What Women Want and How to Give It to Them - The Manual

I've read numerous pick-up books(BANG, The Game, MODELS, No More Mr Nice Guy, etc...), but I can honestly say this is the last book on pick-up I ever plan on reading because it is without a doubt the best. If you are looking for a book full of tricks, quick tips, pick-up lines, and openers then you'd better look somewhere else. The author, Mr Anton, makes it clear from the very beginning that his primary goal is to change your mindset rather than hand you a tool box full of the standard pick-up techniques. His explanation of the differences between men and women are nothing short of astounding. This book truly explains female psychology, a subject that neither I nor any male I know has ever expected to understand. Since my purchase and reading of this book, I've acquired 15+ phone numbers in the past 2 weeks, ALL from girls who are at least a 7 or higher. Of these 15 numbers, I've had 8 dates, and of these 8 dates, I've had sex with 5. The results almost seem to good to be true, but I assure you that once you grasp the mindset the author presents in this book, you will never have trouble getting women again. Best of luck to all, I'm going to go get some more women now!

The concepts of this book are OK and i believe in most of them, but the book is not participial at all.
Even in the last chapter "The method" it still no practical at all.
All is saying is keep doing everything according to the concepts that i talked about,and not giving even 1 example.
When he talking about approaching he keep saying "Do a direct and confident approach with a confident and a direct opener ", we get that, but i couldn't understand why he never uses examples in his book.
I recompensed this book for his concepts that are true and important , but if you want a "guide" or a more practical way to approaching and meeting women it's not the book for you , you can get bang or day bang instead that is more practical by far.

This book is revolutionary. As I read it, it felt like a damning indictment towards my unconfident, feminine behaviour towards women. It's been like a de-conversion experience (something which I had few years ago from a staunch religous background). Honestly, reading this book was like stepping out of the Matrix, and has been MORE revelatory than anything you'll hear elsewhere.

The upside is that males can change their behaviour to become attractive, masculine men, because this is ultimately what women look for - character traits exhibiting confidence, charm, and responsibility.

I had never even thought to analyze my socialization - and hence had little idea as to why I felt inadequate around beautiful women, but this book has changed my life! I had always thought I was relatively unaffected by the beliefs of others, but boy, was I wrong. There were many "Aha!" moments, and while some were painful to hear, they needed to be heard. It's going to be a process, but I feel as though I've hacked through a wall of crap and freed my mind.

In the end, we are encouraged to be ourselves - as in, to accept ourselves unconditionally for who we are; to value our own opinion of ourselves above those of others, and derive our sense of importance and self-esteem NOT from what others may say or think, but from what WE think. And when you begin to do that - to value yourself, respect yourself, and put yourself first, you will exude the behaviours that are attractive to women.

This is no Game. There are no gimmicks, tricks, or manipulations. If you put it into practice, you will build effective natural attraction. So become the man you were born to be.

This is a great book for understanding a man's role in the game in hunting women. By modern standards the author's attitude is slightly misogynistic, however, to be involved in this sort of hobby a man must adopt a similar attitude as the author to have any reasonable success at it. Some may disagree, but the reality is it is nearly impossible for a man to win in a modern relationship with current Western attitudes mainly promoted by the mass media. To win, a man must throw out liberal platitudes into the dung heap where they belong and rotate out the female as soon as the relationship appears to be going south. An utter loss for a man is that he married what he felt that he could get and the woman has served him divorce papers because she is bored possibly completely out of the blue. Follow the advice in this book and it is highly unlikely a man will lose like that.

This is an almost completely honest book, almost. The author has put his ideas out there with clarity and confidence. But then he hides behind a pseudonym, revealing the true extent of his confidence.

And this theme runs throughout the book. I am convinced this has nothing to do with the author's intentions. I believe he has good intentions. However, he has absorbed and internalized a level of self-deception and self-oppression that is so common in our world that he isn't even aware that he's doing it to himself.

The author's take on masculinity is seriously flawed. There are pages upon pages where he talks about how one needs to be confident in oneself and be honest about one's intentions with women. Great! And then comes advice that says stuff like this (I don't remember the quote exactly): "If you are generally very funny, tone it down a bit. Be a man, not a clown." Wait a second, what happened to honesty and being confident in oneself?

This is what happened: it was suppressed. And replaced with a behavior that is likely to generate attraction in a certain type of woman. What kind of woman is that? Most women, sadly, that have also suppressed their own need for self-expression with adherence to socially-conditioned behavior where they have to dress up, look good all the time and act vulnerable.

Using the techniques and behavior described in this book, you will get a woman that can be seduced by the appearance of confidence. And you will have a relationship where you have to be a certain kind of man, one that has to constantly watch his own behavior. In fact, most men and women are in exactly this type of relationship. The only difference is that this book will likely get you a woman that's hotter, which is somehow supposed to make up for the absence of genuineness and depth in a relationship. There's a line in the book that says "a woman's looks will get her all the way". No, it won't. If you've ever been in a loving long-term relationship, you know that when she wakes up in morning, groggy, without makeup, in stupid pajamas, you will find her incredibly beautiful anyway and it will have nothing to do with how she looked when you first saw her or how she looks now.

I cannot even begin to describe just how false the author's notion of confidence is. He is extremely insecure and afraid of his own masculinity, to the point where he goes as far as to justify the need for a man to appear invulnerable. If you are a man reading this, think about this: are you really invulnerable? Of course not. You are as much in control of what happens to you as is everyone else, which is to say, not very much in control at all! Life is unpredictable and it will throw things at you that you will often fail to handle with grace and success.

True confidence, then, is about knowing, accepting and being able to stand up and acknowledge that, in fact, you don't have the answers, that you cannot protect your woman against everything and that you are, in fact, vulnerable, as are all men, women and children.

And what kind of woman would you get if you did that? The right woman, one who you can truly love for a lifetime. One who will stand by you when you are down. One, in front of whom, you could act like a total clown. And she will love you for who you are and the two of you will make an amazing team. Your relationship will be based on love, not on power. Unfortunately, power is all this book is talking about.

So if what you want is to just sleep with a whole load of hot women and not pay attention to the development of your own self, your heart, your personality and your expression. If you don't care about finding answers to questions in life or really enjoying this journey you are on, by all means, buy this book, read it, apply the techniques and you'll get laid a lot.

And after you've gotten tired of the lack of deep emotional connection that can be found only within a completely honest and open long-term relationship based on true love, do yourself a favor, let go, just be your real funny, goofy, crazy, stupid, clumsy, clueless, insecure, vulnerable, smart, passionate, loving, giving and caring self. Then, you will stop attracting 99.9% of the women out there and you will attract the one that will make you want to live forever.

By the way, yes, I am speaking from experience.

UPDATE: On further thought, I've come to realize just how fundamentally deceptive the techniques in this book are. If there's one thing that the author keeps coming back to in the book, its "responsibility" or how the man is responsible for making decisions and so on. This is fine. The problem arises when the author claims that a man needs to step up and take full responsibility for what's happening to the woman. So we have lines in the book where the author talks about how a woman may say one thing ("no") and do another ("lift up her skirt") and this is supposed to be taken as a signal that the woman wants sex but wants the man to take responsibility for it. Or the fact that many women have fantasies of being raped. This is the kind of thinking that has gotten men and women into so much trouble in the first place. Women aren't weak and can take control of their needs and their sexuality just as much as men. The fact that many men and women feel that they cannot, is, in fact, a terrible consequence of social conditioning.

I commend the author for taking a bold stance and just stating what he has seen in the world. He is right about everything as far as behavior of women goes and his observations and suggestions for what creates attraction at a biological level are clearly based on experience, authentic and spot-on. Unfortunately, to then essentially exploit (under the guise of "responsibility" and "protectiveness") what is basically fear and insecurity among women in order to get sex is just plain unethical. This is the reason I will recommend that people buy this book in order to get an understanding of what works and what doesn't but not actually engage in deception.

I choose my rating because it is well organized, easy to read, practical, and simple. The thing I like most about this book is that it is not about disrespecting women, it is about treating them right and giving them respect.

The book has alot of several good pointers and helpful information. But the buzzkill for me was the authors repetitive references to a womens and mans difference and history. He would literally spend chapter after chapter beating the same horse until i started to get bored of it. His wording and the way he likes to spend 3 chapters on feminism makes the book unnecessarily long & the read a bit dull.

The book explains how to attract and seduce women. It's very rational and objective.

The author doesn't care if your intention is to use women for sex or to find your soulmate. So, this book is amoral, but not immoral. You can use this knowledge for good or evil.

I'm giving this book 4 stars, but I'd actually recommend the book "Models, Attracting Women Through Honesty", for a deeper view of relationships.

I choose my rating because it is well organized, easy to read, practical, and simple. The thing I like most about this book is that it is not about disrespecting women, it is about treating them right and giving them respect.

The book has alot of several good pointers and helpful information. But the buzzkill for me was the authors repetitive references to a womens and mans difference and history. He would literally spend chapter after chapter beating the same horse until i started to get bored of it. His wording and the way he likes to spend 3 chapters on feminism makes the book unnecessarily long & the read a bit dull.

