Mother and Son: The Respect Effect

What a great book, I just started reading this at the recommendation of a trusted friend and I'm very encouraged in my parenting as I now learn just how important it is to instill my respect into my teen son.

Your son will respond within the first few minutes after you tell him you respect him. I told my 17-year old son I believed him to be an honorable young man and that I didn't think he was a quitter...and mid-sentence he stood up and declared he was not a quitter! He was able to calmly converse with me about the difficult time he was having in one of his classes and came up with a way to solve the problem...all on his own. Since that moment, I have told him I respect him. I still occasionally tell him I love him, and he knows that! Respect is what he was craving to hear and see demonstrated. I have not even finished the book yet; still reading and re-reading to make sure I don't miss anything. I saw positive results immediately!

So helpful to tie together the respect factor for your marriage and then use on your boys. Explains so much that I had never considered and I immediately found myself speaking to 11-year old much different. Rather than a slumped, dejected response - he's very compliant and never back talks - he stood straighter and was more open in his body language. I could say what needed to be said in a way that he receives with pride. We have a great relationship but I never realized he needs respect as well. The man code definitely exists and this sheds a lot of light into the world of boys becoming men.

Trying to get through it. I attempted to read this on a long international flight and tossed it after a couple of hours in hopes to pick it up to finish but haven't at this point. I would hope there are good examples and suggestions somewhere but this book makes me understand why many people I know have stopped reading parenting books. Waaaaayyyy too much theory and repetitiveness in my opinion. I believe another review stated the same thing and that the end was worth it. Hope to get there some day.

The book starts out with the interesting idea that boys and men respond better to expressions of respect rather than love but then turns into a very long sermon quoting Bible scripture reinforcing traditional gender stereotypes and roles. There were examples given about how to deal with various situations, but I could not relate to the depictions of women in most of them. For example, "When mom enters hysteria over her son's lustful actions," when discussing sexual interest and explicit pictures. Hysteria? Really? The idea of increased respect dialog was worth considering, but I did not find the rest of the book enjoyable or helpful.

The book has information that is valuable, yet something about it just grated on me as I read it. There seemed to be more than a hint of condescension in the tone when addressing mothers. I thought perhaps I was taking it too personally since I have been aware for decades about the male need for respect, even in little boys. The author kept trying to say how women think to the point I could almost believe I am not female. People, both male and female, are individuals with varying traits. So, to be fair, my annoyance may have colored my reaction to the book.

The word RESPECT is vital to the book but was also overused. Much of the suggested dialogue between a mother and son was stilted, but did give good suggestions and outlines. I come from a different generation, so my experiences may be different than that of a young mom raising a child today. So, this could be a valuable resource for those who are unfamiliar with the male need for respect. And, I know several women who think like the author assumes all women think. Don't get me wrong---there is nothing wrong with those thoughts and personalities, they just aren't universal. And, I am certain that no offense was intended in the writing, especially since Dr. Eggerichs specializes in the importance of showing respect to others. I am sure many will also find the success stories encouraging. Letting your son (and all males in your family) know that you love them is important, too, but letting them know you respect them is essential.

I received a copy of this book for review purposes from Icon Media Group. All opinions are my own.

I don't usually return books, but I returned this one. As a Christian mom of three boys I hoped my husband and I could find some guidance here in shaping our boys into young men. But there are plenty of other resources out there that 'get' today's families without having to wade through all the dated views in this book. The author makes far too many assumptions and absolute "all" or "never" statements for this to be credible. Boys deserve respect, yes, but so do readers.

So much preaching and personal testimony, so little actual data. Too much of this book is spent convincing you how he is qualified and telling you how other people have praised him. Seriously, just read the rare scientific articles he cites. What's really nauseating about this book is that it normalizes negativism and condescension towards children - and then sells itself by promising a way out. And woven throughout is a sickening sexism. If you have freed yourself of these trappings already, steer clear! Thank you, the store, for refunding my money.

