Boundaries in Marriage

a very benefical help for all marriages no matter how healthy they may or may not be, the authors do a great job explaing the roles of emotional maturity and charactor development in a marriage and the boundary principles that help create a great marriage.

We began using this in our church's life group on thursday. It is a very good teaching that gives interesting insights into marital relationships. The video came very quickly before the time stated, in new condition. It also came with a leader's guide pamphlet too, that was pleasant surprise. Would definitely use this vendor again.

I loved this book, it gave good advice and clear answers to questions about problems in marriage. Great advice on what to do when having problems in a marriage in a constructive way.
I recommend it to everyone.

I love the examples of actual couples that are given throughout the book. They shine a spotlight on common problems married people encounter along with practical ways to work through them. I found out that being passive and a peacemaker can put you just as much at fault in creating the problem as the partner that's aggressive.

Well written book. Cloud & Townsend do a good job of defining boundaries & when to use them in marriage. I wish they would have also devoted a chapter to how a spouse can use "boundaries" to stall the restoration of a marriage. Boundaries are a good thing, they can be used as a form of punishment and misused as well. I think readers could benefit by having some examples of a spouse taking a boundary too far, to the point that it becomes punishment or rmotiinsl abuse. Would have like to have seen this theme developed & explained to readers.

We began using this in our church's life group on thursday. It is a very good teaching that gives interesting insights into marital relationships. The video came very quickly before the time stated, in new condition. It also came with a leader's guide pamphlet too, that was pleasant surprise. Would definitely use this vendor again.

I loved this book, it gave good advice and clear answers to questions about problems in marriage. Great advice on what to do when having problems in a marriage in a constructive way.
I recommend it to everyone.

I love the examples of actual couples that are given throughout the book. They shine a spotlight on common problems married people encounter along with practical ways to work through them. I found out that being passive and a peacemaker can put you just as much at fault in creating the problem as the partner that's aggressive.

Well written book. Cloud & Townsend do a good job of defining boundaries & when to use them in marriage. I wish they would have also devoted a chapter to how a spouse can use "boundaries" to stall the restoration of a marriage. Boundaries are a good thing, they can be used as a form of punishment and misused as well. I think readers could benefit by having some examples of a spouse taking a boundary too far, to the point that it becomes punishment or rmotiinsl abuse. Would have like to have seen this theme developed & explained to readers.

This is one of the few self-help books for intelligent, organized individuals. It will not make as much sense to someone who is dismissive or doesn't understand mutual needs. It helped me see some of the issues in my relationship that I had previously not. I found the first half of the book most helpful, but read the rest because it was useful. I would not necessarily recommend this to someone who did not care for Christian introspection.

Awesome resource and I recommend it. There are plenty of compelling stories and golden advice that you can't go wrong. I have read it once and will keep doing so as I find it so helpful and hard to digest it all at one time. If you desire to understand yourself and your responses as well as your mates you should read this book and approach conflicts and disagreements in a healthy Godly way.

If you've ever felt like you were powerless to "change your spouse," then this is the book for you!

The book rightly points out that you can't change others, but you CAN change how you react to the problems they bring into your life. At first that may not sound very hopeful, but as you read on, you begin to understand that it is very freeing and empowering!

You don't have to be a "victim."

The only subject I wish had been covered in more detail is setting consequences. I would like to have had a few more practical examples.

I am assuming the product works for some, but opening to the introduction talks about how the bible views marriage and neither of us have any religious affiliations. Returned product to find something that would fit our lifestyle a bit better.

Fabulous. I thought I knew about boundaries from Cloud's other boundary book (the red cover), but this book explained marital boundaries in a way that "turned on the lightbulb". Although I just recently finished reading it and now face the work of implementing boundaries, I have hope that it will make a difference. I realize that I need to do much work on my own whereas before I was just waiting for my partner to change. Thank you Mr. Cloud.

An excellent tool to help each partner decide what is theirs to do, and what needs to be left to their partner to do. This reduces fighting (if they both view this and agree to it), and could lead to a better marriage!