The book explains how to attract and seduce women. It's very rational and objective.

The author doesn't care if your intention is to use women for sex or to find your soulmate. So, this book is amoral, but not immoral. You can use this knowledge for good or evil.

I'm giving this book 4 stars, but I'd actually recommend the book "Models, Attracting Women Through Honesty", for a deeper view of relationships.

I'm probably your average guy in terms of dating/relationships. I've had a few girlfriends, gone on dates with numerous girls, but wanted to check out this book because I wanted to improve my game.

I definitely like what the author had to say. I've taken his advice and gone up to a fair amount of girls and used the "direct" approach he preaches. My results have been surprisingly good, meaning, I've had more girls just smile and tell me their name (and continue the conversation, getting number, etc.) rather then just getting blown out right away.

I've read the Mystery Method and was surprised to find out how much volume of information there is on the topic of "pick-up".

I've definitely had my fair share of times when reading this book where I was saying to myself "well no sh*t, I could have told you that". There does also seem to be a lot of fluff.

I didn't give it a 5 star rating just because I don't believe in the whole "you can get ANY girl you want no matter who you are" pitch. Chances are if you're broke you're not going to be dating a victoria secret model anytime soon.

BUT this is a pretty dang good and highly original read that had me not wanting to put down the book. I'd highly recommend this to anyone wanting for an interesting read on the subject. Well worth the price.

I'm only half way through this, but I thoroughly enjoy it and totally understand the concept. I realized how many mistakes I have been making all of these years and will start correcting them. It is so refreshing to actually understand what, why, and how, when it comes to approaching dating, relationships, and women in general.

I look forward to completing this book and re-reading it again and again for review.

The Good: For Seduction

I will first express the positive aspects of this book, read below to find out my criticisms and the danger of following these rules. Let me first start of by saying that this book does provide tons of useful information to understand the dating world, females, and males; and how they all interact together. It begins with the philosophy and biology of males and females, which adequately explains a lot of the perceptions that people hold about what "attracts" someone to another person. This is all good information. It then explains the three "traits" that women find attractive in men:

1) Confidence: confidence is the "appearance" of being confident and decisive. The author explains that you do not need to actually "be" confident, but you must appear so through your outward appearance (movements, speech, actions, etc.) Since a woman is unable to actually read your mind, you are able to express exactly the appearance you want if you aware of your actions.

2) Responsibility: responsibility includes being a leader, dominant, and essentially doing what you, the man, wants to do. This borders somewhat on concepts of confidence.

3) Charm: charm is the ability to make others, in particular women, feel good about themselves and comfortable around you. This is done through the way you talk to them, your body language, and the topics of discussion.

Now the author explains that each of these skills will assist in building attraction in a woman. I do not disagree. Matter of fact, I intentionally adopted (over a few weeks of practice) these traits and before I knew it, I had an attractive girl chasing after "me" and begging to date me. My past history: I have never dated anyone seriously, and was afraid of interacting with girls. In a short amount of time, I had girl who asked me to be her boyfriend - which I did accept. Everything sounds fine, the book produced the results it promised with the ideas it presented... or did it? Read on to hear how my story ends.

The Bad: For Long Term Relationships

The book will most likely allow you to produce attraction in nearly any girl. But what this book does NOT focus on is actually keeping a relationship, or anything more than a hookup for that matter. The book contains a sections labeled as "The Relationship," which ironically is encompassed within 6 pages out of 300 page book. It states that you should not consider any girl worth a long term relationship until you had taken her to bed. Classy. Obviously the author is not interested in actually producing a real relationship with a women that contains anything other than sex and seduction.

For those of you who are interested in a long term relationship, this is not your book. I followed these techniques to obtain an attractive woman, but eventually found myself feeling empty and manipulative since I was not truly acting how I wanted to. Would you want to keep up the facade of being perfect by constantly employing techniques a book has bestowed on you for the rest of your relationship (or even marriage!?)? The Manual may allow you to produce attraction in females, but is that really all you want? If you seek to actually share your life with someone which the two of you can mutually understand and bond, using this books "techniques" will not get you far.

Back the end of my tale. After having dated this girl for the first month, she was completely enthralled in me. However, I was not happy with me. I was constantly monitoring myself to ensure I followed these rules - which led to my discomfort and feelings of manipulation and not being real. What I really wanted was a girlfriend, not just a sexual partner. So I consciously decided to take some of the ideas of the book such as confidence and being decisive and use them while eliminating the fear of being who "I" actually am. Over the next few weeks I saw a decline in her sexual interest as well as interest in me. Coincidence? Maybe, maybe not. But either way I became more satisfied with me, while slowly losing her.

Conclusion:

Do these techniques/ideas work? Yes, I believe they do.
Should you buy The Manual and use them? Depends on what you are looking for.
1) Do you want to seduce and pickup women? Go ahead and buy this book.
2) Do you want to find a long term relationship? I would be hesitant to suggest this book.

This book doesn't teach you to be real with yourself or with your woman of interest. It encourages deception, which ultimately will lead to an unsatisfactory relationship in the long run. It is your choice, I presented my experiences with this book. Good luck.

The positive: This is a tough review for me to write in anything other than glowing terms because this is a very good book BUT the author evidently has some serious flaws. The basic concept of a MAN being Confident, Charming, and Responsible (CCR) at all times is sound advice and something that I agree with and endorse. The author also gives a very good, in depth review of the socialization of men so that they tend to be led away from being MEN (or even Gentlemen) and are more "feminized by feminists" and really are left just being "male". He also correctly points out how many women have been led away from being assertive to being aggressive and are thus now lacking the ability to actually be feminine in their intimate relationships ("it takes just as much strength to follow as it does to lead"). I believe that the author put some serious time, energy, and thoughtful effort into the writing of this book. I also believe that he genuinely wants to "transform males to MEN for the benefit of society and the happiness of women".

The negative: The author becomes COMPLETELY incongruous when it comes to MARRIED "Hot" women. While I agree that it is OK to flirt (be charming) with ANY women it is absolutely NOT responsible for an available, healthy MAN to pursue, date, or have sex with a married woman! This type of behavior is irresponsible, sophomoric, selfish, narcissistic and perhaps even borders on being a closet sociopath (or having a personality disorder). An emotionally and mentally healthy MAN has dignity, self-respect and self esteem and would NEVER choose to go after another person's wife - they simply are NOT available. HOT women are simply not that scarce. Also there can be legal implications for such a male predator as some States still have "alienation of affection" civil laws on their books. Also there may be children involved. So no matter how HOT they may appear to be... steer clear of married women - I don't care how bad they tell you their marriage is!! Also, his viewpoint on it being OK to pursue married hot women has nothing to do with the "socialization of males" nor does it have anything to do "not being MAN enough". The truth is that having such low integrity will, at the very least, reap you "bad Mojo" in the future - perhaps with a hottie that you REALLY wanted to have a lot more than a one night stand with.

I think that his viewpoint on this issue undermines all of his otherwise excellent advice. So I DO HIGHLY RECOMMEND THIS BOOK - just mentally edit out the stupid stuff about married women not being off limits.

After having read alot of seduction books like Magic Bullets, The Mystery Method, The Layguide, The Natural art of seduction and alot of other titles I have to say that this is the best book I've read so far, If you want to game chicks in such a way that it seems like you're a "NATURAL" then this is the book for you. I absolutely love this book because it explains seduction in such a detailed manner.................Guys do yourselves a favour and buy this book I guarantee that it will change your game.This book absolutely desreves five stars.

"This Works for me annnnnd it will work for you too."

Bits and pieces of real science intermingled with the writer's opinions on evolution and the psychology of people. No citations, all subjective. The author tends to share theory with little evidence.

To save you time from reading this garbage, here is what the book is teaching you:

1. Hygiene
2. Confidence
3. Proactivity

You're better off getting a gym membership, grabbing a copy of the laws of seduction, and learn how to groom/dress.

This book is big -> 330 pages. In these pages you can read the same thing over and over again but analyzed. Confidence - be manly - and be direct. I liked the fact that it presents in the last chapters in this book how to be direct (Have relaxed eyes- eye contact - smile and overpass any other obstacles (friends , other people) and go directly to the girl you like and tell her hello, i saw you and i liked you , my name is X...... It all sounds too good to be true. Im really wondering what happens in the real world. What i really dont like in theis book is that is full of generalizations and no specific technique. It is full of fluff talk and most of what you will read are so obvious. I really believe that this book could have been 100 pages long.

Im sure that you will have read some other pua books (since this is not one of the famous ) and you will guess most of these things - or already read stuff like these before. It has some general points in realtionships (it reminds me the generalizations of David Deangelo), which he talks a lot about inner game... and that the behavior follows.

THe ides of being direct is good - but i dont know if it works. I will have to tried it and write another review some other day.