I was recommended this book by a friend who thought it would be useful in helping me to deal with my toddlers tantrums. I started reading it and some of the information seemed useful, especially for an older boy. However as I further progressed into the book, I whole heartedly disagreed with some of the premise. One thing in particular was in one of the chapters the author wrote about how boys and girls naturally are different. Girls like to nurture and boys like to explore and build things. This in and of itself didn't bother me until the author suggested it was unnatural for a girl to be ambitious and want to make, build, explore, and progress past taking care of a household and giving birth. While I know the book was about boys and talking to your male children with respect, I feel like this book holds on to archaic ideas, that probably if I kept reading would display itself later on.

(Note: this book is from more of a Christian fundamentalist point of view, which I didn't realize before I started reading it. It's not based in science but the Bible ajd antidote. Probably why none of the suggested tactics worked.)

While a great deal of the book seems geared toward mothers with young sons, based on the idea of starting to use these techniques from birth, more or less, I still found a great deal of useful information for me as the mother of an adult son. Although I tell him on a regular basis that I love him, and that I'm proud of him for this or that, I don't know that I have ever let him know, in so many words, that I respect him. After reading this book, I have already thought of things I respect about him which I can let him know at various times.

The book is well-written and informative. The information is laid out in easy to read, easy to understand language, and the amount of research put into the subject is obvious.

While I looked at the book mainly from the mother-son perspective, I can also see it being beneficial in a marital relationship, because husbands need to feel respected just as much as sons. I can see this being a resource I consult many times in the future--for my husband, my son, and my young grandsons.

**I received a copy of this book in exchange for an honest review. All thoughts and opinions are entirely my own.**

This author is incredibly disrespectful. And his stereotypes of women are pervasive throughout. He paints all women with a broad brush. I am nothing like the women he portrays in this book. It leaves me wondering if his attitudes create a self-fulfilling prophecy for himself. This author needs his ego stroked constantly. He needs to be more intelligent than women. So perhaps he only develops relationships with women who fit that mold. Just a conjecture but it's hard to imagine such a flawed book could be written by someone who actually had a diverse circle of acquaintances. It really makes one feel sorry for him.

This book is poorly written & edited, sorely lacking in concrete data to back up the claims of the author, and the bulk of the book is the author stroking his own ego.

Calling all "Love and Respect" junkies! Emerson Eggerichs has a new book out called "Mother and Son" and it's fantastic!

With two sons I dearly love, I was drawn to this book because I have found myself grumpy and angry and rude to my boys (and probably everyone else around me). Part of that is the physical stuff I'm going through, but much of it is just like in the book of James says in 3:3-12:

"3 When we put bits into the mouths of horses to make them obey us, we can turn the whole animal. 4 Or take ships as an example. Although they are so large and are driven by strong winds, they are steered by a very small rudder wherever the pilot wants to go. 5 Likewise, the tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts. Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark. 6 The tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body. It corrupts the whole body, sets the whole course of one’s life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell.

7 All kinds of animals, birds, reptiles and sea creatures are being tamed and have been tamed by mankind, 8 but no human being can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison.

9 With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse human beings, who have been made in God’s likeness. 10 Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers and sisters, this should not be.11 Can both fresh water and salt water flow from the same spring? 12 My brothers and sisters, can a fig tree bear olives, or a grapevine bear figs?Neither can a salt spring produce fresh water."

With the same mouth I kiss my sons (and daughter) and say, "I love you," I yell at them, the very ones that God has blessed me with, the ones He has left me responsible for (which is a total honor). And I've tried for years to tame this tongue; it's undoing a lifetime of cursing and whining and other vocal sins. I've done no yelling challenges, memorized verses about anger and all of the above, and just given it my all. No joke. Which actually seemed to make it worse when my roof blew. I was the Proverbs 25:24 woman: "It is better to live in a corner of the roof than in a house shared with a contentious woman."

Yet, I keep trying because I know some day God will refine me to a place of not being a yelling monster, to be love like it is shown in 1 Corinthians 13 - patient, kind, not self-seeking, not rude. And I believe "Mothers and Sons" is a stepping stone for me to that place.

