Trauma Or Toxic Shaming Must Know To Have Peace In Their Lives

It's nice to read a self-help book from a writer who has been in the trenches. She describes co-dependency from the perspective of someone who's experienced it first hand, and her hard-won wisdom shines through. I read with a pen in hand and barely a page went by where I didn't underline a passage or scribble something in the margins. She describes the workings of the co-dependent mind very well. There were so many passages where I thought, "Wow, and I thought I was the only person who thought this way..." It was kind of uncanny how well she describes the multitude of voices in a co-dependent's head. (And identifying those voices for what they are is the first step towards neutralizing them). Also, as a meditator I loved her focus on mindfulness.

I almost didn't purchase because other reviews mentioned religious content, which doesn't appeal to me. I'll just say that if you have similar hang-ups, don't write this book off. You can skip those parts (as I did) and still benefit greatly from what Ms. Menter has to say.

As an atheist, I found this book highly unconnectable---meaning I could not find one thing to connect to because of all the religious stuff. There should be a disclaimer or a description on the cover that states this type of content so people like me do not buy it.

This book is truly a life changer. At 52 years of age I had become a highly functional, sucessful codependent. Assuming at my age & the circumstances of my life accepting my brokeness was just the way it was. Never imagined any thing could or would change or
be different , as these were the cards I had been dealt.
I WAS WORNG ON EVERY LEVEL. As a result of this book, my life has done 360 & the clarity, understanding & healing are astonishingly remarkable, not to mention unbelievable. I am finally FREE w/ a peace I never thought possible.
Thank you the the author for sharing her walk through codependency, in order to help others get to the other side. What a blessing.
A MUST READ & SHARE

This was by far an amazing book on codependency and I cannot believe how much relates to me. I have a lot of work to do but this book as my guide will help me be more mindful and get myself to that inner peace I so deserve!

I have been reading codependency books for over three months and this is undoubtedly one of the best. I took pages of notes from the kindle edition. Powerful and organized. Excellent clear instructions on recovery.

I am an alcoholic in recovery. My wife and I are codependent. This book brought to light many behavior patterns we are caught in. The good news is that we can now pause, identify our patterns of behavior, talk openly about what's going on and make healthy decisions going forward. One day at a time. It's worth the journey.

Well written. This book provides an accurate depiction of a malfunctioning family and the damage done to children. Painfully accurate. I may disagree with some remedies, but this book is worth reading.

I found this book quite helpful. Recently diagnosed co-dependent , the light is finally on in my life and I can hardly believe that I was completely ignorant of the condition. I now have hope and direction to finally be a happy person.

This book did put many more of the puzzle pieces together for me! It was like she was writing about me! Now I know that I don’t have to be this way! Thank you so much for writing this book and putting your story out there!

I am in Celebrate Recovery. One of the areas we confront is co-depency. Iam learning more about it. Although I have some of the traits, I'm not co-depent. The major trait is being a controlling person which I am not! It is well written by a person recovering from co-depency and a great resource for those struggling to overcome it.

I found this book spot on. It was as if looking into my life and telling me everything I have needed to know and hear my entire life. I always knew I built walls, try to control everything and just never understood. She could not have written this any better if she tried. :-)

This book gave me hope and clarity, the authors honesty and transparency felt like she was writing about my experience to the tee. Im 33 and this book is the clearest i have read to help me understand and begin to heal from my damaged emotions and also put the wide range of emotions ive felt for years into a category that can be talked about and understood.

This is an amazing book! It's well structured, and I'm finding the tools extremely useful and helpful in my everyday approach to understanding what I can do to improve my personal relationships and make choices that will take me in the direction I want to go!

It is too bad that the author pushed so much "loving god" (same as religion) talk in this book. However she is honest about having no credentials so it stands to reason that it would not occur to her that " a loving god" /religion would be the source of trams. Abuse. Shame. It seems to be simply being codependent on religion (yes, author, it is the same thing as "a loving god). She does say at the beginning that if you don't believe the book is not for you. So happy I didn't waste my money.