From the books that i have read and seen results i have to say that my best book till this day is How to Become an Alpha Male: Attract Women and Become Successful at Seduction. Just buy this book and read it if you havent. Its really amazing - not at all fluff talk - and it gives you an exactly from start to the end method on how to act with women and in general.

I have to say that this book is definitely not a 5 star rate book as most of the people here rate. Trust me.

The book is fine and I don't want to say much against the content of the book, but I said only 3 Stars because there is nothing new in this book that makes it worth $24.98 and while the book is good I would not have bought it at that high price. If it was $12 for paperback, or $9 for Kindle, then that would be a better price. I agree with much of the advice about being more direct as that's how I naturally am anyway unlike most other guys. I think a necklace has more to do with self-worth and fashion. Over 300 pages saying to be confident could have been summarized in less pages, but it will probably help some guys who may not know this stuff already or who are reading some terrible blogs by self-proclaimed gurus who don't even get results themselves that at best give worse advice. I especially liked the part on shame because there is a huge increasing number of guys out there who read some negative/angry blogs that say to try to shame and put down women and these guys are pathetic, so the author saying how only people with LSE do this is right on. There is more to life than chasing skirts, but if someone is interested in this subject and when this book is priced lower or on Kindle then it is a repetitive yet good read in the right DIRECTion on this topic.

The book explains some of the seemingly inexplicable behaviors in women. I'm haven't tried any of it, but it does explain why some women hang on to guys that are ignorant, it is because they are confidently ignorant.

The book has good knowledge on why attraction is not a choice, however I found most of the beliefs and strategies to be manipulative and incorrect. The author provides a good explanation at what confidence is.

A friend gave me this book as a gift, and I was not sure what to expect, considering that I have read many self help books about dating women (most good, but not all). I must say that I have to put this one AT THE TOP OF THE LIST. And the reason why is because this book does not tell you to use "this gimmick" or "that trick" to get women, it instead focuses on your overall internal "psychological make up" about how you view yourself and the outside world, and how socialization has made you put "societies" view, wants, and needs, "in-front of your own."

By breaking things down mentally, to there simplest form, the author allows you to view yourself, and the things that you may have been doing right, but more importantly, what you have been doing WRONG, and shows you how to make the necessary adjustments to break the hold that "socialization" has, not just on your dating life but, on your life overall... This book (in the world of dating/relationships/women) is written more as a psychology/sociology/relationship book, then just another book about "getting women." "IT IS A TRUE GEM." #GAME-CHANGER.

Brilliant book!

After reading through a lot of the reviews I was tempted to buy it and is was definitely worth it. It is actually going through the specific steps a man has to take to seduce a woman, rounding it all up by providing the right state of mind you need to live, in order to be an attractive male!

Highly recommended as well:

Mark Manson - Models
Maximilian Pütz - Der perfekte Eroberer (German)
Zan Perrion - The Alabaster Girl

All these books differ from typical pick-up advise as they all focus on your inner game, what you should think about women, about life and about yourself in order to become more attractive. No tricks, flashy outfits or cool lines necessary, once you understand what women REALLY want, which is a man that openly displays his desires (to get the women) and is confidently doing so my being bold and unapologetic. Walking up to a women, looking her in the eye, telling her that you find her attractive and introducing yourself is the ultimate way to start an interaction, however must males lack the confidence and therefore use indirect ways (asking for directions, for opinions, etc.) to downplay their interest. That is what makes them so much less attractive. Show your desires, show that you are a man, that you are sexual, that you want her (but that you do not need her).

All these books roughly cover the same subjects in different wordings and perspectives, so I'd recommend to read them all! Cheers

I'm kinda mixed on this book. When I first started reading it I was blown away but the more I read the sillier it became. I've read several of these types of books in the past couple of years and to The Manual's credit, it isn't a carbon copy of all the rest. The author does put his own spin on pick up. The problem is that the authors philosophy is "You have a penis therefor every woman want's you" pretty much. Which we all know is not how reality works. I like how the author tells you that if you like a woman you should go for it and be confident but he also states that what you look like doesn't matter. Any book that tries to tell you that women don't care what their man looks like is selling your snake oil. In my own personal life I've lost a bit of weight and started dressing better and the response from women is quite noticeable. I've had a few instances like a woman seeing me as I was turning into her aisle and yanking your her son out of the way so fast she could have broken his neck and smiling dumbly at me as I passed, I was walking into a gas station and a lady I passed screamed at her friend (playfully) "He didn't even notice me!", more eye contact, women approaching me, ect. I'm pretty sure if I was 300 lbs and walking around in sweat pants women would respond differently. While I won't deny that you can win some woman over with your personality, to tell guys to not bother taking care of themselves and just approach is going to make a lot of man fail when they didn't have to.

While I could nitpick numerous other things I will say that I indorse the book. I think it's a good read and I don't regret my purchase. The author is vary opinionated which while I was rolling my eyes at some of what he wrote I was definitely charmed by his words and had several points where I didn't want to put the book down. I would say however that this book is more about helping emasculated males be themselves then it is about getting girls.

This book really blew my mind. Yes it is a bit repetitive, yes it goes to extremes at times and it definitely is a bit shallow when it comes to closing aka sex, but man it hits the bullseye with the basic stuff.

The brutal and blunt statements about the nature of males and females, what it means to be an alpha male, what women really want from a MAN, these things are what we evolved with and you simply can't argue with nature. The book goes into great detail why so many men are conditioned to resist these truths, many are simply unable to accept them.

Now, there is some danger in following the book too literally. You might become an alpha male by-the-book robot with no personality if that is what you want. Or you can take the wisdom as a general guideline and adjust your personality so that your glaring beta male weak spots don't screw your love life anymore. With both paths you WILL bang a lot of hot chicks. You might not get THE girl you want because women are generally crazy and unpredictable. And furthermore if you do get THE girl she might turn out to be far from what you expected (this is also covered in the book) so either way if you accept the teachings you will get to know women way better and your vision of the perfect girl will most likely change several times.

To all the sceptics: I too thought after reading this book that many if not most statements are just way too strong and exaggerated. I was very cautious at first but then I decided to just go for it. I went to an open event with lots of people and picked a few girls I liked (and would generally consider way out of my league). I did my best to be as confident and bold as possible, following all the guidelines from this book. ALL of the girls I talked to instantly responded positively. Two turned out to be from other cities, the third one (and the hottest from the bunch) was not. Next day I had sex with her and she dumped her boyfriend for me. A year later our relationship fell apart because I got too confident with myself and abandoned some of the most important aspects of being a MAN. Did I become "myself" again? Yes. Do I want to be "myself"? No, but not because of the chick that left me. What my parents and social environment conditioned me to be is not what I WANT to be when I die. It was a good lesson to work even harder on my personality, to be a better person.

Epilogue: this book is not a collection of pick-up tips and tricks, clear your mind and read it again if you think it is. And then if you still don't believe it, well maybe you're not meant to reproduce, at least not with anyone you consider hot. There is a reason women are attracted to so called alpha males. It's not because they act cocky or always sit with their arms and legs spread out as widely as possible. It's because they are bosses in every possible social scenario. Take the teachings of this book deeply into your heart and you will see monumental improvements not only in your romantic life but also your workplace, social circles, your attitude towards world in general and therefore personal happiness. The teachings are in many ways the same as in the old works of wise men, just paraphrased in modern terms with modern goals in mind.

It's been said, but this book really changed my life. I'm rereading it for the 5th time and I'm still learning new things every time I do.

I'm 21 and I've been learning about game for about 4 years now, starting with The Game, Mystery Method (never really like the idea of canned material), and other books. However, nothing has compared to what this book has done for me.

One of the things I like about the book is that stresses the point that you don't need gimmicks, methods, or anything else in order to get girls and that YOU, yourself, are already enough. "The Method" outlined in it's own chapter has worked for me, not that it's magic, but because it's NATURALLY how approaching and getting girls works. Being direct, honest, confident, charming (making women/people feel good), and responsible has gotten me very far.

There's so much valuable info in this book that it'll probably take me rereading 10 times in order to absorb it all. It breaks down the 3 Manners that W Anton says is what girls are attracted to (confidence, charm, and responsibility), each having their own sub chapter / section. Even utilizing just half of what this book says will put you in a better place in you life. I promise.

The key is to go out and apply what's in this book, because as W Anton says "Thinking won't get you anywhere, but action does". That's one something I have to work on too haha.

My only criticism would be that are a lack of examples in the book, however the examples that are given are excellent. I just wish there were more of them.

All that being said, I do not give 5 stars or feel compelled to leave reviews easily, but for this, I just had to. 5 stars, the book price, and a review is the least I give back for how much this book has changed my life. I'm sure it'll work the same wonders for you as well!

Another book I'd recommend is: Models: Attract Women Through Honesty which mostly the same principles are taught (being open, honest, and direct about your intentions) however Models has a ton of examples unlike The Manual. I'd recommend reading both as they both have changed my life for the better.

Good luck brahs!