It's hard because it is not natural for me to speak "Respect-talk." To say things like, "Moose, I understand and respect that you want to speak your own mind and have your own opinions. That is who God is making you to be and I respect that but we need to figure out a way for you to do this, to have opinions, without being rude." That's not natural for me to say, but I think it's helping me think about what I'm saying and what I want to get through to my boys.

It's not a hat trick. I don't want behavior modification for my kids or myself. It's understanding how my boys' brains work and I how I can meet their needs with GUIDES:

1. Give so a child's basic physical needs can be met.

2. Understand so a child is not provoke or exhausted.

3. Instruct so your child can know and apply God's wisdom.

4. Discipline so your child can correct poor choices.

5. Encourage so your child can courageously develop God-given gifts.

6. Supplicate in prayer so your child can experience God's touch and truth.

Now, children often speak rudely or disrespectfully. 1 Corinthians 13:11 says, "When I was a child, I used to speak like a child, think like a child, reason like a child; when I became a man, I did away with childish things." I read something that asked why we expect kids to be perfect and why we don't expect sin from them when they are sinners (as we are). I think when we have reasonable expectations, it makes life better. But "Mothers and Sons" tells us to "not take all of this so personally." I take my children's sins and make them personal but they aren't. They are merely sinners doing what comes naturally and I am here as a conduit to help refine them.

Another gem out of this book is that "my response is my responsibility." My children don't make me mad or make me yell. That is junk. I react to them rather than respond to them like an adult, a mature human being. I allow my sinful nature to take control and that's my responsibility. I plan to take responsibility and continue to try respect my sons and my husband and my daughter.

I learned men and boys have six desires: CHAIRS-

Conquest, Heirarchy, Authority, Insight, Relationship, Sexuality. How do I use the GUIDES to help my boys fulfill their needs to CHAIRS?

I don't want to give away so much because there is so much good in this book. I have been using "Respect-Talk" for several weeks now and it's not perfect, but I think it's repaired some of the damage I've done in the relationships with my boys.

Disclaimer: I received this book in order to write an honest review. All opinions are my own and others' may differ.

The author states the problem between mothers and son’s clearly, “If mothers do not use Respect-Talk like this, they spin on what I call the Crazy Cycle with their sons: without respect a son react without love, and without love a mother reacts without respect” (Page 5). `The author makes it very practical for mom’s by using two different templates, G.U.I.D.E.S.-what God calls the moms to do as a parent and C.H.A.I.R.S.—God’s design of boys and the desires He has placed within the DNA of a boy(Page 250). G.U.I.D.E.S. helps a mom determine the symptoms so that she may get to the root issue quickly. It stands for:” G-Giving the physical (does he have a physical need?), U-Understanding the emotional (is he losing heart over something?),I-Instructing the mental (Is he feeling stupid because you forgot to instruct him on what to do?), D-Disciplining the volitional (Is he unruly and exerting his will against your will?), E-Encouraging the social (Is he feeling rejected by friends?) and S-Supplicating the spiritual (Is he in need of seeing you pray for him?)”(Pages 34, 35).

The author then proceeds to write a chapter on each of the boy’s desires: Conquest-(respecting his desire to work and achieve), Hierarchy-(respecting his desire to provide, protect and even die),Authority-(respecting his desire to be strong and to lead and make decisions), Insight-(respecting his desire to analyze, solve and counsel), Relationship-(respecting his desire for a shoulder-to-shoulder friendship) and Sexuality-(respecting his desire for sexual understanding and knowing). (Page 57) This resource is full of practical nuggets like, “Boys lose vitality when moms bad-mouth them in front of others. Throughout the book, he shares examples of exactly what to say to the younger boy and the older boy, so this book is for moms of boys of all ages, even those who have left home. He even includes a chapter on “Motherly Objections to Respecting a Boy (Page 194-209). This book has a strong biblical base and includes volumes of practical advice and examples
Excellent book for mothers who want a good relationship with their sons. As a mother of four daughters and two sons, I have seen the difference in how they relate to me. This book is biblical and yet very practical with many examples on how to talk to your son with respect. The author even gives you the words to say! I wish I had been able to read this book when my sons were young, but it really applies to sons of all ages.