If you are married, getting married, in a relationship, please read this book. It really spells out the importance of setting boundaries. If you want a healthy happy marriage, healthy boundaries are a must. My favorite relationship book, and I have read many.

I never knew you needed to have boundaries until this book. It really did save my marriage. We were going threw a very rough spot and I didn't know where to turn. A friend told me about this book and me and my husband read it. It has really changed us both for the better and we have a new found respect for one another. This is a wonderful book on many levels weather you're dealing with relationship problems or work issues or you just need to learn how to stand up for yourself. This book gave me tools to live my life a lot less stressed out! It's worth the read.

If you are married, getting married, in a relationship, please read this book. It really spells out the importance of setting boundaries. If you want a healthy happy marriage, healthy boundaries are a must. My favorite relationship book, and I have read many.

I never knew you needed to have boundaries until this book. It really did save my marriage. We were going threw a very rough spot and I didn't know where to turn. A friend told me about this book and me and my husband read it. It has really changed us both for the better and we have a new found respect for one another. This is a wonderful book on many levels weather you're dealing with relationship problems or work issues or you just need to learn how to stand up for yourself. This book gave me tools to live my life a lot less stressed out! It's worth the read.

There's plenty of useful information and it's very clearly put.
However, I did find the God and Bible references really distracting. If it wasn't for the fact the book is based on science research and experience, I would have a hard time taking it seriously - because of the religious anecdotes. I overcame this by just thinking of the religious references as akin to proverbs from greek mythology, which made it much easier to digest.
Aside from that, highly recommended.

To be blunt... The tools and thought process that went on while reading this book helped me understand my marriage. Nothing more I really need to add to this statement.Boundaries in Marriage

I enjoyed listening to and still listen to Boundaries in Marriage. I am in Graduate school and reading another book other than school books, may have been placed on the backburner. I can listen to the cd's while driving or doing chores around the house. This book has revealed that I'm not crazy and puts my emotions into words. This book provides answers and the "how to's" in a marriage, according to biblical principles. I must invest into the series regarding children. Thank you.

If you find yourself asking, "What's going on here?" or "Why am I allowing this behavior?" or "What am I doing wrong?" about your own marriage. Or if you find yourself listening to others asking those questions, then this book will help bring clarity and guidance to a multitude of marital situations, conflicts, struggles, etc.. It's an easy, quick read.

Wow, doesn't the title say exactly what the book is about? I haven't gotten all of the way through it yet but
it seems like every other page has something exactly for my situation. I almost feel like it was written just for me and I look forward to each moment that I can get back into it. Thanks to both authors for their concern
for marriages - we need to save marriage as honorable and the most important basis of 'family'

This book is absolutely fantastic. It has opened my eyes to what a real marriage relationship is. I sure wish I had read this a long time ago. However, I am very happy to be reading it now. Great book to read before you get married. I highly recommend this book.

Very helpful book, I wish I read it before marriage along with the 'Boundaries' original. Helpful in life and learning boundaries. I didn't realize so many issues I've encountered have been because on my behalf, I did not establish these correctly or clearly. Super helpful information.

I wish I had found this book 10 years ago. I'm going to read it at least one more time before I start to apply the principals, but it's a game changer for all of my relationships. We are reading this as a couple, and the kindle version is great, because we can highlight and take notes on things to talk about later. This would make a fantastic small group.

The Boundaries in Marriage Book & Workbook have provided invaluable insights for me. In a society where marriage and commitment are under attack this set provides information on how to be proactive in sustaining marriage, and how to be healthly while participating in transforming a struggling marriage into a strong one.

This book is absolutely fantastic. It has opened my eyes to what a real marriage relationship is. I sure wish I had read this a long time ago. However, I am very happy to be reading it now. Great book to read before you get married. I highly recommend this book.

