A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory - More Than Two

This book is phenomenal. I have read many books on ethical poly and open relationships and I could happily throw them all away now and just read this. My only complaint is that I wish they would write another book for monogamous people because the principles they lay out are transformative for anyone no matter what your relationship style. I recommend this book to all my mono friends now but of course many of them are turned off by the emphasis on poly

I'm finding this book to be very thought-provoking and useful. I am not poly, but can see how these concepts relate to communication in all relationships, and relate to conflicts that can result from wanting to keep multiple relationships to different activities alive and well in my life. So even if I'm not in more than one romantic relationship, I still have multiple commitments, responsibilities, and "loves", even if those loves are different activities I enjoy, or are different parts of my life.

The book is also informed by the ideas of Nonviolent Communication, which I have found to be fundamentally transformative and helpful in more deeply understanding and engaging with life.

I'm very grateful to the authors for sharing what has worked, and not worked for them and the people in their community.

I highly recommend this book.

I haven't finished the book yet, found the website months ago when my significant other royally screwed up our first attempt at trying a poly dynamic at his request (I'm mono). But I like how gentle the narrative is and it helps me accept the things that went wrong because my Sig O almost refused to communicate with me or the person he was attempting to be poly with. If we try again, I'll feel more prepared (especially if I finish the book).

I recommend this to monogamous folks as a vehicle to creating more satisfying, honest, open relationships as this book speaks to ALL relationships in a way that is opening, honest, non hierarchical and expansive. It is also an excellent read for anyone currently in a poly amorous relationship, or considering one. VERY well done and at a time where more and more people are looking for something MORE than the traditional coupling.

The best book on Polyamory we've ever read. Very well written by two people who have lived through - and are living through - the experiences they discuss. This is not a "theoretical" book, but rather a very practical, and therefore very useful, book on Polyamory.

This is an amazing book! It is such good reading and advice for anyone in any relationship be it intimate, personal between friends or work related, It has become my "bible." It has also given me great insight into relationships and polyamous relationships.

Incredible & amazing book. Are you in to poly? But it; Are you thinking about poly? But It; are you Monogamous? BUT IT!!! This book has so many things you can learn from about relationship. And it is so easy to read and even funny! I've been delighted on each chapter and there is always something new I learn not only about Poly stuff, but also about general life and relationships. HIGHLY RECOMMEND FOR ANYONE!

Great book. About halfway through. Monogamous as well as non-monogamous couples should read this because parts of it are really just about being a good human and showing compassion to those around you.

This is a book about introspection, self-awareness, and personal growth, disguised as a book about relationships. It's very well-written and has a unique way of looking at personality that I found to be extremely useful in examining my own behaviors. I recommend this book to anyone who has relationships of any kind with other people.

Moving into this space can be fraught with risk and emotional danger, its difficult for me to imagine the peril of approaching it without such a resource. My heart goes out to the authors, and my gratitude at the labors they've endeavored to share here in this book. It has been fundamental to achieving any semblance of sanity in weathering the storm of transitioning my current relationship. And not only that, many of the principals they explore and uncover seem to be essential (or at least helpful) in cultivating any kind of relationship.

This book is very inspirational, even if you are not really interested in polyamoury. It has been very helpful to me just to read stories about relationship successes and failures. Just seeing how other people felt and discovered the real reasons for their insecurities in a relationship made me feel better about my own feelings. I haven't even finished this book and would highly recommend it to anyone who is on the path to self awareness and discovery.

I have been following Franklin Veaux's writing for years, and have always loved his sharp insights into relationships and communication. This book is an absolute must, for anyone. You don't have to be polyamorous to learn something from Franklin, just interested in having a healthy relationship.

A very solid down to earth guide through the world of Polyamory as well as a good guide to relationships regardless of type. I recommend it to anyone interested in learning about relationships and how to avoid pitfalls. There is a world of good advice and insights as to how we react to situations involving others we have emotional attachments to.

I highly recommend it

“More Than Two: A practical guide to ethical polyamory” By: Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert is a very enjoyable read. I feel that this is a must reading regardless to one being in Monogamous or Non-Monogamous relationships lifestyle. All your relationships and lifestyle choices will benefit from this point blank educational tool. Thank you so much Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert!

Long-winded, and in fact slightly longer than it needs to be.

Also the most prescient analysis of ethics in relationships. Incredibly solid reasoning, profoundly compassionate, and just overall awesome. Everyone should read it - independently of their orientation or romantic inclinations. I simply cannot recommend this enough.

