The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands

This book was recommended to me by a family friend so I was very pleased when I found it on the store for less then $10 including shipping. It came on time and in great condition. I enjoyed reading it very much. Dr. Laura is very direct, but I do love her perspective on life. I think this was a great read, and I will definitely order from this vendor again.

Every married woman should read (and follow) this book. The information in here is so common sense and enlightening at the same time. You will notice a difference in your husband from the very first day you start to put Dr. Laura's advice into practice.

I am a very headstrong, professional woman, who works full time running my own law office and teaching college as an adjuct professor. If I can make the time to read this book and put in it into practice, anybody can.

While we generally have a very happy marriage, I know that I can do better. Dr. Laura uses a lot of examples from her show to illustrate the "ruts" we can get into as women, especially busy women. As much as I hate to admit it, I can see myself in a lot of her "examples." I have not made it to the extreme of most of those women, but without changing anything, I could see the road ahead, and it would not be as happy and healthy as it could be:)

At first, the information she gives you sounds like it won't work. It is basically this: alter your behavior and go the extra mile and your husband will react in a positive way. It almost sounds too easy. She is right. You will be happier in your marriage than you ever have been and your husband will feel like he is your hero:) You will feel like his queen:)

My next read will be her book "In praise of the Stay Home Mom." I am ready to be a full time mom and take on the most important job a woman could ever have:) Thanks, Dr. Laura!

Incredible advice on caring for my husband. I learned to show appreciation to him in many many ways. Even though he did not read the book, he gave it a five star because of the changes he's seen in me.

You have to read it several times to understand the concepts -which are very easy to implement. This book is full of common sense recommendations on how to have a great marriage. I have bought several copies and have given as bridal shower/wedding gifts.

Dr Laura goes beyond the " happy wife, happy life" adage. She reinforces the differences between men and women while cracking the simple code of how to keep your man happy while being happy as a woman.

As Dr. Laura says, I was a "nagging, whining, bitchy wife" - before I was even married! I dated my boyfriend for FIVE YEARS, constantly begging for a proposal and never understanding why he didn't want to marry me. I read this book and, after putting its principles into action in my life, nearly instantly got my proposal :) It's not a book that is full of novel ideas, but the kinds of things that you read and go, "Ahhh. I never thought about it THAT way!" Together, this book truly helps women to understand men in general, and helps to unlock some of the mysteries of our boyfriends and husbands. I am eternally indebted to Dr. Laura for writing this book and changing my life. Sounds cheesy and stupid, but it's true! Buy this book. You won't regret it. (Also, this book is also good for men to read - it helps to understand how to explain your needs to women!)

I have been married happily for 24 years. I chose to read this book as it was recommended by one friend to another friend during a lunch conversation. I was able to see that there is always room for improvement in my marriage, and while going into a new phase in life, empty nest, I can appreciate and love my husband even more. I would not only recommend this book to married women but all women.

I have been married 17 years and this book changed my life and my marriage! Read the book and reserve any judgement you may have until you read the entire thing. It's a 100% guarantee this book will change your marriage.
I AM my husband's girlfriend!

I enjoyed this book. I mean, how often does someone publish a book that attempts to convince wives their husbands also have rights in a relationship? It will be ignored by those who would benefit from it the most.

A friend who started having marital difficulties recommended it to me after the book helped her situation. It really opened my eyes to things I was doing wrong. You can't go wrong following Dr. Schlessinger's advice.

A friend who started having marital difficulties recommended it to me after the book helped her situation. It really opened my eyes to things I was doing wrong. You can't go wrong following Dr. Schlessinger's advice.

I feel good about my relationship when I read the callers and letters that Dr. Laura gets, but it is still a helpful reminder of how we should not take our spouse for granted, and helps us see how our husbands view things. I recommend it!

I have observed many, many marriages, and the happiest ones are the ones where there is mutual respect and the wives build up their husbands and vice versa. The guidelines in this book are spot on with my observations - as women we need to be kinder to our men; they are people, too!

I bought this because someone suggested it. I think it would have made a good wedding/bridal shower gift. It's good to re-read to keep reminding me how to appreciate and be nice to my husband. It's used in universities so it's worth having around the home and within the family.

"...women get married thinking largely about what their marriage and their man can do for them, and not what they can do for their men. And when there is so little emphasis on the giving, the nitpicking and pettiness chews up and spits out what could have been a good marriage." ~ pg. 3

In "The Proper Care & Feeding of Husbands" Dr. Laura Schlessinger promotes traditional family values. It is no surprise then that she wants men and women to adapt to more traditional roles. Since men and women are quite different at heart, she encourages her reader to fit into the roll of stay at home mom or provider. Women are then expected to cook, pay their husband attention sexually and raise their children. Men are expected to be the main provider and are to be treated as the knight in shinning armor.

While this may work for many people, you may find yourself in a less than traditional role. This book is truly for women with a dominant feminine energy and men with a dominant male energy.