Very helpful book, I wish I read it before marriage along with the 'Boundaries' original. Helpful in life and learning boundaries. I didn't realize so many issues I've encountered have been because on my behalf, I did not establish these correctly or clearly. Super helpful information.

I wish I had found this book 10 years ago. I'm going to read it at least one more time before I start to apply the principals, but it's a game changer for all of my relationships. We are reading this as a couple, and the kindle version is great, because we can highlight and take notes on things to talk about later. This would make a fantastic small group.

Every married couple should read this book. I learned how to say no and how to take responsibility for my own thoughts and feelings. Aside from the Bible, this book helped me more in my marriage than any other book. It is biblically based and filled with insight on how to take ownership of your personal growth while partnering with your spouse.

This book is phenomenal! After being married for a few years, we had run into some issues where boundaries had been crossed that could potentially harm our marriage. Upon reading this book my husband and I are learning about boundaries, and so I believe it will further enhance our marital growth.

Overall, a good study for setting personal boundaries, but kind of conflicts with the Christian concept of dying to self. As a Christian Marriage Teacher, I was disappointed that this study encourages you to draw a line in the sand and take a stand for yourself. But, in my opinion, marriage is about giving 100% of yourself to your spouse unconditionally. I agree that marriage needs for both partners to establish boundaries, but to do so as a couple before you take your vows. The book tends to contradict itself as well as the Word of God. What is good about this study is the 10 values that it presents once you get past chapter 3. They are values that both husband and wife should hold dear together and if you don't have these values, then you probrably shouldn't be married. I think this is a much better study for pre-marriage than for couples that have been married several years or more.

The book Boundaries in Marriage was shipped quickly. It was in good shape, it had some underlining in the early part of the book with some highlighting too, but minimal. If you want or need a new book, maybe this is not the way to go, I would buy a new one, This is a great way for books to be used by people,and brought back through the system for others to re-buy and reused for a lot less. Just what I wanted. Thanks

This book explains how to remain in Godly suffering versus suffering that only enables a wrong behavior in a marriage relationship. Every couple considering marriage should consider this book for premarital reading material.

After two failed marriages, I needed to make sure I didn't "step in it" again without knowing why they crashed. I didn't know what boundaries I needed to set and I didn't know what boundaries to respect of my spouse. After reading this book and the one before it "Boundaries in Dating" I am glad to say that today I am in a Healthy growing relationship with a wonderful lady who has become my everything.

Made my husband & I realize so many things that we should have already known. We both read it together & is almost finish with the book. Our marriage counselor recommended this book to us. I'm so glad he did. It could actually change your attitude about how a marriage should be & I realized what I have been doing wrong. My husband changed too & we are both nicer to each other. It may save your marriage.

This book is a wonderful supplement to the main text, which is also wonderful in my opinion. The books provide practical insightful information and support the information with pertinent scripture and biblical bases. The workbook encourages you to think about yourself and others and your relationships in a very introspective way; this brings about awareness and positive ideas for change and improvement. Although successful completion of the workbook requires you to look at yourself completly honestly, it is done in a positive and uplifting manner. I can honestly say that reading the book and completing the workbook helped me to immediately begin to change myself, my mariage and my life. Kudos to the authors!

I have been to multiple therapists for issues in my marriage and I have to say, I feel this book is the roadmap that no therapist has given us. What will happen depends on us and God -- this book will guide us on that journey.

Love this series! You need the participants guide to go with the DVD session not the Workbook. Wish I would have known this ahead of time, but hope I save someone else the bother of buying the wrong book. We did purchase the book and workbook also for our class, but have used the DVD and participants guide almost exclusively. (but that is because we are doing it as a class)

If you are going to do this by yourself and not with a class, the workbook and book would be a good fit!

Excellent resource for marriages - all marriages, healthy or unhealthy. I am also using it for a pre-marital class with great success. The DVD is a good resource for any couple, but especially handy for a person whose reading skills are limited. Be sure to order one workbook per person also (limited skill readers should still dive into the questions, with someone's help :) ).

