general give and take. There is a level of fakery and manipulation implied in that if this needs to be taught then it is obviously not originally present in the user; but it is also true that all human interaction involves some level of compromise and meeting halfway, if only for mutual benefit.

There is nothing to object to in any of the advice; it is all meant to appeal, to generate interest and fascination and chemistry. One or the other "little tricks" are bound to be new to anyone, and in many cases one reads a chapter, recognizes one's own or someone else's behavior, and can now pinpoint just what is going on. But will someone socially insecure enough to seriously study this volume be able to call up just the right tool when necessary?

If nothing else, the book functions in much the same way as any book on conversation, on body language, and on interactive behavior.

It was a quick read and it is a good book but eventually you will remember only parts of it and not every relationship works this way.

I listened to the audio book and for some reason her voice is very annoying, is it because she is tone deaf? or just the way she talks?

For those of you who are looking to improve the quality of your communication and relationships this is one of the books for you. However I'd recommend starting with How To Win Friends and Influence People by: Dale Carnegie. As Lowndes states in the intro of her book, her book isn't a replacement to Carnegie's classic but essentially an expansion. Carnegie goes into the concepts behind Lowndes techniques while Lowndes' book goes into the nitty-gritty specifics of how to accomplish it. Long story short, Carnegie for principles, Lowndes for tools.

I needed something to entertain me on a rainy night. So I wandered

into my sister's bedroom & found "How to Talk to Anyone." Picking

up that book was the one of the best things I ever did for my social life -

I instantly fell in love with it. Even when I'm not using the tecniques the author

taught me, I can feel confident knowing I have learn & know how to talk to

people effectively. The first party I went to after reading the book

sounded really boring, I wasn't looking forward to it, but thanks to "How to Talk to Anyone," I was an instant success.

In Leil Lowndes' understanding of things, good people and communication skills is vital to success in today's world. And how does one develop powerful people skills? Be born to rich, educated parents who themselves are social and graceful. Attend expensive private K-12 schools where teachers hone and refine your people skills, confidence, and self-assurance. Attend an Ivy League university, where you finally mature that accent and attitude so necessary and representative of the ruling class. During this process, it's important to be popular in school, good-looking, athletic, a world-traveler, and to be an eclectic reader. Then go to Wall Street or law school or medical school or business school, and make a billion dollars. Then your success will guarantee your confidence which will guarantee your people skills. Everyone will like you. Why? Because everyone likes a winner so the best way to guarantee that you're a winner is if you're a winner already.

And if you're not a winner already then tough luck to you. But you can make yourself temporarily feel better (not really) if you waste your time reading "How to Talk Anyone," perhaps the most definite guide since whatever was Leil Lowndes' most recent book on how to be a dilettante and a poseur, and the surest way to make a fool of yourself in front of rich, successful people. Are you not an interesting person? Why just scan the whole newspaper, and you can instantly add in a line or two lines of idiotic commentary to a party conversation. "How to Talk Anyone" is a book that someone like Paris Hilton would read, find exceptionally inspirational, follow its advice, and then make a better mockery of herself than she already is (if that's possible).

The irony of the book is that in her introduction Leil Lowndes complains that Dale Carnegie's classic is too simple, and then goes on to offer simplistic advice. What make Dale Carnegie's "How to Win Friends & Influence People" the classic that it is today is the beauty of its simplicity: he boiled down the chaos and complexity of people relationships into the most elegant of advice (smile, listen, and ask questions). In comparison, this book is overly complicated and poorly presented.

This book does a good job of teaching interpersonal skills which will surely help no matter what you use it for - For work, for recreation, for socialising.

The title of the book is really self-explanatory - 'How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships'. If you want to improve your relationships, this book is highly recommended to you. Everyone can pick up something from this little book.

I'll repeat what an August 5th reviewer of Talking the Winner's Way stated : If you've already bought the book How To Talk To Anyone - 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships by the same author then don't buy this book as it is the same. I bought both of them together and was really annoyed when I discovered they were the same. How can someone re-write a book under a different title without any mention of this fact on the book cover ?

You'll also note that Editorial review of both books is the same and have the same quotes from Larry King and McKay. Shame on the store for not giving me a full refund!

I enjoyed this book. I haven't tried out the tips yet, but they already make me feel more confident and more prepared for social situations. I read this book to both help me make friends easier and to help me get a job. I can see it helping with both, though I doubt the effects will be too spectacular. I definitely enjoyed reading it though.