I raised three sons to adults, and have a wonderful relationship with each of them. I read (part) of this book out of curiosity. I could not believe what was written in this book! I feel sorry for young mothers who read this and try to live up to this. I believe a mom must transition from "mother" to "friend", as the son matures, and that respecting your young adult son is key. But to tell a mom to "respect" her four year old?! Seriously? My husband and I both found the advice ridiculous and not practical. The Bible says that children are to honor and respect their parents.....way too many kids these days have no respect for authority or adults. I see kids these days that have NO respect for their mothers. This will just add fuel to the fire, in my opinion.

I was going to put it in our garage sale pile and sell it until I read something I was appalled by. He talked about a 3 yr old boy getting sexually aroused from seeing pictures of women in nightgowns in a sewing pattern book, and described this as "normal" for a toddler boy! Both my husband and I were shocked that he would give this example as "normal sexuality" of boys. We threw the book away.

I completely understand and agree with some of the other reviews about the author talking too much about his success stories. I ordered this book on audible, but, am now ordering the actual book because I do want to highlight the other chapters that give the examples of how and when to use the "respect effect". I personally did not think he was bashing moms as other reviews mention. I see this book as a "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" kind of book. It helped me to really understand what my 16 year old is wanting. The first day I tried one respect statement and I literally saw positive response from my difficult 16 year old before I even finished the statement. Also, according to the book, it tells me that my son is not difficult, he has just been trying to grow up into a man. I really think that there are a lot of good points in this book and it has been more helpful than the other books that I have read about teens. This is why I need the hard copy! I want to highlight and share with my husband. If I was taking all of the advise the author gives, I would stop there and not add this criticism, but, there are sections that are grating! There is a condescending tone when the author reads the zillions of positive letters that he gets from his book. He actually keeps referring to his other book's success so much that I was wondering if I should have bought that book instead of this one. The letters he reads do have stories that made me feel like that is exactly what I am going through and yes, I would love that positive result, but, somehow it comes off as if he is trying to tell me how great he is. If you can get past all of that, there is great info in the book in a step by step concise manner. It has changed the way I treat my 16 year old and I am seeing a huge difference just within the 4 days that I have been using what I have learned from the book. I do wish I had this book when my oldest was 8, before problems so we wouldn't be where we are now, but, I am telling you, it is changing for the better. The suggestions the book gives are easy to put into practice and we are seeing results!!!!

This. Book. Completely eye opening for me.

While I'm familiar with the concept of men needing respect and women needing love, I didn't really understand how that came into play for parenting. This book was quick to point out that sons NEED respect. That it's not an option. We would never tell our daughters that they need to earn our love... we can't tell our sons that they need to earn our respect. It's something that we choose to give... "a positive regard towards our son no matter what". It also encourages Moms that it's never too late to implement that concept into their mothering. While it's not a magic method, results will come if put into practice. For women, this idea can be foreign to us, yet we can learn this new language and must if we want to truly reach our son's heart.

The book gives so many examples of what to say, how to handle situations and what our sons are thinking when we use certain trigger words, even if we never intend for them to hurt. I learned so much. It's hard to find a page that isn't highlighted or starred!