Wanton makes us realize we (men) are being brain washed from cradle to grave we must earn women. Not just by women but men as well. Yes, your friends and family too.
It is a very enlightening experience to start seeing things exactly as they are and Wanton has a knack of explaining things clearly. And of encouraging men to trust their own senses and thoughts. And to let their natural instinct to please women loose.
The book has a very powerful influence on your feelings. Every time you reread it new insights will come to you. And a profound yearning to go back in time and relive some of the romantic encounters you messed up in the past.
When you start implementing the advice Wanton gives you pickups will go better and better for you. With babes you were brainwashed you did not deserve.
Best book ever on hooking up with the women you want.
Nevertheless, Wanton is human. Forgive him his fixation on anthropology and his at times dogmatic statements.
Following his advice a whole new world of adventure, love, romance and sex will open up to you. Shield it from your friends and family when starting out for they are very likely to try to sabotage your progress. When you will get good at this skill maybe you can enlighten them then.

I read this book exactly one year ago...

I read this book becouse obviously i'm not casanova, and two weeks after reading it i've had the first frequentation with an amazing girl in years, but i blow it up in two month, why? Becouse i didn't follow exactly what the book said at a point.

Anyway...the book will brainwash you, will brainwash you from a lot of s*** you and other people and society put in there during all your life. Immediatly after reading it i've seen girl behaving to me in a way that never before.
This is probably the best book i've read in my life, it's not only about women, it's about yourself, your true self, that self wich has been locked up years and years ago, and you don't even remember it existed.

If you are reading this rewiews you probably want to improve with women, and if you want to improve with women this is the first (and maybe the only) book you have to read.

Enjoy your new amazing world, best wishes.

This is the perfect book to thrust you into a new mindset that will enable you, empower you, and demystify a lot about your self and the world we live in. Highly recommended! True that there is no highly detailed, step by step process offered here that you can practice like many other books, but this is by far and away the best write up on the true nature of human attraction, societal conditioning, and how the two have been superimposed and misappropriated to the point that most men and women don't even know what they want anymore (let alone how to get it).

I have read many, many self help books in my day, and this is by far the best. This is not a pick up artist book, by the usual sense of the term. It is simply a guide to becoming a better man. A man that you have always had the potential to be. It IS about changing your behaviour however, which some people might initially be opposed to. But this only means being a better version of yourself.

There is a review somewhere on here that gave this book 3 stars, and talks about how it is only good for short term sex. Not for long, meaningful relationships. I will agree that the author does not put much emphasis on monogamy, or on long term relationships as far as the amount of pages he dedicates to them. However, he does advocate spending a lot of your time on women, in order to show that you care. So it stands to reason that if you're spending all this time with them, you will be able to form a lasting bond. Why NOT form a strong connection with an attractive woman you are having sex with? You can have your cake and eat it too in this case.

Guys out there who are primarily trying to find a long lasting relationship, do not overlook this book.

This book is a welcome addition to my shelf of seduction. Anton's philosophy in the field certainly holds true in some respects, however, not all of its content should be accepted as gospel.

I find his writing style refreshing. More than likely, this is because the material I've been reading as of late has been quite intense- the likes of Plato and Socrates were so intellectually difficult to absorb at times, so "The Manual" is quite welcomed. The chapter on feminism is quite well done along with many other insightful chapters. The content gives the reader insight along the way into the fundamental mechanics of the female psyche. With that said, the book fails in some respects.

I was quite disappointed by his "primitive talk" that is very much littered throughout the book. By this, he is an advocate of what I call 'loose women'; who have no moral standard, who are incorrigible and licentious. If I was 'wet clay' yet to be moulded into shape, this book may have made quite an impression and I may have formed a distorted view of the world with regard to women. I am fully aware that there are women who lack standard (those women being all too eager to disrobe); but all women are not like that. I believe that Anton feels that women and men should act on their primitive cognitive instincts. If everyone did that, moral fibre would fail to exist; moreover, what was defined as a civilised state (and individual for that matter) will cease. I don't want that to happen. And yes, I've slept with loose women at times, however, I don't want that type of girl raising a child with me, so I wont accept that. Of course, as a male, these women have their place- to satisfy the lust of a man, but nothing more.

There will always be double standards in life- that is the reality.

I think this book sends a wrong message to the "green folk of seduction".

This book really blew my mind. Yes it is a bit repetitive, yes it goes to extremes at times and it definitely is a bit shallow when it comes to closing aka sex, but man it hits the bullseye with the basic stuff.

The brutal and blunt statements about the nature of males and females, what it means to be an alpha male, what women really want from a MAN, these things are what we evolved with and you simply can't argue with nature. The book goes into great detail why so many men are conditioned to resist these truths, many are simply unable to accept them.

Now, there is some danger in following the book too literally. You might become an alpha male by-the-book robot with no personality if that is what you want. Or you can take the wisdom as a general guideline and adjust your personality so that your glaring beta male weak spots don't screw your love life anymore. With both paths you WILL bang a lot of hot chicks. You might not get THE girl you want because women are generally crazy and unpredictable. And furthermore if you do get THE girl she might turn out to be far from what you expected (this is also covered in the book) so either way if you accept the teachings you will get to know women way better and your vision of the perfect girl will most likely change several times.

To all the sceptics: I too thought after reading this book that many if not most statements are just way too strong and exaggerated. I was very cautious at first but then I decided to just go for it. I went to an open event with lots of people and picked a few girls I liked (and would generally consider way out of my league). I did my best to be as confident and bold as possible, following all the guidelines from this book. ALL of the girls I talked to instantly responded positively. Two turned out to be from other cities, the third one (and the hottest from the bunch) was not. Next day I had sex with her and she dumped her boyfriend for me. A year later our relationship fell apart because I got too confident with myself and abandoned some of the most important aspects of being a MAN. Did I become "myself" again? Yes. Do I want to be "myself"? No, but not because of the chick that left me. What my parents and social environment conditioned me to be is not what I WANT to be when I die. It was a good lesson to work even harder on my personality, to be a better person.

Epilogue: this book is not a collection of pick-up tips and tricks, clear your mind and read it again if you think it is. And then if you still don't believe it, well maybe you're not meant to reproduce, at least not with anyone you consider hot. There is a reason women are attracted to so called alpha males. It's not because they act cocky or always sit with their arms and legs spread out as widely as possible. It's because they are bosses in every possible social scenario. Take the teachings of this book deeply into your heart and you will see monumental improvements not only in your romantic life but also your workplace, social circles, your attitude towards world in general and therefore personal happiness. The teachings are in many ways the same as in the old works of wise men, just paraphrased in modern terms with modern goals in mind.

It's been said, but this book really changed my life. I'm rereading it for the 5th time and I'm still learning new things every time I do.

I'm 21 and I've been learning about game for about 4 years now, starting with The Game, Mystery Method (never really like the idea of canned material), and other books. However, nothing has compared to what this book has done for me.

One of the things I like about the book is that stresses the point that you don't need gimmicks, methods, or anything else in order to get girls and that YOU, yourself, are already enough. "The Method" outlined in it's own chapter has worked for me, not that it's magic, but because it's NATURALLY how approaching and getting girls works. Being direct, honest, confident, charming (making women/people feel good), and responsible has gotten me very far.

There's so much valuable info in this book that it'll probably take me rereading 10 times in order to absorb it all. It breaks down the 3 Manners that W Anton says is what girls are attracted to (confidence, charm, and responsibility), each having their own sub chapter / section. Even utilizing just half of what this book says will put you in a better place in you life. I promise.

The key is to go out and apply what's in this book, because as W Anton says "Thinking won't get you anywhere, but action does". That's one something I have to work on too haha.

My only criticism would be that are a lack of examples in the book, however the examples that are given are excellent. I just wish there were more of them.

All that being said, I do not give 5 stars or feel compelled to leave reviews easily, but for this, I just had to. 5 stars, the book price, and a review is the least I give back for how much this book has changed my life. I'm sure it'll work the same wonders for you as well!

Another book I'd recommend is: Models: Attract Women Through Honesty which mostly the same principles are taught (being open, honest, and direct about your intentions) however Models has a ton of examples unlike The Manual. I'd recommend reading both as they both have changed my life for the better.

Good luck brahs!

Wanton makes us realize we (men) are being brain washed from cradle to grave we must earn women. Not just by women but men as well. Yes, your friends and family too.
It is a very enlightening experience to start seeing things exactly as they are and Wanton has a knack of explaining things clearly. And of encouraging men to trust their own senses and thoughts. And to let their natural instinct to please women loose.
The book has a very powerful influence on your feelings. Every time you reread it new insights will come to you. And a profound yearning to go back in time and relive some of the romantic encounters you messed up in the past.
When you start implementing the advice Wanton gives you pickups will go better and better for you. With babes you were brainwashed you did not deserve.
Best book ever on hooking up with the women you want.
Nevertheless, Wanton is human. Forgive him his fixation on anthropology and his at times dogmatic statements.
Following his advice a whole new world of adventure, love, romance and sex will open up to you. Shield it from your friends and family when starting out for they are very likely to try to sabotage your progress. When you will get good at this skill maybe you can enlighten them then.