The book in general gives some fine advice for small-talking and can be used for such purpose, however, concerned one is with the constant reference to the authors friends - in ANY situation. This comes off as bragging and as such gives the reader grounds for questioning the limits of the book. Can all of the 92 little tricks really be implemented in daily life, or is it simply superficial bragging of "accidental incidents" that have occurred in the life of the authors friends?

With willpower anything seems possible, this can be used as argument for the tricks, however, in my mind the author is simply bragging, which diminishes the level of trust one can place into the book.

Leil, it's a good book, but clear out some of the "name-dropping" - we don't need to know it's a story about YOUR friend all the time, and we don't need to know all about their success.

The advice in this book can be used instantly and it is written in a format that makes each tip easily and quickly digestible. I had a lot of big 'aha' moments reading this book from beginning to end. I plan on reading this multiple times.

For anyone seeking insight into the subtleties of interpersonal communication, "How to Talk to Anyone" is exactly what you're looking for. The material is well organized, easy to follow, and written in a very personal way that makes it fun to read. The book takes the theories you've read about in other places and shows you how to put them into practice.

I'm a social klutz, and I was just blown away by the tips given in this book. I feel more confident now and have an incredibly better understanding of people's reactions, after reading this book! I highly recommend it to those who are introverted and the novices in business networking.

I loved this book!! It was one that I couldn't put down. It is a book on communication skills that is both informative and funny. Leil Lowndes has a fantastic way of teaching what to do/say and what not to do/say in all different situations. This book is for definate must read for every age group, from teenagers up. Also excellent is her book How To Make Anyone Fall In Love With You.

I enjoyed this book and definitely got some tips out of it, but (as a non-US reader) I found it 'too American'. Don't take this in an offensive way, but the book basically divides the world into winners and losers, makes fun of foreign accents and teists facts (since when did WW II start in 1942?). At times it feels as if Donald Trump wrote this book.

I can't say enough about how this book has helped me in 2003. It has straightened me up and I'm flying right. Last week I received an award for "Most Improved" in community adjustment work I do at a hospital in New York. Reading the book only halfway through gave me the sense of direction and confidence I needed that I had to contact the author herself and thank her. You probably will too.

To tell the truth, this book tired me. The little stories, while cute, just felt like was wasting my time. I condensed everything I learned from this book in 4 doc pages. (And to be honest I'm not that sure about some of the tricks. Some are completely outdated, others sound too much like just her opinion)

There are a lot of books on theories and what you SHOULD DO, this book as well as "Talking the Winners Way" offers some REAL steps on how to communicate better! It gives you practical advice and doesn't bombard you with theories or idealism, but gets direct to the point about the behaviors that you have to exhibit and use in order to change your current communication style. What to change to be "better" at something? Get this book! I can not recommend it enough!

If you get only one book on this subject, this is the one. It is concise, clear, comprehensive and entertaining. What more can you ask for?

To sum it up -

"The secret of success is sincerity. Once you can fake that, you've got it made."

~Jean Giraudoux (1882-1944)

Excellent book! Well written, but most of all useful for ALL who would like to brush up their techniques and ideas when dealing with anyone and in just about any situation! It reminds you of simple common sense ideas that most of us know but too many times we forget. You'll want to have this book on hand and refer to it on many occasions! It's also fun to talk about with your friends.

I'm so pleased with this bag. The bag arrived packaged very carefully with a note from the artisan explaining the care and nature of leather. I was anticipating a darker colored leather, but as the note explains, the bag will darken with age. I have only had it about a week and can already see that process happening. The bag holds much more than I anticipated, easily fitting my laptop, a couple of books, and many other miscellaneous items. I have gotten multiple compliments from co workers and even strangers. Great care was obviously taken to construct this bag and the craftsmanship is incredible.

This is the very best book of its kind. I've read dozens of the "How to Win Friends and Influence People" genre - I wish I could have read this a few decades ago and skipped the rest.
It works for me because it breaks everything down into what you have to do (and why), step by step. The same sorts of instructions you get from all the other books, but with a level of detail that tells you exactly what to do.
If you need this sort of help, you need a book like this.

Leil, thank you for writing this book!

I learned MUCH from it and immediately applied it to my life. TRULY AMAZING techniques.... WORTH EVERY CENT!!!

This is definitely a great book on COMMUNICATION and COMMUNICATION PSYCHOLOGY!!!

This book changed my life. I read it as a shy, awkward 12 year old, and remarkably, I still remember many of the tips 8 years later. It's an easy, light read, and some of the tips are better than others but overall I guarantee you will get something very useful out of this book. I would attribute many of my life's successes to having read this book.