Chapter titles include:

Why This Book?
Understanding What Respect Looks Like To Boys
A Game Plan
Seeing the Man in the Boy
Respecting His Desire to Work and Achieve
Respecting His Desire to Provide, Protect and Even Die
Respecting His Desire to Be Strong and to Lead and to Make Decisions
Respecting His Desire to Analyze, Solve and Counsel
Respecting His Desire for a Shoulder-to-Shoulder Friendship
Respecting His Desire for Sexual Understanding and "Knowing"
An Empathetic Look at the Motherly Objections to Respecting a Boy
Forgiveness

This book, I believe, will be the next big seller. It's a must-have for any mother with boys. Quite honestly, I feel this book is a great, necessary read for all moms and even for dads as I hope to share it with my husband soon. I have also found ways to implement things into my relationship with my husband and will definitely help me to communicate better with him as he views the world through his respect grid and I definitely view my world through love. This book is a great tool. Not a once-and-done, sit-on-the-shelf read. It's a handbook that I'll be referring back to often. So thankful that Emerson Eggerichs shared this "Respect Effect" with us in book form and I'm so grateful for all of the knowledge I gained by reading it!

MOTHER & SON: THE RESPECT EFFECT is a book that seems to be spot-on, biblically. I have two sons, both young adults. One son is honest and trustworthy, makes wise decisions, thinks things through and behaves maturely. The other is impulsive, easily led to make bad decisions by his friends, and is floating through life unemployed more than employed, homeless more often than not, and well, sigh. It is so easy to respect the one and not the other.

MOTHER & SON has shown me that just as I need to respect my husband I also need to respect the son that is more of a trial. I am trying to be more respectful in my comments toward him and will try to remember to try to calm disagreements with the words, "I am not trying to disrespect you..." and see if Dr. Eggerichs' advice there works.

I read the book, hoping for some wise nuggets and there are a lot, but I feel that most of the book is geared toward mothers of boys, not mothers of men. It probably would've been more beneficial to me if I'd read it when my son was five, maybe, instead of twenty-five. But there are still things I learned, and will be putting into effect immediately.

The first five chapters are mostly testimonials, the last five chapters are more testimonials. Recommended. The introduction is more of a sales pitch than an intro. But he is right. Males are different than females. And we need to respect those differences and be more understanding and respectful when the male responds differently than the female wants him to

Mother & Son really hit home with me. It’s a long book, and has many suggestions to follow, but what if I just tried a few this week? Then a few next week? I discovered many areas in which my actions and words have caused a situation to escalate, or a tantrum to hit the roof. Normally I don’t write in books, but this one is dogeared and highlighted. It brought a lot of insight into my relationships, and those that I can see from the outside. This summer will really change starting now, because I now view my role as a mom differently. I even found some strategies that I can use in the classroom, too. Showing respect is never a bad thing, but it’s most needed with my son. I received this book in exchange for an honest review. Opinions shared are mine.

This is the very first parenting book that gave ACTUAL practical TO DO suggestions!! I did read all the reviews and so many people wrote encouraging reviews that convinced me to order the book, even parents with older teens. Therefore, I want to make sure to leave my comment to encourage other single moms out there raising sons alone. I added "respect" and "honor" to my vocabulary the first night I got home from work after listening to the introduction on my commute from work...and WOW...my 18 year old responded very well and ended up sitting and talking with me for an hour!! Keep in mind, not every day will be like this, but we are definitely on the right track...and thank God because I was at my wit's end! :)

I love the fact how the author gives you ideas of application for each age group of boys!!

I am truly baffled why some women are offended by this book or think that Dr. Eggerichs is "speaking down to them". The true test of a book (or any other message from someone) is 1. is it true what they are saying? and 2. do they have the training and experience to back up their claims? As a counselor and teacher, I have used Dr. Eggerichs' materials for years...and have seen the lives of both men and women change for the better drastically! I can also attest to the "truth" of what he is saying, not only as a professional, but from a personal standpoint as well. The day I began reading this Mother and Son book, I was out of town (across the country). Following is the experience I had just a couple of weeks ago BECAUSE of this book: I started reading Mother and Son while I was still at the conference and was deeply convicted just after reading the intro! I texted my 35 year old son and said: "Only gotten through the intro to this new book and have learned that I have always loved you deeply, but have not always respected you - as a young boy or as a man. For that I deeply apologize and have much to seek your forgiveness for. I immediately remembered 2 very specific times. Can we talk after I get home...at a time convenient for you?" He responded much more quickly than normal and said, "Yes we can." A few days later, we had a great 2-hour talk...and then, just as he was leaving, he came up behind me and put his arms around me and said, "I love you, Mom." Whew...so special!