If you are looking for a softer, quicker introduction to polyamory, I'd go for Opening Up, but follow it up with this one.

Amazing book. Curious about poly so I figured research would be good. I'm completely blown away. It is so nice to find authors with high emotional intelligence that can also write well. Thanks this is a wonderful investment.

It is practical because of the author’s first-hand experience in poly relationships. I highly recommend this book for people who are curious about polyamory and for those of us who have been in poly relationships for years.

The authors are quite snobbish about their experience in polyamory and don't offer any sympathy or understanding for anyone wishing to understand how polyamory truly works. This is esepically true for readers who may be monogamous but are polycurious. If that's you, you will not find very little in this book to make you feel any easier about the ideology of polyamory. The authors are almost bullying monogamous readers. Mostly what is offered is a polyamory is great attitude but no real offerings of how or why. If you really want to learn more about polyamory and why/how it can be good, read Opening Up as your first book about polyamory. It is written in a more neutral and kind way. I would either skip More Than Two or read it once you are solid in your understanding or practice of polyamory.

Halfway through and head over heels over this book. Eve and Franklin write with wit and wisdom. I would (and do) recommend this to anyone who is considering non-monogamy in any form. Necessary reading for ethical poly!

Not in a polyamorous relationship just wanted to open my mind a little and this book is exactly what I was looking for. I have never understood why I have to be offended by my husband being attracted to another woman. He's a man and he noticed plenty of women before we met but instantly that's supposed to stop when we got married? I like that this book addressed the different types of polyamory and being proud of whatever relationship style you enjoy (including monogamy). It also talks about ways to not treat another person as an object or to treat all parties involved as equals not one relationship being better than another. I am so glad I purchased this book.

Living in polyamorous relationships for several years myself now, I really can't praise and recommend this book enough. It touches most of the topics I found important myself and reflects on them in a thoughtful, intelligent, ethical and humorous way.

Amongst other things the book talks about different polyamorous relationship types (hierarchical and non-hierarchical relationships, mono/poly-relationships, veto-power-agreements, "opening up" from a couple, ...), nurturing of relationships, communication strategies and pitfalls, how to deal with jealousy, the difference between rules, agreements and boundaries, self-empowerment in relationships, sexual health, the everyday sides of polyamory („Sex and Laundry", polyamorous relationships and being parents, coming out as polyamorous or not, ...), et cetera.

Based on the premise not to treat people as things, the authors examine which approaches to polyamory are most promising to be able to live (polyamorous) relationships in a way that is fulfilling for everyone involved. Unlike other books, "More Than Two" does not proclaim "the one true way" to polyamory, but empowers the readers to think and decide for themselves.

The authors use personal stories and the experiences of other people to illustrate the ways that can lead to happiness in polyamorous relationships or to the contrary. Instead of being judgmental, the authors assume that people are essentially good and that "bad behavior" in relationships is often the result of fear or ignorance, not malicious intent.

"More Than Two" is down-to-earth and non-esoteric, it's written intelligently, warmheartedly and humorously. It has everything, that I have missed in other books about polyamory and just speaks from my heart. I hope it will get translated into other languages soon and that plenty of people, who are interested in polyamory, will read it and enjoy it as much as I did.

This book contains AMAZING insights and advice which can be utilized for any type of relationship. The level of honesty, transparency, and excellent communications techniques/skills suggested by this book blew me away. It will take you to the next level. Or at least it makes you AWARE of the next level (I don't even think I was aware how untransparent/dishonest [largely with myself] that I was being in my monogamous marriage until encountering this book and learning more about alternative relationship paradigms)-- it's up to YOU, however, to be courageous enough to take it to the next level (no matter what relationship configuration you choose). But, holy sh*t, there are rewards for mounting that courage. Changed my life.

I have one main point of contention: they state that a person who's suffered from abuse doesn't have a good sense of where their physical boundaries lie. They don't seem to be too familiar with people who fall into other categories like survivors, physically or mentally disabled, queer, people of color, and others but most of the information is more or less accurate, if brief.

This is a good starting book for regular people new to poly. It covers some basics. Though it won't help you with the day to day ins and outs or the particulars of each form of poly and non-monogamy it can help introduce you to common topics. It's couched in highly romantic language and asexuals, aromantics, kinky, people of color, and lgbtqi folks won't really get much detailed or relevant information.

The literature is still evolving and it's moving in the right direction. So if you're new to poly or romantic and poly it'll likely help you focus and start to work through the early shifts.