This is a book not to be read in one sitting but enjoyed one trick per day. Leil has excellent advice for anyone entering the job market or who hopes one day to be CEO.

Read, enjoy and LEARN. I am recommending this book to all our students on Success.org.

The subtleties of the various languages that make this planet and it's people are completely ignored by the author, so remember, the techniques (while great) are applicable mostly in America - casual, corporate, dating, etc. - it's geared for American living. Applying some of the techniques outside of the American setting may do more harm than good. I would definitely recommend this book to someone who is learning English as a foreign language and trying to work and live in America.

Leil's books are fabulous! I have done a lot of reading and I truly appreciate the advice that she imparts. It is easy to follow and highly applicable. I was a teacher of college level communication courses and a marital mediator so I especially appreciate the knowledge she shares.

She must have been obligated to write this. Horrible writing style. Everything is, I had the most important lunch with this CEO and and an amazing dinner with the most important people on the planet! Follow my simple advice and you too will be rubbing shoulders with the rich and powerful! Oh please. Who cares.

I haven't finished it yet but I love it already! The techniques are easy to understand and are the types of tips which are usable every day. Its just a matter or practice and learning to remember the tips because there are so many! I find it an easy and enjoyable read. Definately recommended!

This book is the truly amazing guide to help bring that BIG WINNER inside you!
It starts with your posture in Part 1- the posture that will make people know that you're better than them in the first glance.
Later on, you will see parts made for being the star in any party, how to flatter people and how to take compliments, how to make people do you a favour, what to do to get closer with people, how to win big jobs and how to impress anyone and make people follow you everywhere. Leil gives proof that all of these techniques will work.
I, myself, tried ALL the techniques in the book and my life totally CHANGED!! I how to say that this book will make you the leader of any group you're with.
It makes us realize the daily mistakes that we make and other techniques that are just so clever.
If anyone comes and tells me that the techniques in the book didn't work then I will really asume that they didn't read the book at all.
WHAT HAPPENED AFTER READING THIS BOOK>
People suddenly started approaching me.
I became the leader in every group i entered.
I understood my mistakes in relationships.
I learned so many fun and clever techniques.
Even the hardest people to impress were impressed by me.

Conclusion? GO AND BUY THIS PERFECT BOOK THAT WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE JUST LIKE IT CHANGED MINE

A very easy book to read. I found the beginning half very insightful, fun, and useful and will be the portion that I take notes on the most. Some points made me realize I've been doing that already and now I can continue that with purpose. I've caught others doing certain points to me recently as well, in retrospect, as I was reading the book, the sticky/epoxy eyes in particular.

The latter half of the book felt too "business" like to me, speaking of how Politicians work the room etc, is something that I really can't relate too, but the points of what to do are good. A lot of examples and stories are centred around business and sales stuff, which from time to time was a turn off for me, and schmoozing with big wigs at elite parties which really isn't my thing either. One just has to apply their own scenarios when visualizing the techniques in your world.

The book ended well despite my ever slight disappointment through the half way mark. It's my first self help book and I'm glad to have read it.

I may have given it 4 stars, but unfortunately I'm in the 4th chapter of an eye opening book Feel the Fear and Do It Anyways, and with that I would have to give this book, How to Talk to Anyone, a solid 3.

This is an excellent book with highly useable and very practical ideas expressed in a fun, readable style. Highly recommended UNLESS you have "Talking the Winners Way" by the same author. They are the same.

This book is truly great!! I am not very good at small talk and being a room full of people I do not know. This book gave me great ideas on how to be more comfortable in these situations. The tips seem so common sense but some of us just don't know them!! This book is also easy to read and quick to get through. I highly recommend it!

Great advice if you live in 1990, this book was written before their was a search engine or smart phone. For you time travelers with a way to go back in time, you will find this book extremely useful.

Most of the advice given in this book is sensible and useful, and contrary to the John Smith review above, it is not stuff that everyone learns when they're very young. Perhaps one or two of the 92 tricks might be better left untried, but discerning readers will spot them easily enough.

What you might not care for is what surrounds the advice. For example, the author keeps repeating that her book is aimed at a more "sophisticated" generation than Dale Carnegie's, which is hard to take seriously if you know anything at all about that period of history. And if we really are so much more sophisticated, why do we need these techniques explained to us in more detail, rather than less?

The humor can be irritating at times, and there's even a minor factual error: Cape Canaveral is referred to as Cape Kennedy. Yes, that last item is a shameless "gotcha", but it's a good example of what you have to look past in order to get the most benefit from this book.