While reading this book I felt that Dr. Laura was mostly taking the guy's side. I noticed two main stories and how they played out. In a story about Valentine's Day, maybe Dr. Laura could try seeing it from a female perspective. It is devastating for a woman to be forgotten on Valentine's Day. End of Story. There is also a story about a man and how he deals with his wife forgetting his birthday. Both stories are sad but have easy solutions. Mark the dates of important events on your calendar once a year. For some reason Dr. Laura doesn't say to do this but it should have been something she advised.

The chapter on sex is enlightening but doesn't address the differences in sex drive. Dr. Laura seems to promote sex whenever the husband wants it despite a woman's need for romance. If guys want more sex, give more romance. Why doesn't Dr. Laura give this advice in her book? I assume it is because this book will mostly be read by women since it is about taking care of your man.

I liked the ideas about cooking since my husband says I keep him well fed. We have a little routine of going to the store for ingredients to try out new recipes. My husband will sometimes tear recipes out of magazines and ask me to try them. This works well because I love to cook. I also have a schedule which allows me to have time for cooking. Women who are working more hours are not as likely to have as much time. Dr. Laura recommends that women cut out some of their "to do list" to make room for their husband's needs.

Overall this book has some good ideas about not being an "out of control" woman so your husband is not neglected. Mothering and nagging are to be avoided at all costs. Some of the stories in this book are a little shocking due to the level of abuse in some relationships. For the most part the people writing in have seen the light and agree with Dr. Laura's point of view.

I was a little shocked actually that Dr. Laura recommended getting rid of a family pet just because it was hissing at the husband. Cats give a lot of love and can easily be trained to be more loving. How about a few kitty treats and a nice brushing. The cat was probably just a little jealous and could have learned to love the husband too. There is a solution for everything and sometimes it is easier than you think.

~The Rebecca Review

This book is a little radical, but no doubt useful. I did not complete reading this book, as our problem ended up being much more than I ever could've imagined. However, if you feel that there is an imbalance in your marriage and the scale seems to always tip in your favor at the expense of your husband, then this book is for you. It's like a bootcamp on how to restore equality to your marriage.

This book saved my marriage!
It was the year after our youngest child had left home and I was having a hard time adjusting to my main role of being a wife, rather than that of Mom. Everything my husband was doing irritated me. I didn't think we had any thing in common, and I couldn't envision my future with him. We had been married for over 22 years at the time, and I felt stuck.
We were in our car on a trip to see some friends, and were again argueing over something. I was so unhappy. The radio was on and Dr. Laura, who I never listen to, was telling some callers about her book and counseling them on their attitudes toward their husbands. I listened and heard myself described in some of the callers situations. It was a new way of thinking, a new concept for me to think about the fact that my husband had feelings too. I was too caught up in my own "needs" and desires to think about how my attitude and thoughtless words might be hurting him. I always thought that since he didn't respond, then my words weren't getting through. We stopped at a bookstore to kill some time before we were supposed to meat our friends and I found the book on the shelf and started reading. I couldn't put it down, so I bought it.
Reading that book changed my attitude toward my husband and our relationship. I saw positive changes in both of us, and can honestly say that our marriage has never been better. We've been married for over 30 years now and I've recommended this book to others who have seen positive changes in their marriages as well. This book saved my marriage and I still go back to it periodically to refresh my perspective. The only problem is I have to keep buying it because I keep giving away my copy. :-)

This is an excellent book about being thankful and treating your husband with love and respect. The downer here is the unnecessary feminist bashing. I think that Dr. Laura thinks that all feminists are man haters, etc and on these points she really misses the mark. These parts are easy to ignore and do not dismiss this book because of it, because it really has a lot of very good things to say.

This book puts into prospective how self-centric women can often be when they view themselves and their relationship with their significant other. While not all bits of advice are applicable to all persons, Dr. Laura gives much food for thought on how women can better handle their relationships with the men in their lives by simply being empathic and understanding to the uniqueness of men and that particular man to whom you chose to tie yourself. This book teaches that equality really means equal respect for all and between the sexes/genders but being equal doesn't mean we all fit into the same package, e.g. women are more verbally expressive while men are more physical and visual--understanding that can help women learn how to treat men with the care and respect they need, which includes not expecting them to want be your girlfriend and spend time gossiping and giving them much needed physical intimacy. Most importantly, this book reminds us to make our relationships with our significant others a priority and to not neglect any aspect of that relationship.

The only negative with this audio book is: the audio book has omitted a lot of stuff that the book had in it.. I found myself referring to the book inorder to not miss anything from it, other than that it is awesome just like Dr Laura's book....

This book is incredible! Laura is one of the very best and most savvy women on the planet! This book teaches women how to have an excellent marriage by simply understanding their man and taking care of his needs. Its very simple, show him affection, acceptance and admiration and he'll hang the moon for you. Smart women take her advise, dumb women just keep being miserable.