Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder

I found this book extremely helpful. While I am not in a divorce situation, someone very close to me is. I read this book in one day as I found so much of the information pertinent to what my loved on was going through. I will be sharing this book with them as well.

A must read. The most valueable insight I derived from Splitting is that we should NOT be litigating custody with a severely mentally disturbed person in family court. High conflict divorce is a child protection issue not a custody issue, which is evidenced by the need to learn how to litigate against a dangerous delusional abuser in order to protect ourselves and our children. If the court officials are left up to their own judgment they will consistently place the children with the pathological parent and drive the healthy parent out of the children's lives. The stakes are too high to continue this mockery of truth and justice, where protocol trumps protection, and compassion and empathy are grounds for being sentenced to the torture of losing your children to the abuser.

This book is very relevant to my situation, and is helpful as my husband decided to stop working with our mediator. Hopefully we can still collaborate with his new lawyer and avoid lengthy court battles. But just in case, this book helps prepare me for a possible battle due to his high emotional state and reactivity that indicates he may have a Personality Disorder. I recommend this book if you are in a similar situation as you navigate divorce with someone demonstrating such traits.

extremely informative and well written. Gives great tips and insight into what to expect and how to prepare yourself for breaking away from personality disordered people who will not give up without a fight.

Excellent! I only wish I had had this book during my divorce. Apparently, I made A LOT of mistakes. But this book will help me correct them. It also helped me find a much better lawyer. If you are, or will be, in a high conflict divorce than this book is helpful.

I purchased many books when I went through Divorce and Custody Battle. This book soon became my most important guide.
The experience and knowledge that Mr. Eddy kindly reveals, prepared me to deal with my difficult situation and have a good outcome.
This book helped me to find predictable patters and avoid falling into the "blamer's" traps.
It gives you different perspectives so you can understand what is a personality disorder, it gives you a pretty good picture of the court system and it helps you bond with your lawyer...
I can honestly say that Splitting played a a big part in my painful and long Divorce.
I highly recomend it.
Thank you Eddy and Kreger.

I've been skimming and absorbing because it's overwhelming and frightening to take in all at once. I feel the information is good and prepares one for what could be coming. I had to drop a star because of the Kindle formatting. The book has charts with side by side comparison that can't be enlarged for reading. The finger pinch doesn't work either. I find this to be a common problem with Kindle and really wish the problem would be addressed. It's very frustrating. Other than that, I'm finding the book and it's information helpful.

If your even thinking of divorce you should get this book to be prepared for what potentially could happen. Hold off the divorce for a year, get prepared. A year is a long time when your suffering but it can get rougher than you can even imagine.

Reference materials to help me get through my divorce from a disordered spouse were limited. The thing I did not like about this book is that a large portion of the book pertains to child custody. As I do not have children, much of the info was not relevent. However, I did glean a few good insights about how to behave in divorce court and I am certain that those few insights saved me money and drama. Additionally, the book was easy to read and direct.

The book, "Splittining: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or....." met my expectations higher than 100%. Very, very helpful and I would recommend it to anybody facing a divorce such as described in this book.

Book was BEYOND HELPFUL during my highly conflicting divorce. It was recommended to me by a physiologist. Anyone getting ready to seperate or divorce this is a key resource to have with you. Good reading

Excellent book. It was suggested by a Pinterest post or several. It made me be way smarter in my divorce than when I was hoodwinked in my marriage. I feel more confident than ever. I bought it for a friend who was completely devasted by her husband's actions. She was able to cope much better through the knowledge she gained through this book. It not only has strategies that have worked for me but it has helped me deal with the pain of my husbands betrayal and cruelty.

A family member is going through a divorce and this book is so helpful to her in dealing with her soon to be ex-spouse and to all of the rest of the family in understanding what she is going through and in being a support for her. I strongly recommend it.

Reading this during my then best friend's divorce was like reading an intimate biography of his ex wife. I wish we'd found this earlier into the divorce. If you go through a high conflict divorce, there are a few things you might find helpful: lots of money, a good psychologist, a friend who has been through a similar high conflict divorce already, lots more money, and this book. Oh, and if you're a man and you're divorcing a woman with borderline personality disorder, don't do it in Massachusetts. No, seriously, don't. Mommy can do no wrong in the eyes of the Massachusetts family court judges.

I ordered this book to be shipped to a relative. Upon checking to see if it arrived, I found that it had that very day, and he was almost finished with it. He claims he couldn't put it down, and was packed with information that he thought would be useful to him. He also said he felt like the author knew the person he was dealing with personally.

Living with or being married to someone with Borderline or Narcissistic qualities is one thing. Divorcing them is QUITE another. I never expected him to flip the way he did or become so incredibly evil. This book is a must read BEFORE the mention of divorce. AND its a must read for your attorney. Attorneys deal with these personality disorders every day and don't realize it. Get this book in the hands of your attorney and if he/she won't read it FIND ANOTHER ATTORNEY who will. OR end up like me without anything from a marriage of 25 yrs. starting completely over.

This book is a must for anyone considering divorce from a narcissist or a person w/ borderline personality disorders. First, the author is a lawyer, a psychologist and a mediator with years of experience helping the partners seeking a divorce. Each chapter has useful lists (e.g. clearly defining the characteristics of narcissists and borderline personality disorders, preparation before the divorce, numerous legal issues, etc.) In addition, this clearly written for the layperson. It's easy to read and guides the partner seeking a divorce step-by-step. The book can save the reader time, and some legal fees with preparation work. It also alerts you to possible harmful reactions from the narcissist.

This book has helped equip me in understanding of the BPD thinking and rationalization. Focusing on the facts assures me in not crazy and gives me the confidence to press forward and endure. Thank you for all the resources you provide.

Excellent book by Bill Eddy. It is very well-written and easy to understand. I divorced a man with NPD (along with other serious issues). These people DO NOT CHANGE! The good news is we can change. NPDs are scary people, as they have no conscience, no empathy, no ability to get a life and leave their ex-spouses alone. This book delves into the world of Narcissism, and explains to non-NPD people the ins and outs of narcissists, along with helpful insights. I highly recommend this book!

I wish I had purchased this book before I started the divorce process. It opened my eyes to a great deal I had been dealing with and gave me new insight in how to approach the issues and work toward a resolution.

I was recommended this book by an extraordinary Doctor that saved my life through his developing RESET program for Soldiers Suffering with Chronic PTSD. When I described my situation at home he simply said Soldier prepare for war and took it upon himself to not only suggest this book, but order and pay for it out of his own pocket. I t doesn't make things easier but it gives great insight and somewhat predictability of the crazy circus that is about to take place! I myself don't normally take the time to write a review so in saying that I Would feel terrible if others in my situation didn't have the inside info that this book delivers. Good luck and God Bless!