Cool Down and Work Through Anger (Learning to Get Along®)

Text is short, easy to understand, pictures vibrant and relatable, and perfect to use as a social story for my six-year-old autistic child. At the end of the book, there ideas that parents can use to help their child brainstorm and role play.

Excellent book! Really helped my daughter with learning not to hit and gave us a good phrase to say "hands are not for hitting - what else can we do with our hands..." Shortly after purchasing this book and reading it a few times, I would tell my daughter "hands are not for hitting" and she would go and grab the book to read. ;)

Working with young children I have definitely read this book over and over! I love reading this book to my class because it is another way to encourage children to use nice hands. I also own teeth are not for biting. Love these books!

Like "Teeth Are Not for Biting" this book is good for helping with the discussion and for reinforcing the notion that hurting others is not ok. Not something we re-read a lot because he didn't really enjoy it.

All little ones will hit, per our grandson's doctor. We just want to be one step ahead of him and seems to be working. He loves this book and always makes nice to mommy and daddy when they read it to him. Great learning and teaching tool.

I love how this book focuses on positive redirection on all the great things hands can do and then explains " hands are not for hitting"
This book didn't have a lecture or shamming tone at all. It's wonderful and explained things in a beautiful way. This book really helped my three year old .

The book is colorful and has a great message. There are several books in the series addressing many issues that may need tackeling with child behaviour traits. My child's OT recommended this. I have enjoyed reading it to my son.

My granddaughter had a problem keeping her hands to herself in nursery school. I purchased this book and we read it together every night for several weeks. She always got to say the part "Hands are not for hitting!" Within a few weeks, the reports of hitting stopped coming home from school and I give this book a lot of credit for being part of the solution to her problem. (I also purchased the book "Teeth Are Not for Biting" and it also worked wonders!)

We are using this book each morning with our toddlers. While we read it, we talk about each of the pictures and then reference it throughout the day, repeating the phrase "hands are not for hitting." It has given us a tool and a phrase that everyone understands so when tempers flare, we can bring things to a resolution quickly.

Repetition is the key to my toddler learning new skills, like how hands are not used for hitting. We've read this book frequently and she likes pointing out all the things you can do with your hands that aren't hitting.

This book has great pictures and written in say a Kindergarten-First grade level...however, if you have a child that has explosive anger who's a little older (8) , as I do... I made him read it aloud once while he was on a time out. We will be using this book again and again! Reading a reader book would never work when they are angry...but, a more childish book, not as 'wordy'... will work.

We were going through a bad hitting phase with our 2.5y old and this book really helped. Even though when I looked at he text I didn't think it would be very helpful, for her, it was. Also great parent tips at the end.

Great book to help little ones keep their hands to themselves. My 18 month old grandson seemed to have a bit of a problem hitting others at Pre-school and....especially his mommy! it's a "phase" but still needs to be addressed. Book does a great job giving him ideas of what to do with his hands!

I ordered this book when at 18 months my daughter started having a hard time "keeping her hands to herself," as my day care provider put it. I was horrified that my sweet little girl could potentially be turning into a bully and immediately began searching for a book that would help me help her understand that hitting wasn't okay. I decided on this one given the high product reviews. I could only find the truncated board book version at my local store, so at the suggestion of multiple reviewers, I ordered the paperback instead. I'm very glad I did, because it contains much more information about how hitting makes other people feel and why it's not acceptable, as well as it offers alternative solutions to solving problems that might otherwise provoke a child to hit. This additional material is, I think, especially helpful for an older child whose reasoning skills are a bit more advanced and would be more receptive to the sorts of logical arguments outlined in the paperback version.

I ordered this book and _Tails Are Not for Pulling_, because both issues presented themselves upon our household around the same time, and the results were shockingly fast. Within a couple of days, my day care provider informed me that my daughter's hitting had ceased, and our beloved kitty was breathing a little easier in her presence. I was so pleased with the content of these books and the results we saw that I've since turned to this wonderful series to help explain to my daughter everything from naps to the potty. My daughter loves these books so much that she's literally able to recite the text after just a couple of reads through a new edition.

I can't recommend this book enough, and if you have other issues that warrant attention, do try the other books in this series. I think you'll be pleasantly surprised.

I received this in the mail last night "Teeth Are Not For Biting". My 18-month-old has asked her dad and I to ready both book easily over 100 times in the few waking hours since we picked up our mail. She usually takes some time to fully "warm-up" to a new book. These two books keep her fully engaged. Big win for us!

My son (like many small childern) was having an issue with hitting people when he got frustrated. We would talk to him and explain that it was unacceptable but he would still hit. I got this book and It has helped a lot. He learned what hands could be used for besides hitting.

The story inside the book is about following rules not about working through anger. The publishing company must have made an era. I don’t see anywhere on the store to leave a message about the issue besides in this comments section.

This helped us tremendously when our toddler went through a hitting phase. We didn't read this book when she was in the middle of an incident, rather when everything was calm. The illustrations are engaging and the words and situations are easy for preschool age to relate to.

This whole series is great for toddlers/preschoolers. My kid loves these books and they really do teach him about appropriate behaviors. We can use phrases from the book when he engages in negative behaviors and redirect him in a positive way. Definitely recommend.

This book gives clear examples of what can trigger a child's anger, and steps to take to avoid hurting someone else. Kids who have trouble recognizing their triggers, or don't know how to cope with the overwhelming feelings can easily understand the words. The illustrations are realistic enough to avoid trivializing a very real and painful problem, unlike a lot of books with cartoonish pictures. This whole series is exceptional. It would be great for parents or teachers of young children who are having meltdowns with aggressive behavior.

While my child clearly doesn't understand the moral of the story (19 months) since he still hits sometimes, he loves this book. I think he really enjoys seeing all the things he actually does with his hands. Perhaps in a few more months the message will truly resonate..