This book is full of advice and examples based on good solid ground – scripture. It gave ways to more effectively communicate with my spouse to let him know my feelings without putting him on the defensive. I loved learning that my actions and feelings etc. are our own and we cannot control anybody else's. I have already shared this book with my daughter and a friend who is just getting married.

This should be required reading before getting into a serious relationship, and the original Boundaries book should be read by everyone. Parents, your kids need to be able to establish boundaries, and too many people don't really understand what they are.

This book clearly outlines the boundaries we all need to fully understand in our lives, and in our marriages. As a psychologist I found the book to be written in a clear and concise way so as to make it understandable by all.

Simply perfect knowing where your boundary is. It creates a great deal of respect for each other. Knowing when you have crossed over into your spouses boundary helps you understand why they have reacted. Staying in your own lane not demanding something the other spouse is not responsible creates harmony and understanding.

I cannot tell you what medicine this book has been for me. As one reviewer pointed out, it helps to be grounded Biblically when reading it (puts you in less danger of misapplying it). But this book is almost revolutionary in some Christian circles, where love and praying are synonymous with hoping and enabling. And it is a MUST READ FOR PASSIVE PEOPLE PARTNERED WITH DOMINANT SPOUSES. I haven't read the original Boundaries, so I am grateful that there is an edition that deals specifically with the marriage dynamics.

Important book if you are married. Even more important if you have any level of challenge in your marriage. It is written from a Christian perspective, which I truly appreciated. HOWEVER, even if you are not Christian, you can still get incredibly good information from the book. The Bible verses quoted aren't preachy verses. They are the ones about how to treat other people. The information is good regardless of religious affiliation.

Good luck:)

This book is concise, straightforward, and easy to implement. I've been married almost 21 years and my husband and I have found this information improving our marriage exponentially. Thank you for showing us godly ways to handle marital conflict. We are going to ask our 3 children to read this book as they prepare for their futures. I wish I had had this information 30+ years ago. This book taught me how failing to set boundaries (by looking the other way) can set a relationship on a destructive course. This book also teaches how to set boundaries in a long term relationship that didn't have godly boundaries at the onset. I love how the book teaches to remove the plank from one's own eye. Great job in writing a book for saving marriages!

I chose this rating because the book was exactly what I wanted and the seller not only shipped immediately upon
receiving my money but the book arrived earlier then expected. I would choose to purchase from this seller
again in the future. The book itself speaks for the quality of what I was looking for.

Excellent non judgmental look at marriage problems. Fixing what you have control over, yourself. I blamed my wife for my hurt feelings, but never questioned her motives, turns out much of my hurt was due to my perception not her actions.

Anyone serious about their up-coming vows, might want to read this series along with Mike Bundrant's "AHA Solutions" What is self sabotage? Just to make sure you or fiancé are not bringing any "garbage" in your bags, to the marriage. Just saying, wish I had these tools 30 years ago.

Absolutely fantastic marriage resource. If you are in a struggling marriage, it's an invaluable book to read to get you on back on the right track to a Godly marriage with balance, love, and respect for one another. It would be good for those going into marriage or even in a new marriage.

I'm a practicing Catholic so I thought I would be fine with the biblical references that were mentioned in other reviews. I was not. I was just too much. I was looking for solid relationship building, maintanance information and all the biblical references made it difficult to develop a reading rhythm or retention of concepts.

This workbook really enhanced my wife and I's study of the book with the same title. It came just as seller had described in like new condition, and saved me nearly 1/2 the price from buying a new one. Great deal

Next to the bible this book (like the original Boundaries) drastically changed my life!!! It helps you understand how to protect your heart- the wellspring of life/temple of God & His spirit. It also helps you know how to fight off Devils! ***I HIGHLY RECOMMEND IT!!!

This is an awesome book, I recommend it to anyone who wants personal growth and improved relationships. It exceeded my expectations and had me thinking deeply about things I had previously overlooked. It is well written and engaging, I always look forward to reading and learning more.