Even if you have a good relationship with your sons (as I have had with my son), every relationship can learn, forgive, and grow deeper than ever realized before! I highly recommend this book for every woman who has an influence over her sons, nephews, students, etc.

Whether you have read Love and Respect for husbands and wives or not you will enjoy this book. I have learned so much and realized that a lot of the ways I speak to my son are not respectful.
I also realize I can’t change overnight. But part of it is being aware of our own behavior. If we, as mothers, put into practice the advice in this book it could dramatically change our relationships with our sons.
As I was reading I was even thinking my husband could gain insight into his relationship with our son. Even though he is a man and wants respect too, I think men can forget that their son’s desire the same thing. So I honestly think dad’s could read this book and learn new things as well.
If you have a son I highly recommend this book. We all want strong young men of honor, let’s breath that into them no matter what age they are at.

A copy of this book was was given to me. I was not required to write a favorable review and all thoughts are my own.

Review:
In Mother and Son, the Love and Respect author, Emerson Eggerichs, is describing a healthy way for mothers to relate to their sons. Respect talk and its difference from love talk certainly makes sense. Respect talk recognizes “the man in the making” in a child…It ignites affection and endearment in a boy.”…It helps a son be all he can be” (Emerson Eggerichs, Mother and Son: The Respect Effect, Thomas Nelson, 2016, pp. 3,6,9). Eggerichs’ G.U.I.D.E.S advocacy is a proactive way mothers can deal with their sons and care wisely for all aspects of a child’s identity (See Soundbite).

Eggerichs uses a similar acronym process in what he calls C.H.A.I.R.S which recognizes “the six desires God seeded in your son.” The desires Eggerichs lists are:
Conquest
Hierarchy
Authority
Insight
Relationship
Sexuality” (p. 58).

Eggerichs believes this includes a man’s need to “work and achieve; provide for, protect, and even die; be strong, lead, and make decisions; analyze, solve, and counsel; do friendship shoulder-to-shoulder; and sexually understand and know” (p. 57). His C.H.A.I.R.S description of men’s needs has some questionable components, however. The first three letters, conquest, hierarchy, and authority, have led too often to abusive relationships that men justify—toward women and children.

Eggerichs also makes sweeping generalizations about women which detract from his good message of respect talk. For example, when a mother’s son goes to school at age 6, she will not necessarily be “standing in the boy’s bedroom sobbing. She will not be on the phone bawling to her mother, ‘just yesterday I brought him home from the hospital, and now he’s in first grade, and tomorrow he will be getting married. I am losing him. My precious baby is gone’” (p. 64). Those scenarios feed the common perception of all women as emotionally over-wrought. That simply is not true. Likewise, some women with leadership gifts from God find that respect is more important than love and will make the choice for respect first that Eggerichs says is unilaterally the choice of men, not women. Eggerichs has fallen prey to a common mistake authors make who oversimplify reality as they are building a case for their perspective.

Still, evident help has come to many mothers from his approach and for that reason many sons can be thankful. It is good advice to tell a mother and a father to see “the man in the boy” and it is helpful to many mothers that Eggerichs “provides a script of respect talk that he believes this generation of mothers has lost” (p. 60). An example of such talk is:
[When a son has been disobedient or violated the values of his parents, the mom says], “Look I am hurt and mad. I am deeply disappointed in what has happened here but let’s make sure you understand that I am not trying to be disrespectful to you. I am not using this issue as an opportunity to send a message that I don’t respect you. I am reacting because I believe in the honorable man God intends you to be. I do not respect what you did but that differs from my belief in you and the respect I feel for the man I envision you will become” (p. 70).
Those are good words that build up.