The way Jeanette Menter writes and shares her story in this book is remarkable. She covers a wide range of issues... not just codependency. This book has changed my life. If you read it and do the work she recommends, you may start finding out you CAN have the things in life you thought you could never have (ever deserve to have)! This book offers great techniques for healing your mind, body and soul!

I love this book. This is one of my new favorite books on codependency. I found
it to be easy to read with helpful information about a complex subject. The
author condenses the information into 3 sections that I view as education,
exploration and exercises. She has expanded on the idea that codependency is
only associated with addiction and proposes it also has roots in trauma,
abuse and shame. I have reread it multiple times and use the simple
mindfulness exercises often. Although there is no easy solution to overcoming
codependency, I am inspired by the author to keep working toward change and
encouraging others to do the same.

This book has shown me that it's not easy choice but a healthy one to let go of crazy and embrace self compassion. I self diagnosed co dependency 25 years ago and have lived co dependenlty ever since. Today I am discovering the way out and feel hopeful that relief is around the corner.

Hi, This book is good, except that mentioning about Celiac is missing which would help the codependent/Narcissist heal and may help stop addictions/abuse/health issues of the brain/body and help with stress etc. Celiac help may get the person healthy and less passive and onto better relationships. Cu/Zinc balance may affect personality and lower/missing nutrients. Gluten may hurt the intestines so less nutrients absorb...then cells are not made right to work right and are low in oxygen and health issues kick in the brain/body.

Issues like anger maybe due to a liver that needs detoxing.Far Infra red Sauna may help detox a person. Celiac can hurt brain/body. I need no gluten/dairy/soy/sugar/GMO...vitamins/good oils/minerals...probiotic...LDN..detoxing. Codependents and Narcissists, abusers, people with addictions maybe Celiac. Celiac information is not in the book. It is not psychosomatic, but real. Tests may not work to diagnose Celiac. Cyrex labs recently maybe better than other tests for Celiac. Stress may drain B vitamins and zinc. Fish oil, Mg, Vit C, Vit B12 methylcobalamin shot/under the tongue kind etc,, HCl and enyzmes, probiotic, coenyzmated B vitamins, Nature's plus- Source of life multiple, coenyzme Q10, rhodiola and more may help a codependent and whole family tree who some maybe Narcissists and more. Low oxygen in the brain due to Celiac may cause depression/anxiety/obsessing/no sleep/panic/suicidal thoughts. The above help I mentioned may help with depression etc. Hair tests show good minerals/heavy metals. Alternative doctors/chiropractors may help with nutrition/Celiac diet/supplements/detoxing etc. Drugs for depression may have F which may block thyroid and cause worse depression/suicidal thoughts. Drugs may hurt and make things worse except LDN which helps block Celiac and ~no side effects except to drink more water.

I bought this based on the title alone. I didn't even read anything about it which I NEVER do. It was sheer gut reaction. Well. I teach a life skills class to Parolees and this book is "killing" it (pardon the pun). I read it out loud and we barely read a few sentences when conversation picks up about the subject. I'm still near the beginning of the book, and I can't wait to continue reading it to my class. I believe Codependency is the underpinnings of most addiction, criminal thinking and stupid choices in general. This should be part of every 12 step program no matter what your addiction or hangup or hurt is. It's awesome!!! Thank you, Jeanette Elisabeth Menter.

This book gave me hope and clarity, the authors honesty and transparency felt like she was writing about my experience to the tee. Im 33 and this book is the clearest i have read to help me understand and begin to heal from my damaged emotions and also put the wide range of emotions ive felt for years into a category that can be talked about and understood.

First off (before the good stuff) I have a note. This book came incorrectly formatted from the store. It came as the proof copy. There were no page numbers. This did not bother me as I read from cover to cover and used a book mark to track my place. This was the store’s issue and has no reflection on the quality of the content or the author. This book is amazing. Being shamed as a child and reading the cover I knew I needed to read it because it felt specific to me. I have learned a lot in my short time researching codependence. You can too! If you can - be a sponge a absorb as much as you can. Healing is possible and this book was a great step to that. There are spaces to reflect and lots of thought invoking ideas. Read this book!