I read this book exactly one year ago...

I read this book becouse obviously i'm not casanova, and two weeks after reading it i've had the first frequentation with an amazing girl in years, but i blow it up in two month, why? Becouse i didn't follow exactly what the book said at a point.

Anyway...the book will brainwash you, will brainwash you from a lot of s*** you and other people and society put in there during all your life. Immediatly after reading it i've seen girl behaving to me in a way that never before.
This is probably the best book i've read in my life, it's not only about women, it's about yourself, your true self, that self wich has been locked up years and years ago, and you don't even remember it existed.

If you are reading this rewiews you probably want to improve with women, and if you want to improve with women this is the first (and maybe the only) book you have to read.

Enjoy your new amazing world, best wishes.

This is the perfect book to thrust you into a new mindset that will enable you, empower you, and demystify a lot about your self and the world we live in. Highly recommended! True that there is no highly detailed, step by step process offered here that you can practice like many other books, but this is by far and away the best write up on the true nature of human attraction, societal conditioning, and how the two have been superimposed and misappropriated to the point that most men and women don't even know what they want anymore (let alone how to get it).

UPDATE [10. Sep 2014]

I reread the book this night out of boredom and realized that every word and letter in this book is sacred truth.

I come to this conclusion after educating myself on this topic more (Men on strike, The Rational Male, The manipulated man, Mode one) and after experiencing a lot in last few months. I dated girls of all types, I flirted with young and old, had sex with singles and married, sexy and... OK, only hot and sexy. After all that, I am in a relationship now. It has purpose. I am respected as a man in that relationship. I like myself as hell. I would say I am fantastic. You'd like me if you had a drink with me. This is my attitude today. This book is a huge part of my development. Plus, there's still plenty to work on.

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The Manual is a book that closes the circle for me. After several years of reading books on topics from copy-writing to micro-emotions to macro-economics I am done. Before even mentioning the things how you'll find this book only useful, I want to state that this book is about how to be e human being. The one you are by nature not by nurture.

The author doesn't waste any of his time and most importantly of your time. It is an easy to read book as for style. No fluff. Each sentence counts. That just experienced writers do. And experienced writers are experienced people--they know what they are writing about.

The main idea of this book is to explain what women want and how to give it to them. And you'll get the answer. The author has the advantage here over the reader--he speaks truth. If from real life experience or not I don't know and it even doesn't matter. You'll find out why I say that. You may not like this truth, you may even hate it, but it's not going to change anything. Like hating the sun so it doesn't rise the next day, I'd say.

Any negative reactions and rejections of his ideas simply means he's right and you are still wrong and not ready for this book - you can not let go of the social conditioning, which can by anything from religion to media to your mom's well-intended advice on what women want). Any positive reaction on the other hand means that you only start getting it and should start doing the right things from that moment on. So a radical honesty about yourself is inevitable.

I am an avid reader and I read many, many books that I thought had something that would help me to explore the truth I was looking for. They had perhaps but it took always so long to decode all those stories, anecdotes and metaphors. W. Anton on the other hand does what he preaches--goes straight to the point. In a way he's helping not only men but also women with this book. He gives them what they want by giving you what you want and meanwhile gets what he wants. This is to me a win-win-win.

Here's what you WILL find in his book.

1. A very friendly advice on why is it hard to meet and date the women you find attractive and how to change that by changing your mindset. By mindset is meant that the views and beliefs you hold now aren't as useful as you wish they were. They are actually everything but reality.

2. A few examples and illustrations that really make the point of what Anton tries to hammer into your head.

3. Plenty of those "aha" and even "eureka" moments. (I was even jumping out of my couch)

Here's what you'll NOT find in this book.

1. No plan, no formula, no magic bullet, no pick-up lines, no openers, no visualization exercises, no reading eye clues whatever. Nothing of that. And be happy for that.

2. You won't find any "write-down-you-goal-and-the-date-of-accomplishment" in this book. W. Anton seems to be the kind of person that even writing a goal down is a waste of time and instead he simply start working on it. Again, appreciate this.

3. You won't find any judgement of you in this book. It's a stress-free reading. You won't feel like you should do this or that because you are not a good person yet. Not in this book.

What I take for granted now on after reading this book is the idea that you should approach only those women that you feel very attracted to. Leave the rest however beautiful or ugly they are. You'll find reasons why in the book. There's of course much more to the whole process of seduction and it's also all in those pages. But unless you go only and exclusively after what you really desire you are just lying to yourself and wasting time and money. It's actually pretty simple.

Also, you won't need any other book on this subject after this one. Your mind will clear up like the sky after a long cloudy period of a summer and you will never look at the world around you the same as before.

Dear W. Anton, I suppose it's not an easy task to write a book in general, not even on this subject, so thank you very much for doing so.

I am rating it with 5 stars because there's no more.

I have read many, many self help books in my day, and this is by far the best. This is not a pick up artist book, by the usual sense of the term. It is simply a guide to becoming a better man. A man that you have always had the potential to be. It IS about changing your behaviour however, which some people might initially be opposed to. But this only means being a better version of yourself.

There is a review somewhere on here that gave this book 3 stars, and talks about how it is only good for short term sex. Not for long, meaningful relationships. I will agree that the author does not put much emphasis on monogamy, or on long term relationships as far as the amount of pages he dedicates to them. However, he does advocate spending a lot of your time on women, in order to show that you care. So it stands to reason that if you're spending all this time with them, you will be able to form a lasting bond. Why NOT form a strong connection with an attractive woman you are having sex with? You can have your cake and eat it too in this case.

Guys out there who are primarily trying to find a long lasting relationship, do not overlook this book.

This book is a welcome addition to my shelf of seduction. Anton's philosophy in the field certainly holds true in some respects, however, not all of its content should be accepted as gospel.

I find his writing style refreshing. More than likely, this is because the material I've been reading as of late has been quite intense- the likes of Plato and Socrates were so intellectually difficult to absorb at times, so "The Manual" is quite welcomed. The chapter on feminism is quite well done along with many other insightful chapters. The content gives the reader insight along the way into the fundamental mechanics of the female psyche. With that said, the book fails in some respects.

I was quite disappointed by his "primitive talk" that is very much littered throughout the book. By this, he is an advocate of what I call 'loose women'; who have no moral standard, who are incorrigible and licentious. If I was 'wet clay' yet to be moulded into shape, this book may have made quite an impression and I may have formed a distorted view of the world with regard to women. I am fully aware that there are women who lack standard (those women being all too eager to disrobe); but all women are not like that. I believe that Anton feels that women and men should act on their primitive cognitive instincts. If everyone did that, moral fibre would fail to exist; moreover, what was defined as a civilised state (and individual for that matter) will cease. I don't want that to happen. And yes, I've slept with loose women at times, however, I don't want that type of girl raising a child with me, so I wont accept that. Of course, as a male, these women have their place- to satisfy the lust of a man, but nothing more.

There will always be double standards in life- that is the reality.

I think this book sends a wrong message to the "green folk of seduction".

I'm so excited about this book but after reading the first chapter I realized that this is just another garbage. I read again the 5 star reviews and noticed that most of them are fake. The author used "black hat" marketing to sell this garbage and he succeeded.

This book has some interesting info about self improvement. Although, at this point I don't think this book was to actually help men get what they want, but more of what the author will get when you buy this book. I don't want to get into detail about certain aspects but I can tell you that don't give in to everything this author is saying. Other dating "gurus" have seminars, legit websites, and even offer one on one help if need be, but I wouldn't expect help from Mr. W. Anton if I were you. Even though, he mentions that he will "help" those who need clarification. Don't buy into it.

Worthwhile read. Older with many life experiences and advice and observations they were right on! Repeated the core (Confidence, Charm, Responsibility) over and over and over again. But recommend the read

It's about time that there's a book that teaches men how to attract women with more than just fancy tricks and pick-up lines. Like men, women are instinctively attracted to certain things and this book details how to use these instincts to attract the woman or women of your dreams. I've read a lot of books on this topic but none have helped my love life until now because most focus on using ploys to attract women. This is well and good if you want women to be attracted to your ploys but not if you want them to be attracted to you. If you follow the advice in this book, you'll have more success than you ever have in dating. The advice in this book has instilled me with more confidence than I've ever had and now it just feels natural to talk with women. If you're interested in improving your love life, I suggest you read this book like I did. A+

The author is a genius , probably in the sense where it comes to making money capitalizing on men like us who are just trying to improve their dating life by claiming he has the gospel on the subject or "the manual" , if this review can deter just one person from buying this book then I would rest at piece . I can read through the BS this book is all about , appearance and style do not count (sure), men who use excuses to start conversations are not real men (yeah right) .. Anyway specially when it comes to this subject being careful where you get the source of the information is crucial , a lot of people nowadays claim to know the magic recipe for attracting women , how do you know if they actually do? They demonstrate it live. I recommend Alex Coulson with videos and Niel Strauss ,forget the rest. I don't want to confuse my mind with an overwhelming amount of contradicting pick up theories just to end up jerking off in front of the same keyboard am using right now. Half of the 5 star reviews on the book are fake and the author wants just your money. Worst purchase of my life..