Mother and Son has some pearls of wisdom that are worthwhile despite the faulty and over-simplified generalizations that detract from the book.
ML Codman-Wilson, Ph.D., 7/1/2016

Ephesians 5:33 - However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband. (ESV)

Love and respect are two different things. Ephesians 5:33 teaches husbands to love their wives, and wives to respect their husbands. I have always wondered why God instructed wives to respect their husbands, rather than love them, and have recently come to understand from reading this book, it is because men will not feel loved UNLESS they are respected. It is the same with boys and girls. Girls are young women, so they respond best to love. Boys are young men, so they respond best to respect.

A mother can love her son and still not show him respect. She may feel like her son does not deserve respect because of his disobedience or disrespectful attitude towards her. She may believe he needs to EARN her respect. However, this book shares how it is possible for her to address her son's disobedience WITHOUT being rude (i.e. disrespectful).

SIMPLE DEFINITION: A mother's respect is her positive regard toward her son, no matter what he does. (p. 14)

I have found this book to be a useful tool for moms of ANY age sons. It is easy to read, and full of helpful information that tells mothers how to use "respect-talk" with their sons in order to improve and/or strengthen their relationship.

Many thanks to the publisher and FlyBy Promotions for providing a FREE copy for my review.

Mother and Son sheds light on gender differences in relation to love and respect. Much of this book illustrates the different ways males and females view relationship interactions. Views on love, respect, authority and mother/son relationships are presented through a very conservative Christian perspective. While the book is geared toward Christians with Scripture and conservative, gender stereotypes--there is also a significant amount of research and personal stories involved in creating Eggerichs' views on the Respect Effect. While I did not agree with all of Eggerichs' views; I was reminded that I view situations from a different perspective at times than a man.

Mother and Son is well written and informative. Readers will find a well developed book with a lot of information. The thought and research involved in creating this book is apparent in each chapter. The author lays out the book in an easy to read, easy to to understand manner.

Would I recommend Mother and Son: The Respect Effect? This book is written from a strong, Conservative, Christian perspective. I think the book offers something for every parent as they seek to develop stronger relationships within the family; but is best suited toward the Christian reader. As I said, I am not the mother of a son. However, I think the book made me realize some differences between myself and my husband that I had not fully considered. Respect does mean different things to men than to women and I think this book is a valuable resource in recognizing those differences and in helping families relate more effectively.

I received a complimentary copy of this book for use in a blog review. All opinions are my own.

Overall the content is very good. However the narration of this Audible is boring, no offense and the author did the narration is well. But as a book that's written for mothers, women, it needs to be a little bit more upbeat. I still haven't finished the book because it's rather munda and drop to listen to. As a book I would recommend it, however save your money on the Audible.

For all the people saying this book disrespects women... that’s ridiculous. He even qualifies all of it by dedicating a section to not beating yourselves up. Clearly, that view comes from a prexisting area of shame that the author pokes on and brings up.

I really enjoyed the "meat" of the book. Admittedly, some of it went over my head but I believe it's a book that all boy moms can benefit from. He has amazing insight on what makes a man tick. How God designed each of us, both male and female, specifically to be two halves of the same coin. He explains that men are more respect driven while women are more love driven. I honestly had never considered that but as I was reading I started to think of my own two boys and their dad and I realized he was right! I'm curious to see how making a conscious effort to me more respectful in the way I communicate with them makes a difference. He also mentions respect when disciplining. I had a little trouble understanding this concept at first but as he explained it in more detail in made sense. My mom used to tell me "I love you too much to allow you to act this way" basically with Dr.Eggerichs approach you tell your son(s) "I respect you to much to allow you to act this way". It's mind boggling to think how much a little respect can change the whole mother/son relationship.

Dr. Eggerichs just sent his Love and Respect email list some incredibly useful tools taken directly from this new book. As a Licensed Clinical Psychologist and Board Certified Professional Christian Counselor, I am so very thankful to find a resource that is Biblically consistent, incorporating sound Scriptural principles into applicable life tools. I will enjoy using Dr. Eggerichs ideas with my clients and recommending this book. I truly thank God for Love and Respect Ministries, changing lives here on Kauai, and around the world!