Fortunately, since the 92 chapters are all very short, and each technique is summarized in its own little box, it's not difficult for a disciplined reader to ignore these problems, and focus on the essential information. All in all, quite helpful.

I received this book yesterday and have already made good progress in it--thus, it is a good, quick read. I am going to a big corporate shindig on Saturday, and wanted to brush up on my conversational skills. This book serves the purpose WELL. Lowndes gives good techniques, and explains them in such a way that they are easy to mimic. My only complaint (why it didn't get 5*) is that most of the "true stories" seem very contrived, and not true at all. The author tries to present "real life" situations as having actually happened, when the story is VERY transparent. The author could just as easily have said "imagine if..."

Overall, a good book, though. Worth the money.

Content: If you get passed the dull and meaningless stories, you might learn something if you are from another planet.

Many of the 92 tips given lack detail in description. The actual explanation of the "trick" contains less than 100 words. Less than 1/10th of the chapter, or 1/4 of a very small page. Much of the description often is not really description at all, but some where along the lines of "if you do this then you will be very successful/popular". As for the actual advice themselves, I agree with some of them (body language). However others do work in social situations, but you might risk coming off as an pesky sales person that persistently tries to pry at your personal life.

Credibility: Author sounds like a bad fiction book writer.

The author tells countless stories that I see little relevance to the message of the chapter. They can pretty much be boiled down to this: Author/friend of author is in a awkward situation, she is struck with an idea! Another seemingly odd thing about this book is the characters dialogue. Painters speak redneck, Salesmen are corporate drones, women can't think for themselves. These are just few of the roles common characters take. Sounds like a bad fiction, doesn't it?

Bottom line: It is terribly disapointing to read through the uninteresting stories in order to find a social "trick" that is a penny short of being common sense.

I lost all respect for this book when the author started knocking Dale Carnagie's principles. I took the Dale Carnagie courses, and they are not like this guy says. Apparently he is speaking out of heresy, and I can hear he has not idea what he's talking about.

She changed my life !
I have no words to describe how good this book is.
I have tried every trick mentioned in this book, and they all worked !
It helped me alot in my business life and even more in my personal life.
I have so many friends, I can not count them anymore.
I wish everyone would read this book. The world could have been a better place.
Yafit, Israel.

Leil Lowndes does an excellent job of letting the reader know how to really draw in the attention of those around you. She not only explains what to do, but how to do it with her special techniques. A must for those seeking to enhance their speaking skills in any area of their life e.g. love, friendship, and business.

I just read a few things on that book its littile bit boring i bought that book on the street in bombay india the paper was recycled and i hate it when reading it because the paper is gray its a copy book i don't reccomed it if you interesting on pictures and many things that help you to read

The subtleties of the various languages that make this planet and it's people are completely ignored by the author, so remember, the techniques (while great) are applicable mostly in America - casual, corporate, dating, etc. - it's geared for American living. Applying some of the techniques outside of the American setting may do more harm than good. I would definitely recommend this book to someone who is learning English as a foreign language and trying to work and live in America.

Leil's books are fabulous! I have done a lot of reading and I truly appreciate the advice that she imparts. It is easy to follow and highly applicable. I was a teacher of college level communication courses and a marital mediator so I especially appreciate the knowledge she shares.

She must have been obligated to write this. Horrible writing style. Everything is, I had the most important lunch with this CEO and and an amazing dinner with the most important people on the planet! Follow my simple advice and you too will be rubbing shoulders with the rich and powerful! Oh please. Who cares.

I haven't finished it yet but I love it already! The techniques are easy to understand and are the types of tips which are usable every day. Its just a matter or practice and learning to remember the tips because there are so many! I find it an easy and enjoyable read. Definately recommended!

This book is the truly amazing guide to help bring that BIG WINNER inside you!
It starts with your posture in Part 1- the posture that will make people know that you're better than them in the first glance.
Later on, you will see parts made for being the star in any party, how to flatter people and how to take compliments, how to make people do you a favour, what to do to get closer with people, how to win big jobs and how to impress anyone and make people follow you everywhere. Leil gives proof that all of these techniques will work.
I, myself, tried ALL the techniques in the book and my life totally CHANGED!! I how to say that this book will make you the leader of any group you're with.
It makes us realize the daily mistakes that we make and other techniques that are just so clever.
If anyone comes and tells me that the techniques in the book didn't work then I will really asume that they didn't read the book at all.
WHAT HAPPENED AFTER READING THIS BOOK>
People suddenly started approaching me.
I became the leader in every group i entered.
I understood my mistakes in relationships.
I learned so many fun and clever techniques.
Even the hardest people to impress were impressed by me.