I'm 16 years old and I found this book to be very helpful for myself and my journey to become a real man. The earlier you read it, the better because it's truly a masterpiece and a lot more than just a "seduction book". It basically teaches you how to be a real man in this feminime times.

The book beginns with the basic mindset of successfull men and describes how socialization tries to make males act like females, make females trie to avoid responsibility for sex and act like "good girls" and that the socialization succeeded in most cases. The guys who seem to effortlessly have success with women are known as "naturals" and the author basically makes a point by saying that, when we where born everyone of us were a "natural" but the socialization kind of stole this from the most males.

Then he proceeds to the manners that should result from the mindset: Charming. Confident. Responsible.
The whole book teaches you how to adopt, express and maintain this three manners.
Furthermore, he clarifys some common myths about women, for example that you have to be successful in society first to get your dream women our that you should just lower your standards if you have struggle with beautiful women.

I like the whole idea of being direct, and the cream topping is that you really understand WHY you have to behave like this or that in some specific situation because you exactly know the mindset and the effects of socialization.

I recommend this book to everyone who wants to be a real man.

To Tyler. P

Thank you for your honest review Tyler, but I found your review to be somehow unclear.

To start with, where do you get the feeling of being unreal or fake with women after reading this book?

I'm lost at seeing one claiming they feel fake to women applying mindsets and manners presented in the book. This book differs from many books on the topic by presenting you what true seduction is, and how it should be implemented to serve you and the woman of your choice best. I found other books relying heavily on tricks, tactics that don't always work. In the beginning the author said: "Knowing how to think instead of just knowing what to do will also be immensely more useful in the real world with all the uncertainties and different scenarios you will face. Knowing how to think will allow you to be more flexible and to solve your own problems"

The book is about discovering and reclaiming the natural rights you were born with as a male. Thus, the book presents you the concepts of "masculinity" "women" "seduction" "sex" etc for what they truly are instead of how they are conceived through socialization or by social-conditioning.

As far as handling the aftermath of your successful seduction, that is up to you. It's said in the book: "This book is about seduction, and a sexual relationship is the end goal of it, so I WILL NOT GO INTO MUCH FURTHER DETAIL, but I will give you some pointers to keep in mind to stay congruent."

The author assumes after finishing the book you are able to implement concepts of Confidence, Charm, and Responsibility with success to be on your own. That said, if those concepts are well implemented you shouldn't feel fake, unreal, or lacking confidence because you are not deceiving yourself, neither women by being indirect with what you truly want.

You said stuff such as:

"...she was completely enthralled in me" ; "...I had girl who asked me to be her boyfriend" = You're doing good as these girls have never met someone who communicated to them what you did.

"...However, I was not happy with me. I was constantly monitoring myself to ensure I followed these rules - which led to my discomfort and feelings of manipulation and not being real." = Put you're mind at ease and consider what you've learned in the book more as principals than rules you have to monitor. The book isn't about building attraction as attraction is natural and exists already, however what you do is conveying that feeling so it becomes mutual and end up in enjoying each other sexually which is natural as well.

The manipulation feeling you're referring to could be that you didn't know what you really wanted at first, or that you relied heavily on reading Part IV: THE METHOD which was intended to be a rough plan of practice of what you've learned in previous chapters. Ideally, that part is unnecessary and when put focus onto it instead of implementing what comes before it, the feeling of being a manipulator will consume you.

Solution: Re-read Part I: THE MINDSET; Part II: THE MANNERS, and optionally Part III: THE MESSAGE. These would help you a lot, and ease your process of deciding what you truly want.

This is the most helpful dating book I've ever read, and I've read a few. However, unlike all others, The Manual, has a very different style. It's not focused on gimmicks or tricks, but on personality. It's all about building and projecting extreme confidence, and women really love that. I've met more ladies this last month than I have in years, and they have all been hot!

It is definitely directed me in the right direction to meet the type of women I wanted to meet, without having to sacrifice myself in the process or doing / saying stupid sh-t. I have more confidence now because I have become more "natural" and being real with my dating.

One of my friends has always had good-looking girlfriends, and I could never understand how he managed it. He isn't good-looking, tall, or rich. He's not even that funny. He basically has nothing going for himself, or at least, that's what I thought! This book helped me to see other men - and me - from a new perspective: women's perspective! Now I finally see what ladies see in my friend; and for the first time in my life, I can honestly say that I no longer wonder "what women want" from men.

I highly recommend, The Manual, to any guy who wants to get his situation with women sorted once and for all.

There are so many books out there that pretend to have he answer to relationships between men and women that sometimes it can seem that they are all selling snake oil. One can be overwhelmed by all the possibilities. The Manual outshines them all! This is a profound book on the very nature of what it means to be attractive, not just how to feel so. It explores the depths of womanly instinct, what makes them tick, what drives them. One can learn so much from just a short book such as this, you will feel and Be a new man! You will a short period more than you have in any other period of your life.

Our relationships with women define us. They are so important that lack of success in this field can eclipse even the most amazing achievements professionally, creatively, in sports or any other field. We need to feel like men and this is the best area to focus our effort in. Beyond just the pleasure, it is about feeling confident in ourselves. It is about becoming truly independent, emotionally mature and Happy! And that is the most noble goal of. The Manual will help you more than any other book. It helped me!

I got The Manual: What Women Want and How to Give It to Them for my husband and I made it clear that it wasn't because he was bad in bed. I admit I was a little worried at his reaction but he was THRILLED I got this for him. Listen men, you know what if WE like sex then YOU will like it more and get it more often. My husband seemed to get that instinctively and he has been reading and ACTING on this book and it has made both of us extremely pleased! Men, the takeaway idea from this book that you really need to understand immediately is that this book increases your confidence with women in a NATURAL WAY (at least it's natural to us!) and it helps melt our minds, emotions, and BODIES.

I like the cover, but don't buy this book. In two sentences, here's what the book says:

"Be direct when you approach women"
"Approach women everywhere."

There's not ONE example in the 350 pages of this book for how you might be "direct" with a woman, and how you open and talk to a woman in this way matters.

While I don't disagree with the author, his advice could not be more vague and unhelpful. For a man who isn't that good around women, having someone tell you, "just approach women everywhere" is like telling an obese person, "just stop eating". It's poor advice because it doesn't elicit behavior change.

Had W. Anton given some specifics for how one might approach a woman directly on the street for example, had he spent time understanding the psychology of anxiety and how one might overcome it, had he given examples of how to run "direct game", this might have been a far more useful book. You won't find any of that in this book. I think "Models" by Mark Manson, or any of Roosh's books are far better for your money.

I'd just like to take this opportunity to thank the author, W. Anton.

Over the last year I've read countless books on the topic of seduction (Bang, The Game etc), most of which left me feeling even more confused and cynical about the art of seduction. I realise now that all that "PUA" business is complete nonsense, totally unnecessary, and even detrimental to one's success with the ladies. Canned lines, "routines", magic tricks...what a load of B.S! Women are smarter than that, they can see it coming from a mile away; and the ones who can't probably aren't very bright or attractive.
W. Anton doesn't mention any of this as it simply isn't necessary, his approach is completely different. He explores the mindset behind those men who are successful with women, and shows us what women actually want (hence the title "What Women Want and How to Give it to Them").

Since discovering this book, my confidence in myself and my ability has increased tenfold. I've began to identify where I've been going wrong all these years, and feel as if a veil has been lifted; revealing a new world to me.
This book is worth it's weight in gold, and in my opinion, the only one you need to read.
I've gone back and read it again, multiple times in fact, summarising the key principles. I suggest you buy it and do the same.

Pretty good read. Although I don't agree with everything written in the book, and some of Anton's "facts" are flat out wrong, this book would still benefit most men. All in all I give the book 9/10. I gave it 5 out 5 stars because I felt 4/5 was not a true reflection of 9/10.

This book has a refreshing outlook and describes what naturally attracts a woman to a man. It helps to identify and remove misconceptions that men typically believe, as it uncovers what women are truly more attracted to, and the deep emotion behind this attraction. As a woman, I thought he was right on track as he discussed the importance of developing a mans personality. Nothing is more attractive as a man who is confident, charming, and shows responsibility in his actions and demeanor. I bought this book for my brother but read the whole thing before giving it to him. Well worth the purchase price as it teaches skills that will carry men through situations they will face their whole lives. I am going to give the author 5 stars on this one. Finally someone put in writing that it is not money or a nice car that will win a woman over!

The Manual is about much more than just meeting and having sex with beautiful women, even though that's usually the primary motivation for guys to learn this stuff. The biggest difference between W. Anton's material and all the other master's stuff is that he teaches guys to become a confident, charming, responsible and socially adept masculine male, not just a pickup robot or parrot repeating canned lines. By using his material you will be considered a natural.

for years i have always said that men make the mistake of believing women think the same as men. this book proves that fact and then some. read this book then go on a few dates. the results will be shocking.

I basically ordered this book because I was looking for something new to read, as I've been pretty bored lately and in a winter slump, so I thought, "I haven't read a good book on women in a while, so that's the genre I'll set my sights on". While looking on the store, The Manual caught my eye, which is not hard to do when you have an insanely sexy woman posing on a bed with velvet red wallpaper in the background, so I clicked on it and checked out the product description and reviews. The first thing that impressed me about The Manual was, in the product description it didn't seem like those other "PUA" books that, in a nutshell, tells you to be fake to get women...I'm not a PUA nor do I have any interest in becoming a PUA as I'm just a person deeply interested in human behavior, especially women's behavior.So after reading the description and reading some of it's raving reviews I went ahead and ordered it and eagerly waited it's arrival.
When it arrived and I started reading it, W.Anton was pretty engaging from the start, It was pretty clear that this wasn't like any of the other books I've read on the subject. In the first few chapters, including the introduction, he made a lot of good points, but he also said a lot of things that had me scratching my head in hesitation of agreement, however, he made enough good points to balance out the points I felt & thought to be inaccurate, so I kept reading. The high point in the book for me was the chapter on socialization; he made a lot of excellent points and observations of which I've never thought or noticed before. After reading that chapter, I felt that this book was a winner and eagerly anticipated the following chapters...but as I embarked on chapter four, that feeling nosedived......FAST. Here is the exact point of which I lost all hope in this book:

"Most people believe confidence is the state or quality of being certain, and thus to "be confident" means to be or feel certain about your ability to do something, to be or feel sure of yourself. That is the generally accepted dictionary definition, but it obviously does not describe confidence accurately in reality. If it were accurate, it would be impossible to be confident unless you could see into the future, and there would be no naturally confident people. However, confident people do exist, and some even embark on new endeavors full of confidence. This is perfectly possible because confidence is merely the APPEARANCE of certainty, regardless of how or why one appears to be so. Actual certainty or feelings of certainty may have nothing to do with it. When it comes to being attractive to women, internal insurance is UNNECESSARY as women do not care why men are confident. They only care about the external appearance of certainty, how males behave, because that is the only thing they can see, and has proved to be a good indicator throughout history of our species in the selection of suitable sexual partners." OK, now pay attention because here comes the kicker: "IN FACT, NOT ONLY IS INTERNAL INSURANCE UNNECESSARY, IT IS EVEN UNDESIRABLE. SOME PEOPLE ARE SURE OF THEMSELVES ON THE INSIDE, BUT YOU WOULD NEVER KNOW IT JUDGING BY THEIR APPEARANCE, SO WE STILL LABEL THEM AS UNCONFIDENT(this isn't even a word). SUCH MALES ARE NOT ATTRACTIVE TO FEMALES." Confidence, Ch.4 Pages 61&62.... WHAT?!?!?!?

I had to read the preceding paragraph about 5 times just to make sure I was comprehending this sorry excuse for advice as it was written. I say, with no exaggeration necessary, this has to be the most asinine thing I have ever read. So what he's basically saying is that the appearance of confidence is MORE IMPORTANT THAN THE REAL THING! I didn't make it too far after that paragraph, I just flipped through some of the pages and gave up on it. How can I take anything an "author" says seriously after reading such an idiotic statement like that? Which leads me to my first of many cons of this book....

Inaccurate/Idiotic Statements: The statement above wasn't the only idiotic statement Anton made. There was another where he stated that the Golden Rule, do unto others as you would have done to you, a rule that has been kept and honored by all the greats throughout history, "nonsense". Stating after that "do unto women what they would want to be done to". The problem with that is how would you know how any given women would want to be treated? Oh....like a slut! I'm sorry I forgot...which leads me to con #2.

Lack of ethics/respect toward women: Even in the chapters of which I agreed with some of his statements, I found myself growing increasingly disturbed and irritated by the tone of which he spoke about women. Now let me clarify: I'm not a moralist in the least, but I do have my ethics and principles, and I'm all about treating women respectably as due. I don't get people like this; do they not have mothers, sisters, daughters, wives or significant others? And how would those people react if someone treated THEIR mothers, sisters, daughters, wives or significant others in the way Anton advises to you do in this book? But honestly, the more I read this book, the more he struck me as the kind of guy who had bad experiences with women early in his life and maybe was frequently rejected by them which sequentially led to a bitter, hostile disposition toward women...no facts, just an opinion.

Inconsiderate Writing Style: I hate it when authors feel the need to repeat themselves over and over again, and Anton does just that. When I stopped reading and flipped to the back of the book, he was still talking about the same things he was talking about in chapter one! And as I stated above, he could have used more sensitivity in his writing.

Vague Statements/Generalizations: He frequently used phrases like "90% of the female population is unattractive". Forgive me if I'm wrong, but I thought we as individuals have our own personal tastes and preferences of what is attractive TO US. And how about the statements claiming that if a girl was really "attractive" she'd be a porn star...

Emphasis on fake behavior: "Keep your chest open", "Keep your legs spread", "Be Selfish", "LOOK confident", do this, don't do that, say this, don't say that, wear this, wear that...I'm sick of these kinds of books! When are men going to learn that women aren't attracted to any particular thing you do, have, or say, but WHO YOU ARE? As I said above, I thought this book would be different from those types of books but obviously, I was duped....GET REAL PEOPLE!

Hypocritical/Contradicting Statements: I find it funny on how he emphasizes going against the social current, and being "real" and blunt to women while simultaneously preaching: "It's just important to LOOK confident", "Don't do this", "position your body like that"? His book is just as fake, if not faker, than the PUA books.

Bottom Line:

I'm going to tell you simple and plain, doing many of these things will get you laid. But ask yourself...Is that really all you want?
Are you really willing to sell yourself out, putting on acts just do get some silly girl that's stupid enough or who values herself lowly enough, into bed with you? If you really want to know about seduction and women, I would refer you to the Art of Seduction, by Robert Greene, excellent read.

Sorry for the lengthy review but I really felt compelled to state my opinion on this book.

Kota.

This book speaks a lot of truth, and puts into words a lot of the things you always suspected about women, but never quite understood. I have come a long way since I read this book two years ago, but at the end of it all, one of my female friends summed it up beautifully when I shared an account of one of my exploits, and she observed, "It's like watching an episode of Seinfeld where George Castanza tries to be a bad boy."

At the end of it all, the book basically summarizes everything you figured out in high school, when the cute girl didn't go to prom with you, because she was going with the thug who beat up his last six girlfriends. This book will help you understand what it was about that guy that so attracted her, but if you're not naturally that guy, this book isn't going to transform you.

First off, there is a lot of nonsense in part 1 of this book, which almost made me stop reading. No, I was not offended by any of the material. However, the author presents his opinions as facts, and some of it just doesn't make sense/ is based on little to no evidence (e.g., women in old times were more valued than men, feminists are lesbians etc.)

However, the rest of this book is great. It teaches the correct mindset to have in order to be successful with women, rather than directly telling you what to do. According to the author, if you have the correct mindset, your behavior will follow. I do not believe that this approach is contradictory to the pickup artist movement: confidence is great, but it might also be good to have a routine or two handy. It's also clear that the "direct" approach advocated in this book will not work in all situations. I'd advise to read both this book and one of the PUA books (e.g. mystery method), and incorporate the best aspects of both.

Oh and where is the electronic version? Some pages of my paper book came off while I was reading it for the first time...

I have to agree: This is definitely the best book in its genre and well worth a re-read which is quite uncommon these days. Is it worth 5 stars? For sure! Should everyone read it? I hope not! Why? Because I dont want more competition! :D

I really liked this book. The author talks a lot about what we are socialized to believe through our upbringing and media. He has a lot of good information on what a man is that attracts women but he falls short in one aspect.

His approach is just to walk up say why you are there and express interest. For example "Hi I saw you from over across the room and you are the most beautiful girl here and I wanted to saw hello." While this will work if you have all of your body language and confidence down, it will not work for most men starting out because we are socialized to not approach women and have approach anxiety.

I didn't even realize how bad I had approach anxiety until I read the book "She's six steps away". I think a combination of both this book and the one I mentioned are a good combination but if you want to increase your opportunities with women you have to meet them and you have deal with your approach anxiety and "She's six steps away" is a way better book for that. It describes exactly how you feel and why and steps to overcome this. That feeling will always be there but you deal with it and control it.

I would definitely recommend this book but not until you are approaching women you are attracted to on a regular basis.

23 Five star reviews! Really? Something spurious about so many glowing critics. This book reads like a Manual. Much better plus shorter PUA reading options. Maybe it'll work for you but I'm not in that camp. No disrespect to the author who has put more thought into one book than other so-called experts but there's really nothing new here. At 330 pages, I have reservations 23 people really read this book cover to cover.