Conclusion? GO AND BUY THIS PERFECT BOOK THAT WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE JUST LIKE IT CHANGED MINE

A very easy book to read. I found the beginning half very insightful, fun, and useful and will be the portion that I take notes on the most. Some points made me realize I've been doing that already and now I can continue that with purpose. I've caught others doing certain points to me recently as well, in retrospect, as I was reading the book, the sticky/epoxy eyes in particular.

The latter half of the book felt too "business" like to me, speaking of how Politicians work the room etc, is something that I really can't relate too, but the points of what to do are good. A lot of examples and stories are centred around business and sales stuff, which from time to time was a turn off for me, and schmoozing with big wigs at elite parties which really isn't my thing either. One just has to apply their own scenarios when visualizing the techniques in your world.

The book ended well despite my ever slight disappointment through the half way mark. It's my first self help book and I'm glad to have read it.

I may have given it 4 stars, but unfortunately I'm in the 4th chapter of an eye opening book Feel the Fear and Do It Anyways, and with that I would have to give this book, How to Talk to Anyone, a solid 3.

This is an excellent book with highly useable and very practical ideas expressed in a fun, readable style. Highly recommended UNLESS you have "Talking the Winners Way" by the same author. They are the same.

This book is truly great!! I am not very good at small talk and being a room full of people I do not know. This book gave me great ideas on how to be more comfortable in these situations. The tips seem so common sense but some of us just don't know them!! This book is also easy to read and quick to get through. I highly recommend it!

Great advice if you live in 1990, this book was written before their was a search engine or smart phone. For you time travelers with a way to go back in time, you will find this book extremely useful.

Most of the advice given in this book is sensible and useful, and contrary to the John Smith review above, it is not stuff that everyone learns when they're very young. Perhaps one or two of the 92 tricks might be better left untried, but discerning readers will spot them easily enough.

What you might not care for is what surrounds the advice. For example, the author keeps repeating that her book is aimed at a more "sophisticated" generation than Dale Carnegie's, which is hard to take seriously if you know anything at all about that period of history. And if we really are so much more sophisticated, why do we need these techniques explained to us in more detail, rather than less?

The humor can be irritating at times, and there's even a minor factual error: Cape Canaveral is referred to as Cape Kennedy. Yes, that last item is a shameless "gotcha", but it's a good example of what you have to look past in order to get the most benefit from this book.

Fortunately, since the 92 chapters are all very short, and each technique is summarized in its own little box, it's not difficult for a disciplined reader to ignore these problems, and focus on the essential information. All in all, quite helpful.

Content: If you get passed the dull and meaningless stories, you might learn something if you are from another planet.

Many of the 92 tips given lack detail in description. The actual explanation of the "trick" contains less than 100 words. Less than 1/10th of the chapter, or 1/4 of a very small page. Much of the description often is not really description at all, but some where along the lines of "if you do this then you will be very successful/popular". As for the actual advice themselves, I agree with some of them (body language). However others do work in social situations, but you might risk coming off as an pesky sales person that persistently tries to pry at your personal life.

Credibility: Author sounds like a bad fiction book writer.

The author tells countless stories that I see little relevance to the message of the chapter. They can pretty much be boiled down to this: Author/friend of author is in a awkward situation, she is struck with an idea! Another seemingly odd thing about this book is the characters dialogue. Painters speak redneck, Salesmen are corporate drones, women can't think for themselves. These are just few of the roles common characters take. Sounds like a bad fiction, doesn't it?

Bottom line: It is terribly disapointing to read through the uninteresting stories in order to find a social "trick" that is a penny short of being common sense.

I lost all respect for this book when the author started knocking Dale Carnagie's principles. I took the Dale Carnagie courses, and they are not like this guy says. Apparently he is speaking out of heresy, and I can hear he has not idea what he's talking about.

She changed my life !
I have no words to describe how good this book is.
I have tried every trick mentioned in this book, and they all worked !
It helped me alot in my business life and even more in my personal life.
I have so many friends, I can not count them anymore.
I wish everyone would read this book. The world could have been a better place.
Yafit, Israel.

Leil Lowndes does an excellent job of letting the reader know how to really draw in the attention of those around you. She not only explains what to do, but how to do it with her special techniques. A must for those seeking to enhance their speaking skills in any area of their life e.g. love, friendship, and business.

I just read a few things on that book its littile bit boring i bought that book on the street in bombay india the paper was recycled and i hate it when reading it because the paper is gray its a copy book i don't reccomed it if you interesting on pictures and many things that help you to read