Ok, this is my first review and I'm not the best writer, but as a female, I can't recommend this book highly enough.

This book accurately and respectfully describes what we seek in a man and the steps a man needs to take to win us over. I learned a lot about my own behavior in this book (especially when the author talks about social conditioning) and had many 'A-HA' moments. It has validated what I have always desired in a man; the need to have a man that will take control, except responsibility, make me feel special and most importantly one who makes me feel safe. These are the things that make a woman feel confident in love and ultimately in sexual expression.

The other thing I love about the book is that it talks in depth about confidence, respect and taking chances. Something that shy or introverted guys may need to address before approaching girls.

And for the record guys, unlike what society and the media feeds you, you don't have to be a rich, successful alpha male to get the girl. You just have to show your masculine side. So do yourself a favor and stop reading those terrible books on picking up girls by using tacky one liners or even worse; manipulation (eergh!!!)

And if the author is reading this review. Please, please write a book for us women to understand men. We also need to be able to cut through all the media clutter and wrong perceptions out there. I have read a few books on dating now and they all seem to be written by either man haters or men that are players.

great read. pontentially life changing if you can understand the material. if you have ever found yourself wondering how come you aren't getting THE GIRL(s) you want, then this is a great read. can even help you in other aspects of your life as many of the principles apply to more than just meeting beautiful women.

i have read the game and tried all the stuff...dd is great....there is a lot of great stuff in the industry.....studying and practicing yoga nothing compares... but i would like to warn the world about ross jeffries he is a satan worshipper..its part of an underground network.. and he is trying to recruit keep away do not compare him to the rest of the self help industry...

The book itself is a lot of rhetoric... Act confident around women, be charming, have open body language.. This is stuff that most people know, and from a very young age.

The issue here is that the principle of Costly Signaling comes into play, basically it says that things that matter to women are things that you cannot fake.. Muscles for example you can tell girls you're strong but they are readily identifiable visually so the girls can see if you're being honest(also called honest signaling).

But things that you can fake are less important to girls, why? Because any guy can "act confident"... biologically it doesn't offer girls a lot of true information about you because most guys who approach a girl in a bar know to "BE CONFIDENT".

The issues in this book are statements like "height doesn't matter" "looks don't matter" ect.

The argument behind making these points is that --- there is no reason to think that they matter assuming YOU CANNOT change them,

However in 2015, you can wear shoe lifts, get plastic surgery, get leg lengthening surgery and a lot of other things.

Tinder has made dating even more of a looks-based meat market.

You would be foolish to assume that beautiful women do not have "confident, and charming" men as options in their lives.... As similarly to birds of paradise, upper echelon females have to create new criteria for rejecting and choosing men. And this just happens to be looks.

Being confident and charming might work if you can find foreign girls who have just moved to a location who do not have options with BETTER confident and charming men.

But you must realize that model caliber women haev many many options, and with options come reasons for picking one over another... These reasons are NECESSARY and can be fulfilled by creating even arbitrary standards.

This book was extremely unbiased. Took no arguments or defenses in anything. EVERYTHING seemed pessimistic and was chopped from the knees. I ended up giving this to a co-worker who said it helped him but I could grasp the flow. To each his own. Had FEW analytic points and others seemed like a sexist rant.

I bought this book for my boyfriend, after reading the "raving reviews" from other readers. And while I will say there is some merit to some of what he points out, this man seems to have no idea what love and devotion is once you "get the woman penatratable" as he so eloquently puts it. The book is written for men who have no idea on how to be a man or for those who want to pay the field and sack a woman- or boys who have no experience or are so insecure that they need to "fake it". Believe me gentlemen, we ALWAYS know when your faking it. So take his advise and it might get you laid, but it will NEVER get you the girl or sustain you in a healthy, fulfilling relationship. He even suggests dumping your gf if she doesn't want a 3sum with one of her sexy friends. SERIOUSLY... so gentleman, if you are a young man and no nothing about women, this can potentially give you some basics, but if you want to be a MAN--- read The Way of the Superior Man to REALLY know what a woman wants. My boyfriend read it after I gave it to him and he was very unimpressed. As women, I know we say things we need, that we don't really, and I think it's great that to a certain degree he points this out, but in truth, he depicts women as cattle and claims that men are only valuable if they can provide. Let's take a step back here... men are judged on sustenance-- on your character, on your intelligence and what you have to offer a woman in a serious relationship. This lovely author points out that the motivation is sex, and the value is in simply getting the hot chick. While, again, some of his points are valid--- in the beginning we were "ok, some of this might make sense" by the middle and end of the book, both my boyfriend and I were shocked that this really sells and tossed the book in the trash.

Some good points made in this book.

However, there is a book that tells how women REALLY think about men, and what women are actually looking for, and why, that tells it much better.

ALPHA MALE/ Who They Are, How They Think, What They Want by XX & XY. It is written by a male and a female.

The male was a career army officer awarded the silver star for heroism and he knows a thing or two about guys. His wife is the other author and she knows a lot about alpha male guys. If you didn't read it yet you owe it to yourself to get the true facts.

I can sum up what women want in one word. Money. Ironically, the amount they want is a pittance. Google rates of prostitution and consider buying a few books on the subject. The going rate for objectively hot women..8, 9 and 10's is roughly $100. It does not matter if its a favela slum girl or a first world college student from Germany. The rate is about $50 to $100. The average girl can only get $10 which is why you only see average girls in degrading situations where money exchanges hands. $100 is nothing. A hot columbian girl is earning a high end wage. A german college student is obviously not in it for the profit. This is a gross misunderstanding men have about this. It's not about the cash....it's about the kink. Understand THAT about women (all women...every last one) and you understand far more then the author ever imagined.

The problem here is the lie (and it is a lie) of sexual market place value spread by armchair Casanovas who call themselves PUA. They reveal themselves by not even knowing the most basic things. For example, they love to talk about clubs, not realizing that the only girls who go to clubs, do so to score speedy drugs. Game in that circumstance involves walking in the door and shaking a baggy of white powder. That is the truth you will see if you actually go to such places. People like Anton obviously do not know that. Their experience begins and ends with the access they got to women in college. Which is the first of only two things you need to be with a woman. Access. You need to be physically near her as part of her in group. Dozens of books filled with lies talk about how to open women out and about foolishly not knowing the very basic thing that the girls do not show up to the venue....at all. Ahahahahahahaha....fail. College is typical. Everyone gets massive access when they go to college and this ends abruptly when you graduate...which is why so many people racking up huge college debt in denial about their job prospects continue to do so even though it means permanent debt slavery.

The other thing, by the way is isolation. Know a girl, then the only thing you should do is give her a decent excuse (or be direct with her...most women do not care) and get her alone. It's better to give her a lame excuse (the lamer the better so as to prevent confusion). Yeah...um, come over to my place and we can watch reruns of Rick and Morty and order pizza. That's it. Annnnd it only works if a girl is physically present and no, at least in the western world, girls do not allow strangers to so much as talk to them. And they hate, above all things men trying to figure out what they want. What they want, other then a handful of cash, is random. You will be lucky if a prospective girl isn't nuts.

Getting girls is not a problem. Go some place outside the western world where they do in fact welcome outsiders into their groups and engage in such behaviors as....showing up at clubs. Meeting people in malls. And my personal favorite...actually answering emails when online dating. You will meet a different girl every single day. If Anton knew this, he would be pretty quick to grab your cash trying to write a book he knows nothing about. He doesn't. Did I mention these guys do not know the basics. These guys are actually incel (involuntarily celibate). It's been years since a woman has touched them. And the last one was a shebolith. By contrast, do what I just said and you will instantly know better.

Books like this are actually the very worst in bad habits...mind reading. Attempting to know what another person is thinking in order to exchange it for something and then getting mad when it does not work (because you can NEVER legitimately know and will always get it wrong). Instead, you should focus on what you want. And what you will give in exchange for it. When I say cash, most women do not accept actual money (although you would be surprised at how many are open to this and for how little). It's actually about the kink, not the cash. I want "fill in the blank" from you. What do you want in exchange for it.

This is the real dynamic upon which men and women deal with eachother. Not the alpha/beta one. That is a man only dynamic. Although it is common experience, men are in serious denial. Let me ask you something. Which situation exists....everyone mates, most people marry and have children. Or, only 1 percent of the male population mates will all the women keeping harems.

As I am fond of saying. It's not subtle. Guys like Anton not only do not know, they lack common sense.

Much like the rest of this genre, this book tells men how to behave in order to make women want them. They are not being themselves and therefore "acting the part." I don't believe this book does relationships justice and serves the pick up artist crowd exclusively. Can you or do you plan on keeping your "act" up forever?

I have doubts about these reviews. No book on the store has review dates so close to one another. On multiple occasions SEVERAL reviews are posted on the SAME DAY! And they all look the same in length, linguistic usage, etc. If it wasn't someone who has a vested interest in the book who wrote these so-called "FIVE STAR reviews," who else would have to time to write them? Come on, if you have to fake it at least do it less unskillfully.